Cate's Diary

Wow, Cate you are becoming quite he golfer! And a bat in the house...that takes me back to my childhood. I used to always have a tennis racket in my bedroom..I'm quite sure I killed more bats than balls with that thing! Can't say I liked it either!
I'm sure with all that "playing golf pulling clubs" you are becoming even more fit and you may even be gaining muscle..unless of course you are "drinking" your calories!
Enjoy that big new fridge!
xo
Sarah
 
Hi Cate - your Crazy Xmas Golf tourney sure sounds like it was a hoot ! exercise , healthy eats & tons of fun...win win win

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and bats, snakes.... my oh my..... U have had a major exciting last few days....glad to hear the little-guy got back outside safely...

Sounds like U are getting major exercise with all that golf - Great Work !

Hope the Chicken-run comp is fun....and good plan to get some shut-eye too ( I'm pretty sure I've read that adequite sleep is a must-do for preventing weight-gain)...

cheers gal,
happy holiday preparations,

Maryann
 
Hi Anna, Sarah & Maryann, I AM really enjoying my golf & I sure have the golfing bug. We went out & played another 9 holes yesterday afternoon as we had to meet an electrician re the broken down fridge out at the golf club. I have paid our next 12 months membership & included a locker for me so I can store my clubs out there & will play more often I reckon.
The 9 holes I played yesterday was my equal best. I am looking forward to getting my handicap down a little. I think I may end up being a half decent player. I don't have any unrealistic expectations, except for the fact that when others, including my LH, say "good shot" I am thinking "shit shot" because it's not perfect!
Love the pic of the women in the cart Maryann. I'll use that some time on a poster, maybe for next year's crazy day! I have a feeling that golf has become my new obsession. I now GET golf & why so many people play it & love it. The more I relax about it the better I play. The less I think about anything else the better I play. It is a perfect way for me to tune out.
It's almost time for me to head to town. I'm taking Mum to lunch at the deli today. I'm afraid it's never fun any more. She is going downhill fast. I am going to sit with her afterwards & help her write her Christmas cards. She can't remember anyone it seems. :(
Not much I can do about it so will try not to get too sad about it either.
Lots of love to all xoxo Cate
 
~Don’t be afraid of people asking “Who does she think she is?”
~Have the courage to stand and say “This is who I am.”
It has taken me a lifetime to learn to be a person who thinks this way. I am who I am & who I am is just fine.

We have had the GK's for the night & half of today, trying to diffuse a tricky situation with our OS's ex-wife. If we can help to do that we will. We may have them every Sunday for the Summer holidays. Our son is very stressed & his kids need a sane parent. He needs to pay her out & come to a legal arrangement re access as he is walking on eggshells most of the time. It is a very dicey situation & she is not mentally stable.
I have gained a little weight in the last month which may be muscle but does feel uncomfortable. I will have to re-focus on losing weight before our holiday as time is flying! Maybe Boxing Day may have to be it. I may have to really knuckle down & drop to 1200 cals & NO SNACKS.
I know I can do it. Knowing & doing are another thing.
I miss my colour in the forum :(
Bye for now xoxo Cate
 
Hi Cate - yes, I miss the color on the site too - maybe they will add it back eventually... 'til then - we'll just make-do with being "colorful" ourselves...hee hee..

LOVE love your quote - I work hard to remind myself on this also - self-esteem is so hard ( even at our humble ages)... I think a statement Oprah made in one of her last shows really rang-true for me....Every SINGLE person has value- has Something to contribute - we are ALL valuable and worthwhile creatures... and we should respect and appreciate ourselves - Every single one of us !... .... such a good thought Cate, especially with the holiday season upon us...thankyou for this ...:Angel_anim:


Sorry to hear that your mother is declining - - it was hard watching my own mother's decline with her cancer - all the "visits" and moments become so precious... treasure your time that you do have - I am certain that in her heart she "feels" your love and care...

Your GKs are fortunate to have you & your hubby as a stable place to be during the difficult times of your sons/ex-wife's splitting... so hard a time to go thru - glad that you are able to be a support for your grandkids , and your son... so important ... hope you do enjoy your time with them & manage to fit in some fun and close-time despite the situation...

It's funny that you talk about "summer holidays" at Xmas time !! Summer holidays up here in Canada are July/August....when we have our summer, I forget that down-south you are into your summer-weather now- thru Xmas time..do the kids have a longer school- break now in Dec/Jan/?

Suprising you have not lost weight with all those many hours of golf you have been playing - how are your clothes fitting?....maybe it is muscle ?... at any rate - U do know what to do - ... and I wonder if your family stress with your son's marriage is making hard to be super-good with food/exercise...when life settles a bit, and you have time/energy to focus - I am sure that you will have success with the few pounds...( as U have done it before- U know U can do it ! )- and sometimes...the metabolism/body just aren't "into" losing - just have to stick with your routine until your body is Ready to let-go of a bit of fat...

enjoy those precious grand-kids this weekend ...and dont' forget to try fresh fruits/veggies for low-cal /high-fibre snacks !
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cheers,
Maryann C.
 
