Fiera
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Then around 9, an email from AN.
"tbh, I really think my disease has won"
Which of course was the perfect moment for me to remember to practice equanimity, and to sit with it for a spell. Here is the 3rd contact in about 10 days. I have not and had not planned anything further, unless and until I had further clarity of head and emotion around both the money topic and his words and behaviors of late, which have been of a rather different, sad and ugly nature. He has said, rather unemotionally, that if he does not find a pathway out then he expects one day he will end it. This of course is distressing to me, but I understand it, even if I don't agree with it.
Anyway, it forced a response from me as it probably intended. I could not in good conscience let it go and then find out too late that I might have let him know I am still here if he needs a friend to talk to. Simply "Do you want to talk? Call me." I needed to put the ball in his court, because the last time he was here he didn't want me to call him unless I had my issues around money sorted out.
I gave him his keys back on his way out the door so I have no means to get into the apartment at this juncture. His friend who owns the building is a resource if it comes to that. But I hope it doesn't come to that.
It just felt like this Jason moment, when that email came though and like a trigger my heart started racing, my pulse quickened, my brain fluttered. It is great progress that I recognized it in the moment and was able to shut my eyes, take a little time out, and do some breath work. I will take that as the victory of the dayy.
"tbh, I really think my disease has won"
Which of course was the perfect moment for me to remember to practice equanimity, and to sit with it for a spell. Here is the 3rd contact in about 10 days. I have not and had not planned anything further, unless and until I had further clarity of head and emotion around both the money topic and his words and behaviors of late, which have been of a rather different, sad and ugly nature. He has said, rather unemotionally, that if he does not find a pathway out then he expects one day he will end it. This of course is distressing to me, but I understand it, even if I don't agree with it.
Anyway, it forced a response from me as it probably intended. I could not in good conscience let it go and then find out too late that I might have let him know I am still here if he needs a friend to talk to. Simply "Do you want to talk? Call me." I needed to put the ball in his court, because the last time he was here he didn't want me to call him unless I had my issues around money sorted out.
I gave him his keys back on his way out the door so I have no means to get into the apartment at this juncture. His friend who owns the building is a resource if it comes to that. But I hope it doesn't come to that.
It just felt like this Jason moment, when that email came though and like a trigger my heart started racing, my pulse quickened, my brain fluttered. It is great progress that I recognized it in the moment and was able to shut my eyes, take a little time out, and do some breath work. I will take that as the victory of the dayy.