Sorry to hear about the continued stress about the visitation
oh my! yes I can see how a person wouldn't want to laze about on a lawn like that! yikes!
Thanks Liza, we had a take care of ourselves day yesterday instead of school because I couldn't cope with the stress and kept crying. I feel a lot better now. I think I hit some sort of rock bottom as far as how much stress I can take, and it really helped actually because I really see how stressed I am and that I have to put some routines in place which will help with relaxation and with not taking all this weirdness personally. I am going to be sure to meditate each morning, to work on enjoying the mundane things more (like getting the house ready for sale and seeing it as empowering - as me being one step closer to freedom), and I need to keep doing what I am doing with diet and eat just veggies and meat for my last meal of the day (my weight is coming down a little just from that). I think I need to make these things be givens and work from there.
It's funny how tough the wildlife is here. You have to be careful enjoying nature because you could become part of the food chain out there!
Oof, C is getting on my nerves something terrible and I've never even met her! It's nice that K is motivated to get done with school and find a job though.
Thanks Llama, she is being so weird. She forced me into deciding if we would do therapeutic visitation or break our agreement to do this in the temporary separation agreement. So I'll go along with this until it no longer is beneficial for K, and then we will terminate this, and J will probably stop paying for therapy (that's why he is paying for therapy - so K goes to the therapeutic visitation). We can get jobs and pay for at least group therapy. I also found a great channel on Youtube on healing from narcissistic abuse that I showed K yesterday, and we both really like it, so we'll be listening to that now and reading our psych books. We have a great one that I think we should get back to reading. It's on immature parents and how that affects their children. So I think we will be ok if J stops paying for therapy, and as long as we try the therapeutic visitation I think we can wiggle out of the temporary separation agreement because therapy is voluntary, and J can't force K to go. So I am reframing this as K getting to tell J off with a therapist there, and when she is done, she walks away more empowered.
Go, M!!! You'll sort her out!
Thanks Cate, I will! There is no way in the world I am letting K out of my sight once she is out of the therapy room if the therapy is in person!!
So yesterday was really good because we did another soak in the big tub with jets and we opened the windows so we could hear the birds. It rained all day and was so beautiful and cool. I am still feeling tired, but not so stressed. My lawyer called and she is having heart troubles so she has to go to the doctor which pushes off the mediation. I am actually ok with mediation being later, and just concerned for her health. I am really going to focus on creative ways to get us doing a healthy routine that we love.