Cate's Diary

I also have difficulties relating to girly girls, and none of my friends are girly girls. My eyes tend to glaze over of someone starts talking about makeup or fashion lol
 
Delsid said:
I'm not a girly girl either and find girly topics rather tedious. There are some fantastic women out there though :)
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LaMaria said:
There must be a secret girliness restriction for this forum.
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Trusylver said:
I also have difficulties relating to girly girls, and none of my friends are girly girls. My eyes tend to glaze over of someone starts talking about makeup or fashion lol
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Hi, Delsid, LaMa & Emily & Tru- Yep. There are some great women in here too. I occasionally have wished I had more of that girly, girly gene, but then I get that thought straight out of my head. I know some lovely, strong & intelligent women.


Not going to golf again today. I just don't want to have to deal with them. A special meeting has been called for members next Monday night & I know too much about it. I don't want to get tangled up in any conversations with the women beforehand, nor do I feel like getting annoyed, or worse- angry, so I'm staying at home. I have a plan to tidy up our veggie garden. I have been working on it bit by bit.
 
I know, I know.
Now I confess that G & I are a part (instigators really) of a last-ditched attempt to save the club. Everyone is so pissed off & we have had enough of just listening to it & doing little.
We are still representatives of the Vets group of the club. I have been asked to send a letter on behalf of these lovely people. It's strong, it's passionate & ........I'm saying something that you are not used to me saying. I try to be nice....
Fuck it!
Do we walk away & let something that so many people we really respect & care about & who care so much about the club, just go to shit....... or, will we make an attempt to fight for it first?
We are going to fight.
We (I) have drafted a very strong letter to the club. Almost everyone we know at the club has had enough. Bugger it. If it doesn't work, it can't get any worse & we will walk away, but not without a fight. We have rung quite a few of them & run it by them. It has so far been received really well. People do care & they have had enough.
G & I are prepared to walk away, without any qualms if it doesn't work. We'll give it our best shot.

I feel like I have just confessed to eating 20 doughnuts! :blush5:
 
cate said:
I know, I know.
Now I confess that G & I are a part (instigators really) of a last-ditched attempt to save the club. Everyone is so pissed off & we have had enough of just listening to it & doing little.
We are still representatives of the Vets group of the club. I have been asked to send a letter on behalf of these lovely people. It's strong, it's passionate & ........I'm saying something that you are not used to me saying. I try to be nice....
Fuck it!
Do we walk away & let something that so many people we really respect & care about & who care so much about the club, just go to shit....... or, will we make an attempt to fight for it first?
We are going to fight.
We (I) have drafted a very strong letter to the club. Almost everyone we know at the club has had enough. Bugger it. If it doesn't work, it can't get any worse & we will walk away, but not without a fight. We have rung quite a few of them & run it by them. It has so far been received really well. People do care & they have had enough.
G & I are prepared to walk away, without any qualms if it doesn't work. We'll give it our best shot.

I feel like I have just confessed to eating 20 doughnuts! :blush5:
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Hey i come from a long line of fighters. Some battles simply can't be won but you have to at least try.
 
It's probably going to be a long process even if everyone has your back. Should everything go as planned and the bad apples get thrown out before they can spoil the bunch be sure to say stuff like " we don't want this to happen again so we really want everybody on board" so you don't get left doing all the chores again. Apart from that: don't feel ashamed about fighting for what you love.
 
Well done for standing up for the club that you love! Sadly I've seen so many social groups go this way as either newcomers arrive or senior members have disputes between themselves.
 
LaMaria said:
It's probably going to be a long process even if everyone has your back. Should everything go as planned and the bad apples get thrown out before they can spoil the bunch be sure to say stuff like " we don't want this to happen again so we really want everybody on board" so you don't get left doing all the chores again. Apart from that: don't feel ashamed about fighting for what you love.
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Thanks, LaMa. I have sent the letter to B, the club secretary, & she sent me an email saying it was very well written & without naming names, which she thought was good. She is happy to put it to the meeting. We have had our major disagreements, but are both on the same page with all of this. I tread carefully with her. I will take that comment ("we don't want this to happen again so we really want everybody on board") on board LaMa. You are right. G & I do not want to find ourselves doing as much as we did before. Others need to step up. We think we have one member prepare to step back up onto committee if we do. I didn't think that would ever happen again. I know he has been considering moving to another club. If this doesn't work many members will leave, probably including us.

