That's excellent. You can do this
Thanks Llama! I have since learned that C (the pain in the neck coordinator of therapeutic visitation) told K's individual therapist N that I was on board with the therapeutic visitation and knew it was going to happen soon. So it was really awkward letting N know that I didn't know about C planning the visitation because it showed that C lied about this. I am glad I could talk to my individual therapist and get validation because my therapist and N both look up to C for her work with children who are in bad divorce situations. So it's great that my therapist didn't bat an eye about C's actions being inappropriate. I needed a couple of days to think about that C purposefully lied to N about me knowing about all this. Now I see her as unethical, and I just won't agree to anything that we didn't initially talk about and agree to unless it seems like K would definitely benefit from it. I don't believe that she is actually looking out for K's best interests. It was really stressful thinking about all this because C is one of those people who act high status and expect people to do what they say. I think I am getting so I won't fall for this status play stuff in my life now. There have been so many people in the helping professions we've met who are like this and who don't actually advocate for children well.
I love all of your last post. You deserve all of the luck, M!
It's wonderful that you can feel such gratitude for the good things in your life
Thanks Cate! It's been wonderful! I feel that adversity is put in our way to help us mature and appreciate what we have, and it's just been great luck that I have been feeling such gratitude lately. It really balances out the stress, and I do feel like I am maturing and becoming a more aware person.
Wow, that all sounds wonderful. x
Thanks Em!!
That day in Hawaii sounds like a dream! Just beautiful!
So glad you are finding so much peace and contentment in the simple things these days. I often feel the same. They seem like simple things but we are so blessed to have them in our lives for sure.
Best of luck cutting out sugar!
Thanks Liza, I do feel blessed to have so many things in my life that make me so grateful. And I love how the little things all add up to something big when I appreciate them! I didn't do great about sugar yesterday. I forgot and used up a Korean barbecue sauce on some tofu which gave me a sweet tooth and then later I had an ice cream bar. I did really well the day before though and will just view yesterday as a hiccup. I am also having home made granola which has a bit of honey in it, but the carbs really seem to help first thing in the morning and then I don't crave more carbs throughout the day, so I think I'll keep the granola in my routine for now. I think I'll modify my no sugar goal to really low sugar.
We are loving positive psychology. We are reading a book on psychological strengths
http://www.ldysinger.stjohnsem.edu/...Strengths/character-strengths-and-virtues.pdf that is the opposite to the DSM - the diagnostic manual of mental disorders. So far we read about humor (which is K's biggest strength) as a transcendent function, gratitude (which was high for both of us), and on the appreciation of beauty and excellence (my highest strength). We took a free test where if you click around at the end you can get your results of your strengths ranked with a little description of each one
https://www.viacharacter.org/ . You do have to register to take the test and see your results though. It seems like all the stuff we are studying is so interconnected. It's such a good school year.
Anyway, I feel much better because I am going to stand up to J in mediation soon, and I will stand up to C and make sure she does what's best for K. I am a lot less drained and a lot more positive and feel good about things.