Cate's Diary
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Rebel lee
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If i get into golf dont think ill join a club. It just sounds like too much drama. Me and drama, not the best of friends. I'll show up pay my fee then play then get out as quick as i can. Sounds like the kind of people i dont wont to be involved with. Sure there would be good people there but there are always one or two that just live to be in the middle of a conflict.
scbibhouse
New member
Hello cate,
I'm so sorry you are going through all of that stuff..your heart is there to help and some people are really taking advantage and seemingly taking out lol of their own shortcomings and insecurities in you. You my friend are bigger than this and you do t have to put up with it!! Life is short, back away and start something new eventually to help the vets (I'm a vet by the way, and I appreciate you are trying to do!!). Some people are more suited to criticize, complain and control than to do! Now, try to relax and take care of you!! Love ya!
I'm so sorry you are going through all of that stuff..your heart is there to help and some people are really taking advantage and seemingly taking out lol of their own shortcomings and insecurities in you. You my friend are bigger than this and you do t have to put up with it!! Life is short, back away and start something new eventually to help the vets (I'm a vet by the way, and I appreciate you are trying to do!!). Some people are more suited to criticize, complain and control than to do! Now, try to relax and take care of you!! Love ya!
Cate
Long term member
Rebel- I don't think all clubs would be like that. Maybe you're right. I don't know.
Sarah- thank you very much. I will try to relax & take care of myself. I'm going along to this meeting this morning with the thought that I will try to get along with this guy as it will help me not feel so stressed. I'm trying hard to see his side, but I really wish that there were no sides. I'm thinking kind thoughts. I'm in going out to lunch mode, so am focussing on that. Thank you so much for your love & support xoxo Cate
Sarah- thank you very much. I will try to relax & take care of myself. I'm going along to this meeting this morning with the thought that I will try to get along with this guy as it will help me not feel so stressed. I'm trying hard to see his side, but I really wish that there were no sides. I'm thinking kind thoughts. I'm in going out to lunch mode, so am focussing on that. Thank you so much for your love & support xoxo Cate
LessOfJess
New member
Sending you big hugs 
Cate
Long term member
Thank you LaMa & Jess
I'll try to precis what happened yesterday-
We had a lot of Vets turn up early for the meeting. S addressed everyone & seemed genuinely conciliatory. He apologised for what has happened before & expressed his wish to move forward. A few spoke briefly & then, unfortunately, M opened his mouth & went on & on about past history (I'll spare you the details). S blew up & stormed out swearing his head off. I think we all felt the same about M's tirade. I went out & tried talking to him. He slammed the car door in my face. I called out "that's not fair" through the closed window. He sat there listening to me so I opened his door. I told him that I was very sorry that had just happened & that I thought he was doing a great job trying to mend the rift. I also said I would like us to get along & that I was prepared to make a real effort to do so. I took my glove off & offered to shake his hand. He looked at it, looked in my eyes & we shook hands. Then he said he really had to go. I saw that he saw that I was being genuine.
The Vets stayed around the fire for a while talking & M had gone home. Most of them were cringing at what M had said & all agreed he had f*^#ed it up, although I may have been the only one to actually say that
As I left the club, D, the lovely handicapper, who also quit because of the letter, gave me a wave, which made me feel a hell of a lot better.
I left G to play golf & went to the market. I had a lovely time at the market & caught up with quite a few people I know & like. I then went & had lunch with A & R & had a nice time. R asked me what was going on at the club & I briefly told her. She understands what we do there. A told me I had to stop talking about it. I did.
I got a text message from G while I was at lunch & G got a hole-in-one. He has been playing golf since he was 9 & this is his 1st one.
We parted & I did some shopping & went back out to the club when G sent me a text to say he was ready to be picked up. When I got there S was in the clubhouse & he seemed ok. I sensed no animosity at all. G thinks that S will be quitting as Captain, as he was dropping hints to that effect, but we'll see. There's a meeting tomorrow night & G will be going as he is back on Committee until the AGM in Oct. I think people assume he will take the Captain's job back on, but he assures me he won't. I know that he certainly does not want to. I won't be going back on Committee.
I hope things settle down now.
G & I are having a day at home today. I like Sundays to feel different to other days. I have always liked them. We may do some gardening. I keep saying that, but not doing it. It has been a cold week, but it doesn't feel quite so bad today.
I just checked back over my week on MFP. I haven't been eating enough protein. I know I haven't been moving enough. I have had a decent deficit for the week. I'll do better this week & I'll weigh in tomorrow. I'm calling into a gym on Tuesday to pick up a pamphlet. They have a class on Mondays & Fridays that I like the look of, but I think I might just start off the next term with Friday only. I'm a bit nervous about it.
