Losing Weight in the Land of Chocolate and Cheese!

:iagree: with Kate. I LIKE agreeing with Kate! :grouphug:

If that woman is the one who has upset you before you need to be ruthless & eliminate her as a 'friend" as she isn't being one. Write her a letter explaining why & let it go. She is using you as a scapegoat for her shitty mood. Anyone who says FML has serious issues. I dislike that as much as I disliked "shit happens." It happens to those who let it. NOT YOU!!!!!

"Oh joh joh, you're not a meany pants at all! You would never have deliberately hurt her, and she's an egit for thinking otherwise. You're a lovely person, really!"


I'm so glad that you are going to go to sleep reminding yourself what a lovely person you are. Your baby will know it before she is born. Lots and lots of love to you sweetie, xoxo Cate

PS If you do find the chocolate& I'm sure you will) only have a little bit. It will make you feel very self-righteous(like me not drinking alcohol at the moment) & in control, which is always good I reckon. You CAN do it! I know you can. xoC
 
A:) thanks girls. Jess - I try to do that with everyone all the time. I imagine what must be going on in their lives to make them act whatever way they do (even with things like road rage or something) and try to put myself in their shoes... which I think is why it upset me so much that she thought I was being unsupportive and judgemental. I know that she has gone through some hard stuff in the last six months, and I've been really good during that time with bringing her food, having her come over for tea and chats, offering to be both a supportive ear and an escape when she needs it, taking her to the movies and for walks, etc. So this made it hurt all the more.

Kate - when you come over for a bath, you can come for a slap too ;) Unfortunately it's not the same friend... why are there so many crazy women around here! haha. Actually, with my other friend, I had a really good adult conversation with her about how her sense of humour (she's from Paris... weird humour there) hurts my feeling sometimes, and we've both grown and moved past that. She realises that I'm not a big lump of steel that she can make fun of all the time, so that actually worked out really well. Thanks for being angry for me! hehe.

Cate - I am absolutely with you on the 'FML' thing. I hate it more than I hate misplaced apostrophes on enormous posters. Which is a lot. I couldn't believe there was actually an acronym for this - man, my generation is weird sometimes. But like I said above, it's not the same girl. And it's realy hard, extra hard, because people here really become your support network when you don't have family. So I kind of try to look at it like I have a sister who goes a bit crazy sometimes (though I have no idea what that's like... maybe a cousin?) and maybe I have to forgive and forget. But I'm not very good at that.
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So I didn't sleep very well... :willy_nilly: 'monkey brain', my mum calls it .... and I woke up sad... and then I had a bit of a cry... and then my mummy called and I blubbered to her like an idiot... poor mum! So then I wrote this girl a short email saying the following: "I'm a bit upset. I don't know what I did that was unsupportive, negative and judgemental. These are three things that I really strive not to be. I didn't realise that I had been horrible so I'm sorry if i somehow inadvertently hurt your feelings. Hope you're feeling better today." Haven't heard anything back yet.

So then, while I was about to hit send on the email, Beanie did a little dance and reminded me about how lucky I am. And then, magically, to remind me that I have other great friends here, my gorgeous friend Iida called me to see how Beanie is doing. When she heard I was a bit down, she came straight over and took me out to lunch to cheer me up. And then took me to some baby shops to cheer me up even more. :)

FOOD TODAY
Breakfast - banana and a tub of yoghurt (I was really not hungry)
Lunch - Japanese chicken katsu curry (which turned out to be curry sauce with crumbed fried chicken... didn't realise) with rice and salad
Dinner - Beef, chick pea and spinach madras curry with edamame and cous cous (just a little bit - not very hungry)
Snacks - 1 sesame honey bar, 1 cup milk rice (home-made with skim milk, lots of vanilla and a teeeeeny bit of sugar)

EXERCISE
- 20 minutes walking. Really sore after yoga.

EDIT - got crazy hungry around 10pm. Had 2 slices of bread with cheese and butter.
 
AHeya hotstuff :)

Oooh can i smash her in the face with a massive rubber duck????? She won't be expecting that one :)

Ok Kate's special moment allert....What does FML mean? :blush5:

That is really good of you to write her an email but....Don't stress about whether she replies or not or how she replies if she does. You have said your bit and if she isn't a big enough person to explain herself then you really are better off without her in your life!

