Ugh... That sucks. It sucks that (most) women get taught not to be too direct in their rejections (either out of fear of hurting a man´s feefees or out of fear of getting into physical danger) and it sucks that (some) men decide not to take hints or even clear "no´s". Really glad it didn´t turn out worse!
Put that down, fatty! (For the last time!!)
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Quercus
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That guy was a real turd, but yeah crap choices on your part. Bad! Bad!
Okay so I'm done calling the kettle black. Getting barred at 9 is pretty impressive though! Have a good swim tomorrow! Tell Conor "Atta boy!" for me. Both for pulling you out of trouble and showing some restraint with turd boy.
Okay so I'm done calling the kettle black. Getting barred at 9 is pretty impressive though! Have a good swim tomorrow! Tell Conor "Atta boy!" for me. Both for pulling you out of trouble and showing some restraint with turd boy.
Little John
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Stories like this are what frighten me about having a daughter. I think she'll be an easy teach for being direct, though, since she pretty much is right now, anyway.
Anyway, glad you're not using it as an excuse to take a break from the journey. Are Conor and the Yank the same guy?
Anyway, glad you're not using it as an excuse to take a break from the journey. Are Conor and the Yank the same guy?
Sunflower2
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Thanks guys--Am hugely aware that I put myself in that situation and it was verrrrry stupid. Really it's made me question why I drink quite so much. I didn't drink Saturday night but had a bottle and a half Sunday night and then the same again last night and it's been that way for quiiiiite a long time so really need to make some changes. I've swum 6 times in the last 8 days and have not lost ANYTHING and I'm sure it's because I'm drinking like a fish. Don't want to quit completely but also can't carry on guzzling wine like a wine guzzler.
I'm working really damn hard at this swimming stuff -- Did 1.5 hours of SOLID swimming yesterday, could barely walk when I got out-- and feel like I'm wasting it all when i get home and drink so much.
I've eaten clean (ish), exercised my ass off and have nothing to show for it yet so it must be the booze..
Time for a think!
And yes, LJ, Conor is my long-suffering Yank.
I'm working really damn hard at this swimming stuff -- Did 1.5 hours of SOLID swimming yesterday, could barely walk when I got out-- and feel like I'm wasting it all when i get home and drink so much.
I've eaten clean (ish), exercised my ass off and have nothing to show for it yet so it must be the booze..
Time for a think!
And yes, LJ, Conor is my long-suffering Yank.
Sunflower2
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Right--think I need to start logging my food again. And my booze. I've been researching all of this morning (tip: do not google "am I an alcoholic?"--am now convinced am dying of liver damage and will die alone surrounded by cats and wine bottles)
thought of no longer drinking at all fills me with absolute dread. I drink every day unless I'm horribly hungover. So we are talking about drinking 30 days out of 31, in general. I don't like beer, red wine or spirits particularly. I love white wine and drink a bottle a night, most nights. Sometimes if I've done a late a work then I'll just have one glass when I get home but I ALWAYS want something when I get home. It's been like this since University so I guess 6 years now. I dread to think what my insides look like
Really need to get accountable and stop brushing it all under the carpet.
Feel quite anxious about it already but think I need to do something!! Off to work now and working til 22:30. Will NOT have a drink when I get home. Will just go to bed like a normal person.
thought of no longer drinking at all fills me with absolute dread. I drink every day unless I'm horribly hungover. So we are talking about drinking 30 days out of 31, in general. I don't like beer, red wine or spirits particularly. I love white wine and drink a bottle a night, most nights. Sometimes if I've done a late a work then I'll just have one glass when I get home but I ALWAYS want something when I get home. It's been like this since University so I guess 6 years now. I dread to think what my insides look like
Really need to get accountable and stop brushing it all under the carpet. Feel quite anxious about it already but think I need to do something!! Off to work now and working til 22:30. Will NOT have a drink when I get home. Will just go to bed like a normal person.
Oaks
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Have you done the math on the wine? I calculated that a bottle and a half of white wine every night amounts to roughly 6,300 calories a week. That's a lot!!! If you start logging food again be super honest about the wine. You're probably not going to sleep like a normal person if you go to bed with no wine tonight but that's ok...You're going to sleep like someone who's making a decision to get healthier!! Fight through the dread, it'll be worth it in the end. We'll be here support you!
Sunflower2
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Oaks--that is truly quite alarming!! Isn't there 3,500 calories in a lb or some shit? Or you have to burn 3,500 to drop a lb? Either way that is TOO MANY CALORIES.
Had a big ol' chat about it with Yank today after my lightbulb moment this morning and I am laying off the wine cold turkey. I have 1 social obligation before Christmas (aren't I the popular one) so will drink then but other than that I'm going to try to stay clear of my old friend. I don't like drinking if it's not wine (or tequilllllllla
) so it's highly doubtful I will replace it with another booze but will have to watch myself.
Today's food:
Lunch: rice crackers (85)
Dinner: rice (400) tons of mixed veg, olives, etc (65) half a dumpling (95)
Snacks: sunflower seeds (125) sparkling flavoured water AND NOT WINE (35)
Total: 805.
Are you shitting me? So a bottle of wine would have brought me up to 1405 which is my daily target. That is hilarious. Going to use this as a very, very low calorie day and eat breakfast and lunch tomorrow.
Had a big ol' chat about it with Yank today after my lightbulb moment this morning and I am laying off the wine cold turkey. I have 1 social obligation before Christmas (aren't I the popular one) so will drink then but other than that I'm going to try to stay clear of my old friend. I don't like drinking if it's not wine (or tequilllllllla
) so it's highly doubtful I will replace it with another booze but will have to watch myself.Today's food:
Lunch: rice crackers (85)
Dinner: rice (400) tons of mixed veg, olives, etc (65) half a dumpling (95)
Snacks: sunflower seeds (125) sparkling flavoured water AND NOT WINE (35)
Total: 805.