"If we defend our habits, we have no intentions of quitting them."

Thanks Maryann, I used to have a motivational thread, which I posted in every day, but thought I might start incorporating quotes into my diary instead. Some days I need a little boost. I know I'm getting much fitter & have gained muscle, but have also been eating more sweet stuff in the last month. I can't go on making excuses. I find it much harder being strict when I'm close to where I want to be, but am not happy with myself for being weak about it so must put an end to my excuses!
Stress is a killer, in more ways than one. Our OS is really stressed out at the moment & we are trying to support him but also to calm the situation down. The sooner his wife can be paid out the better & we will sit down with him in the new year & talk about the options. the current stress is related to her joining the Mormon church & taking the children along, not only without asking him, but also obviously telling them not to say anything to him about it. I don't wish to get into a religious argument with anyone but I do feel that religion should be a choice.Our son may be over-reacting to what may be harmless, but it is the deception that has upset him the most. Who would think that religion would tip their fragile "peace agreement" over the edge?
I thought that by our having the kids on Sunday was going to be a good temporary solution but now she is pressuring our son into agreeing to the littlies going to church, with the excuse that she will be singing in the choir & it would be a shame for them to miss it. They have our GD sucked in. She keeps saying she LOVES the Mormon church over & over. *sigh* Our 13 yr old GS flatly refuses to go & our 4yr old GS does not like it & doesn't want to go back. The older GS had said he could look after the littlies. He says his Mum has been really weird since going but can't explain it well. Poor kid.
Enough of that for now. It will be resolved one way or another.
In Australia we have an extended Summer break over Christmas. Most schools break up this week & don't go back until early Feb. That's why snowmen & snow flakes as decorations at Christmas seem so weird! Hot turkey, plum pudding etc......We often have a mix of hot & cold. Lots of fresh seafood...yum!
Time to get moving & get on my bike!
xoxo Cate.
PS Thanks for posting so regularly in my diary Maryann xoxo
 
"If food isn't part of the problem, it's not going to be part of the solution."

"If food isn't part of the problem, it's not going to be part of the solution."
Very true. So why on earth do we think that eating will solve anything, except hunger?

The last few days have been stressful, to say the least. As well as the stress of our OS I got a call from my mother's older sister last night. She had rung Mum & Mum had hung up on her & was very sad & upset. I let her know how much Mum has deteriorated mentally & not to take it personally. Then this morning we got a call from a care nurse who visits my MIL every morning,while she showers, & she couldn't raise her. We told her the neighbour has a key & I was showering to go in when she rang back to say that my MIL was sound asleep. We really did think that she was going to be dead!
I have rung our YS in Canada this morning but only briefly.
I'm off to Tai Chi soon & will visit both mothers but not take them out. I have a list a mile long of things to do in town, but will get home as soon as I can. It won't hurt to have company today though as I do feel a bit sad about it all. I may do a bit of an op shop.
Bye for now xo Cate
 
Hey Cate - ... Xmas down-under with Seafood !...count me in- yummy- pass the lobster....
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Glad to hear the Mum's are ok - it is so worrysome when you're not able to get hold of them...glad it's ok for now... try not to worry- they are in good care - ...

your Tai-Chi sounds lovely - I've been curious about it for a while now , a lady at work goes to a class - but it's a 45minute drive one-way... so I might look into a DVD maybe... so many neat things to try- just need to find some time ..... hope U enjoy (d) the class - even the music they use sounds so relaxing...bet it's a great way to "de-stress"...
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cheers,
Maryann C. View attachment 19354
 
"Insanity.....

"Insanity. Doing the same thing over and again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein.
Snack on sweet things & expect not to gain weight! DOH!

Hi Maryann. Tai Chi was very pleasant & very relaxing. I should do it more often at home. Tai Chi walking is wonderful as a moving meditation. I have just the spot for it too outside our home. I had better make a point of doing more as I really need to chill out. Visiting both of our mothers & our ex DIL today & then 9 holes of golf. Wish me luck with the DIL! Struggling a bit at the moment.
xoxo Cate
 
Had a good day/bad day yesterday! Played golf & won a chicken! If I hadn't had a dummy spit with my LH I would have won the turkey! Misunderstanding! Have had so much stress with the DIL that i can't talk about it. It's a bit of a nightmare! I really feel like the Christmas grinch! I won't share any more as I'm too grumpy. Hope everyone else is in a better mood than me. Sorry! xo Cate
 
Hi Cate - won a chicken?! ... U folks have some interesting "prizes" down there... lol
View attachment 19372 ... hope the golf was fun...and at least chicken is healthy eats! just too funny....