I'll try to precis what happened yesterday-
We had a lot of Vets turn up early for the meeting. S addressed everyone & seemed genuinely conciliatory. He apologised for what has happened before & expressed his wish to move forward. A few spoke briefly & then, unfortunately, M opened his mouth & went on & on about past history (I'll spare you the details). S blew up & stormed out swearing his head off. I think we all felt the same about M's tirade. I went out & tried talking to him. He slammed the car door in my face. I called out "that's not fair" through the closed window. He sat there listening to me so I opened his door. I told him that I was very sorry that had just happened & that I thought he was doing a great job trying to mend the rift. I also said I would like us to get along & that I was prepared to make a real effort to do so. I took my glove off & offered to shake his hand. He looked at it, looked in my eyes & we shook hands. Then he said he really had to go. I saw that he saw that I was being genuine.
The Vets stayed around the fire for a while talking & M had gone home. Most of them were cringing at what M had said & all agreed he had f*^#ed it up, although I may have been the only one to actually say that
As I left the club, D, the lovely handicapper, who also quit because of the letter, gave me a wave, which made me feel a hell of a lot better.
I left G to play golf & went to the market. I had a lovely time at the market & caught up with quite a few people I know & like. I then went & had lunch with A & R & had a nice time. R asked me what was going on at the club & I briefly told her. She understands what we do there. A told me I had to stop talking about it. I did.
I got a text message from G while I was at lunch & G got a hole-in-one. He has been playing golf since he was 9 & this is his 1st one.
We parted & I did some shopping & went back out to the club when G sent me a text to say he was ready to be picked up. When I got there S was in the clubhouse & he seemed ok. I sensed no animosity at all. G thinks that S will be quitting as Captain, as he was dropping hints to that effect, but we'll see. There's a meeting tomorrow night & G will be going as he is back on Committee until the AGM in Oct. I think people assume he will take the Captain's job back on, but he assures me he won't. I know that he certainly does not want to. I won't be going back on Committee.
I hope things settle down now.
G & I are having a day at home today. I like Sundays to feel different to other days. I have always liked them. We may do some gardening. I keep saying that, but not doing it. It has been a cold week, but it doesn't feel quite so bad today.
I just checked back over my week on MFP. I haven't been eating enough protein. I know I haven't been moving enough. I have had a decent deficit for the week. I'll do better this week & I'll weigh in tomorrow. I'm calling into a gym on Tuesday to pick up a pamphlet. They have a class on Mondays & Fridays that I like the look of, but I think I might just start off the next term with Friday only. I'm a bit nervous about it.
Cate
Long term member
I so hate drama, although I may not have conveyed that impression. It has continued today, with phone calls. It is all too much & really makes me want to cry/scream!
Re: the class LaMa- I have no idea really. The Friday class is called "Older & Fitter". That's all I know really. I think I'll just do it. New friendships may just come out of it (I'm more open to this these days) & some more fitness & it's NOT the golf club.
LessOfJess
New member
Glad to hear that it's settling down some! The fitness class sounds promising.
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, LaMa & Jess.
Weigh-in this morning & I weigh exactly the same as last Monday. At least I know why now, after counting my calories thoroughly all week.
Red wine & not moving enough.
Last week I had 3 days without wine, but on those days I ate more (because I wasn't drinking wine?).
This week I will try harder.
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow at 11 am. I want to make sure that I am still on a GP management health plan, which entitles me to various free referrals per year, including counselling, podiatry, exercise physiology, nutrition...I'll look it up later & work out my priorities.
We are heading to D city soon to do some good food shopping ( free-range chicken, good olives etc ) buy a woollen underlay for our bed & a few other things we can't get locally & we will go out to lunch while we're there. I'm not sure where we'll go yet- maybe Chinese or Thai. It is very frosty this morning. I think we might buy a thermometer as well as I would love to know exactly what the temperature it is here. We are in the middle of 2 Bureau of Meteorological readings so have to guess usually. At a guess this morning it got down to -2 or 3. It's cold but sunny.
Time to move. I may buy some new sneakers this morning & possibly some gym gear (?)
Weigh-in this morning & I weigh exactly the same as last Monday. At least I know why now, after counting my calories thoroughly all week.
Red wine & not moving enough.
Last week I had 3 days without wine, but on those days I ate more (because I wasn't drinking wine?).
This week I will try harder.
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow at 11 am. I want to make sure that I am still on a GP management health plan, which entitles me to various free referrals per year, including counselling, podiatry, exercise physiology, nutrition...I'll look it up later & work out my priorities.
We are heading to D city soon to do some good food shopping ( free-range chicken, good olives etc ) buy a woollen underlay for our bed & a few other things we can't get locally & we will go out to lunch while we're there. I'm not sure where we'll go yet- maybe Chinese or Thai. It is very frosty this morning. I think we might buy a thermometer as well as I would love to know exactly what the temperature it is here. We are in the middle of 2 Bureau of Meteorological readings so have to guess usually. At a guess this morning it got down to -2 or 3. It's cold but sunny.
Time to move. I may buy some new sneakers this morning & possibly some gym gear (?)
LessOfJess
New member
That's so exciting! What sort of gym stuff do you like? Also, good on you for still having motivation on such a cold morning.
