Qjay's thread

You will definitely not look lazy

Stop that. You just did a very difficult degree in three years. THAT IS NOT LAZY. Unless he is TOTALLY shallow, in which case you'd hate having to take instruction from him, he will appreciate your smartness and work ethic. So stop that.

Oh yeah, bean threads and provolone cheese. My brother works at a cheese factory as a cleaner and sometimes scoops ends of cheese bound for the wastebin. Yesterday he brought over a whack, I mean several pounds, of provolone ends. We divided it up and I'm sharing some with my neighbours. Mmmm, having a piece right now with my oatmeal. Yummers.
 
well when he sees you finished 4 years in three i doubt he'll think you're lazy. but i do understand what you mean. this is a prejudice that most people have whether they are aware of it or not (i did lot of research on prejudice lol so i know hehe). however, if you use your posture, sit up straight, but not stiff and a bit cool but not laid back, and show some determination you wont pass as the lazy guy. you have no idea how much non verbal communication can have an impact on a person (i remember from my psychology class that it can make up to 80% of our communication).
 
lena410 said:
well when he sees you finished 4 years in three i doubt he'll think you're lazy. but i do understand what you mean. this is a prejudice that most people have whether they are aware of it or not (i did lot of research on prejudice lol so i know hehe). however, if you use your posture, sit up straight, but not stiff and a bit cool but not laid back, and show some determination you wont pass as the lazy guy. you have no idea how much non verbal communication can have an impact on a person (i remember from my psychology class that it can make up to 80% of our communication).
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Lena is absolutely right about that one :) Even though I am overweight, I carry myself with alot of confidence, and many people, Dr.'s of numerous fields, my therapist, neighbors, etc. have told me that I have a presence that suggests that i am going to do really big things in the world, and that I can make anything happen because I have 'energy' that knocks people off guard because they dont expect an overweight person to be intellectual, or deep at all.
One thing that I can't stand is that people just judge me immediately based on my appearance. It sucks, but that's the way it is. Qjay, we aren't able to do that here, and we know you are not lazy, You know it. Show your strength by being confident. After all you are doing, you should be confident because this is all hard work!
 
Some great advice there. I agree that there is much more to the way a person comes across than just their weight.

I'm sure you will do a great job of making the most of your great talents when it comes to the crunch!! :)

More good luck for the latest lot of study!! :) :)
 
I hate the site layout, and the changes that have been made. People have complained, even mods have complained, and I am finding it annoying to come to "my own" diary; much less anyone else's.
I'll be back, but I am not going to try to keep a food diary anymore, it's just too annoying. If things change, then of course I would love it if the site goes back to being functional, but I won't hold my breath. Just going through and looking at the diaries I look at regularly takes a lot longer than it used to, and involves a lot more hassle and loading times, so it's just not worth it.

Thanks for your kind words, everyone; I appreciate the thoughts.
 
I'm really sorry to hear that you feel so frustrated.

You have been amazingly reliable and supportive and I wish you could keep benefiting from your diary here.
 
lol, I am not "done with the site", I was just feeling a lot of frustration with the lag, the lost posts, the lousy layout of the new "features" that we cannot turn off, and apparent lack of response from the forum managers, even when the mods hate the changes they have made.
I'm still eating right and exercising, and I finished the last bit of the last of my classes yesterday, so I am entering a new place in my life. I will still come here and post in threads and talk to people, etc, but I just am so disappointed with the changes made to this wonderful community that keeping my daily food diary was causing me to become frustrated and annoyed. So I am not going to do it anymore.

Don't worry, I'll still post occasional updates here :D
For example, I am not officially a college graduate! :eek:
A "Bachelor of Science in Business Administration with a concentration in Sales and Marketing" to be precise.

I hope everyone else is having good things happen, too!
 
I remember my final college final. It should have felt good, but my grandmother died (and was brought back) the night before, so it kinda sucked. But once I got some sleep and had time to think about it, it was the best. I hadn't "graduated" yet, but by god I was done!

Congratulations, hon!
 
heya Qjay, just popping in to see how things are - looks like going great (as usual!)

Yeah the changes are pretty ugly, and though i dislike them, i can see that they were intending to aim for improvement at least. Just wasnt done to well IMHO.
Whats the bet though that it loads up the database server with all the extra queries as well as slows down the page load time :)
 
Whoo-hoo! I come back and there is encouragement waiting for me! :D

Thanks for posting, I really do appreciate it, it's nice to see some happy messages here!
As for why I haven't been around: School's out! I'm going places, seeing things, doing stuff, and eating right (except for yesterday) ;)
I've been maintaining about 1500 calories, hiking 4 or 5 days a week (3-4 miles each time) and just getting a lot more active, which is difficult to do at the computer, so I haven't been meeting any of my "online obligations" very well :p
I still think about the folks here every day, and am constantly remembering inspirational passages from various diaries I read, and I am sad to see that a few of my favorite diaries have been left quiet even longer than I left mine, however I am hoping it is for the same reasons ;)

Anyhoo, I am not here for long, and I really intended to drop by here sometime last week, but I got a little bit busy. I haven't even had time to watch television for several days :O

Oh, and yesterday, I went to watch my niece dance in a recital, and when she was done, we took a walk around the school that was hosting. Literally around the school, with her on my shoulders. She's only about 40 pounds, but she's 40 pounds of hyperactive wriggling little girl who likes to wave at her friends when she sees them! lol, it was fun, and she was a nice addition to the exercise I took in.

The only cloud on the day was our late dinner; I wasn't hungry, but some of us were, so I decided I was going to have soup. When we got to the restaurant, there was a choice between clam chowder, seafood bisque ("made with real heavy cream!" the menu bragged) and "steak chili", so I split an order of fish and chips with my brother, and shared with mom, too. I still ate too much, but I ALSO was able to explain a few things about food to my nephew during dinner; he's putting on weight because having control issues and is acting out through food. I just told him I want him to be healthy and explained a little bit about the basics of "the daily diet". We measured small amounts of food, and I discovered he has a really good eye for measuring a teaspoon and a tablespoon and a cup/half-cup/etc. When I told him a tablespoon of butter has 100 calories in it, he just shrugged, until I told him a normal healthy amount of food for a day is 2000 calories; then asked him how many servings of "just butter" that would be in a day.

If he chooses to overeat, I'm not going to try to stop him, but I want him to know what he's doing to himself and to know how to eat right (it's not all salad, dammit!).

Okay, long rambling post is finished. I'm thinking about going back to maintaining my daily food diary, because the site is working more smoothly now; it's not hanging up and dropping posts on me or anything, which IS THE SOLE REASON I stopped doing it before. Well, the layout still sucks, but I'm used to it now, and with the performance being back up, I'm not overly concerned. If you have any input, say it here! :D
 
Things are surprisingly good ;)
I'm just waiting to find out that my college went out of business before sending me my diploma, and that I didn't get the new apartment after all. :D
 
:D Qjaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! :D

I'm so glad to see you in your diary!!

What a great time you have been having. Good food and getting out walking - I'm really glad for you. :)

I have a few dormant diaries on my own list....I was confident you would be caring for your health but not expecting you to say that you might start chatting in your diary again. What a bonus that would be!

It feels good to think you might be nudging a young person in the right direction doesn't it? Your good example, and the way that shows off your knowledge, will probably be a help to your nephew in the long term also.
 
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