Here comes the bride...1 MONTH TO GO!!!

[skkroll]

Damn girl! You have one lucky man! OW OWW! I wish I could do something sexy like that! I am quite shy sometimes. But it is definitely a sign of how confident you are with yourself!

Sorry I haven't been around much... craziest thing though... last night in my dream, I met you! And I gave you a hug, and I had tears in my eye! The last thing I remember from my dream before I woke up was us sitting on this big hill just talking about things. It felt SO REAL. It was awesome!

I didn't have as great of a week as I planned, but life happens I guess. The scale is SO not in my favor today but I know I can change that by next weekend. I'm off work until next Saturday so I'll have plenty of time for exercise! But I'll also have plenty of time for friends and fun, and drinking! AHHH, evil, evil alcohol. Well.. only about a month until I go back to school then I can get back into my routine with diet and exercise. Anyway, you're still doing great so keep it going. Glad to see you got to the gym as much as you did this week!

Have a great weekend!
~ Sarah

 

[luzdafuzz]

Hey Lisa!! Glad to see you got awesome workouts in this week!!! Going to try my hardest to start updating daily again, just got to get into a new routine!!

Haha what a lucky husband-to-be you have. Really you shouldn't worry, I know that's not going to stop you from worrying lol.. but if he wants to marry you, then he obviously knows what he has, and he wont do anything to jeopadise that.

Have a great weekend xxx

 

[chubbygirl]

I wish I could do something sexy like that! I am quite shy sometimes. But it is definitely a sign of how confident you are with yourself!
last night in my dream, I met you! And I gave you a hug, and I had tears in my eye!
I didn't have as great of a week as I planned, but life happens I guess. The scale is SO not in my favor today but I know I can change that by next weekend.

I'm really shy too but lately he has been giving me so many compliments it makes it hard not to have the confidence! I also feel really strong lately even though my clothes are still a little tight and I'm up on the scale.
That's so cool I was in your dream! I'd give you a hug if I met you in my dream too, lol!!
Yes I totally understand life happening - let's plan to work harder next week!! It's my last week of work till the wedding so it's major crunch - I would love to have a kick ass week for once! I miss Marie.
Have a great weekend too!

Haha what a lucky husband-to-be you have. Really you shouldn't worry, I know that's not going to stop you from worrying lol.. but if he wants to marry you, then he obviously knows what he has, and he wont do anything to jeopadise that.

Thanks Luz - I totally understand being busy and getting into a new routine - I'm just being a baby and missing your posts - they always pump me up when I'm feeling down! Thanks for updating when you can!
I know I don't need to worry but it's just my nature. I really don't think anything will happen that would jeopardize the wedding. I know he's a great guy - I'm just worried about his single wealthy friends - they are cute too so you know if they go to a club the girls will be all over them. My hunnie doesn't like clubs so I don't imagine they would stay long if they went.

Ok so I just got back from 30 min spinning at the gym and feeling great! So far today I have done 50 min cardio and I wasn't planning on doing any so that is great news! It's so funny how my legs can be so sore even just getting up from my desk and walking to the printer but as soon as I get on the treadmill or bike and start working the pain just goes away!
Tonight I am going for a ride to the US border wit my mom to pick up a package and then we are going to the casino! I'm so excited because I haven't been gambling since February and I love casinos! Tomorrow I am going to Kettle bell if I have to drag myself there and then I might spend some time at home relaxing and reading my book. I would like to go out for some drinks Saturday night if I can find some friends to tag along. Then Sunday I have to clean the house top to bottom because we have an out of town guest coming in for the wedding and staying with us for two weeks. I'm a little nervous too because he's an old roommate from when I lived in Calgary and I got up to 186 pounds living with him because he cooks everything in major butter and lots of heavy carbs! His cooking is so good it's hard to turn down and he loves to do it so it's hard to ask him not to. Small portions - right? I hope so, lol!
Have a great weekend everyone! I'm so glad the spinning class got my mood back up! I hate feeling down.

