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Katiebug33
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oh flumes i am so sorry about your run of bad luck, i hope things start to improve very soon xx
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Flumes
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Hi guys,
Thanks sooo much for the kind thoughts. Its very much appreciated.
MIL is hanging in there but its just a matter of hours I think. On a positive note, the nice thing is my wife has come to terms with everything and has accepted whats to come. She seems ok with it.
We had our Thanksgiving dinner tonite at my wifes brothers house and it was really nice. Turkey, stuffing, pumpkin pie....(I dont have to count calories on Thanksgiving do i?? lol
So, today was a pretty good day.
Also got a note from the couple that that sailed by the cottage this summer (aroundthegreatlakes.blogspot.com) and they are passing thru via land on Wednesday. We're letting them have the cottage for the evening as they need a place to sleep for the nite. Really nice couple. (Their drive back to the Yukon has got to be 3000+ kilometers so I'm sure they can use a good nite sleep.)
Thats all I have for now....I should get ssome sleep as tomorrow might be a long day.
Hope you are all doing well and hope to be back soon to catch up with the smiles and big losses.
Take care and thanks a bunch again
Thanks sooo much for the kind thoughts. Its very much appreciated.
MIL is hanging in there but its just a matter of hours I think. On a positive note, the nice thing is my wife has come to terms with everything and has accepted whats to come. She seems ok with it.
We had our Thanksgiving dinner tonite at my wifes brothers house and it was really nice. Turkey, stuffing, pumpkin pie....(I dont have to count calories on Thanksgiving do i?? lol
So, today was a pretty good day.
Also got a note from the couple that that sailed by the cottage this summer (aroundthegreatlakes.blogspot.com) and they are passing thru via land on Wednesday. We're letting them have the cottage for the evening as they need a place to sleep for the nite. Really nice couple. (Their drive back to the Yukon has got to be 3000+ kilometers so I'm sure they can use a good nite sleep.)
Thats all I have for now....I should get ssome sleep as tomorrow might be a long day.
Hope you are all doing well and hope to be back soon to catch up with the smiles and big losses.
Take care and thanks a bunch again
jjjay
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Good to hear you sounding a little more positive Flumesy, even in the face of such adversity. It must be very hard on your wife right now, but as you say, getting to a point of acceptance is sometimes all you can aim for.
I am so jealous of the boat trip people - I looked at their website and it looked amazing. What a trip of a lifetime!
I am so jealous of the boat trip people - I looked at their website and it looked amazing. What a trip of a lifetime!
Sunflower2
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I've got your family and you in my thoughts <3 Hope you're all keeping strong xxx
Flumes
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Thanks for all the wellwishes guys. It is dearly appreciated.
This week has been a long one. My wife's mom has been hanging on and seems to refuse to give up. She was thought to pass on Sunday, and six days later, she's still clinging to a thread of life. I'm sure it would be easier for all if she were to pass soon but we wait with heavy hearts.
Shes not conscious or responsive....and is only getting morphine and oxygen.
Its sad.
So, this week has been dreary. Mentally, we've just been drained I find myself with tunnel vision. Concentrating on more than one thing at a time is just too stressful. So if I'm cooking, or cleaning up the yard..my mind is focused on just that.
Food wise, has not been great. Pizza the other nite, some really fancy pastries I bought for those visiting my MIL...(of course I bought the extra large tray....enough for about 50 people...and theres only been a dozen or so visitors lol) And we've had take out a few times this week.
Weight is still 202 so not too worried but I do feel flabbier since its been months since I've worked out or ran.
Our sailing friends stopped in on Wednesday and visited with us for a brief couple of hours. They we're definitely what the doctor ordered for my wife as she was able to enjoy their company and not focus on her mom for a bit.
Other than that, I'm at work...niteshifts and need to catch up on a few threads. Chicken soup for the soul I call it lol.
Take care guys and hope you are all well.
This week has been a long one. My wife's mom has been hanging on and seems to refuse to give up. She was thought to pass on Sunday, and six days later, she's still clinging to a thread of life. I'm sure it would be easier for all if she were to pass soon but we wait with heavy hearts.
Shes not conscious or responsive....and is only getting morphine and oxygen.
Its sad.
So, this week has been dreary. Mentally, we've just been drained I find myself with tunnel vision. Concentrating on more than one thing at a time is just too stressful. So if I'm cooking, or cleaning up the yard..my mind is focused on just that.
