How lovely! It reminds me of my grandmother, who went to a nursing home at 90 years old. The amusement program was heavy on arts and crafts and after a while she started - among other things - doing watercolor pictures of every bunch of flowers she got, to remember them after they went bad (which undoubtedly increased the amount of flowers she got, too, and she loved flowers). Her eyesight wasn´t great and she hadn´t done art ever but it was wonderful to get her view of the world in that way.
				
			
						
 Please don't feel that there has to be something you can do to make your relationship better. You seem so thoughtful & I feel sure that you are very considerate of J & his feelings. Have a good week M & take care of yourself M 