 

[Derrick]

Well let me share an opinion on the strip club thing from a guy's perspective. This very subject recently effected my wife and I. This is sort of hard to share publicly because I'm ashamed of the decisions I made. I've been married for 8 years and never went to a strip club the entire marriage until last December. Last December I went twice, without my wife knowing, just for attention. Whether I had legitimate gripes or I was just being a fucking baby, I felt I hadn't received much attention from my wife and didn't feel she was attracted to me. That was hard to accept considering I busted my ass for 16 months, going from 35% to 13% body fat, mostly for her. Anyway, I certainly was not looking for anything other than what legally goes on at strip clubs. Unfortunately one of the strippers strongly implied she would like to take it outside of the strip club. While it was certainly flattering, it also freaked me out. I left and over the following days I felt horrible. I told myself I would never go again. However, my good friend had a bachelor party, which I had really never been to one before, and we did end the night at a strip club. I figured I wouldn't feel guilty if I just sat in the back and stayed away from the stages. Unfortunately a stripper came over to me and I literally got pulled, by hand, over to another chair for a lap dance. I argued for about 20 seconds but finally just gave in because I didn't consider it to be cheating. After I got home from the bachelor party I was dead tired because it was about 4am. The next day I had extreme guilt all day. It consumed me. Suddenly I felt the need to tell my wife everything. She didn't know the bachelor party ended up at a strip club and she certainly didn't know about December. It was very hard but I felt I had to be honest and tell her what I did. What made it so wrong was that my wife has always been clear that she does not want me to go to strip clubs and she definitely does not want me to get lap dances. Whether I think it is ok or not really doesn't matter. I have boundaries I don't want my wife to cross and she has boundaries she does not want me to cross. Fortunately, after about one week of unleashing hell on me, my wife got over it. Actually she did much better than I thought. I think I was harder on myself than she was.
Now, why am I telling you this? Well, I wanted to let you know that while some of the strippers were decent looking I couldn't help but think about my wife every time. Whether or not other guys would agree with me, I literally believe my wife is hotter than all of them, even now after she has just recently had a baby. I love her and I'm crazy about her. I opened up a lot to her about how I really want to be closer, more passionate and more intimate with her. Not that we have never been that way, just that we haven't been as close as I'd like. Well, that was a little over a month ago and lets just say that sex has been the best ever. And that's saying something considering we've been having sex for 14 years. Maybe this is way TMI and you're thinking why the hell is he telling us this? Well, even though I'm ashamed I'm not really the embarrassed type. In my opinion, if anything, your fiance will at worst get a lap dance and then feel like shit and just want you more.

I hope this helps. If not then I'll just STFU from now on when it comes to this sort of thing. LOL

 

[mizzie]

Wow, I have been gone a while. I didn't realize that the wedding was so close. But then, when I first joined here, it was "6 months to go" and that was about 5 months ago, so that makes sense.

Don't worry about the hubby to be. I don't know if he went to a strip club or not, but even if he does, how could he not be thinking of you? Those women might be pretty, but so are you! Plus, you are the one he loves, which goes so much deeper then a skimpy outfit. They've got nothing on you!

Lol, I know what you mean about being scared of having a good cook around. But in your case he's just a guest, in my case, he's my husband! He has really toned down the butter, cheese, pasta and sour cream because he wants to be supportive, but it's still tough.

 

[luzdafuzz]

Hey Lisa, hope you had a great weekend!!! And that you're h2b didn't get up to much mischief!!!
I LOVE the casino! I had never been to a casino until I moved up here... there's only one casino in all of Western Australia, and it's 5 mins walk down the road!!! There's a really good club there too, so if I'm feeling poor one week but want to go out... it's great, can walk to the cas, chill out and drink $5 glasses of champagne, go clubbing, then walk home again lol.
Glad the spinning class got you feeling good again! Urgh I really hate to say it, but I was talking myself out of going to my course today... I was super tired, it was raining, and I only had a 2hr class this morning... forced myself to go, and by the time I got there the walk had completely perked me up and I was SO glad I went!! Our lecturers are so much fun

 

[chubbygirl]

Now, why am I telling you this? Well, I wanted to let you know that while some of the strippers were decent looking I couldn't help but think about my wife every time. I love her and I'm crazy about her. I opened up a lot to her about how I really want to be closer, more passionate and more intimate with her. Not that we have never been that way, just that we haven't been as close as I'd like. Well, that was a little over a month ago and lets just say that sex has been the best ever.

