Cybermama
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Taz
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HI there, just stumbled upon your diary, I can totally relate you what you are going through with both diet/family issues/mental issues and even clothes??
I think you and maybe we can do it cos we are in the same boat..and we can guide each other as when we need to like maybe every other day..I dun really fancy these famly gathering so much myself as we tend to overeat even more and when we tell ppl we dun want to eat more cos we want to lose weight then they start wif that look..sighs..never easy rite..
How is your boy doing? Is he still in the hospital. Must be so painful to see your kids going tru this..totally understand..HOpe that you and your family are better today..take care..
I think you and maybe we can do it cos we are in the same boat..and we can guide each other as when we need to like maybe every other day..I dun really fancy these famly gathering so much myself as we tend to overeat even more and when we tell ppl we dun want to eat more cos we want to lose weight then they start wif that look..sighs..never easy rite..
How is your boy doing? Is he still in the hospital. Must be so painful to see your kids going tru this..totally understand..HOpe that you and your family are better today..take care..
cybermama
(Zara)
My boys are much better, as for myself also. We went to a very good doctor in JB, he is a popular peads doctor there. he gave some good antibiotics and everything went away.
I am so dissapointed with kk hospital, they made my children stay there and we were there for more than a week, and they gave adrenaline hood therapy for my baby for the whole of the week and on the last day gave ventolin hood, then the doctor said, hmm... there seem to be no improvement. You can bring your child home, if he gets even worst and develope a fever, bring him back, otherwise he will be well on his own.
I was so worried, my child was still wheezing, I brought him to my GP who confirms of the wheeze. My child kept vomitting all my milk and sometimes refuse to even drink cause he gets breathless.
At last, someone asked to bring to this GP in JB. I brought them there.
that doctor who also goes by the name dr loh says, yes my child is wheezing pretty bad. he says goverment hospitals are always on a budget, so unless the child gets very bad, that is they develope into pnuemonia then would they introduce antibiotics, they will say its not good and all that but actual fact is they need to save cost and the child suffers. he gave some anti biotics and within a week, there was so much improvement. so vast improvement. my baby is back to his old self, happy and cheerful. its been so long since i hear him laugh, i was so happy when he did.
do you also have many sisters? usually sisters give such problems not brothers... welll females are naturally jealous... lol
yes, support is very important. without support, its really very hard to continue on such a journey!
what is ur weight now and how much u have lost and whats ur goal?
I am so dissapointed with kk hospital, they made my children stay there and we were there for more than a week, and they gave adrenaline hood therapy for my baby for the whole of the week and on the last day gave ventolin hood, then the doctor said, hmm... there seem to be no improvement. You can bring your child home, if he gets even worst and develope a fever, bring him back, otherwise he will be well on his own.
I was so worried, my child was still wheezing, I brought him to my GP who confirms of the wheeze. My child kept vomitting all my milk and sometimes refuse to even drink cause he gets breathless.
At last, someone asked to bring to this GP in JB. I brought them there.
that doctor who also goes by the name dr loh says, yes my child is wheezing pretty bad. he says goverment hospitals are always on a budget, so unless the child gets very bad, that is they develope into pnuemonia then would they introduce antibiotics, they will say its not good and all that but actual fact is they need to save cost and the child suffers. he gave some anti biotics and within a week, there was so much improvement. so vast improvement. my baby is back to his old self, happy and cheerful. its been so long since i hear him laugh, i was so happy when he did.
do you also have many sisters? usually sisters give such problems not brothers... welll females are naturally jealous... lol
yes, support is very important. without support, its really very hard to continue on such a journey!
what is ur weight now and how much u have lost and whats ur goal?
Taz
New member
HI glad to hear abt your baby being better now. I dun usually bring my kids to KK usually its just the family clinic and yes they were given ventolin, all sorts of cough mixture, cholmine, Pm2 for cough..soo many medication in my fridge that I feel that I can be a doctor myself...so I truly understand your feeling abt seeing your baby so helpless with his wheezing..cos my son has mild asthma but when he gets cough, it can go on for months..But thank god you have the means to go to JB, if me, I am not too sure if we could easily go to JB to see the Paed.