Food wise, has not been great. Pizza the other nite, some really fancy pastries I bought for those visiting my MIL...(of course I bought the extra large tray....enough for about 50 people...and theres only been a dozen or so visitors lol) And we've had take out a few times this week.
Weight is still 202 so not too worried but I do feel flabbier since its been months since I've worked out or ran.
Our sailing friends stopped in on Wednesday and visited with us for a brief couple of hours. They we're definitely what the doctor ordered for my wife as she was able to enjoy their company and not focus on her mom for a bit.
Other than that, I'm at work...niteshifts and need to catch up on a few threads. Chicken soup for the soul I call it lol.
Take care guys and hope you are all well.
thecabbie
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Hello there amigo. It has been brought to my attention that you and I may be some of the few males here and that perhaps we may even have similar senses of humor.
Haven't gone through the rest of your story yet, figured I'd pop in and get a subscription going her, see what you're about as I go...
Sorry to hear of your MIL and all. I hope everyone is doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances....
Haven't gone through the rest of your story yet, figured I'd pop in and get a subscription going her, see what you're about as I go...
Sorry to hear of your MIL and all. I hope everyone is doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances....
Sorry to hear that Flumes. We were told that my MIL wouldn't survive more than a day or two and she hung on for a month. It's very distressing as you can't get on with mourning them but you can't enjoy your last time with them. Hugs to you and your family. You're really missed round here.
On a lighter note you need to come back quickly. Cabbie is making a move on your harem
On a lighter note you need to come back quickly. Cabbie is making a move on your harem
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Flumes
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Sorry to hear that Flumes. We were told that my MIL wouldn't survive more than a day or two and she hung on for a month. It's very distressing as you can't get on with mourning them but you can't enjoy your last time with them. Hugs to you and your family. You're really missed round here.
On a lighter note you need to come back quickly. Cabbie is making a move on your harem
Aw...thanks Eycky. I do miss coming here. Think about you guys everyday.
As for cabbie makin a move on my harem.....Can you blame him???? You girls gotta be the cutest lasses in this corner of the internet!
Have a great day bud!
jjjay
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LOL!!!! A bit of healthy male competition never hurt anyone, eh Flumsey?!?
Glad to see you back around and hope we can help with a bit of distraction, chicken soup, hugs and whatever else might be needed.
On a serious note, as Sunflower, Tigs and Ecky said, you are all in our thoughts - hope things do get easier.
I wouldn't beat yourself up about not eating well or working out -you do have other stuff to focus on at the moment, but I would say that a long walk / run (or a combination) somewhere really beautiful in the countryside might be just what you need - I find it really sorts my head out, not provides all the solutions, but helps. Particularly if the sun is shining or its really crisp blue skies and cold...just I think the force of nature and the world going on around me unaffected by anything else, helps me to think stuff through when crap is happening elsewhere in life. I dunno...makes me feel like I am just a blink of second in the whole greater pattern of things and that there is a great theme to everything.
Ok, new age ramblings over with, and that just leaves me with one last thing to do:
*HUGS*
Glad to see you back around and hope we can help with a bit of distraction, chicken soup, hugs and whatever else might be needed.
On a serious note, as Sunflower, Tigs and Ecky said, you are all in our thoughts - hope things do get easier.
I wouldn't beat yourself up about not eating well or working out -you do have other stuff to focus on at the moment, but I would say that a long walk / run (or a combination) somewhere really beautiful in the countryside might be just what you need - I find it really sorts my head out, not provides all the solutions, but helps. Particularly if the sun is shining or its really crisp blue skies and cold...just I think the force of nature and the world going on around me unaffected by anything else, helps me to think stuff through when crap is happening elsewhere in life. I dunno...makes me feel like I am just a blink of second in the whole greater pattern of things and that there is a great theme to everything.
Ok, new age ramblings over with, and that just leaves me with one last thing to do:
*HUGS*
Tigpuppy
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On a lighter note you need to come back quickly. Cabbie is making a move on your harem
LOL Eycky! That's hilarious!
Sunflower2
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*hugs* Hope you're holding up okay <3 Don't worry about the eating/exercise too much--You need your strength for your family xx
Flumes
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Sunflower...you know...you're pretty mature for a 21 yr old. Thanks for the kind words.
Today is a good day considering all thats goin on.
