Cate's Diary

Good morning, forum friends. I apologise for not addressing each of you separately, but I need to be able to get out of here as soon as the kids appear for breakfast.
I was in an absolute fog yesterday. I was SO grumpy & down. I won't go into it as I'll just get down again & there's nothing I can do to change it. My heart felt like it was beating in slow motion & I felt really tired & lethargic all day. I ate healthily & got my steps, but no nice walk & no meditation again. That's changing today.
I woke up this morning & my mental fog has lifted & I get to spend the day with the GK's. D said I don't need to take them anywhere as they are happy just to chill. D stayed the night up here with them & they all played snooker. I just watched. He has now left for work & is picking them up at about 5pm.
We have them again next Saturday & G & I are going to take them to a zoo/wildlife park that we haven't been to before.
I can hear that one of them is up, so I may be out of here shortly.
I just had a quick squiz at your posts & haven't answered any questions!
Pho Bo- Vietnamese beef & noodle soup.
Baltimorese is hilarious. I have a book of it!
Picture of my oats sometime will appear.
My fruit salad varies all the time, but this one is especially delicious. I made enough for a few days. Fresh pineapple in it makes it really nice & I just love passionfruit.
Fair dinkum? Really?
Crikey is an expression of surprise. I tried to stop saying it when Steve Irwin was on tv all the time saying it, but have noticed I say it more these days. The F word is good to use when you really need it & then it can be very satisfying.
OK- better go xoxo
 
Wow, glad you bounced back so well from a day of being down. Sorry to hear that, and hope it wasn't related to the whole R situation. I am really happy you have your grand kids to do nice things with and hope it's a lovely day for you all!
 
Marsia said:
Wow, glad you bounced back so well from a day of being down. Sorry to hear that, and hope it wasn't related to the whole R situation.
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I'm afraid it was, hon. There's nothing I can do & nothing more he can do either. It's very sad. I hope she stops being in touch with him for quite a while. He feels that she is the one & all along I have thought that he could grow old with her, being very happy. She has talked herself out of it I think.
So here I am happy in my life with a husband I have been with since I was 18 & love even more than I did back then. I am so lucky. I just wish the same for both of our sons, but there is nothing I can do about it.
The sun is out. The kids have not surfaced yet. They can appear when they feel like it & I'm glad that they feel this is their third home.
 
Wow, that's so so hard, but I am glad you have found acceptance. I wish we could just give our kids the life we want for them, but I guess that's too much like bubble wrapping them! Big hugs and I hope R can recover quickly. He sounds really fun and interesting and hopefully can find the one who actually knows that she is the one!!!
 
Cate if there is one thing I’ve learned it’s that the universe has a (sometimes) cruel way of looking out for us. In my opinion relationships break down because they were meant to. It means it wasn’t right to start with despite what we thought. We learn from all our past experiences and we can choose to use them to make us stronger or to beat us down.

Choose to be stronger, encourage your son to choose to be stronger and everyone will be happy again. Pain ends; much more quickly when you choose it to end.
 
Not sure about being able to choose to get over something but fully agree that however wrong/bad the stated reason for a break-up is, when someone wants to leave a relationship it is always right to end that relationship. I agree they should cut contact at least for half a year or so, but basically until it doesn't hurt anymore.
 
Cate said:
I'm not a big fan of Cleaver Green, the main character so don't watch it.
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Cleaver is a pretty disgusting character, but I think he is supposed to be. What I like about Rake is the contrast to the many lawyer/detective shows that take themselves too seriously. Our Law & Order serieses are a case in point. Those have been one of the longest running and most popular TV shows ever in the US, and the main character lawyers are so righteous, its nice to see something different. In the US I've seen Rake subtitled Law & Disorder
Cate said:
Crikey is an expression of surprise. I tried to stop saying it when Steve Irwin was on tv all the time saying it.
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I never watched Steve Irwin, even though he was quite popular here. I've had a little direct experience with alligators, which I believe are less dangerous than your crocodiles. I thought what he was doing was foolish and very dangerous. And in the end his unsafe antics did do him in, but it wasn't the crocs.

Sorry to read about your struggles with R, but you are right there is not much parents can do about adult children's problems, not that kind anyway. About all is be supportive and hope it passes, you are doing that.
 
Thanks, Marsia, TM & LaMa & Rob. Hopefully one day he will find the right one & she will know that he is the right one too & it will work. He is in the best mental space he has ever been & I am very grateful for that.
I have had a lovely day & done some gardening/repotting which I am very happy with. I'm outside still & it's not cool yet. Spring is just around the corner!
 
Funny how you are starting spring and we are in the throes of autumn. Sorry to hear your news . It was in the pipeline from what you said a week or so ago. We as mums bear a lot of hurt and anguish for our kids when things go wrong. It's hard not too. Glad R is in a good head space too and I imagine he has been waiting for this day by all accounts. In time I hope he does find happiness. You try not to worry Cate . You are a great mum and a super grandmother too. Enjoy your day xxxxxxxx
 
Thanks, Petal. It was in the pipeline. I am not worrying tonight. I had such a good day today. I decided to offer the GK's a buffet breakfast. I cut up the other half of the honeydew melon, the cantaloupe & the pineapple, the last 2 kiwi fruit & an apple & put them in separate containers. Then I put a small pretty bowl in the middle of each plate filled with vanilla yoghurt. When they appeared I then cut up an apple & they ate lots of fruit with extra yoghurt & 2 slices each of seeded toast with honey. They loved it. I didn't think they would like the fruit salad. Both of our sons still prefer their fruit separate & not in a fruit salad.
Lunch was toasted pizza sandwiches & bits and pieces, then they had some salmon before D picked them up.
Everyone was impressed with my repotting.
LaMaria said:
I may be as excited about our autumn as you are about spring :)
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Even though I get shocking hayfever I just love the end of Winter.
 
