Journey, Not A Destination

To be honest, I think we all have experienced any one of these constructs at one point or another. It's those that are repetitive, automatic and destructive to our overall mental health, emotions and progress that we need to get a handle on.
 
Steve said:
To be honest, I think we all have experienced any one of these constructs at one point or another. It's those that are repetitive, automatic and destructive to our overall mental health, emotions and progress that we need to get a handle on.
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Yeah, number one is my big problem. I have embraced it unknowingly since undertaking my weightloss journey. But, at the end of the day, the outcome will be worth it.... so is that bad?
 
In my experience as a trainer, all or nothing thinking it what brings a lot of people's progress to a grinding halt.

"I ate a cookie so my day is ruined... might as well eat the box."

"I couldn't make today's workout so the week is ruined. I'll pick up again next week."

"I can't do squats properly so I'm not going to train my legs"

"I need a caloric deficit so I'm going to eat 1200 calories even though 2500 would be a deficit too."

The list goes on and on and on and so many damn people let this ruin their progress.
 
Wow Steve. Thanks for the response. A lot of those distortions really feel very familiar... Especially the Disqualifying the Positive and the Magnification/Minimization... I want to find the book your talking about and give it a read I think... I'm just such a stresser about things that I can't control... I usually automatically go to the worst of the worst case scenerio for many things, and practically trick myself into thinking it's actually happening that way... I'm trying to work on visualizing the positive and trying to stay that way. It feels so much better if you just allow yourself to let the positive thinking flow. I think #7 is a big one for me too. I have to remember just because something MIGHT happen doesn't mean it will, and I mean that with the negative things I worry about too much.

Very powerful stuff indeed.

-Sam
 
:iagree: Although permission to speak freely? I think that Sam is actually on a great track and not as negative as he thinks he is. That's just my opinion--I hear him talking positively a lot, actually! :)
 
The human mind is so damn powerful and complex. This does not mean, however, that the solutions to these sorts of distortions are equally complex. I think a lot of people who read this book, or any other book of similar nature, immediately disregard it b/c of how simplistic it all seems. They're looking for the complex answer... much in the same way people come here looking for Steve's Super Secret Workout and Diet.

All along, it's really about identifying the fundamental variables and reducing them down into visible and understandable chunks so that you can work with them.

I do recommend the book and if you end up giving it a read, I'd love to hear what you think.
 
Curvie Girlie said:
:iagree: Although permission to speak freely? I think that Sam is actually on a great track and not as negative as he thinks he is. That's just my opinion--I hear him talking positively a lot, actually! :)
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Thanks Val. I know I am in a better place than I've been. I just get very into my head sometimes and stuff. I totally appreciate you saying that :) I really don't want anyone to think I'm huge Debbie Downer or anything because I'm not. Really, thank you for saying that ;) Your a sweetie!

-Sam
 
I get where Sam is coming from. In real life, if that's actually different the the Internet, lol, people believe me to be the most positive person in the world.

There are times that I'm not though.

And I've come a long way from where I used to be. Perspective is an intense facet of life when left to its own demise, I'll tell ya that much. Even when I was perceiving things in a light that, with hindsight, was really stupid and counterproductive, I was never outwardly negative.

But I always felt at inner-war with myself and it had a big impact on me, internally.
 
Steve said:
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"I need a caloric deficit so I'm going to eat 1200 calories even though 2500 would be a deficit too."

Definitely something I have been working on. I was losing steadily 4-5lbs (at least) a week, but once I finally started to track my calories, I was only consuming, on average, around 900-1000 calories a day.
I have increased this over the past few months, and even though my weight loss has slowed down some weeks, its still within a healthy 2-3lb range.

I guess I didnt want to increase my calories because It was working, but like you said about the post above me (140Days), what happens when it stops!!

I still end up on the low side some days, but I have tried to increase my average to around 1,500 and will look to increase this further over the next few weeks.

Its definitely more of a mind thing than physical, just worried about putting the weight back on, but as long as I am still in a calorie deficit I'll be ok..

Im never going back to the way I was:)

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Hey everyone...

140, I would say yes, without knowing all the details. This is about finding something you can adhere to for the rest of your life. This is profound and also missed by most IMO, but I find most dieters build a plan that will get the weight off as long as they're consistent with it. With this plan, they throw in extreme variables that aren't always comfortable or what goes against what they know and believe to be right. The reason they do this... at least the primary one is the simple fact that they're viewing this as a short-term endeavor. Even if they believe it or not. They are.

Invariably once they reach their goals, sooner or later, they start dropping some of the extreme variables.

And with time the weight starts creeping back up and they eventually spiral b/c they've built a foundation that rests solely on the instability accompanying their extreme approach.
 
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