Cate's Diary

Thats really nice that all went well and there was no tension between you two.Why did he think that maybe your mum isnt happy where she is?you wouldnt ever let here be unhappy.....

Is he staying of has he already left?

Well done on the good food day!DOnt stress about exercise you will get it done sooner or later!
 
Hi Jess. I don't think my brother actually thought our Mum was unhappy. I think he felt obliged to ask her as he had said that he would after she had been there for 6 months or more. He's just a stickler for routine & as much being seen to do his duty really. It's sweet that you know that I would never leave her there if she was unhappy. You probably know me better than he does, because he has never made any effort to know me. I am not sure if we will see him again while he is Tasmania, but he will call in & see Mum again, which is the main thing. We are very different. I am really relieved that the visit was not tense or uncomfortable, because that would have been bad for Mum. I am missing exercise & will get back into full speed tomorrow, with a day at home, minus any mothers! xoxo Cate


Today- My LH & I picked Mum up at 9am & went into Launceston to try to get her motorised recliner chair organised. It was a full-on day, including a visit to the naturopath & lunch, but at last I have it ordered & I know it will be just right for her! I'm quite tired.

& I bought a whizz-bang

golf buggy!! YAY!!!!!

I can't wait to get out there now! Last lesson is on Monday & I will use my new clubs & buggy. I'll hang on to the cheap bag that came with the clubs as it looks ok. That can be something I buy further down the track. I'll get some golf shoes next time I'm shopping in either Devonport or Launceston. The buggy was more important! I'm so excited about it all!!

Food has been good today, exercise zilch!

Lots of love to all, xoxo Cate
 
Good morning WLF friends. I went under my cals yesterday (by 1!!:smilielol5:) without any exercise, but it still was under. I went to bed very hungry, but that won't kill me. I woke up not really hungry so just ate yoghurt & fruit (274 cals). Today is going to be an excellent day!! I think it's time I tried Kate's porridge with berries as a cool morning stomach filler. I'll go back & find the instructions during the day today as I forgot to write them down.

Home all are well & happy. Enjoy your week-end my friends, xoxo Cate
 
A very good day today! Although I have been struggling to stay under 1420 net cals I have changed my goals to 1200 net. I know, I know, you don't have to tell me. I want to push myself to change things about! To quote from MFP- "burned 574 calories doing 55 minutes of cardio exercises, including "Stationary bike, vigorous effort (bicycling, cycling, biking)" Yay!! Have put my dinner & supper in already & I still have


"305

Calories Remaining"

Now by not having any wine tonight I will be a cinch to stay under!! xoxo Cate[/quote]
 
I feel like I have been stuck on a plateau even though my weight has been fluctuating between 79.5 & 82.5kg for ages and AGES. Today I weigh ..........

:party:79kg!!!!!! YAYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!:party:

That has made me so happy. Silly brain. Why do we rely so much on what the silly scales say. I know that I haven't been showing any weight fluctuations visibly but now I'll admit it has been doing my head in a little. I know that I have it under control now & that is such a huge relief. But saying that, I am still really happy to see 79!!! Now, I won't hop on the scales again until next Sunday. I wonder if having a day well over my cals & then dropping them down to 1200 did the trick?

I did not have a solitary glass of wine & was able to add a little bit extra to my supper, which is mainly fruit. It felt good!

Today-

I am in my exercise gear & it's a sunny day, but chilly. I'll ride my bike soon I think. We are meeting young friends at the pub this afternoon as it's the last Sunday session. Our son finishes up tomorrow & the pub will only be open for bookings. :) He is heading to Cairns with a friend, week after next & then the plan is to go to Canada in June. His GF is Canadian & is going home for a while after a trip to Europe. She is worried that if it doesn't work out he will have gone over there for nothing, but we agree with him that travel is never for nothing. All I want for him is to be happy. She is very nice & he is very keen on her. It usually seems very much the other way around. Ahh...love! I hope he doesn't get hurt. I am so very lucky. :beating:You just want the same for your sons.