You obviously have friends there who DO matter, like Iida. Now that is what a real friend does :) She sounds like a goodun :)

Sending you lots of love and say hi to Beanie for me Xx
 
ABAD FOOD DAY - All I wanted was pizza. From the moment I woke up. What is with that? Surely my body doesn't crave pizza for a reason... surely if I had some vegetables, some cheese and some wholemeal bread that would satisfy those desires if it stems from some nutritional deficiency... but NOOOO only REAL PIZZA would do. To be honest, this day could have easily gone completely out of control. It felt like one of those... I went to the shops and only bought pizza and vegetables... I could easily have bought stacks of lollies, chips, etc. It would have been so easy, and I would have scoffed them all. So that's a little positive I suppose.

Breakfast - Large bowl crispy pecan muesli with linseeds, sunflower seeds and skim milk
Snack - edamame beans and 1/2 tub of cottage cheese; 4 digestive biscuits (BAD... but umm it has some fibre?) and black tea
Lunch - whole family sized thin crust frozen pizza (obviously wasn't frozen at the time)
Snack - milk rice with tinned pears (1 half) and apricots (2 halves)
Dinner - small bowl pumpkin soup (strangely enough I wasn't hungry by this point... hmm)

EXERCISE
-45 minute walk along the lake with my man. It was bloomin freezing!

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Kate - hi darlin. Well no updates about that debacle today - no email and I'm not really fussed. It's nice to have a day free from it actually. And YES abuse with a rubber duck is totally acceptable. :) You are totally right about Iida - she is a keeper for sure.
 
I dont know why it happens but it sure does!!!And not only to pregnant women!!!

Ok so you ate a whole family pizza im sure the frozen ones arent really that huge.....!!!!plus you passed on the candy so that is really great!

Try be good tommorow if you dont have any cravings!


They used to tell me that i must eat double the food (one for me one for the babys needs!), Also they used to say that when i want to eat something REALLY bad its not ME but the BABY wanting it!How does Beanie know about Pizza???!!!!What have you been telling him???


also i dont know if its International or only greek but the older people say that when you are pregnant and crave something until you EAT it you MUST NOT touch any part of your body because your baby will be born with a birthmark shaped like the food you craved on the spot where you touched yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AAA i have many more sayings for you if you are interested!!!
 
Hi Joh, It's hard to try to apply logic-

a) when you're pregnant &

b) when you have cravings that are screaming at you.

You & I both try to apply logic to everything, when sometimes you just have to not think too much about it. Good for you, not going over the top.

Re: your "friend," you have extended the hand of friendship & she will either accept it & make amends or not. It's hard & it's hurtful but ultimately you have to look after yourself & you will do well to let it go. It still upsets me a little when I drive past the home of the guy who won't forgive me, but I send him "loving kindness" as I go past & it helps for me to let it go. He never did reply to my message. He will probably take his grievance to the grave, but I tried to make amends & that's all you can do really. Hope you don't have a belly ache from your pizza sweetie pie. Sending you lots and lots of love, xoxo Cate
 
AO joh...sorry I am a little late ...but your friend sounds more like a "frenemy"...the "its all about me"type....she is probably jealous of your happy life...so she has to compensate my being extra hateful.

and the FML people on FB piss me the hell off!! I would never ever use that phrase....not because I don't drop the F bomb on occasion....because how can any mother or father especially say that!! Your life is your child.....there is nothing F'd about it!! and even if you don't have kids...you have your health and a roof over your head...a job...food on the table...NO COMPLAINER....your life is not FUCKED!!!
...ok off my rant...lmao!!

Sending hugs to you and yours! xoxoxox you look stunning!! love your beanie bump :grouphug:
 
AHeya Crazy pizza monster :)

OH NO!!!! You had pizza. Please tell me it was just heaven. I miss pizza ALOT! And i'm glad you cooked it, that is a really impressive craving if you had eaten it frozen!!!!!
 
A:) Hello my lovely supporters. Geez you guys are angels, you know that, right? Whenever I come on here I know you will make me smile. It's such a nice feeling. No time to reply to you all right now properly - I'll do it tomorrow morning.

Today I had an ALL ABOUT ME AND HOW TO MAKE MYSELF HAPPY day because I've had a real downer of a week. I've been crying and not sleeping too much... last night around 4am I had a total sad just about the fact that I'm so sore and I have really bad eczema (which is easy for me to fix in Australia but , here, I'd have to call my insurance to go make a doctors appointment to get a script to get thecream I need... and last time I called the insurance people they were so rude about my attempted german they made me cry... oh god, really, I usually cry VERY RARELY! I promise!) and things that I used to like doing with my hubby now just hurt and I worry that I make him worried and BLAH - that 4am brain went mental.