Sorry about the DIL stress - so hard for U /your son/ your grandkids... , down deep , all human-beans just want to be loved - want to do what they think is best...so hard when ideas of "best" conflict...and Xmas just seems to make everyone a little extra-edgy...hang in there.... as you said, it will work out & settle...just have to try to be forgiving and tolerant... give it time...

& Don't worry about being a "grumpy grinch"...U are in good company this time of year...

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- I've had lots of "mixed mood" myself this past couple weeks - .... I really miss my folks at Xmas ( they are both gone a few years now)...... and while I enjoy the shopping, and cooking , the Xmas shows, carols, decorations, ...... with them both now passed-away - I do have sad moments( still) of missing those things we shared.
~ Work was hard last week , we had 3 of our patient's at our little hospital pass-away...one particular lady was 99yrs old - so sweet - she really had a sense of wit & humour (even at 99), I will miss her on our daily rounds...

...but , I find, the losses , while sad , also make me appreciate how precious each day is......how important to make the best of Every single day... no one knows how many days are in our futures... so.... I'm gonna go put on some Xmas music ( I luv Michael Buble's Xmas album) & wrap those presents , keep eating healthy, do my treadmill tonite & Enjoy TODAY....

& I am wishing the same for you Cate - you are such a dear lady... such a kind heart - you are such a good support & inspiration here on the site - life will work out - and your son & grand-kids are so lucky to have you in their lives...helping support them thru this trying time...

...maybe try some Tai-Chi DVD , or just a nice cup of tea.... I hope things are better soon ... and give those grand-kids a big-hug !!

take care,
Maryann
 
Thank you so much Maryann. I have kept myself very busy today, "spring-cleaning" our home. I have felt really down but your message was lovely and made me smile- especially your reference to the chicken I won! We're a weird mob! Having a chicken as a prize isn't even considered odd here. there has always been a chook raffle! Funny.I tried repping your post but it's too soon apparently. Thanks again Maryann! xo Cate
 
Like always, you will pull through, and congratz on winning the chook :)

PS. I agree with MaryannC post, so gave it the rep it deserves
 
~Permanent weight-loss begins with the acknowledgement that you want more out of life.
You must decide that you are deserving of more happiness, more joy & more peace.
You want to return to the aliveness that you were born with.~

I am feeling much stronger mentally after spending the evening with our son & his GF & then our GK's this morning. We will get through this stage.
I have had lunch with my MIL today & have taken my Mum up the street to do some shopping. I am taking her out to lunch the day before Christmas.
We have to go out to a 60th tonight & I would rather not. I might go have a nanna nap I think!
Love to all xo Cate
 
Hey Cate - am so glad to hear you are feeling a bit better,... things will work out...just give it time...

Hope the 60th tonite is fun - once you get there & visit with folks- you'll likely end up enjoying it... just beware not Too many sweets ! ( like I did yesterday- yoy !! )
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Well, off to do my pre-Xmas housework... I will think about your quote and "aliveness" as I am dusting, scrubbing, and vacumning...I will be feeling "really alive"... lol.... ( funny, but even with the small bit of weight I've lost so far, am already finding even housework easier to do)..

cheers gal,
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~"Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don't matter
& those who matter don't mind."
Hi Maryann, I had a nap on Sat afternoon & did have a good time at the 60th. There was live music & I also danced. I didn't have any sweets at all! You should have seen the over-laden sweets table! Pavlova galore. I didn't even go near it!
You will find everything feels easier as you keep on losing weight, even rolling over in bed! It's funny but that was one of the things I really noticed!
Have a very happy Christmas, xoxo Cate
 
Hey Cate ! Merry Xmas Eve !!
Glad to hear the party was fun - Dancing !! I luv live bands... can't beat it !

Good work on avoiding the Pavlova ( I tried some on my NewZealnd trip a few years back...it is yummy)- good plan stearing-clear- would be hard to stop with just a "taste"...

NOticing roll-over in bed easier- that is funny - .... but yes - it's almost daily I am noticing "changes" ...good ones - so cool that the rewards from the hard-work are starting.... noticed the work-pants I'm working today are really lose- think they need to get "donated"...yay .

Wishing you a wonderful Christmas... many thanks for all your support Cate - U're encouragement and wisdom is a huge-part of my journey -thankyou

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Merry Christmas Cate! Sorry you have been stressed with DIL...just the it one day at a time, live your life, and enjoy today...just today, take care of Cate! Easier said than done...but really a must! If you don't take care of you...who will? No one! So, take a deep breath, go ride your bike, focus on you, and all the others will survive (and actually thrive, when they are around loving Cate)
Merry Christmas dear, and remember to do something nice for you today!!

Sarah
 
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