MIL is still hanging on. Unbelievable....I knew women were tough but my goodness. I don't know where she is finding the will to survive. This lady was gorgeous in her days. Stunning actually...she married a very good looking man who unfortunately was a womanizer and did not have a handle on life. He ended up putting a couple of teethmarks on the end of a shotgun when my wife was 7 yrs old. I guess raising four kids, on welfare toughens ya up a bit. Surprisingly she remarried a gentlman who was a provider, (and I gotta admit not very handsome at all.) But she needed security and this man was the father figure the family needed. He passed 10 yrs ago and it was about that time that MIL developed severe dimentia/Alzheimers. And here we are today.
But I did say today was a good day....its fall here...almost all the leaves are off the trees except the ones in my yard and I'm sure the neighbours will curse me when they finally fall. I'm just puttering in the garage thinkin' bout how good we have it, and don't stop to realize it often enough.
So...hope you are all having a good day.
I'll check back later on.
Take care
Today is a good day considering all thats goin on.
MIL is still hanging on. Unbelievable....I knew women were tough but my goodness. I don't know where she is finding the will to survive. This lady was gorgeous in her days. Stunning actually...she married a very good looking man who unfortunately was a womanizer and did not have a handle on life. He ended up putting a couple of teethmarks on the end of a shotgun when my wife was 7 yrs old. I guess raising four kids, on welfare toughens ya up a bit. Surprisingly she remarried a gentlman who was a provider, (and I gotta admit not very handsome at all.) But she needed security and this man was the father figure the family needed. He passed 10 yrs ago and it was about that time that MIL developed severe dimentia/Alzheimers. And here we are today.
But I did say today was a good day....its fall here...almost all the leaves are off the trees except the ones in my yard and I'm sure the neighbours will curse me when they finally fall. I'm just puttering in the garage thinkin' bout how good we have it, and don't stop to realize it often enough.
So...hope you are all having a good day.
I'll check back later on.
Take care
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Katiebug33
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certainly helps you to appreciate life, hey? I love autumn too, i love when the streets are full of earthy-coloured leaves and they crunch underfoot
all the best with your MIL flumes, sorry to hear it's such a distressing situation all the best to you and your family xx
all the best with your MIL flumes, sorry to hear it's such a distressing situation
all the best to you and your family xx
Flumes
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Thanks Katiebug....your thoughts are well recieved.
Well...this is Flumes last sad post for a while, (I hope).
My MIL passed yesterday. It was bittersweet as she suffered with Alzheimers for about 10 years and then held on for over a week before she left us. It was sad...but in the same breath, we know shes in a better place now.
Shortly after she passed, about an hour later, my sis called to let me know she just had a meeting with my BIL's oncologist and his prognosis is for the worst. 6 to 12 months.
I kind of suspected it when we seen him....he looked so bad....that unless something turned for the better quick, you knew he was in trouble.
<sigh>
I gotta focus on the fam...my wife, kids, and my self. Time to take a deep breath and move on.
Tomorrow is a new day. God's way of saying, "Let's try this again".
I'll be back...Smiling...joking...(losing weight hopefully) and refreshed.
Take care...and hope you are all well.
Well...this is Flumes last sad post for a while, (I hope).
My MIL passed yesterday. It was bittersweet as she suffered with Alzheimers for about 10 years and then held on for over a week before she left us. It was sad...but in the same breath, we know shes in a better place now.
Shortly after she passed, about an hour later, my sis called to let me know she just had a meeting with my BIL's oncologist and his prognosis is for the worst. 6 to 12 months.
I kind of suspected it when we seen him....he looked so bad....that unless something turned for the better quick, you knew he was in trouble.
<sigh>
I gotta focus on the fam...my wife, kids, and my self. Time to take a deep breath and move on.
Tomorrow is a new day. God's way of saying, "Let's try this again".
I'll be back...Smiling...joking...(losing weight hopefully) and refreshed.
Take care...and hope you are all well.
jjjay
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Really sorry to hear about all your troubles Flumes.
*BIG HUGS* from over the pond.
I think you are right about needing to focus on your family - pop back in here when you can ok? Because we'll really really miss you! And worry about you! And be wondering how you are getting on!
*BIG HUGS* from over the pond.
I think you are right about needing to focus on your family - pop back in here when you can ok? Because we'll really really miss you! And worry about you! And be wondering how you are getting on!