Marsia's Diary

liza

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The place is J's friend's house, and she is letting us have a couple of rooms with a separate entrance and little kitchen for way, way less than market value, so we are cleaning it and had our contractor make a doorway between rooms so we didn't have to go through her house to get to our other room.
That sounds really great. Perfect place to feel able to settle into without rushing into any big change, while you get to dream and plan the next big move!
Very cool that you are looking at possibilities outside of the States. Mexico would be very cool I imagine. Never been there, but seems like it would be.
I agree with the others--your attitude is amazing!
 

Marsia

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Ha, thanks everyone! Liza, it is really good we have a pause to figure out where we want to move next. And it does feel good to be pretty flexible!

I peeked at people's diaries, but am too tired to chime in tonight. The realtor came over and went over what we still have to do, and there is still quite a bit of remodeling, but only one big major expensive project - redoing a big driveway, which is good, because they have helped us financially as much as they could and now we have to figure out what we can remodel and what to not do because we are almost out of remodel money, too. I've been doing megatons of laundry because every quilt and piece of cloth, even the ones in sealed plastic bags inside big plastic bins, is dusty from construction dust. We're going to have someone help us get the big furniture into our little apartment this weekend, and tomorrow my mom's kitchen cabinets get painted and the old tile in her bathrooms, too.

I've been doing a little yoga for my back each day. I am also watching my weight more carefully, because I am back to my recent high weight. But so far, so good with not going over that weight. That's pretty good considering remodeling plus moving all at the same time! Ok, no brain cells to write anything interesting, though I found fabulous old haciendas for cheap in a little city in Mexico I really want to visit on the Yucatan Peninsula. Ok, signing off and going to glorious, wonderful, magnificent sleep!
 

LaMaria

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I've been doing a little yoga for my back each day. I am also watching my weight more carefully, because I am back to my recent high weight. But so far, so good with not going over that weight.
Yay for keeping an eye on your own needs as well as those of the house! Sounds like things are moving along smoothly at last.
 

liza

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I've been doing megatons of laundry because every quilt and piece of cloth, even the ones in sealed plastic bags inside big plastic bins, is dusty from construction dust.
Oh you got your machine back?! Yay!!
Hope you got that good sleep!
 

alligatorob

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Hey Marsia, guess I have a lot of catching up to do. Sounds like you are selling your house and downsizing, probably something I should consider, but never will, not voluntarily anyway. Knowing what needs doing and is worth the investment is always hard, and running out of $ before everything you want done is done is a familiar problem to me! The driveway sounds like a good idea, first impressions are important.
I've been doing a little yoga for my back each day.
What yoga do you do? A class, or something from a video, or just on your own? I have been told that yoga would help my flexibility, but... well something about yoga just doesn't sound manly to me, LOL. Said jokingly but there is some truth to it, more a subconscious feeling than a rational thought.
I found fabulous old haciendas for cheap in a little city in Mexico I really want to visit on the Yucatan Peninsula.
That sounds great! I have been to Mexico many times, but never got to the Yucatan, it's another of the many places on my bucket list. Do you speak Spanish?
 

Marsia

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Thanks Rob, LaMa and Liza! I did get a great sleep and am feeling good. It's very early morning here and we are having some guys help us move my massively heavy art printing press, fridge, and heavy furniture to the new apartment today. LaMa, I really need to do a lot more for my health, and after things are moved out, I should have a lot of exercise chopping down hedgerows and such in the yard, and less stress so I stop eating late at night. But I do feel good about mostly getting in meditation and stretching!

Hi Rob! The housing market here is starting to soften again after being really intensely a seller's market because of people wanting to get out of the cities and to beach towns. There is still super low inventory here, so we are trying to sell so we close before the start of the new year when taxes for selling the house will increase a lot. So it's a mad last push right now. I really, really didn't want to go, but J would have to work like crazy and not have a way to retire if we stayed, so it was an easy decision in a way. It's good we have really good realtors who know what gives you the best ROI. I would never have chosen many of the things they had us do to the house, but all their suggestions so far really make the place look upscale. I like homey better, so I am glad we have them to advise us.

