Cate's Diary

Thanks for the injection info - maaaah, better man up pretty quickly then. I'm not good with needles.

You've had success with 5:2 before but it wasn't making you feel very good, remember? Do you think it'll be okay this time? Is it getting cooler out there now? Might help.
 
Morgane H said:
What do you make of the 5:2 diet? I have done it previously but I always felt that I subconsciously go overboard the day after or before a fast day to make up for it which totally defeats the purpose. Do you have any tips on how to avoid this?
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I think I do over compensate on the days around fast days Morgane. When I 1st did it I was so careful & strict, but my heart just wasn't in it last time I tried. I used to find it fairly easy. I think I need to stay at home on fast days & have them as rest days. The day after golf would probably be best. I'll give it some thought. I did 2 days in a row once & found that fairly easy, which surprised me.
IAmGoingToTri said:
You can do it! Having a higher purpose... your holiday to Sri Lanka... is very helpful (beautiful destination by the way. I am a bit jealous :p)! It's something positive that you can remind yourself of when you feel tempted to make less than ideal exercise or diet choices! :)
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You know I'm feeling more nervous than excited about Tri, but I'll get there hopefully!
Little John said:
3 kg in a month? You totally got this! Just remind yourself before entering any potentially challenging situations!
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Avoiding potentially challenging situations? That just might be my new motto LJ.
Sunflower_ said:
You've had success with 5:2 before but it wasn't making you feel very good, remember? Do you think it'll be okay this time? Is it getting cooler out there now? Might help.
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I know Han. I'll try again, but pick my days & make them quiet, non-challenging ones. Maybe it's a matter of planning them carefully & it becoming habit again. Once I was used to it I was fine. I'll be careful xo

Yesterday- Had a very unpleasant experience last night. The publican at the pub G was playing 8-ball at got incredibly belligerent & it was very uncomfortable. There seems to be an issue with them as the guy(captain) who causes us the most grief at the golf club drinks there & he was there late. He didn't talk to us at all, but looking back I feel that he may stir this guy up. He has been continuously putting pressure on me to buy alcohol for the golf club there & ambushed me at a meeting. I put in an order there when the committee said that I should & it was way more expensive than where I normally shop, which is where G plays 8B out of. It's possibly an anti the pub G plays for thing, but who knows. It was loud, it was aggressive & it was very unpleasant. He went on & on & when anyone went to leave he yelled at them. G thinks he will not play in the local association next year. I think that's a good plan. I won't be going back to that venue again. I really don't see why I ought to.

We are both feeling just a bit shattered this morning & I don't think either of us got much sleep. Neither of us copes well with aggression. We are staying home today & getting the kids off the bus & then D & the kids are having dinner here. Our other son, R, is also very down at the moment & I will ring him today. I'm really not up to it, but I can tell how down he is.
I have read everyone's diaries today, but I'm not up to replying I'm sorry, xoxo Cate
 
I'm sorry about that guy pressuring you. That sounds really uncomfortable. :/

I hope you have a wonderful day/night with the kids.
 
I'm sorry to hear about that Cate. Also, my comment way back involving the captain - apologies if it sounded like I was on ignorant captain's side, I am not! :D I guess I was just comparing it a little to the girl at the yoga place who I feel isn't giving me a chance to figure things out for myself and was wondering if it was a similar thing. So annoying when someone ruins what should be a fun evening for you. Hugs x
 
Thanks, Cory, Hana, LaMa & Emily. Love this place & your kindness & support xoxo
Ran out of time this morning. I have to skedaddle xo
 
I share my exchange with my then 4 year-old nephew:

Him: Beer makes you stupid.
Me: It makes some people mean and stupid.

I really try not to be mean and I ace stupid without a drop.
Owning a fount of mean and stupid juice sounds like a wonderful life for your publican. Also, I had to look up publican and felt a quick jolt o' that stupid when it said pub owner. We call them bars. Barbarian? Pretty suiting name for the jerk you two were afflicted with.
 
I don't understand the point of drinking if it makes someone unhappy. There's a certain semi-legal herb that can be had that does NOT agree with me (paranoid, self-contempt, loss of self-control, perception of loss of bowel control), so I just don't do it!

Anyway, the point I'm getting at is this guy needs a punch in the throat. By someone who's sober. Cuz poetic justice?
 
Thanks Q & LJ xoxo
I'm doing the diaries in reverse today to let you know I have made a decision that I know LaMa will be pleased about. Yesterday was the last straw following on from the night before. G & I went out to the golf club to do a big tidy & another tip run as it had been a very busy week at the club.

There was so much to do, so much fridge stocking & rearranging stock as things had been put in the wrong place(water in with beer for eg), so much rubbish to get rid off, including stuff left in the kitchen...........G was out around the course when another committee member came into the clubhouse & told me that we needed lots more stock & he had made a list for me. He very firmly told me that he thought I should get it from the B hotel & I just as firmly told him that I am not setting foot in there again. He asked why & I told him. He had told me last week that I should get more from a 3rd pub who sponsors the golf club & I had told him last week that is what I planned on doing. He kept going on & on about me buying from the B pub & I swore & said OK here's a list & he said he would get S (dickhead captain) to get it. I thought he had left & swore out loud about 5 minutes later.

