Cate's Diary

It sure is Tru. G is shaking! He just got a text back which was even nastier & saying he's going to the Tasmanian golfing body. He says G is undermining his captaincy (but not in those words). We actually just laughed. What a tosser!
 
Oh my gosh, Cate! I bet you are G were livid!! What on earth is he so upset about that he is sending nasty texts? What a coward. Such a shame..why can't people just enjoy the golf!?! Stuff like that makes me anxious and sad.. hope you are okay lovely lady xx
 
There are a lot of volunteers out there who put huge amounts of time into clubs and community organisations, like you do with golf, and I do with soccer and it is a real kick in the teeth to get abused for the hard work you put in for your community. Sometime it can be laughed off but over time it wears you down and is the reason many clubs struggle to get people to fill important positions and everybody suffers just because of a few dickheads.

Hang in there Cate !
 
Thanks, Hana & Tru. This guy is upset over nothing. We needed to use a big white board for our Vets comp on Tuesday & when we had finished I re-wrote what had been on it. I just typed a whole paragraph trying to explain what he is taking exception to, but they are so bloody petty & it does not make any sense at all. I deleted it. He is obviously being paranoid. Honestly, I think he's just a mean piece of work.
G said he would resign from the committee, but I don't think he should. The last thing that should happen is this guy thinks he has won some sort of fight. We'll hang in there Tru. We both know we do a good job & the club does need people who do a good job.
 
I decided that we would do a job today that we had planned on doing on Sunday at the working bee at the golf club. We took all of our recycling & rubbish, plus an elderly neighbour's out to the tip & then continued on to the golf club. G drove around the course & collected all the rubbish & recycling from the actual course, while I did in & around the course. Then we took all that to the tip & came back home. While we were there G got to tell the co-captain about his messages. He got a real shock. G told him that he will not take any more crap & won't be helping unless specifically being asked. I got to tell one of our friends about it, in case he hears a different version. He has been telling G to step back for ages apparently.
I think we both feel a lot better about it now & it helped us both to do something positive ( & physical).
This guy is such a jerk. He is not worth getting upset over.
Had a good day food-wise.
 
cate said:
I decided that we would do a job today that we had planned on doing on Sunday at the working bee at the golf club. We took all of our recycling & rubbish, plus an elderly neighbour's out to the tip & then continued on to the golf club. G drove around the course & collected all the rubbish & recycling from the actual course, while I did in & around the course. Then we took all that to the tip & came back home. While we were there G got to tell the co-captain about his messages. He got a real shock. G told him that he will not take any more crap & won't be helping unless specifically being asked. I got to tell one of our friends about it, in case he hears a different version. He has been telling G to step back for ages apparently.
I think we both feel a lot better about it now & it helped us both to do something positive ( & physical).
This guy is such a jerk. He is not worth getting upset over.
Had a good day food-wise.
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It really sux when you have to deal with drama in places that really should be drama free.
 
Our older son picked him up on his way to pick his kids up from the bus, showed them & then he returned him to where he found him. I love nature & I love that we have a son who is so in tune with it. We shouldn't touch native animals, but he has always had an affinity with lizards & can handle them & return them to the bush, without harming them.
 
cate said:
Our older son picked him up on his way to pick his kids up from the bus, showed them & then he returned him to where he found him. I love nature & I love that we have a son who is so in tune with it. We shouldn't touch native animals, but he has always had an affinity with lizards & can handle them & return them to the bush, without harming them.
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I had a pet iguana a long time ago. Lizards make great pets and really easy to care for.
 
Man, Cate. I'm sorry that guy is being a jerk, especially when you and your husband are giving your time freely to help. Some people. I used to have the same thing happen occasionally when I'd help at the barn. Some parent would give me shit and I'm sitting there like, "I'm not being paid to be here. I'm here because I want to be and now you're making me not want to be."
 
