Oh, sorry I just meant that I had until 2pm to get some extra calories in. I try to have an eating window that is 6-8 hours in length and fast the rest of the day. If I can skip dinner that is the best so I am not eating towards evening as it is supposed to be better as far as losing weight not to eat too late in the day. The recommendation I have heard is not to eat at least 2 hours before bed, but even more is better supposedly.
Marsia's Diary
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Good morning! We wound up taking everyone out on a walk by a stream in the forest. Lots of wild sweet peas in bloom and there were a few ripe thimble berries. Really nice walk.
J has been eating badly and asked me to make him a hamburger when we got back at 7pm as his first meal of the day. We didn't have hamburger meat, and I was feeling ravenously hungry and wanting to cheat on my fast. But I managed to make some left over meat balls and pesto over spiral zucchini without me eating anything. I have to watch him more carefully diet-wise. He is only eating one meal a day and then having double portions of ice cream and things like that late at night. He said he had lost some hair last month but it is growing back in. I bet it was due to bad nutrition.
Today we go to Apple for a video editing class and see about cell phones for my kid. It's a little foggy out but hopefully the sun will burn it off!
J has been eating badly and asked me to make him a hamburger when we got back at 7pm as his first meal of the day. We didn't have hamburger meat, and I was feeling ravenously hungry and wanting to cheat on my fast. But I managed to make some left over meat balls and pesto over spiral zucchini without me eating anything. I have to watch him more carefully diet-wise. He is only eating one meal a day and then having double portions of ice cream and things like that late at night. He said he had lost some hair last month but it is growing back in. I bet it was due to bad nutrition.
Today we go to Apple for a video editing class and see about cell phones for my kid. It's a little foggy out but hopefully the sun will burn it off!
That kind of sounds like you´re talking about a toddler...
Have you talked to him about his current eating habits? You don't have (and shouldn't) to monitor another adult's food intake but a single:"Hey babe, I noticed you've been going through a lot of icecream lately. Are you struggling with something?" doesn't count as nagging. Not even a little bit.
Cate
Long term member
I am glad that you are both going to have therapy together. It will be interesting to see what comes of it. Most men I know are not good at expressing what they are feeling & G is no exception.
You did well to stave off the urge to "cheat" by eating extra good foods. Drumming class sounds like so much fun. Your family is so talented & creative.
You did well to stave off the urge to "cheat" by eating extra good foods. Drumming class sounds like so much fun. Your family is so talented & creative.
alligatorob
Respected Member
Hey Marsia,
1,625 calories is not bad, and it appears you handled it well, good for you!
That sounds like fun, I like Cuban music.
It doesn't just go away, 2 of my 3 boys are ADHD in addition to all three being Autistic. My youngest son at 20 still wakes in the middle of the night and literally bounces off his bedroom walls. Some people think they have hyperactive kids but they are not actually ADHD and those ones will grow out of it.
Stayed in the calorie limit and on IF today and was happy and didn't crave food. We went to the park and played lacrosse for the first time in ages. It was hard, because we laughed so hard stealing the ball from each other that it got us out of breath quickly. We also took a little walk overlooking the ocean before sunset. The waves were perfect and there were all sorts of surfers out. The waves were dark turquoise-blue and the ocean between them was silvery-gold-slightly greenish and glowing. Very subtle and beautiful. Practiced drumming and K helped us get the two rhythms down. It was good to exercise and nail the drumming today - I was feeling a little blue before those things, and feel happy now. Good to not take those feelings seriously and just go out and do things!
Thanks Amy! I think it is a good strategy, too, now that I saw that I don't really overeat that much. The drumming is 1-2-3 (pause) 1-2 for one rhythm, and vice versa with different length pauses for the second rhythm - like with salsa and rumba. If you hear them, it is just so surprising they fit into a 4/4 measure.
Thanks Amy! I think it is a good strategy, too, now that I saw that I don't really overeat that much. The drumming is 1-2-3 (pause) 1-2 for one rhythm, and vice versa with different length pauses for the second rhythm - like with salsa and rumba. If you hear them, it is just so surprising they fit into a 4/4 measure.
My eldest is 24 today, he is a rock climber and is mild Autistic and shares an apartment with my almost 22 year old who was given access to special exam conditions for his uni studies (Archaeology), he ADHD and PDD-NOS with superior ability. My youngest son is ADHD and fits on the severe end of moderate for the Autism Spectrum I have coached him to two Australian records and a second place at National Titles, He also has a ton of martial arts wins. So far my almost 2 year old is normal, whatever normal is lol, I have no experience with normal.
Cate
Long term member
totally!That day, lacrosse and laughing and the amazingly beautiful sea, made me think of the old Lou Reed song, "Perfect day", which I'm singing in my head right now. I love that song.
I still haven't got my head around the rhythms, but I'll keep trying!
I'm sorry to hear about the PTSD and the traumatic experience. I totally get the feeling when you're experiencing those symptoms. In the moment, it feels like you'll lose your mind. You said you've hallucinated, that's pretty intense. Seems like it's a flashback. Is that right?
I struggle with anticipatory anxiety. Waiting to speak in front of a crowd for example really ratchets up my anxiety. Or even just sitting in a circle with more than 3 people going around introducing ourselves. I used to "preempt" or interrupt the fear from building by responding to what others say when they say it so I would be "warmed up" when my turn came. This is kind of what I was thinking about not giving yourself the opportunity - preempt it in other ways. It's somewhat successful for me but I think the work that I have to do is to just let it happen and show myself nothing bad will happen although I'm not convinced that nothing bad will happen. It's usually in professional situations and that can have an adverse affect on relationships and therefore my career. I think having the opportunity to respond when it happens with my space and time respected would help but that's not always feasible so I don't fully process through it and it makes it harder the next time. Another approach is to just go in confident and without regard to consequences and that usually works but I haven't been in a state of confidence in a long time mostly bc of some medication I was taking. Working on my health though, now, is starting to turn my confidence around and put me on more solid ground. I'm hoping it will give me more traction in those moments to sit and work through it.
