Cate's Diary

I wouldn´t add the thing about "for the first time this year". It might sound vindictive. But I´m glad to hear you´re playing with a lighter heart today!
 
Thanks, Cory, Rebel & LaMa. I have toned down my letter a tad, now that I am not quite so angry. I know we are making the right decision, which is good. I am so sick of people pussy footing around, though. Out of a club of about 140 members, we have had 10 people resign from the club already this year & the reasons why are never read out even at Committee level. It should not be hidden to protect people's feelings.
We had a good day as we were playing with a couple we really like. We played ok. I'll be very glad when this is done & dusted.
 
Hey Cate - what a fucking nightmare! I'm so sorry. It's such a shame that petty inner politics means you can't be involved anymore - it's 100% the right choice to leave..it causes you so much distress and unhappiness, not sure what you even get from it anymore that is positive. Time to move on. Are there other clubs local to you guys you could join? Glad you have written letters, too xx
 
G got up in the middle of the night & wrote his.
I just re-wrote mine & toned it down considerably. You would not have wanted to read my first draft!
I have had a really good cry. We won't be talked out of this.
Thanks, Hana. Hopefully, the enjoyment will come back & we can go out there & play golf again & relax. If not we'll play elsewhere.

Tomorrow I will have moved on from this & my focus will be back on weight-loss, fitness & support. I am attempting 5:2 for March, plan on losing 2kg & doing 200,000 steps(thanks Brawny). I'm on track so far with steps & am doing my 2nd fast of the month today.
 
I'm sorry you two have had to go through all the BS and drama, but you'll be much better off elsewhere. I like the March plan.
 
Thanks, Q xo
We just did a big shop for the bar (soft drink & water) stocked the fridges fully & hand delivered our resignation letters to the secretary. I will never go on another committee. I am not going to bring the subject up with anyone first about resigning. I will answer if someone asks & will try to answer as nicely as I can & move on.
I am tackling fast days differently this month & am having a teensy breakfast(1 small tub yoghurt) a teensy salad for lunch & will have a teensy dinner (chicken with veg today). I feel better than usual, even with the resignation.
 
You know, you'd think if they lost 10/140 there would be some questions asked. Can't be good for business.

Do you have a calorie goal or anything that marks a fast day? I've heard about 5/2 but haven't tried it myself. I know you've had quite a bit of success with it though.
 
Hey Cate,

I've been reading what's been going on and HUGS! I'm so sorry!! That just seems like such a mess and so frustrating. I think you're absolutely making the right decision - there's only so much you can feel like you're being torn down in your 'relaxing' time before you mentally can't handle it anymore. Bullies SUCK!

Take care and I hope you have such a peaceful week!
 
Cory- Women consume 500 cals on the 2 fast days & you stick to your TDEE or less (mine is 1970 cals) on the other 5 days. I only count calories on the actual fast days as I find it easy to keep under 1970 a day. I found that when I was doing it consistently, back in 2015, that I didn't overeat on the 5 days as it seemed a shame to waste the 2 fast days.
Sam- Thanks, hon. It is a mess. Bullies do suck. Thank you for offering me support when you are feeling down yourself. We are a great support team & it's nice to feel a part of a caring community xo
 
Thanks, LaMa.
I am feeling quite anxious this morning. I know it's crazy, but there it is. It's Vet's golf day & I open up the bar & close it. Usually, I shop for it & stock the fridges. I did that yesterday morning as I am, as of today, no longer the bar manager. I have such a thing about the fridges looking right so I think I will keep filling them, but I just won't be doing any more shopping. Hopefully, things will settle & I will settle. Going away for 17 days in May will be good!
Can't think what to say in most diaries today!
 
What EmilyRose said. And don´t worry about the diaries: everyone has days when they don´t have it in them to write.
 
Thanks, Emily & LaMa. I have had a very emotional day & have been a bit teary a few times. I have to come up with a simple response when asked why we have resigned from committee & stick with it so that I don't get emotional. I have to play tomorrow as I'm playing in a pairs thing with one of my favourite women. I'll have to come up with something as I know I'll be asked.
Have not been hungry as I was stressed, but made myself eat. I had a little short cut bacon & 2 eggs on oat sourdough for breakfast, & a tub of Vaalia lemon yoghurt & a banana for lunch. We're sharing a bottle of Prosecco right now. I'm about to have steak & veg for dinner, according to G. I love that man!
 
Possible answers if you don't want to go into detail:
- The letter said it all, really. *change of topic*
- It was just getting a bit much. *change of topic*
- The fun just went out of it. *change of topic*
- Let's talk about that another time. *change of topic*

Maybe come up with a shortlist of topics to change to if people don't give up after the first try. Nice people will get and respect that you don't want to talk about it. Unpleasant people won't, but you don't have to talk to unpleasant people.
 
Thanks, LaMa xoxo I was thinking somewhere along those lines. They have not seen my letter. I'll have a copy in my handbag, but don't think I will show anyone. I think I'm playing in a group of 4 with B, the secretary. She should be fine with me as we have been getting along well & she knows what has been going on. Unfortunately, we have a meeting after golf today. I'll get through this. It feels right to have made the decision.
I woke up early & couldn't get back to sleep, going over what I would say. I had decided I would say something like " Being on the committee was taking away my enjoyment of coming out & playing golf." (I just wrote that down & will have it in my pocket). I feel much stronger today.
Thanks, Hana. I hope your day is better too honey xoxo
 
cate said:
I woke up early & couldn't get back to sleep, going over what I would say. I had decided I would say something like " Being on the committee was taking away my enjoyment of coming out & playing golf." (I just wrote that down & will have it in my pocket). I feel much stronger today.
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You sound just like me Cate. Going over and over what I'll say, planning my conversations etc. Think neither of us does well with confrontation and the stress that comes along with it. I don't mind it from service users/clients but from peers/colleagues I find it a real struggle to deal with and go back to "normal" afterwards. I'll be analysing my thing for a few days. My face got all hot and I got defensive and tearful and now I just feel residual anxiety and tension.. probably won't sleep well tonight either. Hope you get more rest tonight. Kill them with kindness <3 xo
 
That's a very polite way of saying it. I'm not that diplomatic.

"Ya'll made this miserable for me and you should be ashamed. Screw you and your committee."
 
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