I learned Iyengar yoga in college, and it was one of the first kinds of yoga to have props for people who aren't very flexible, A lot of guys into body building do yoga here so they can be more flexible and not hurt themselves while body building. The props really help, if you ever want to try it. I feel worlds better after doing a few short minutes, but then again I have back problems, so I get almost instant relief. I know enough poses to mostly just do some impromptu poses by myself, but if I really get into it as a form of exercise, I do have good yoga dvds. If you do try it, try to find a teacher who lets you relax into poses. That gives you a lot more benefit than those teachers who view yoga as another form of calisthenics where they don't see how learning to relax and be flexible (in body and mind) is the main point.

I took Spanish in high school and can speak enough very broken Spanish to get by, so if we do think we'll move there, I'd have to get serious and take classes. I really like Mexican people generally. I like how easy going the culture is, especially compared to in the US with how stressed people have become. I am also still thinking about northern Florida, maybe inland in the areas south of Gainesville all the way down to Deland. We'd get a rural property if we lived there. Really I haven't been to Mexico in ages, and I've never been to the Yucatan. I am just dreaming until we actually visit and see the area, but wow, does it look incredibly beautiful!
 

LaMaria

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I once read an article about men doing yoga being more at risk of injury because they are (on average) a little less flexible than women and can tend to get competitive about it. Which is so not what yoga should be about!
I´m glad you´ll have some peace and quiet soon to think about where you really want to go and what your options are. The world is your oyster!
 

alligatorob

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Thanks for the yoga advice, I may be back with more questions after my vacation. I have been doing weight lifting and other gym things for a year and a half now. I appreciate the strength and muscle increase, but would like to be more flexible. If anything the work I have been doing has made me less flexible... And I think that's more important than muscle building.
I took Spanish in high school and can speak enough very broken Spanish to get by, so if we do think we'll move there, I'd have to get serious and take classes. I really like Mexican people generally.
Same here on the Spanish, but my "getting by" is probably not so good as yours. I do find it a fun challenge to try. And I agree Mexican people are great, probably the main reason I keep going back.

Best of luck with the house thing, sounds like you are doing the right things. I understand the liking "homey" better, I am the same, and have had the same challenges every time I have gone to sell a house.
 

alligatorob

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I once read an article about men doing yoga being more at risk of injury
Sounds like a great excuse to me, will have to keep it in mind! With respect to exercise I am way past trying to be competitive. If I was I'd probably quit, most of the women at the gym I go to can outlift me. I think all of the men can, LOL. Most of them are a lot younger than I.
 

Cate

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You are really getting there with the house by the sound of it. I love homey too, rather than upscale. If your home gets too ritzy you might just be happy to leave. It will be fun researching your next happy place.
 

alligatorob

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Are you visiting family in Louisiana and Florida?
Forgot to answer on my diary. I will be seeing my brothers and their families in Florida, but will not look up relative in Louisiana. I have lots of cousins here and its hard to see just a couple of them and not all, and I have other things planned. So this time will not be looking folks up, need to come back and do that at some point.

How are you doing? How goes the housing transition?
 

Marsia

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Rob, I'm doing well with the housing transition. Yesterday we moved the big heavy stuff to our new little apartment. It is going to fit in there like a little Tetris puzzle. I did a sketch-up drawing of how to fit maximum storage in there. It's a little one bedroom place at J's friend's house, but I get to help her learn to garden, and we've already got a fenced in garden up with my greenhouse partially up, and big planters just waiting for soil. The rest of our stuff is going to another friend's apartment he is renting to us for cheap. He's way up north where rents are very inexpensive for CA. I'd say I have a few days worth of loose stuff in our house to pack up, and the garage still is stuffed to the gills with mostly my mom's stuff, and most of that will go out on the curb, I am hoping. There are a bunch of lovely gardening tools in there that will be fun to sort through, so it won't be too bad. There's still a bunch of remodeling in my mom's house to do. It's the older part of the house which needs the most work. So while they are doing that, I'll finish the yard work. We should be completely out of here in a few weeks. I still can not believe the amount of stuff I have, never mind the amount of stuff I inherited from my mom! I got rid of tons, but when we move to our permanent home, I need to get rid of at least 1/3 more. By then I'll know which hobbies I will actually do because I'll have had 3 years of freedom to do stuff like hobbies again! It sounds like you have a really big family! Hope you have a wonderful time with your brothers!! And I would love to talk more about yoga with you. It's been a life safer for me.
I´m glad you´ll have some peace and quiet soon to think about where you really want to go and what your options are. The world is your oyster!
I so can't wait to travel and see where we want to live next! I am happy we'll have so many years to explore instead of having to wait until retirement age to travel and see the world!