I don't have a lot of sisters, just one sister and one sister inlaw..the SIL one that can drive me a bit nuts...i mean she use to be a model and when i first got married she was always saying she was fat..come on she is 160cm and weight 50 to 52kg how fat is that!! compared to my then (i thought slim) 65kg..she has always been into body shape and is always getting ways to stay slim and svelte and she wld say some stuff which is not pleasing to the ears well to mine anyway..For my own sister, she is the opposite of me, she totally just let go of herself..and then get very miserable abt it but not wanting to do anything abt it..its a little bit like 2 extremes..at times...and my SIL is very very proud of her slim figure and that is always a known fact:-D while me i am the more reserved or quieter one cos of my size. i am known as the big size, big boned of everything...
I will continue my story at a later time as i need to pack up n leave for home now...
take care..
taz
I don't have a lot of sisters, just one sister and one sister inlaw..the SIL one that can drive me a bit nuts...i mean she use to be a model and when i first got married she was always saying she was fat..come on she is 160cm and weight 50 to 52kg how fat is that!! compared to my then (i thought slim) 65kg..she has always been into body shape and is always getting ways to stay slim and svelte and she wld say some stuff which is not pleasing to the ears well to mine anyway..For my own sister, she is the opposite of me, she totally just let go of herself..and then get very miserable abt it but not wanting to do anything abt it..its a little bit like 2 extremes..at times...and my SIL is very very proud of her slim figure and that is always a known fact:-D while me i am the more reserved or quieter one cos of my size. i am known as the big size, big boned of everything...
I will continue my story at a later time as i need to pack up n leave for home now...
take care..
taz
thecabbie
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Cybermama, I just checked through your diary, and I have to say, you have had some adversity in your life recently but you seemto be pulling through it well. You've lost quite a bit of weight so far.
I'm sorry to hear that the health care system is not treating you as well as it should be. I have asthma also and understand how much it can affect your life. Glad to hear that your baby is doing well now.
It looks like you've been doing a lot of solo posting here. Well, I plan to help out if I can. I'd like to check in on you now and again, if that's alright with you? Have a great day
I'm sorry to hear that the health care system is not treating you as well as it should be. I have asthma also and understand how much it can affect your life. Glad to hear that your baby is doing well now.
It looks like you've been doing a lot of solo posting here. Well, I plan to help out if I can. I'd like to check in on you now and again, if that's alright with you? Have a great day
Taz
New member
you were asking me abt my current weight and my goal weight..my dream weight is to be abt 60kg..sometimes when i look at myself i asked myself Is it possible or am I stuck to this current weight of 70 to72kg....? It can be depressing on some days..But i think I will start to follow your diet..cos you know why, both of us are from Singapore so we kinda know what sort of food are being served here and wat sort of food we are use to..Is it true that if we control our food intake as in zip our mouth to all the carbs and other junks, we can lose the weight without doing much exercise? I've had people telling me that before...
cybermama
(Zara)
Hi Reluctantcabbie
Ofcourse its allright. I would very much appreciate it. Sorry for my late reply.
Hi Taz
I will message you later. Need to write a bit more but Im really not in the position to do that right now.
Ok, reason why I havent updated. The right side of my face swelled up like a watermelon!!! I didnt get to celebrate Hari Raya properly haha... only the first day, there was slight swelling by the time its in the afternoon, it was so big, I get pitiful stares from others.
In the evening, the pain was unbearable and I went to the hospital since no dentist opens at night. The dentist at the hospital gave me shots and painkiller, which did not work!!! It became more painful!!! I think she introduce more fluid and pressure in my infected tooth that my face swelled up even more! It was really terrible! My now, the right side of my face has swelled up so bad that the dentist almost panicked. She then prescribed me the wrong medication, luckily I asked the pharmacist if not I could have poisoned by baby throught my breastmilk. Can you imagine! I told the nurse, doctor and then I even wrote in a form that they made me sign that I was breastfeeding and yet she still gave me the wrong medication. The best thing is, when she was checking my tooth and digging here and there... there was a pool of saliva in my mouth. instead of asking me to spit it out and gargle like most dentist do, she said to me "Its your own saliva! You can swallow it" I was in so much pain that I didnt really care at that time. I cried so many times cause I was so desperate for pain releif but it was not given to me! I went home with even more pain than I started with and my swelling has doubled!
Next morning I work up, it had now quadripled in size. My eye lids and side of my nose and whole of my cheeks are now huge!!!
