Eating isn't the main problem behind being obese. A person's relationship to food and their own self image is. Both overeating and undereating are forms of gradual self-destruction. Suicide. But being suicidal is not a disability. It's a mindset in need of a) a reality check, and b) an attitude adjustment.
Everything is a form of gradual self-destruction, if you want to get technical about it.
I have dealt with obsessive-compulsive disorder my whole life, sans medication or therapy. I know exactly why I am the way I am because I've put forth the effort to sit down and think about my behaviors and where they stem from. I record every incident and use mental techniques to negate its impact on my life. I do not consider myself disabled in any way, because I have learned to manage it through a change of attitude.
Attitude isn't something that can be flipped like a switch. 99.99999999% of people can't just sit down and self-diagnose themselves, coming up with the potential cure to their problem. If they could, doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists would all be out of a job. In most cases, it takes an instance of hitting rock bottom to even realize what you have been doing to yourself.
I tried to kill myself a few years back and it wasn't until I literally cut into my wrist that I realized what I had been doing and how I had been living my life. It's not like people who are "self-destructing", as people call it, can just sit down one day and come to a realization that they need to change their way of thinking and living. Why? Because, people who are in state of mind like that can't realize that sort of thing.
You control your mental state, unless you suffer from a severe psychosis which requires medication (which I would probably consider a disability). It does not control you.
No, you don't control your mental state. It's not so black and white of an issue. Everything in your life influences and effects your mental state, whether you want to admit it or not. Sure, you can say something like "But, it's YOUR mind" all you want to, but that's not the reality of the situation.
We can only control our minds to a certain point. Once that point has been reached, and outside influences begin to take their toll, we can't just flip a switch in our heads and go back to being normal.
Everyone has to be their own savior in the end. Because honestly, nobody really cares about the motivations of self destruction. They only care about the consequences, particularly those consequences which affect them.
Once again, it's not so black and white. You can't just up and save yourself from falling in a downward spiral when you feel like it. It's not even close to being that easy.
While I was suicidal, I tried...I really, really tried...but I just couldn't help myself. I literally spent months and months and months battling with myself, trying to fix myself and all of my problems. I couldn't do it on my own. So, I grabbed a knife and slit my wrist. It wasn't until that very moment that I realized how deep down in Hell I really was.
Like I said, everything around you influences you in some way, shape or form, both positively and negatively. When your girlfriend dumps you, do you not get sad? Of course you do. But, if we are in 100% control of our minds, then that would mean we were
making ourselves sad, upset and depressed. Now, why would we do such a thing? The fact is, we
aren't in 100% control of our minds. We aren't in 100% control of our emotions either, which heavily influence our daily decisions and how we live our lives.
All of this can be tied in with people who overeat and live an obese life. It's not necessarily something that can be immediately fixed just by some sort of mental inventory check. If something is wrong with your life, there is usually a reason for it and that reason isn't always lack of motivation or mental effort.