LessOfJess said:
Well done for standing up for the club that you love! Sadly I've seen so many social groups go this way as either newcomers arrive or senior members have disputes between themselves.
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Thanks, Jess. It has been quite toxic & almost all of the members are upset. We either gave up without a fight or we make a concerted effort to change the culture of the club. It's a small element that's behind it all. At the start of last year, we were proud of our club.

Now that I have written the letter I am going to try to put it out of my head & relax. This does not feel personal as it's not directed at either of us personally. Today we are going to get out into the garden.
 
Enjoy the garden :coolgleamA:, putting stuff like this out of your mind is often harder than you think it might be, All of this is a big reason I desperately try to avoid club politics in organisations I am part of.
 
Thanks, Tru & LaMa. I didn't get out in the garden because it's too cold today. Brrrr- it only got to 9C!! Instead, I have been reading "Land of the Midnight Sun, My Arctic Adventures", by Alexander Armstrong. I'm up to page 100 & have had a little snooze. I have been well & truly relaxed :)
I do have to ring A. at 6 pm to read the letter out to her & her husband P. I get on very well with both of them & knew that they would want to hear what is being said in the letter. A is our women's captain & I help her out a bit & said I would keep her informed while she's away & P plays golf with my husband. They go North for a couple of months each Winter.
 
I would suggest not thinking about that letter again unless you have to. I think it's only bringing your energy down reading it over and over to various people. You've done your part, now don't think about it again until the next meeting or you get a letter back.
 
We went to a funeral yesterday. The guy's family & G's family have always been very close (G's parents in particular), G's younger brother has been really close friends with him for decades & I am friends with his only sister, R. He died from an Aneurysm on Monday. He was booked in this week to see if it was operable. He was a very heavy smoker & drinker & didn't cut down at all. He was a very outgoing raconteur & a brilliant pianist. G & I found the actual funeral service fairly excruciating. It was at a bowls club, so we thought it wouldn't be overly religious. Wrong! It was one of those over the top guilt trip Catholic services. I don't even want to go over any of it, but the woman priest banged on and on........If anyone here believes all of that I don't mean offence, but I just don't believe in all the heavenly archangels, the fire & brimstone, that little, individual, lovely room(wtf?) that this particular supreme being has waiting for us all. I thought she was going to go around & point out each person there & individually tell them about this lovely little room that is waiting for them. In my mind, I was thinking "Yes. I have one of those- at home. Wish I was there, right now!" I hope it was comforting for the family!
We caught up with lots of lovely people & I talked to R & arranged to have a game of golf or lunch with her this week. She wants to catch up with one another's holidays.
I'm spending the day at home & G is playing golf. I hope he doesn't cop any abuse or animosity. I told him to say that I had been asked by lots of the vets to write the letter on their behalf. It wasn't his responsibility. If he had written it then it wouldn't have been as strongly worded.
We are going out tonight as G & our son D made the final of the Singles 8-ball championships. There will be 7 players only. It should be good. We're going to have dinner there. I'll have a light, healthy lunch & NO SNACKING on raisins etc.
It's cold but sunny & no wind. I like these sorts of Winter days!
 
cate said:
I thought she was going to go around & point out each person there & individually tell them about this lovely little room that is waiting for them. In my mind, I was thinking "Yes. I have one of those- at home. Wish I was there, right now!"
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Haha, I'm a Catholic but I haven't heard about the lovely little room myself. Lol, humour can always be found in dark things.

Also, I love how your worst fear is snacking on raisins of all things! :p
 
So many of our friends are Catholic, but I haven't been to many Catholic funerals. This "little lovely room" she kept banging on about was obviously something this particular woman believes in. Maybe she made it up herself! ;)
Raisins, prunes, "naked" ginger.......they're my downfall. I find it hard to stop. If I had fresh cherries in the house I'm the same with them.....
 
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