My husband was so worried and brought me to another dentist. He literally called 20+ destist clinics looking for an appointment as most are not accepting anymore patients. At last we found one. And this dentist, an old man asked me a lot of questions about the previous day dentist, and he was so angry why no treatment was given to me.
He then drilled a hole in the effected tooth (which was filled 6 months ago by Raffles Dental-which I will never go again to cause it cost me $280+ for just a filling!!! normally it only cost like $50+) Once a hole was drilled, he put in a small rot and out flowed puss!!! OMG!!! Its puss!! He said, no wonder your face is so swollen! Your tooth is badly infected!! He then did root canal treatment for me. I will have to go back multiple times coz he said the infection is very bad that I will have to come back at least 4 times to clear it off.
Today I woke up and my face is an official water melon! the right side of my face that is!!
its painful to talk and eat.
I havent eaten much for the past few days, mostly drink.
Ofcourse its allright. I would very much appreciate it. Sorry for my late reply.
Hi Taz
I will message you later. Need to write a bit more but Im really not in the position to do that right now.
Ok, reason why I havent updated. The right side of my face swelled up like a watermelon!!! I didnt get to celebrate Hari Raya properly haha... only the first day, there was slight swelling by the time its in the afternoon, it was so big, I get pitiful stares from others.
In the evening, the pain was unbearable and I went to the hospital since no dentist opens at night. The dentist at the hospital gave me shots and painkiller, which did not work!!! It became more painful!!! I think she introduce more fluid and pressure in my infected tooth that my face swelled up even more! It was really terrible! My now, the right side of my face has swelled up so bad that the dentist almost panicked. She then prescribed me the wrong medication, luckily I asked the pharmacist if not I could have poisoned by baby throught my breastmilk. Can you imagine! I told the nurse, doctor and then I even wrote in a form that they made me sign that I was breastfeeding and yet she still gave me the wrong medication. The best thing is, when she was checking my tooth and digging here and there... there was a pool of saliva in my mouth. instead of asking me to spit it out and gargle like most dentist do, she said to me "Its your own saliva! You can swallow it" I was in so much pain that I didnt really care at that time. I cried so many times cause I was so desperate for pain releif but it was not given to me! I went home with even more pain than I started with and my swelling has doubled!
Next morning I work up, it had now quadripled in size. My eye lids and side of my nose and whole of my cheeks are now huge!!!
My husband was so worried and brought me to another dentist. He literally called 20+ destist clinics looking for an appointment as most are not accepting anymore patients. At last we found one. And this dentist, an old man asked me a lot of questions about the previous day dentist, and he was so angry why no treatment was given to me.
He then drilled a hole in the effected tooth (which was filled 6 months ago by Raffles Dental-which I will never go again to cause it cost me $280+ for just a filling!!! normally it only cost like $50+) Once a hole was drilled, he put in a small rot and out flowed puss!!! OMG!!! Its puss!! He said, no wonder your face is so swollen! Your tooth is badly infected!! He then did root canal treatment for me. I will have to go back multiple times coz he said the infection is very bad that I will have to come back at least 4 times to clear it off.
Today I woke up and my face is an official water melon! the right side of my face that is!!
its painful to talk and eat.
I havent eaten much for the past few days, mostly drink.
Taz
New member
OH my god...you sound bad....god i am soo sorry to hear abt what you had to go through esp during this period...I really hope by now you are feeling much much better and stupid stupid ppl who gives you wrong medication even knowing that you are currently nursing...sheeeeesh....Ok i really hope that you are feeling better do write back when you are ok...
Take care..
Taz
Take care..
Taz
cybermama
(Zara)
Hi Taz
My face is still swollen. The tooth infection has spread to my sinus and I get very bad sinus headache. Its really very very painful. Ive never had a headache that bad before. Its amazing how bad a sinus headache can be.
The gums above my tooth developed into some kind of boil so yesterday the dentist did a minor operation to drain out the puss and blood from it.
He also took an xray and so, it shows that the sinus and the path above the tooth are all badly infected. They started me on a strong antibiotics and since im breastfeeding, i dont have the luxury of better painkillers but lucky for me, my GP, Dr Loh gave me a injection that works fine. He says the best he can give me is Synflex for tablet.
Anyway, im feeling much better nowadays as the pain is well at bay and not so much.
I must tell you that I put on 3KG. Im back to 122KG from a low of 119KG.
Well, all that Hari Raya cookies that my maid made and all that bed rest and im up 3KG.