Cate said:
I have had a lovely day & done some gardening/repotting which I am very happy with.
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I am somewhat jealous lol, we went from having a mild winter with the occasional cooler night, straight into summer heat, my garden is dying in the heat, my sunflowers have wilted and my chillies are dying.
 
I wouldn't swap our weather, Tru. It would be way too hot for me. It's also quite cool at night for most of the year, which helps with sleeping. We have a fire going still.
 
Cate I wonder is your climate similar to ours . It’s pretty seasonal . We get a few blips now and again like a heat wave or a storm .
 
Mainland Australian summer can be savage. :( I just replied to you cheerfully, Cate, on another thread, about summer fruit being on its way, and so it is, but there's that possibility of searing heat as well, let alone water shortages.

But to more cheerful things - like that great breakfast, and a good night's sleep! Wonderful. And your grandchildren's fruit breakfast sounded pretty great as well - not just the food, but the joy of them being with you - from both sides.

Hugs, for the pain of seeing someone you love in pain. I'm sorry.
 
I'm grateful that our summers are not as savage as they are on the mainland, Amy. Ours are getting hotter & drier though every year. Summer fruit is not far away at all. It's always a bit later here.
I'm really enjoying my weekend and loved the time with the kids & our son the night before. He is going to be spending the occasional night here with them as his GF's middle daughter has moved back home again. It's better for the kids.
Thanks for the hug, Amy. I will mentally send it on his way xoxo

So far today G & I picked up a ute load of fine wood chips, shopped for some groceries quickly, I repotted the sage into 5 pots, we dug up all of the rhubarb as it was struggling & have put it all into 13 pots, some bottomless so that the worms can still get up into them & some that can be given away.
The Wallabies haven't got into the pots I planted out yesterday yet. I planted sharp cordylines all around the outsides. :)
 
Cate that's nice to hear you will see the grandkids more . Do they not get on with the girlfriends daughter . I have a friend with 4 daughters and his parter has one daughter . I find it very odd that the daughters do not know the partners daughter at all and this couple are together 30 years.

Wow you did a lot of gardening work . Sounds great . I'm off to look up cordyline as we have a digging problem here at the moment .
 
I looked up what cordylines are, too. Nice to know they deter diggers as I have a lot of those coming to try and find grubs in my potted plants on the porch!

Do you think digging a small pond for wildlife would help with the drought? I am thinking of doing that on our property, but we have natural springs from living lower on the mountain so the water table is pretty high here. Wish I could take some of your rhubarb! I need to make a new bed for some that the gophers don't get in!

It's great news that R is doing so well. It's great he is becoming so resilient and good at taking care of his feelings! And so so glad you are doing so well!!!
 
Petal001 said:
Cate that's nice to hear you will see the grandkids more . Do they not get on with the girlfriends daughter . I have a friend with 4 daughters and his parter has one daughter . I find it very odd that the daughters do not know the partners daughter at all and this couple are together 30 years.
Wow you did a lot of gardening work . Sounds great . I'm off to look up cordyline as we have a digging problem here at the moment .
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Hi, Petal. It's hard to explain about D's "new" home situation as I don't really understand it myself. She has a 3 bedroom house & has 3 daughters. The older daughters had a fight with their mum & moved out & into a place together. The youngest daughter moved into the bigger bedroom of the two & then when E & C stayed at the weekend they shared the smallest bedroom. Then the older girl threw her sister out(I won't even bother telling you what that was about :svengo: ) & she moved back into her Mum's house & back into her old room (I think) & there is now not a spare room for E & C.
I obviously got interrupted here this morning! I'll continue...
I got a text today from D asking if we could get the kids off the bus on Friday night & for him to stay here with them on Friday night with them & again on Sat night. Of course, I said yes.
Cordylines are sharp. Don't plant them where dogs or small children will be or where you mow.

Marsia said:
I looked up what cordylines are, too. Nice to know they deter diggers as I have a lot of those coming to try and find grubs in my potted plants on the porch!
Do you think digging a small pond for wildlife would help with the drought? I am thinking of doing that on our property, but we have natural springs from living lower on the mountain so the water table is pretty high here. Wish I could take some of your rhubarb! I need to make a new bed for some that the gophers don't get in!
It's great news that R is doing so well. It's great he is becoming so resilient and good at taking care of his feelings! And so so glad you are doing so well!!!
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Hi, Marsia. See the above re cordylines. They are very sharp.
We don't have a water problem where we are as we have a very large roof & 2 big tanks. Having a pond nearby would only attract snakes I'm afraid. I definitely have lots of spare rhubarb!
R is becoming very much more resilient, which is such a relief & knowing that he is, helps me to not worry so much about him.

I think I may have overdone the gardening the last couple of days, but boy it felt good. G & I have been doing gardening together & it has worked well. There was a lot of give & take but we both ended up happy. I am aching from head to toe!
 
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