Thanks Derrick - I appreciate your point of view on things - I think my husband to be is a lot like you in ways. Your wife sounds great and I'm so glad things are better for you two right now.

Lol, I know what you mean about being scared of having a good cook around. But in your case he's just a guest, in my case, he's my husband! He has really toned down the butter, cheese, pasta and sour cream because he wants to be supportive, but it's still tough.

I think our friend will be understanding since he is in the wedding party too and probably trying to watch his weight for the next two weeks. That's so great your hubby has changed for you too!

Hey Lisa, hope you had a great weekend!!! And that you're h2b didn't get up to much mischief!!!
I LOVE the casino! I had never been to a casino until I moved up here...

Casino's are so fun - especially when you are winning! My hubby had a great time and was on his best behaviour!

Ok so my hunnie made me realize I have no doubts about marrying him and he is exactly what I am looking for! He was on his best behaviour this weekend and really made me see how much I love him. He called me every few hours and when he couldn't call he would send me a txt. On Friday night after dinner his friends took him to a fancy strip club and he said after being there 10 minutes he wanted to leave. His friends were sad because they had paid cover and were excited to get some lap dances but he told them it wasn't for him and he would rather sit in a pub having a couple drinks. He has never liked clubs or busy places where you can't get a seat and really just enjoys kicking it with the boys. He called me right after leaving the strip club and told me how much he loves me and how he couldn't wait to come home and kiss me - he said his friends were bugging him because he couldn't stop talking about me!! I totally believed him because he was pretty drunk and being pretty emotional. He said the whole weekend he was pretty emotional which is really something for him to admit (especially around his friends) and he loved Montreal and wishes I could have been there with him. We ended up talking on the phone quiet a bit and that made me so happy - probably not his friends! He said all his friends really love me too and want nothing but happiness for us both.
We had a great night last night when he got home and I can honestly say I'm the happiest I have ever been! The sex is the greatest it's been too!! Like when we first met and couldn't keep our hands off each other!
Ok so besides being extremely happy I didn't have a very healthy weekend - I should never be left alone. I did however get my vowes wrote and caught up on lots of sleep! Yesterday I ran 5 miles but other than that is was extremely unhealthy. I'm back in it today though and packed my yogurt and salad. I also plan to go to kettle bell after work. Tonight I have lots of cleaning to do since our friend should be arriving tonight too. I got most of it done yesterday but still have one of washrooms to do and most of the floors.
Only 12 more sleeps!! Only 5 more days of work till I start my holidays too so that is what's going to keep me going this week!!!

 

[Sunflower2]

Just poppin' in to send love and good vibes, pretty lady! The dance you did for hubbie sounds AWESOME! Look at you, you confident thing you! Very proud! We'll be shakin' our booties all over the place soon! Hope you're all good xxxxx

 

[Verobc1]

Hey Lisa! Awsome workouts!!! Eating can't always be perfect but your workouts always are!!! It's great that you're confidence is going up!!!! I am so exited for you that the wedding is getting close! You're hunnie is right! Montreal is a very nice city, I used to go often it's about an hour drive for me but with the kids we don't go as often my daugther is a big fan of the BioDome!!! I hope your day is going well!!!! You are gonna have a great week!

 

[Andy2]

12 nights! Its RIGHT around the corner! I'm so excited for you Lisa

Have a wonderful week!! Hopefully the work zooms by!

 

[mizzie]

Aww, see? You had nothing to worry about! Dang, I remember the last two weeks before my wedding. I was so busy and it went so fast! You both must be very excited!

 

[Alta818]

Awww Lisa,...just quickly dropping in to check on you!! I'm so happy your lap dance wore him out and made him hot!! Loving that he left the strip club!! Amazing man! I can't wait to see your wedding pics!!! Love you!

 

[Verobc1]

Hey Lisa

Missed you on here yesterday! You are probably super busy with all the last minute wedding details! Hope everything is going great!!! Chat with you soon!