My waist went up 1 inch. My husband was the first to notice cause he said my tummy got bigger.
I understand what you meant by the Hari Raya festive love hate relationship. I myself have that. I manage to get up to 7pm of festive celebration on the first day of Hari Raya... and oh boy!! So much food and ofcourse, it feature my most favourite food ever!! I love lontong and ketupat. I really have a weakness for it!! I ate quite a bit and it may have contributed to my weight increase as after that all I did was lie down in bed. I wasnt that much active.
I actually started having an addiction to the Style Channel 81 on Starhub cable. I kept watching that channel all day cause its so full of what interests me. Im not a stylish person but I once was and when I get down to my goal weight, im surely to be back there again!
Ive started to do the elliptical for the past 3 days and did some streght training also. I only manage to burn around 100 calories each time on the elliptical. I usually burn 300 calories on normal days. I will be increasing soon.
I got the Turbo Jam the other day and the Firm workout came the day after. The Ultimate workout I think is what its called. the one with the cardio party in it. Is that the one you have? I look through the workout and its very intense. I hope I will be able to cope. I havent started it yet.
For Firm, I dont really like the music it feature. Sounds very boring. Lets see how it goes, may or may not do that one.
I also bought walk away the pounds. Found the one you said at Woodlands Mrt station video store. My mum wants that one.
My mum actually was fat, she weighs like 100KG+ then she had a very bad gallstones and the doctor had to remove her gallbladder. So, she was unable to eat solid food for around 6 mths. She dropped down around 30KG and now slimmer except for excess skin and all. She wants to exercise as she would not want to go under the knife. so I bought that video, hopefully it will help a little.
Ive begun my vegetable food again since a few days now. I will see how it goes. I will have to loose that extra 3KG first.
My face is still swollen. The tooth infection has spread to my sinus and I get very bad sinus headache. Its really very very painful. Ive never had a headache that bad before. Its amazing how bad a sinus headache can be.
The gums above my tooth developed into some kind of boil so yesterday the dentist did a minor operation to drain out the puss and blood from it.
He also took an xray and so, it shows that the sinus and the path above the tooth are all badly infected. They started me on a strong antibiotics and since im breastfeeding, i dont have the luxury of better painkillers but lucky for me, my GP, Dr Loh gave me a injection that works fine. He says the best he can give me is Synflex for tablet.
Anyway, im feeling much better nowadays as the pain is well at bay and not so much.
I must tell you that I put on 3KG. Im back to 122KG from a low of 119KG.
Well, all that Hari Raya cookies that my maid made and all that bed rest and im up 3KG.
My waist went up 1 inch. My husband was the first to notice cause he said my tummy got bigger.
I understand what you meant by the Hari Raya festive love hate relationship. I myself have that. I manage to get up to 7pm of festive celebration on the first day of Hari Raya... and oh boy!! So much food and ofcourse, it feature my most favourite food ever!! I love lontong and ketupat. I really have a weakness for it!! I ate quite a bit and it may have contributed to my weight increase as after that all I did was lie down in bed. I wasnt that much active.
I actually started having an addiction to the Style Channel 81 on Starhub cable. I kept watching that channel all day cause its so full of what interests me. Im not a stylish person but I once was and when I get down to my goal weight, im surely to be back there again!
Ive started to do the elliptical for the past 3 days and did some streght training also. I only manage to burn around 100 calories each time on the elliptical. I usually burn 300 calories on normal days. I will be increasing soon.
I got the Turbo Jam the other day and the Firm workout came the day after. The Ultimate workout I think is what its called. the one with the cardio party in it. Is that the one you have? I look through the workout and its very intense. I hope I will be able to cope. I havent started it yet.
For Firm, I dont really like the music it feature. Sounds very boring. Lets see how it goes, may or may not do that one.
I also bought walk away the pounds. Found the one you said at Woodlands Mrt station video store. My mum wants that one.
My mum actually was fat, she weighs like 100KG+ then she had a very bad gallstones and the doctor had to remove her gallbladder. So, she was unable to eat solid food for around 6 mths. She dropped down around 30KG and now slimmer except for excess skin and all. She wants to exercise as she would not want to go under the knife. so I bought that video, hopefully it will help a little.
Ive begun my vegetable food again since a few days now. I will see how it goes. I will have to loose that extra 3KG first.