Sunflower_
Well-known member
That's one thing I won't skimp on - good olives are amazing! Yank likes ones that come in tins and they make me sick!
Butterfly88
New member
Cate
Long term member
~Jess, LaMa, Hana & Butterfly
Monday- Bought a really good woollen underlay (eek- expensive), a lovely man bag for G & had a nice lunch at a new cafe. It has only been open for 5 weeks & is very French chic. After speaking to the waitress about the GF options(they weren't listed) I decided that I would start eating some gluten every day so that I can get tested & find out for sure if I am coeliac.
When we got home G started pacing & got himself worked up into a state & said he just couldn't do it (meaning going back on the golf club committee, which had a meeting Monday night). He rang B & told her. I rang one of the other Vets who was also going back on after years & years off & explained as G was afraid he would cry on the phone. Instead I did!
Tuesday morning I went to the doc & I am on a health plan still. I decided against therapy for now but asked for a mild anti-depressant, which I started taking yesterday. I had chest pains on Monday which I told her about & she took my BP & it was quite high. She got a nurse to give me an ECG & it was fine. The AD should be OK with my heart. I am going back to see her in a fortnight to see is I am OK with the AD. I told her that I have never continued on with them before, because of the side effects, so I think she's wanting to keep an eye on me. I had asked if I could see her once a month at least & I am going to. I have a referral to a podiatrist. I must ring today.
R rang me while I was waiting to see the doc on Tue, to say he had seen his new doc & was being put on a mental health plan & it was in the process. He sounded really good.
I went out with G on Tue night to his 8-ball comp as I didn't feel like staying home on my own. It did me good.
Yesterday I just did not feel up to facing the women so stayed home. I checked my email about 10 am & found a massive bill from my telco. A month ago I had been told that I would be able to cancel my contract, which I had been bullied into, without penalty. It had taken me 2 hours on the phone to get a result & I thought it was sorted. I stewed over this for a couple of hours, had a good cry, did lots of tidying up & then decided I would try to sort it out by chatting online, rather than phoning. There was no record of me having returned the Nighthawk gear & I was able to provide all the details, including the complaint no. the address I had sent it to, the date, the post office receipt no etc. It was so much better doing it all online & was not stressful. The person I "chatted" to sorted it out & a credit appeared within 30 minutes. I was going to change telcos if it hadn't been dealt with, but I'm glad it got sorted & I don't need to now.
I got outside & did some tidying up in the garden. I didn't have a great night's sleep as I still have some pain in my chest. It may be a pulled muscle or something. I feel much better mentally this morning. G & I both have to try to avoid stress as much as we can.
Monday- Bought a really good woollen underlay (eek- expensive), a lovely man bag for G & had a nice lunch at a new cafe. It has only been open for 5 weeks & is very French chic. After speaking to the waitress about the GF options(they weren't listed) I decided that I would start eating some gluten every day so that I can get tested & find out for sure if I am coeliac.
When we got home G started pacing & got himself worked up into a state & said he just couldn't do it (meaning going back on the golf club committee, which had a meeting Monday night). He rang B & told her. I rang one of the other Vets who was also going back on after years & years off & explained as G was afraid he would cry on the phone. Instead I did!
Tuesday morning I went to the doc & I am on a health plan still. I decided against therapy for now but asked for a mild anti-depressant, which I started taking yesterday. I had chest pains on Monday which I told her about & she took my BP & it was quite high. She got a nurse to give me an ECG & it was fine. The AD should be OK with my heart. I am going back to see her in a fortnight to see is I am OK with the AD. I told her that I have never continued on with them before, because of the side effects, so I think she's wanting to keep an eye on me. I had asked if I could see her once a month at least & I am going to. I have a referral to a podiatrist. I must ring today.
R rang me while I was waiting to see the doc on Tue, to say he had seen his new doc & was being put on a mental health plan & it was in the process. He sounded really good.
I went out with G on Tue night to his 8-ball comp as I didn't feel like staying home on my own. It did me good.
Yesterday I just did not feel up to facing the women so stayed home. I checked my email about 10 am & found a massive bill from my telco. A month ago I had been told that I would be able to cancel my contract, which I had been bullied into, without penalty. It had taken me 2 hours on the phone to get a result & I thought it was sorted. I stewed over this for a couple of hours, had a good cry, did lots of tidying up & then decided I would try to sort it out by chatting online, rather than phoning. There was no record of me having returned the Nighthawk gear & I was able to provide all the details, including the complaint no. the address I had sent it to, the date, the post office receipt no etc. It was so much better doing it all online & was not stressful. The person I "chatted" to sorted it out & a credit appeared within 30 minutes. I was going to change telcos if it hadn't been dealt with, but I'm glad it got sorted & I don't need to now.
I got outside & did some tidying up in the garden. I didn't have a great night's sleep as I still have some pain in my chest. It may be a pulled muscle or something. I feel much better mentally this morning. G & I both have to try to avoid stress as much as we can.