Time to get moving! Love to all, xoxo Cate.

P.S. & move I have!

I have ridden my stationary bike & cleaned house & ridden my bike again & have just come in from hoeing thistles.I have earned my wine tonight!!

"burned 822 calories doing 133 minutes of cardio exercises, including "Stationary bike, vigorous effort (bicycling, cycling, biking)"!

Your Daily Summary








1126

Calories Remaining

at 2.22pm



:party:









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:party::party::party:


We have a LOSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THATS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!in the 70's again my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!


It is moslty in our silly heads!!Its our HEAD THAT MAKES US feel good or bad...i hate and love the scales......Havent weighed yet ...too scared....but i will im going to shower in a while and i will........

I agree so much that a travel isnever waisted.Traveling can give you precious memories,they can teach you great stuff and they mature you aswell i think.of course you want him to not get hurt!!!thats so sweet!!!Life is great though isnt it?Even when you do get hurt by love and cry for days and weeks.!!!

Fantrastic getting so much exercise in!!!!Looks like the 70's have really made the day for you!!!I
 
Congratulations Cate!! Thanks so much for being there and continuing to support me...and now..YES, another loss for you! So happy for you!!


Sarah
 
Under 80 kgs and into the 70's?!

Well done, you!

I hope you never have to see that stupid "8" in the first position on the scale ever again!!


It's great to see that you are doing so wonderfully!
 
Life is great Jess & so is love, even if you do get hurt. I love the saying, by Lord Tennyson-


"'Tis better to have loved and lost

Than never to have loved at all."


Thanks for being so happy for me being back in the 70's sweetie. It will be you very soon! xoxo Cate


Hi Sarah, & welcome back from France. We all seem to be really positive & supportive at the moment & that's a wonderful thing. Things are looking good, xoxo Cate


Hi Rox, & thanks for the encouragement. I'll stay right off those pesky scales & assume I'm still in the 70's as the feeling is WONDERFUL! Just a number I know, but our heads play nasty tricks on us. I love feeling so positive & full of energy. Exercise makes such a difference to me! xoxo Cate


Hi tete & thanks for your support. Hope you had a great Sunday too! xoxo Cate


Hi Irishprincess, It's great that we have smiles all 'round. Sometimes it's the opposite so we should all make the most of it. My mood is affected so much by how active I am. It's so obvious to me that I would be really silly not to exercise EVERY day! I am feeling so good today that I almost feel fit to burst! Crazy isn't it? Some people need drugs for this feeling! Thanks for your visit sweets. I'll repay it with a visit to your diary, xoxo Cate


WOW!!

Gotta love that! In one day I have had visitors from Greece, China, France, US & Ireland. LOVE IT!!! Thank you! xoxoxo Cate

Today-

I had my 5th & last golf lesson & then played a few holes afterwards with my LH. The weather is lousy- cold & very gloomy so 3 holes after was enough.

I am loving golf. Even if I play a bad shot, I am still loving it. It's active, it's sociable, it's outside in the fresh air & it's fun. :biggrin:

I am feeling so good today. I am itching to get out & play more golf & may go out on my own occasionally I think.

Lots of love to everyone, xoxoxo Cate
 
Isn't cyber friendship fun!! Congratulations again on the 79's...I'm hoping the scales will be kind tomorrow for me..but I take lessons from you and try to remember it's only a number and we're on a journey and lifestyle change...but sure is nice to get some positive feedback! You go girl!

Sarah
 
Only a number Sarah but WEE HOO when it's in the right direction. Well done on a 3kg loss for the month!!:hurray:

Today- Have to leave in a minute as I'm taking Mum up the street at 10 & then going to Tai Chi. My brother just rang & he is staying in our local town(10km away). He is seeing Mum this afternoon & then we are meeting on Friday for lunch with Mum. I'm feeling a little strange not having offered for them to stay but he had mentioned early in his trip that they had accommodation booked already. I don't think they would want to stay here anyway. It still feels a bit rude & I'm not usually. The truth is I really wouldn't like to have them here. He makes me feel really uptight. His wife drives me crazy with her chatter & I never get a chance to talk to him anyway. I might just have to live with feeling a bit guilty. I had felt wonderful until he rang & now I'm shaking a little!