So sorry to hear that you and G have had a tough time of late. The truth always has a way of coming out and karma is very good at giving people back what they have given to others. I hope things are much smoother sailing from now on.
 
That new captain is finding the "job" a lot harder than it looked before he started it. He feels like he isn´t doing as well as his predecessor and needs someone to blame. G resigning may mean new guy will gloat a bit but then he´ll no longer have anyone to blame and everyone will see him for what he really is.
 
Not sure I understood what you were saying. So, there are two captains - one the mean text message sender, the other who you informed what was going on? What did he say?

Was G the captain previous to the new one?

Anyway, you probably know this, but people freaking out and sending mean text messages says a lot more about them than it does about you. At the same time, I think it's a bit provocative to go out and pick up all the trash on the golf course when someone thinks you are still being too controlling and not relinquishing the power as much as you should be. To be honest, that's what it is. There can only be one captain of the golf club.

Hope that's not upsetting to read but that's how I see it.
 
I love lizards too Rebel, but don't like keeping any wild animal as a pet.

They are gorgeous Hana. We are very lucky to live where we do, even if the possums wreak havoc with any attempt at growing fruit. They are still cute though :)

He is a jerk Cory, but we'll deal with him. He will only get help if he asks for it.

Thanks, Morgane. We'll do our best to not let him affect us badly. He's not worth it.
LaMaria said:
That new captain is finding the "job" a lot harder than it looked before he started it. He feels like he isn´t doing as well as his predecessor and needs someone to blame. G resigning may mean new guy will gloat a bit but then he´ll no longer have anyone to blame and everyone will see him for what he really is.
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I think you have hit the nail on the head LaMa. He isn't doing as well as G did, but then G has such high standards for how he does a job(too high?), that it would be hard to match them. G thought he was helping him out, but if it's being seen as interfering, then he does need to totally step back from anything that could possibly be construed as interfering with his position. I don't think G needs to quit the Committee, though as there are many jobs that need doing & the captain is not expected to do them all.

Emily- you actually just made me smile from bemusement I think. G was the captain for about 5 years before he resigned at the end of last year. The guy who sent the text messages is the new co-captain & the one G spoke to yesterday is the other co-captain. G assumed that he was aware of the "issue" but he wasn't. They decided to share the job, which was a good decision as it is very time-consuming & involves lots of organising. We were both very grateful that they took on the position. G has been very supportive of them & stuck up for them when anyone else criticised. Picking up trash around the course is hardly part of the captain's job. The course manager is someone else(D) & he & the 2 of us are the ones who usually pick up the trash. G & I usually do around the clubhouse(I'm the bar manager) & D does the course. G rang him first to ask if he would like us to do the course & he accepted the offer with thanks. We are not people who look for conflict or feel we need to be controlling or to hold power. I'm sorry that you could possibly see me that way. I suppose you don't know me very well. You have not upset me at all. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Today- G has gone to golf early as it's a 27-hole memorial event today. He won it last year. He is playing with 3 really nice guys & should enjoy his day. I hope so anyway!
I have a day at home on my own, which I haven't had for quite a while. I should get off my butt & move. I only had a banana & some yoghurt for breakfast & I'm looking forward to lunch. I am having some home-made vegetable soup for lunch, which G made yesterday & may have a toastie with it, so I'm not tempted to snack. I haven't weighed for a week, so had better do that tomorrow. Bye for now, xoxo Cate
 
I had a really good day LaMa. It was quite lazy, but good xo
Our YS's BF just arrived off the Spirit Of Tasmania, returning back to live & had breakfast with us on his way back to Hobart. We love this guy. He is very special. I'm glad he's back. It will be good for our son having him back.
G & I might just have a quiet day at home I think. Sleepy Sunday :)
 
Thanks Cory. I have had such a lovely quiet relaxing day! I read a whole book (Harry Bosch) & had about 2 naps......maybe 3. It's 4.15 pm & I have done 1,296 steps *blush*
 
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