I was so angry but continued to stock the fridges. I was down on my knees filling up the bottom shelf of one when I felt my knee hurt & I could barely get up & that's when I decided to quit. I said "Fuck this shit. I don't need it!" & when G got back I told him. I said I was going to write a letter & resign from Committee & the bar manager's & tell them why & read it out at the Committee meeting on Monday night. He said he is too & that he has been trying not to but can't stand it any more. He also said we'll do the letters & take them to golf on Sunday & give them to B, the secretary & ask her to read them out at the meeting.

It took us about 3 hours to do the rubbish, re-stocking, go to the tip etc & on the drive home we talked about playing elsewhere next year. We have already paid this year's subs. We also discussed what we will not do ever again. We will not be taking up any positions, nor going on any committees. We are also thinking we want to do less with the vets golf group but will work towards getting someone able to run it & that will take time. They have not done anything to hurt us at all, but we do everything really

I also do the club Facebook page & am the only admin on the club website. I have to get everything together to hand over to someone. I don't think I will be able to do that today.

When we got home from the golf club & had a mini meal(did a 5:2 fast day)& then rejigged our grandson's resume & cover letter for a job application that he wanted to put in this morning. Then D & the kids came back up & we spent ages copying stuff & then doing a generic cover letter/resume to hand around businesses near where he lives with his Mum. It was quite nerve-wracking. They just called in on their way as the cover letter, which we thought we had corrected to only have 2 "wells" in one sentence still had 3! :svengo: It's now corrected. A didn't have smart clothes on as they are at his Mum's :svengo:

I'm going to the market soon as I need to get some afternoon tea for tomorrow. I'll tackle the letter when I get back home. This will be worth it but is quite daunting.
 
Man, I hate it when something that started out positive goes to shit like that. So sorry that the work you've been doing there has kind of soured things for you. :[

Maybe once your dues are up you can find a new place and get a fresh start. I'd hate for you to not play golf anymore over this.
 
-Cory- said:
Maybe once your dues are up you can find a new place and get a fresh start. I'd hate for you to not play golf anymore over this.
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We're feeling the same way. We'll start playing at other clubs & see how we feel. Thanks Cory. I'm about to start trying to come up with a resignation letter :(
 
Really sorry you had to go through that moment Cate. When one door closes, another one opens my friend. I'm sure it will all work out for you and your G. x
 
Thank you, honey. I just did what I think is a really good & honest letter & was feeling very emotional. I thought I would pop back in here & just read your post. Never underestimate the power of a kind word. I just had a little cry. Continue being yourself Emily. Thank you xoxo
 
Sometimes you wonder about the universe. G got home from golf & for the first time both captains had been nice to him.
It won't change our minds. Someone must have spoken to them.
 
cate said:
I have made a decision that I know LaMa will be pleased about.
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Not pleased, really, because it´s a dirty rotten shame that good people get bullied out of their favorite spaces, but I do think it´s the right decision for now. If all this can happen and nobody speaks up there is no way to consistently enjoy being around - which is the main reason you go to golf after all. All the hugs and good luck for the grandkid!
 
I probably meant that you think it's the right decision for us & it is. I don't think we do deserve this treatment. Thanks LaMa xoxo
 
Making the decision has definitely lifted a weight off our shoulders. After a good night's sleep, we both feel much better about going out to the club this morning to play golf. We are playing with friends from another club & that will be lovely. It feels better too because the 2 were both nice to G yesterday so we don't expect hostility today & can relax a bit. I can only assume someone has had words with them. It hasn't swayed us from our decision. I will have to add an addendum to my letter, though. It will be something like-
"Saturday, for the first time this year, D & S were friendly & polite to G. Unfortunately it is too late."
I feel good today & am looking forward to a social game of golf.
I ate well yesterday.Probably about 1600 cals. I had yoghurt & fruit for breakfast, chicken and salad for lunch & chicken & salad for dinner, followed by some soy ice cream, fresh mango & a little stewed rhubarb for dinner. No snacking, even though I was home most of the day on my own :) We shared a bottle of Prosecco when G got home from golf.
 
cate said:
Making the decision has definitely lifted a weight off our shoulders. After a good night's sleep, we both feel much better about going out to the club this morning to play golf. We are playing with friends from another club & that will be lovely. It feels better too because the 2 were both nice to G yesterday so we don't expect hostility today & can relax a bit. I can only assume someone has had words with them. It hasn't swayed us from our decision. I will have to add an addendum to my letter, though. It will be something like-
"Saturday, for the first time this year, D & S were friendly & polite to G. Unfortunately it is too late."
I feel good today & am looking forward to a social game of golf.
I ate well yesterday.Probably about 1600 cals. I had yoghurt & fruit for breakfast, chicken and salad for lunch & chicken & salad for dinner, followed by some soy ice cream, fresh mango & a little stewed rhubarb for dinner. No snacking, even though I was home most of the day on my own :) We shared a bottle of Prosecco when G got home from golf.
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Sounds like a good day all around
 
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