Better scoot or I'll be late.

Love to all, xoxo Cate.
 
I went over my cals today but am ok with that. There was nothing unplanned or mindless. I had 3 wines tonight at 8-ball but managed to have coffee at an Italian restaurant at lunch time, without having a meal & then resisted all of the pizzas brought out for supper tonight. It's the wine that put me over! I have had wine only 2 out of the last 4 days( I know they're "empty calories", but I do enjoy soft, dry, red wine.) I am going to cut down my wine drinking though, even though I rarely have any more than 2 glasses. I'm feeling really good about how I am going at the moment. I'm happy with being so close to my original goal weight(4kg.) My clothes are loose, I don't really have a stomach & I feel quite fit. I am not skinny but I am quite happy with where I am at the moment mentally & physically. Life is good! Love to you all, xoxo Cate
 
Cate, I'm so happy for you!! It's the ultimate goal to feel good about ourselves and good in our own skin. You have done an awesome job and continuing to reduce little by little...my guess is you are eating exactly what you should for your height and body structure and that's why you've been hanging around in the weight you are. Well done my lady and keep up the great work...and don't leave us now..ok?!!

Sarah
 
I have not had a good day today & don't feel like talking about it. Tomorrow I may find it all amusing. My LH & I came home from town today & he opened a bottle of wine as soon as we got in the house. Let's just say we had a double-trouble Mother day. *sigh*

Tomorrow is another day! It will all fade into insignificance in the morning(hopefully). We love them both dearly but some days are easier to cope with than others. That's life I guess.

xo Cate
 
Sorry to hear that you didnt have a good day.

i really hope you are feeling good now.

I liked your post before saying that you arent skinny but feel fabulous!!!!


How many cals are in wine?Does red have more than white?

If you love having your wine why not exercise a tiny bit longer to burn a few more calories or maybe cut down on something else you eat regular if that is possible?
 
Hi Jess & thanks for being sweet. I'm much better today. A night's sleep almost always puts things into perspective. We have to try to see the funny side of the situation we are in with both of our mothers. I said to my LH last night "One day we'll look back & laugh" & I'm sure we will. Some days I find things funny but others...well- yesterday was one of those! I'm only human.

I usually do extra exercise when I fancy a wine or cut out something else but last night I just didn't feel like it. I was mentally exhausted & just didn't feel up to anything much. I don't know what I went over by & that reminds me I haven't put my cals in. I'll go do it now.

1838 calories for the day with virtually no exercise!!!!!!!! :eek:

My breakfast this morning was 505 calories!! :eek: :eek: :eek:

No wine for me tonight & a very light dinner as well!!


Re: Calories in wine. I find it really varies between sites but here's one. I usually drink red wine (Merlot mostly or Cabernet/Merlot) or dry white or a dryish Rose, sometimes dry bubbly & share a bottle with my LH. The lower in alcohol content, the lower the cals usually.

Counting calories

Champagne (150ml) = 125 calories/525 kilojoules

Red wine (150ml) = 120 calories/502 kilojoules

Riesling, chardonnay (150ml) = 127 calories/533 kilojoules

I usually input 250cals for 1/2 a bottle.


OK- I'll snap right out of my temporary brain fade.

Back to being normal, slightly nutty me. I have to meet my boring brother for lunch again, & my SIL & Mum. My LH asked if he had to go too & I replied "Are we married?" Silence, but a funny grin. " For better or worse" I said "This is the worse." I pointed out gently that he usually manages to avoid eating out with his Mum & I do regularly. He's going. Once again, it's important for my Mum.