SO today was an all-about-me day. Which involved a haircut, a full body pregnancy massage, going out for cake and coffee with Iida to the most famous confectioner in Switzerland, and generally focusing on ME. And by god it was lovely.

Dunc's work had a function tonight so I went along and there wasn't any food I could eat... I managed tofind some bread and cheese later in the night... but I had such a lovely time with our two German friends. They had read on my blog that one of my goals for January is to feel more confident speaking German, particularly with friends, and so we all sat and spoke only German over lots of cups of tea all night. They are so lovely and don't laugh at me (too much!) and are just really great for my confidence. It was really nice. :)

FOOD TODAY
- 3 dried apricots, a handful of mixed nuts.
- vegetarian curry, dahl and pappadam with herbal tea
- 1/2 cheesecake and a latte
- 2 slices multigrain bread with cheese and butter
- fresh fruit smoothie
- 3 peanut M&Ms

EXERCISE
- 40 minutes (ish) of walking around
 
Looks like you had a great day all over!

You should pamper yourself like that miss mommy to be!I was really pleased to read about the ALL YOU day!

I think that it is rude and just bad and evil to make fun of someone that doesnt speak a language 100 percent well/Jesus...You shouldnt cry over that , you should gt really angry and tell them in the international language of English to fuck of.:reddevil::cuss:

I think that chineese and german are really difficult, and you are GREAT!for speaking that language..!Hope you manage to get your cream you need,i know eczema is really horrible.

Have a lovely night
 
AHeya Sweetie

:iagree: With Jess.....the universal english language.....Fuck off, lol that made me laugh :smilielol5:

Your 'YOU' day sounded total bliss and ggod for you for doing it. Sometimes you just need to have 'you' time. You really have had it pretty stressy lately.

I did a 7 mile run today :hurray: Oh Joh, i was so proud of myself, it was awesome :)

Sending you lots of squishy hugs my lovely :grouphug:
 
AFOOD TODAY
- muesli with sunflower seeds, linseeds, pecans and skim milk
- glass of skim milk with 1 tsp ovaltine (yum)
- baked potato with cheddar cheese, steamed broccoli and cauli
- 4 tinned apricot halves, two tinned pear halves
- 2 slices bread with cottage cheese and tomato

EXERCISE
-20 min yoga
- 20 min walk
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My lovely husband has been off snowboarding all weekend. That makes snowboarding 5 out of the last 8 days (there was one public holiday and he took one day off work). I'm jealous. Not of the boarding or skiing, but just of being in the mountains. I thought about going with him today and just hanging out in the little town up there, doing my writing in a cafe in the village, but it would be 8 hours in potentially just one cafe... and I can't do that. And I can't really go for proper walks at the moment with my pelvis/back pain. And the place he went today is really high altitude (2900 metres) which isn't so great for me right now...

So instead I've hung out here and attempted to properly bring my mental state back down to that of a normal-looking-Joh. I've been looking at the beautiful view all day, having a bath, reading my book,listening to music, doing a little yoga and preparing a little for when my intensive german lessons begin on Tuesday. I miss my boy though. He knows it. He felt really bad this morning leaving me here when I've had such a shit week... but last night we just cuddled on the couch for about 4 hours and talked, I told him all the things I'm worried about, he told me that no matter what I worry about now, I', going to be an amazing mum because I love that little bean in there so much already... etc.

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Jess - thanks for stopping by here again! Thanks for being so supportive. Yes, you are right, I should never be made to feel so terrible (especially by a company!) for trying to speak a language that I find so hard... but I know that English is also such a difficult language to learn. At least I don't have the expectation that everyone here can speak MY language... I can't wait until the day where my German is finally not a problem with complicated medical phone conversations! And thanks for your sympathy with the eczema - it really is just horrible at the moment, and really screws with my general enjoyment of life. Sounds dramatic but it's totally true.

Kate - Thanks lovely! Yes, I really did need a ME day (and another one today! haha) and, meanwhile, SEVEN MILES! That's almost the ten you need! Holy cow, woman, HUZZAH! You are a superwoman :D (oh, I never answered your question. 'FML' means "F$%& my life'. lovely, eh?)
 
AHeya hotstuff :)

Another 'you day' :hurray: :hurray: Good for you sweetie :) Hopefully that and having a good long honest chat with Dunc will get you more chilled and relaxed. It's awful that you have been haing such a hard time.