Are you shitting me? So a bottle of wine would have brought me up to 1405 which is my daily target. That is hilarious. Going to use this as a very, very low calorie day and eat breakfast and lunch tomorrow.
Sunflower2
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Thanks for the loveeeeee guys xo
Feeling like absolute assbutt this morning--work was crazy last night and I got home at 2330 and stared at the ceiling until 4 this morning so going to struffle this morning. Didn't have my snack when I got back so my cals are like 700something for yesterday which is hilariously low. Hoping it'll help towards a nice looking loss when I next weigh in. So off to work now (yawn) and finishing at 3pm then coffee with a non drinking friend and then swimming and gym until I'm so tired I just go to bed when I get home!
Feeling like absolute assbutt this morning--work was crazy last night and I got home at 2330 and stared at the ceiling until 4 this morning so going to struffle this morning. Didn't have my snack when I got back so my cals are like 700something for yesterday which is hilariously low. Hoping it'll help towards a nice looking loss when I next weigh in. So off to work now (yawn) and finishing at 3pm then coffee with a non drinking friend and then swimming and gym until I'm so tired I just go to bed when I get home!
Little John
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Good revelation to be made, Sun, and I wish you the best of successes! We'll be here for support, of course, but have you mentioned your plans to friends? Might be worth doing so they'll back you up and understand your goals.
This reminds me of a speakerphone conversation I overheard that included the statement "I'm gonna kick his derrière ass!!!"
Sunflower2
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LJ, not going to speak to friends just yet--They'll assume it's part of the get healthy shit I'm doing anyway
Thanks Oaks xo
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Slept way better last night but still only had 5 hours so am all piggy eyed and tired again today (as my colleagues keep telling me!). I went to the pool again last night and swam for an hour even though I was super tired so quite proud of myself for sticking with it.
Food for yesterday:
Lunch: Cheese and turkey ham sammich on brown bread (295)
Dinner: slimming world meal with macaroni, chorizo and beans which was totally random and delicious (575)
Snacks: low-cal hot chocolate (40) sparkling water (0) sunflower seeds (85) crisps (101)
Total: 1096
My calories are AWESOME! Still too low but it feels fucking awesome to not be struggling with calories because I've drunk them all. If I'd have had my usual bottle last night I would have been at over 1700 for the day. Instead, I worked out, had hot chocolate and went the fuck to beddddd. And it feels good! So far...
Working til 3 and then off to the pool again--No rest for the sober
Thanks Oaks xo
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Slept way better last night but still only had 5 hours so am all piggy eyed and tired again today (as my colleagues keep telling me!). I went to the pool again last night and swam for an hour even though I was super tired so quite proud of myself for sticking with it.
Food for yesterday:
Lunch: Cheese and turkey ham sammich on brown bread (295)
Dinner: slimming world meal with macaroni, chorizo and beans which was totally random and delicious (575)
Snacks: low-cal hot chocolate (40) sparkling water (0) sunflower seeds (85) crisps (101)
Total: 1096
My calories are AWESOME! Still too low but it feels fucking awesome to not be struggling with calories because I've drunk them all. If I'd have had my usual bottle last night I would have been at over 1700 for the day. Instead, I worked out, had hot chocolate and went the fuck to beddddd. And it feels good! So far...
Working til 3 and then off to the pool again--No rest for the sober
Quercus
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You're doing great! It sucks that you are struggling with sleep, but this is the worst of it. You'll be sleeping like a kitten in no time. Keeping up the diet and exercise is badass! I kind of figured you might slip up with that at first, but keeping on track will make transitioning so much easier and you'll feel better quicker. Go you Hana!
Sunflower2
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Thanks guys Just got back from the pool again--Am really feeling very tired now so think I'm going to enjoy a day off tomorrow and just clean the house and stuff. Really hope I can sleep tonight. Going to weigh in tomorrow as well
Right, dinner and bed.
Lunch: Ham and cheese sammich (320)
Dinner: pesto pasta with black olives, low fat sausage and bacon (890) bread (250)
Snacks: hot chocolate (40) crisps (101)
Total:1601
Exercise: 1 hr moderate swimming.
I did a thing in the pool where I didn't touch the bottom or sides the whole time so it was proper swimming, I guess. No pushing off the sides or anything anddddd now I feel like dying. I BETTER HAVE LOST SOME FUCKING WEIGHT TOMORROW.
Also, texted friend P to say I am on the ol' wagon and he said that he and A are doing MDMA tomorrow and did I want to join in. I give up!
Just got back from the pool again--Am really feeling very tired now so think I'm going to enjoy a day off tomorrow and just clean the house and stuff. Really hope I can sleep tonight. Going to weigh in tomorrow as well Right, dinner and bed.
Lunch: Ham and cheese sammich (320)
Dinner: pesto pasta with black olives, low fat sausage and bacon (890) bread (250)
Snacks: hot chocolate (40) crisps (101)
Total:1601
Exercise: 1 hr moderate swimming.
I did a thing in the pool where I didn't touch the bottom or sides the whole time so it was proper swimming, I guess. No pushing off the sides or anything
anddddd now I feel like dying. I BETTER HAVE LOST SOME FUCKING WEIGHT TOMORROW.Also, texted friend P to say I am on the ol' wagon and he said that he and A are doing MDMA tomorrow and did I want to join in. I give up!