I'm off to look around.I'll try hard to stay under today & won't have any wine but will certainly go to bed hungry, which won't kill me. I'll just have soup for lunch.

Lots of love to all, xoxo Cate
 
Ahhh intentions are one thing, being a parent quite another. Lunch with my brother & mum was fine & our OS & the 2 littlies & our YS also called in to say a quick hello. They were "going for a drive" & I suggested they come for dinner. Later our OS rang to say that he had taken his brother to hospital for x-rays & that he had swallowed some coins on Sunday night for a bet, whilst drunk (of course) & hadn't passed them. One was an Aus 50c coin. This is slightly larger. They were going to operate on him that afternoon to remove them.

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I won't even try to explain why he did it but this is another of his crazy & dangerous escapades while drunk. My LH & I were so upset that we(I) decided that it was high time we told him how his behaviour made us feel & to point out that we feel he is on a self-destructive path. I rang the hospital to tell them that he has had asthma because I had a bad asthma attack the last time I had general anaesthetic, but when I rang the operation was over & was successful. I was so relieved I can't tell you. This could have killed him if the 50c coin had gone into his esophagus & could have been disastrous.

He arranged a lift back with a nurse he knows & then our OS went & picked up him & his GF & brought them back out to our home. After our OS & the kids left, we sat around & talked & talked & cried & hugged & I told him how I felt. I know him inside out. He feels like he has failed & he has trouble visualising himself doing anything else but working in a bar. We know that he is capable of doing whatever he sets his mind to do. He does know that his judgement goes out the window when he drinks & that he needs to set strict limits. I know he's not alcoholic, but he has a huge capacity & is inclined to binge drink when he does drink, but also drinks too much regularly. He is also very disappointed that the arrangements made for profit sharing etc in the pub have never eventuated & feels let down. We said that sometimes you just have to let it go & be careful to get things in writing next time perhaps. He also doesn't think they have been paying his super. He is so trusting & so honest & this experience has hurt him.

His GF & I had a talk earlier & I told her that I was going to talk to him about his drinking especially & she thought that he needed to hear it from us. He knows that he has a problem & is very worried about it. We also talked about him going to Canada & how worried she is that if it doesn't work out, that she will feel really bad & I reassured her that no-one will feel that she is responsible or at fault for that. I said that he needs to get away so why not go see Canada? It was good to talk to her. I am liking her more & more as I get to know her better. I think by the end of the evening our son may be able to see a clearer path for himself. I hope so. They also told me that on Wed evening they both had dinner at our OS's place with his current GF & that she was really nasty about our ex DIL. Next morning our OS apologised to them & was upset about it. He is nothing but supportive of his ex-wife & I give him lots of credit for that as I know his marriage must have been very difficult. Our YS was really upset that his brother felt the need to apologise, on his GF's behalf, but that she didn't. It's not his fault. It is not doing herself any favours. Our YS & his GF do not like her at all, which is unusual as they like most people.

I have really enjoyed having my family nearby, even with all that has gone on. Our 2 sons have got closer & closer & we have spent some really quality time together. I told our YS that has been really precious.

I have been awake since about 5am & couldn't get back to sleep! I think I'll go have an early breakfast as I'm hungry. I didn't go over my 1200 by much last night.

I think I will have the 2 of them with me for the day. I'm not sure until they get up. I said I could take them for a drive.

Lots of love to all, xoxo Cate
 
Oh wow Cate, what a week you've had and happy that the operation for your son worked out fine. I'm so sorry you are going through this and pray that your son will see the problems he's having could be related to drinking. If he wants to stop (and he's gotta want to...no one around can force that on him...we can however show some tough love to let him start feeling the consequences of his actions) you might suggest AA to him. I'm sure it's in the phone book or online directory.

Keep your chin up and enjoy the bonding time with your children...it's gotta be one of the best things in life to see children successful.

Take care and be gentle with yourself!

Sarah
 
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