Marsia, you are such a good & lovely Mum. With you guiding her through her teens (I would hate to be a teen again) & through the divorce I am sure that K will be fine. She will learn to be resilient, which I think is incredibly important, but also she knows that she has you as a backup. I would always want you on my side
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N's friend will manage the trees.
Yay for J realising that he had better be more cooperative. You would come over here & speak up for me out at the golf club & I would give J a piece of my mind! He's a nong! I haven't used that word for decades.
I hope K wakes up feeling better about the test & the weird person. She is learning so many lessons about how not to be. I would love to meet her & you one day xoxo
I love the word nong! (I had to look it up!). I would so love to come visit you with K some day. I hope that will be possible!! N came over with her husband, and he was grouchy about all the lifting, but I could only help so much. It was good to have the trees go to a good home though. We got a little more spending money from them for the trees and went out to thrift stores and got K a nice computer/bookbag and a lot of gorgeous clothes. K really needed them as she grew again and her pants aren't long enough. I got lots of lovely new tops and a beautiful sweater and some jeans with flowers embroidered on them. Thanks for the nice compliment about me being a good mom. I did get really frustrated the other day with trying to do the new routine and having it go wrong each time and I lost my temper, but we had a long talk about why it's hard for K and how many new things she's doing, and it wound up clearing the air and with me seeing how hard she is trying.
Yay for J getting caught in his lies! I hope he's inconvenienced in a way that makes him a better person. Probably not, of course, but we hope springs eternal.
I think J is going to have a rude awakening in mediation. It's very obvious everything he's done wrong, and the mediator is a former family judge, so J will see how it would look to go to family court with all the evidence we've collected against him. I have no hope for him becoming a better person. I think that people who lack empathy don't change substantially. But it is nice to hope for people's redemption!
That sounds so lovely. That deep stretching sounds so good. I really feel like I need some deeper and deeper stretches but did learn that i will definitely need to take it easy easing into that after putting my back out again... But yeah, really looking forward to when I can just really move into those tight spots and release them.
Thanks Liza! The stretches keep deepening and I am really seeing progress, which is very nice. I hope you can figure out what is happening with your back soon!!
I've been having to deal with a bunch of things I find frightening or intimidating lately - figuring out taxes in a divorce, figuring out how best to organize oodles and oodles of information I want to present in mediation, being better organized so doing a routine goes smoother when I am still feeling overwhelmed, and meeting all these new people who are helping with heavy plants that are awful to haul around. I am also at a point in therapy where the therapist wants to address that I must be codependent to end up with a husband like J, and I find that word ultra-insulting. I cancelled therapy last week because it conflicted with a call to the lawyer, but then the call got moved to later that week. But I was glad, because being called codependent actually makes my blood boil and I am glad I had time to think about things before going in and being angry with my therapist. Am I codependent? I guess I really need to ask her definition of the term. I sort of view codependence as being so dependent on someone that when you blatantly see how badly they treat you, you still stay. I think it's like being a frog in warm water that is slowly heating up over the fire over time, and then you get out when you figure out what is happening. But this last time I really stayed way too long because I was so afraid of being a single mom with no resources. So blah, I have to go to therapy and talk about this, and it feels overwhelming.
Other than that, I feel good about challenging my fears and just asking stupid questions and figuring things out. I never knew much about finances, and this a my crash course in them, and it feels like I will have a good relationship with figuring out money by the time this is all done. It helps immensely that K and I just took economics and personal finance. Weight is up again, but not all the way. We need more walking and aerobics.