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thecabbie
New member
I'm glad you stopped back in, and hope that you are feeling better. It sort of sounds like you don't get a lot of support from everything around you, whether it is medical, or diet, or anything else for that matter. It is a tough road by yourself sometimes.
We'll help when we can!!
We'll help when we can!!
cybermama
(Zara)
oh you got that right.
Im not sure why, perhaps its just my bad luck but I think its got to do with how I look.
Well, I used to remember when I was slim and sexy, everything was great, I get treat better. Everything was so wonderful!
This is not so when Im fat now. My close friends always tell me, at first impression they dont like me. Cause they said I look very bitchy. They thought i was a snob and I have a bad attitude but then, when they get to know me, they find that I am not what they think I am. They said I was the direct opposite.
Over the years, I have come to terms with this. I think I give out negative vibes to people at first impression and first impression is what counts right.
Im not sure why, perhaps its just my bad luck but I think its got to do with how I look.
Well, I used to remember when I was slim and sexy, everything was great, I get treat better. Everything was so wonderful!
This is not so when Im fat now. My close friends always tell me, at first impression they dont like me. Cause they said I look very bitchy. They thought i was a snob and I have a bad attitude but then, when they get to know me, they find that I am not what they think I am. They said I was the direct opposite.
Over the years, I have come to terms with this. I think I give out negative vibes to people at first impression and first impression is what counts right.
cybermama
(Zara)
Dentist just called to ask how I am, nice of him to do so. I think he's quite worried about it.
Food is
1 bowl instant noodles with 2 eggs for lunch
1 portion of vegetables ( chap choi ) & about 5 small prawns
100 calories burned on elliptical
20 mins workout with Turbo Jam
I cant belief how fun Turbo Jam is! I am going to learn the steps and hopefully conquer it soon!!
Very happy with achievement today!
Will do more tomorrow!!
Food is
1 bowl instant noodles with 2 eggs for lunch
1 portion of vegetables ( chap choi ) & about 5 small prawns
100 calories burned on elliptical
20 mins workout with Turbo Jam
I cant belief how fun Turbo Jam is! I am going to learn the steps and hopefully conquer it soon!!
Very happy with achievement today!
Will do more tomorrow!!
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douknowjello
New member
Cybermama, wow...I was reading your journal and when I got to the part about your infected tooth I almost wanted to hold my own face! Tooth pain is the worst so I can't even imagine how much pain you were in...and then to have the infection spread into your sinus too...you poor thing. I'm so glad you got a better dentist who helped. Hopefully you will be fully recovered soon.
I was reading your journal and you are doing great at sticking with this, even with not having much support. I've don't have siblings but I've had other family and friends try to stop me from losing weight in the past. I've gotten to the point I don't tell certain people if I'm trying to lose weight now. Sadly that makes it easier. Anyway I'd be glad to have you consider me another weight-loss buddy. Even if we don't get support from some people there's plenty of it here in the forum
Take care and talk to you soon ~Lisa
I was reading your journal and you are doing great at sticking with this, even with not having much support. I've don't have siblings but I've had other family and friends try to stop me from losing weight in the past. I've gotten to the point I don't tell certain people if I'm trying to lose weight now. Sadly that makes it easier. Anyway I'd be glad to have you consider me another weight-loss buddy. Even if we don't get support from some people there's plenty of it here in the forum
Take care and talk to you soon ~Lisa
cybermama
(Zara)
Hi douknowjello
Oh yes, the tooth pain is the worst experience I had and the sinus headache, after 4 children, I must admit that that sinus headache is the worst pain in the world. Its even worst than childbirth! I know that!!
I am so happy to get another weight loss buddy! Im genuinely happy! Yes, support is quite weak but I do get it from my husband sometimes especially now that he had seen me loose all the weight and I manage to fit into a clothes I used to be unable to wear.
What are you doing to loose your weight, perhaps we can share ideas...
Oh yes, the tooth pain is the worst experience I had and the sinus headache, after 4 children, I must admit that that sinus headache is the worst pain in the world. Its even worst than childbirth! I know that!!
I am so happy to get another weight loss buddy! Im genuinely happy! Yes, support is quite weak but I do get it from my husband sometimes especially now that he had seen me loose all the weight and I manage to fit into a clothes I used to be unable to wear.
What are you doing to loose your weight, perhaps we can share ideas...