Deep breath and try not to worry so much hun, i know it's hard but worrying about things out of your control is a waste of time. Try and think that when you are worrying :)

Sending you extra hugs Xxx
 
Ahi Kate! I feel like such a whinger, when I'm not really going through that much of a hard time, I just seem to have lost my ability to deal with stress. I'm looking into more stuff I can do to help me with this. Thanks for your support, my love!

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So tired. Feeling much more positive today though. It's a new week! my 3-hours-a-day-five-days-a-week German starts tomorrow... I'm a bit nervous about how I'll deal with it, plus trying to keep up with my writing, plus get ready andstay stress-free for beanie... but I'll just take it as it comes.

Today is Week 23 and Beanie is apparently a foot long and weighs 600 grams. Meanwhile, in the last three days, for no particularly obvious reason I can fathom, I've put on 1.6kg. Interesting. I don't have a photo yet this week... That takes me to 91.7kg........... no idea how I will stay under 100 with 17 weeks to go, and apparently this last bit is where you really put on all the pudge. So... hmm...

Sorry I've been totally awol with everyone's diaries. Wish I could be better, but just so tired... it's bed time. Even though it was also bed time at 11am and 3pm... Hope you all know that I love you! x
 
We do & we love you too :grouphug: Sweetie, we know you're not a whinger & this is your place to really let it out & say what you want to. It is so good for all of us to do & we have such a good, fun network of loving/cheeky/everything-under-the-sun support that you should not feel the need to apologise. Don't add us to your stress. We are the stress relief network! We'll support you no matter what (with the occasional, gentle admonishment ;)). Stop worrying quite so much about the 100kg limit thingy. It's just a number & is putting stress on yourself unnecessarily. The more you worry, the more you worry & then you might be tempted to stress eat & so on & so on. You are doing well Joh. Give yourself a break sweetie. Sending you truck loads (road trains) of love, xoxo Cate
 
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GERMAN was awesome. I have SUCH a great teacher this time! The previous four times I've tried this level (I've gotten sick every time... so touch wood) I have had terrible teachers.. so I feel very lucky! And it seems the other 6 people are lovely too... AND I am not the worst in the class (Iknow it is stupid, but I have always been a smarty pants and really struggle with being the worst in a class where everyone else speaks at least 4 languages...) so I'm feeling really positive about it. 3 hours a day, 5 days a week. I'll be fluent in no time ;)

Today was crazily productive! 3 hours of German, 1.5 hours of yoga, 2 hours of writing, I went shopping for maternity clothes and found a jacket in Esprit reduced from 329francs to 79 and it is SO WARM and it FITS MY BELLY and doesn't make me look like a whale! I also got a skirt and two shirts.... because now that I am going to German with the same people every day, I can't wear the same jeans and two-shirt combo that I have been wearing every day for the past two months... hmm... Also got a new scarf and some big earrings so that even if I DO wear the same thing everyday, maybe I can fool them by wearing different accessories. Haha. Then I did the grocery shopping, came home, did the washing, organised our medical bills, made the scary call the my insurance (and spoke german with mostly success!), made three medical appointments (doctor, physio, osteopath) and a massage appointment, and am about to make dinner.

This is a lot for someone who is trying to remain stress free!!!!!!! But I actuallly felt really great today (okay... not physically... still in stacks of pain. But mentally!) and seized the moment. And NOW I feel great for having been so productive!

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FOOD TODAY
Breakfast - small bircher muesli, milk coffee,
Morning tea - apricot nut bar, peppermint tea
lunch - satay chicken with rice (this was a big lunch...)
arvo tea - large pink grapefruit, spoonful of milk-rice
dinner - (planning a chicken schnitzel, baked potato and steamed veg for dinner)

EXERCISE
-1.5 hours yoga (needed to really adjust that for my pain levels at the moment, but my teacher was fantastic with helping.)
- 1.5 hours walking

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Ah, Cate, you are always right! You are right that I was worrying about everyone on here thinking I'm a whinger - haha. :) I'm a lost cause! ;) You are the most gentle admonisher on the planet - it's so funny sometimes to read a comment from you and a comment from Kate (AKA the yeller) after each other. It makes me giggle :D It's hard for me not to worry about the 100kg number... not only is it a big milestone of a number, it is a number that my doctor said I should not get to. And dunc has kind of reiterated that, in the round-about, supportive and scaredy-cat way he does. haha. He just wants me and beanie to be as healthy as possible, and the doctor gave him something concrete to cling onto, you know? I don't tend to be such a stress eater... more of a bored eater and an opportunity-strikes eater. I actually lose my apetite during stressful periods... from what I have noticed, anyway. Maybe I should pay more attention. Thanks for the road-train of love :) xxx
 
It was really lovely reading your entry today!You had a fantstic day !And 5 times a week german????you will be speaking the language like they do in no time at all!!!I

And then after that the best part was SHOPPING!you got yourself a great deal there!