 

[chubbygirl]

Thanks Veronique - actually I was hiding yesterday because I was feeling down and ended up leaving work at lunch. I have just been really frustrated with my weight lately and I've been mad at myself for not keeping it up after my bachelorette. I was so close to my goal and now it feels like I will never be there again. I have been working out lots but I know 80% of it is how I have been eating. Yesterday morning I stepped on the scale and it said 154!!! I felt huge. Thankfully this morning it was down to 148 so I must have just been retaining a lot of fluid but still it was a scary sight. I did some measurements this morning and I'm about 1-2 inches higher in most places so it's not as bad as I thought. I really thought about my goal and how I just didn't push myself as hard as I could and I really want to reach it by the time of the half marathon. So 140 by September 19th is my focus. It's just hard right now because I have been focusing on the wedding and I know that deep down I am disappointed I didn't keep working hard so I would be at goal for the big day - that would have been really special. But I know I haven't been putting in the work - when it comes to eating and saying no!
Monday I did a workout at home - intervals on the treadmill (3.5 miles in 40 minutes) then I did some ab moves on the BOSU and a little arm workout. But I had hot dogs & brushetta bread for dinner
Then Tuesday I went to the gym on my way home from work at lunch and did
5 min warm up on treadmill (.3 miles)
stretch
then ran 1 mile at 5.8 mph
then I did abs, side and back machines
then ran 1 mile at 6.2 mph
then I did 5 arm machines and some free weights
then ran 1 mile at 6.0 mph
then cooled down for .2 miles so 3.5 miles in total
stretch
Eating has been great during the day (yogurt as usual for breakfast and salads for lunch) but dinners haven't been good and snacking hasn't been good. I picked up some cherries this week so I have been snacking on those starting yesterday and that helped. Last night we had pizza for dinner - it was so hot out and neither of us felt like cooking. I skipped baseball again too - I couldn't imagine playing in the heat. It was 38 here yesterday and it's impossible to cool down my house at night because it's been staying in the 20's (Celcius).
Tonight is one of my good friends birthdays and since she lives in an apartment in town I offered to have her friends over for a bbq. We are having burgers, salad and corn on the cob. I have a chicken breast in the fridge I might decide to have instead of the fatty burger. I also picked her up one of those frozen blizzard dairy queen cakes - OMG how I am I not going to have a piece. Plus I'm making an alcoholic punch so my decisions might be influenced by alcohol. I wish I could be one of those strong people that could just say no to all the deliciousness but in reality I don't think I want it that bad. Does that make sense? Well I'll report back tomorrow with how strong I was. Hopefully I'm stronger than I give myself credit for!

 

[mizzie]

Hang in there! You've come so far and it's always the last bit that's the hardest.

I don't know if I could pass up ice cream cake either! But if you have to have some, just cut a tiny piece. You should learn to make angel food cake (if you like it). It's dessert enough that people don't feel you are skimping on them to fit your diet, yet it's only about 100 calories a slice, if you don't add anything. But even with strawberry sauce and light cool whip, you are looking at only about 200 calories.

 

[Andy2]

Hopefully I'm stronger than I give myself credit for!

I know you are!

Its more than okay to enjoy those treats (which all sound really REALLY good btw), but just be moderate and you can feel good the next day too

YOUR bday is coming up soon too fellow leo? Any fun plans?

 

[chubbygirl]

Hang in there! You've come so far and it's always the last bit that's the hardest.
I don't know if I could pass up ice cream cake either! But if you have to have some, just cut a tiny piece. You should learn to make angel food cake (if you like it). It's dessert enough that people don't feel you are skimping on them to fit your diet, yet it's only about 100 calories a slice, if you don't add anything. But even with strawberry sauce and light cool whip, you are looking at only about 200 calories.

Thanks Mizzie - I am hanging, lol!! I do love angle food cake but usually buy it cause I'm not really a baker but my friend just loves blizzards so I thought I would go that route - turns out another friend of hers knows she likes cheese cake so there was plenty of dessert!!!

I know you are!
Its more than okay to enjoy those treats (which all sound really REALLY good btw), but just be moderate and you can feel good the next day too
YOUR bday is coming up soon too fellow leo? Any fun plans?

