I have a friend I write to in England who is Buddhist and we always laugh at how the simplest teaching is usually the one we've written back and forth to each other about for the most years. It's so funny how the best truths keep giving you new wisdom over the course of your life.Yes those 'simple' teachings really run deep and are very interesting to work with. Working with loving-kindness and compassion with the difficult places and people in our lives is so rich and deep. I feel like within the Buddhist teachings I can just keep going deeper and deeper with it all. It has benefits at so many levels!
Wow, so good to hear from you Rob!! It's nice to be down 20 pounds - it helps to feel pretty good physically while I'm going through all this turmoil, I think. The lawyers are making things less stressful funnily enough - J almost sold our house out from under us and disappeared with all my family estate's money, and he has every single marital asset in his name only. So I hired 2 extremely wonderful lawyers who each have 25 years experience in their fields. Without them we'd be in a shelter with no money. It's been a really dramatic 3 months, but it is calming down, and it looks like we will be ok. It already does feel like we're a lot freer, but I can't wait until we have our own little house somewhere (with any luck!). The peaches and tomatoes were so scrumptious this year especially. I hope they are, too, where you are!Good to see you, its been a while. And congrats on the 20 lb loss, despite the situation.
I am sorry to hear that. Divorce is always stressful, having to involve lawyers makes it even more so. Take care of yourself girl!
I envy you, our peaches and plums won't be ready for a couple of weeks. We do however have an abundance of tomatoes in the garden, eat a couple every day, fresh picked.
I am sorry you are going through this, but it sounds like you are doing all the right things and it will be over and past one day. Just not as soon as you'd like. Hang in there girl, you and K are going to be fine.
Thanks Cate! I was feeling a little torn as to why I am being nice to J at all, but I just can't handle anymore meanness and conflict. I have got to feel like I can reward the good part of J even if that part is really buried and I never truly have a real relationship with that part of him. It just helps so much to try my best and leave the rest to fate. At the same time, I do need to be on constant guard for anything that he might pull, but thank goodness there isn't a lot of contact with him. K and I went to a nice Buddhist talk the other day together, and she really liked it because it wasn't just on philosophy, it really helped for what to do day to day in your life. I like how much practical Buddhist writing there is like this now, too. I do feel like we've gained some traction in a bunch of areas in our lives. That is a relief because the days where I was trying to get K up and doing school which was a constant struggle all day where so hard and I worried we'd be stuck doing that a long while. Phew!Being able to have as peaceful a relationship as possible while you work your way through this will be so much better for you & K. You will get through this, even stronger than you are now/
It feels like time for me to get back into reading more about Buddhist teaching.
You are well & truly getting stuff done & looking forward!
Today was mostly about doing homework (K modified a computer program all day and got some fun stuff done for making her own computer game) and I was getting the stuff done for the lawyer, which I just finished. We'll do some yoga tonight and turn in early. I still feel like a ton of bricks and kept falling asleep sitting up in my chair this morning. K's boyfriend comes back from summer school in a few days, so I need to get her a little ahead on school. I need more exercise and fresh air, so will figure out something nice to do tomorrow.