Look as long as you try to control crappy food,you are going to put on what you are going to put on and you shouldnt really stress about it , worry and think of it all the time.I think the doctors say to put an X ammount of weight on and not go over because of giving birth easier(thats what i was told by my doctor,) and because after birth if you put on a really big ammount it wont go away quick as the healkthy weight gain.Just try to avoid fatty stuff , like you would anyway.I know you have cravings and you will give in to them ,but i am sure you are going to fine and take control!!!!!!

Have you swollen at all on your face and feet?waiting for a new picture of your growing belly!!!
 
AWow mommy and beanie had a busy day!! How wonderful...Beanie will be in-uterus bilingual....haha...I sense MENSA status guarnteed!! lol :grouphug:

so I was browsing "creeping" the befores and afters ....on another fat forum site and a lady called her pregnancy
[COLOR=FF00AA]"mommy to be maintance phase".[/COLOR]...and it made me smile and think of you! Hope all is well sending big hugs!!
 
AFOOD
- bircher muesli, 4 dried apricots, 8 almondsand milk coffee
- broccoli and parmesan omelette, veggie sticks, tzatziki
-handful of pretzels, 2 slices of cheese,sesame snap
-tomato, mozarella and basil sandwich, 10 potato wedges (everyone went to the pub after netball... the wedges were the greatest I have ever had, so although I feel bad about having them, I really enjoyed them...)

EXERCISE
- too much walking. Maybe 1.5 hours....
- lots of shivering
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GAH! I'm FEELING SICK AGAIN!!!! . IIt's really no surprise considering what happened last night... and I did too much the day before... I was joking in my German class saying that I have started this level four times now and have gotten sick after two or three lessons each time (true) so I must be allergic to German. But it's true! Last night I started to feel sick after two lessons... and now, after three, I can't swallow, I have a headache and am ridiculously tired, I have my cough back and... well, this will make it my fourth cold in the last five months. :( Stocking up on salad, oranges, vitamins, etc.

So last night, we JUST missed the train home, and were going to have to wait another half hour in -9 degrees, while I was barely able to stand up any more due to my pelvic pain, and I also had a very suspicious sore throat.... So we splurged and caught a taxi the 12km home. It cost OVER SEVENTY FRANCS!!!!! Holy cow! That's like more than 50 pounds! That's like 80 Aussie dollars! I know what you're thinking - that's the end to this story. Well wait for it. :)

The worst thing was that we got home, and both realised we didn't have a key.:iamwithstupid:
I had just got my new jacket and left my key in my old jacket pocket... :iamwithstupid:
and for some reason dunc left his at work. :iamwithstupid: NOOOOO!!!!!! So dunc had to leave me there on the doorstep in the cold, DESPERATE to go to the toilet, and try to get back to work as quickly as possible. I was soooo tired and feeling so terrible.... and MY GOD I have never in my life needed to go to the loo like I did last night. Something weird is going on with my body, I swear. It was ridiculous! 1hour and 15 minutes later , shivering and wiggling like mad to try to keep everything in, my man runs back and rescues me. My hero! What a debacle...

I went to German again this morning, but that's ALL I'm going to do today. I did go to the chemist, though, and buy stacks of stuff to ward this cold off.

P.S. Here is me this morning, getting ready for German. Week 23.5 ;)
http://weight-loss.fitness.com/image/id/337137/width/350/height/624

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Jess - I'm glad you were happy about my last post! I know, what a bargain hunter I am! haha. It is really nice to have something new to wear, and not feel so ugly! haha. I am definitely getting swollen feet and ankles, but not a swollen face, or not that I notice. Is that common?

Tete - Hi lovely! Hahaha, mensa baby. :) As long as they aren't one of these tortured intellectuals, that's cool! I love what that other woman said about her pregnancy. That is exactly the way I am trying to see it too :)
 
That little guy in your tummy was standing on your bladder girl.


Adventures in pregnancy!!!


Nice to see your good attitude about it all. You will be a great mom.
 
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