Well I tasted things in moderation from what my old self would do but it was still too much! My girlfriend didn't tell me her other friends were bringing things so I cooked it all - ceasar salad, sausages, corn on the cob and then someone brought brocolli salad, potato salad, cheese cake, strawberries and dip - ok some of it was healthy but it was still too much food and I was stuffed. I also had two big glasses of punch - it was fun though.

I'm super tired today and wish I was on holidays already. I struggled to get out of bed and surprisingly I packed a healthy breakfast and lunch -normally when I'm tired I go for the bagel on the way to work.
Just as my friend and her friends were packing up from the birthday party, my hunnie and his friends came home from hockey and another party started. Our friend from out of town finally made it over so we stayed up to chat with him and have another drink - I switched to water at this point. It was after midnight when I went to bed so although I would have liked to get up to burn off some of those extra calories this morning - I hit snooze till it was too late to shower even.
Oh but I did make it to spinning at lunch time yesterday and when I got home from work I knew it was going to be a naughty night so I jumped on the treadmill and ran for 15 minutes. I ended up burning an extra 175 calories so that might have covered one glass of punch, lol!!
Today I can't go to the gym at lunch because I'm busy at work but I hope to get there after work. Our friend is now staying with us for a couple days so I will be tempted to get home and hang out but hopefully I find some energy to do some running. I'm very lazy at the moment and think I need to go get some green tea. 9 more sleeps!!!

 

[Verobc1]

Hey Lisa.

I know how you feel in January when I started my journey I was suppose to loose 2lb a week and suposed to be very darn close to 130 by now......life happens and if it was so easy to get to our goals we probably wouldn't need this journey. It is good that you reset your goals, don't be so far on yourself. Look at where you where last year at this time! Not just the weight loss but also the way you think and how strong healthy and fit you are!!!! I noticed as well that in the last couple months your self confidence is going up. You are going to be a beautiful bride no matter what weight you are at. Just enjoye this time , the more you stress about the weight loss the more it slows down. You will get to your goal, the last miles of the loosing part of the journey get harder I think it is to prepare you to maintain once you get to your goal!!!

 

[luzdafuzz]

Good to see you're still doing what you can in any situation... that's really what it's all about!! This close to your wedding I'm sure you've got a lot more to worry about than exactly how much you weigh. Just keep doing what you can and enjoy yourself!! So close now

 

[chubbygirl]

Look at where you where last year at this time! Not just the weight loss but also the way you think and how strong healthy and fit you are!!!! I noticed as well that in the last couple months your self confidence is going up. You are going to be a beautiful bride no matter what weight you are at.

Thanks Veronique and you are totally right. I looked at some pictures of myself from last year and I have made some really good changes. I've never gone through a summer being this small in all my life so I'm really proud of that. I do look so much better and feel so much better so I'm going to concentrate on that!

This close to your wedding I'm sure you've got a lot more to worry about than exactly how much you weigh. Just keep doing what you can and enjoy yourself!! So close now

Thanks Luz - you are right - a few pounds isn't going to make me look any more beautiful in my wedding dress - it already fits great and I love it! I think when I get back from my holidays from the wedding I will have more focus for weight loss and my goals. For now I'm just going to enjoy life!

Ok so I didn't do my weigh-in today and I honestly don't think I will till maybe after the wedding. I only have to work till noon today and then I start my holidays! We don't have much planned for this weekend besides getting last minute details taken care of and partying and relaxing. I have a feeling I will be doing a fair share of drinking over the next week. I also plan to get some really good workouts in before the big day -starting this afternoon with a 10km run. It's too warm out to go outside but I have a date with the treadmill at the gym and I'm not stopping till I see 6.3 miles! I plan to follow up with some arms and abs and a nice long sauna. I also hope to get to a couple kettle bell classes too.
My sisters arrive next week and we have a big rehearsal party planned for Thursday night out at my parents. I promise to post some pictures when I return! Maybe in the before and after section - I've always wanted to do that. My hunnie and I are going on a small honeymoon to a resort in the US called Blue Finn Inn - our room has a big jacuzzi and fireplace and there is a hot tub outside over looking Lake Superior. I'm so excited for it all!!! I'm not sure I've ever been happier - ok I would be a little happier if I was 140 but that's besides the point!!! Have a great weekend and stay healthy forum friends!! I should return no later than aug. 12th as Mrs!!