You are really getting there with the house by the sound of it. I love homey too, rather than upscale. If your home gets too ritzy you might just be happy to leave. It will be fun researching your next happy place.
Yes, having this place become ritzy is making it feel less and less like home. It's like slowly displacing warm bath water with cold until you have to get out of the bath - the opposite of the frog in the warm water being slowly heated! We are gentrifying ourselves out of our own home!

I'm sore from moving things yesterday, but we had our friend's gardener and his staff help us (movers here are astronomically expensive and booked up for months in advance). It still took a long time as our new place is up a flight of stairs and they moved things like the refrigerator for us. I think we have most of our stuff moved there now though. It's hard to tell as there are still a lot of boxes that go in storage up north and loose stuff scattered around. I can't wait until absolutely everything is out of here and I can just concentrate interior painting and yard stuff. I really like doing the finishing touches!

Today I help my kid study for the PSAT (practice college entrance) test and we'll work more on coding her school project. She is making a webpage that teaches the rudiments of learning guitar. She wants to do an interactive site eventually with lots of animated gifs and such. They are out doing tennis, so I need to get off the computer and meditate while I have the chance.
 

Marsia

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Hi Cate and LaMa, that makes me feel better that everyone fills up all their existing space with stuff, not just me. Being the daughter of a hoarder makes me worry about things like that!

Yesterday was so nice. I did absolutely no packing and it was a wonderful break. We went shopping for lots of healthy food with not much prep needed to make meals, and ended up buying so much wonderful food, most of which wasn't that expensive. I got a book on building websites and am poised to help K make her first one. We went to the cafe and did some nice work and I read the book I got, and it was so nice being out in public. We also ate a nice meal of steelhead salmon, quinoa mixed with veggies and parmesan, and good bread dunked in balsamic vinegar and olive oil. I got lots of nice simple meals like that for the next few weeks. It's definitely fall here - the leaves are starting to turn and the mornings are quite chilly. K had to go to school early to get Covid tested and it was negative. Going out early really woke us up.

Ok, time to start the day!!
 

LaMaria

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Hi Cate and LaMa, that makes me feel better that everyone fills up all their existing space with stuff, not just me. Being the daughter of a hoarder makes me worry about things like that!
I think it gets worrisome if the stuff is no longer contained to storage spaces. I´ve done home visits with hoarders where the floor was literally covered in a conglomerate of full plastic bags with just a narrow passageway to get from necessary work space to necessary work space. You honestly wouldn´t be able to do all the sorting and packing you´ve been doing if you had real hoarding tendencies.

Your day sounds lovely!
 

Cate

Support crew
I´ve done home visits with hoarders where the floor was literally covered in a conglomerate of full plastic bags with just a narrow passageway to get from necessary work space to necessary work space.
I have been in a couple of houses like that too & I doubt very much your house was like that, Marsia. My stuff is confined to cupboards & I regularly go through them & give stuff away. I think most people have more stuff than they need.
Your day sounds absolutely lovely. You needed & really earned that break!
 

Marsia

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Phew, thanks Cate and LaMa! I am so happy to be able to get on the forum today. Yesterday just as the workers got here, the electricity went out (second time this month) and it just came back on. We've been running around trying to find cafes open late with internet so K can get her homework in and J can do work, I got tons of ice for the fridge full of food, and we were getting the last of the nice firewood so that we stayed warm with no electricity. So it has not been a productive last couple of days, and I am so tired and feeling run down and it's wonderful to have internet now and to feel connected with the outside world again. Moving and remodeling with no power is not fun. I am really unhappy with our electric company and with the state for allowing a monopoly like this horrible company. But it's nice writing to you guys!!

I just sorted through all these photos I saved of dream houses in prep for fixing this house up. I also found pics of the house when we got it. There is no comparison to how it is now - it's so, so much nicer. Though I am tired and out of sorts today, I also feel a great sense of accomplishment. I may just pull apart K's loft bed and putter around a bit and be done for the day. I feel like I've been run over by a truck. I meditated, but it was mostly falling asleep while sitting up. I also must stretch!
 

Cate

Support crew
You can't be full of Mexican jumping beans every day. No wonder you feel like you've been hit by a truck! Be kind to yourself, hon & just take it easy for a day :grouphug:
 

Marsia

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Thanks Cate, I think I will! Then tomorrow, hopefully I'll be back to :jump:!
 
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