Petals diary

[alligatorob]

Hey Petal, I think you are doing very well at "maintenance". I have been studying what people here do a lot and so far as I can see no one would call what they are doing "fantastic". However, a lot are good enough even if they don't admit it. It seems to me that struggling to lose those last few pounds is just a part of maintenance. Nobody seems to get to that "ideal" weight and just stay there. Bouncing up and down, and for a lot of folks wanting to lose just a few more pounds seems the norm, and not a bad one.

Hope your pay situation gets sorted out in a fair way. I understand that a lot of employees are facing declining revenues and have to find ways to control costs, but in a lot of the world companies are also getting government help and not all businesses are down. It would seem to me to be a good time for more transparency, if employers were more open with workers about their financials it would help. If employees could see that without cuts the company might not survive I think most would be understanding, if not supportive. On the other hand I am sure some employers, hopefully a small minority, are taking advantage of the situation to squeeze more profits out. Anyway I hope your situation gets resolved in a fair way, and one that you are happy with.

And back to diets, I expect to see you keep on doing well with your "maintenance" and lose those last few kg in the process. You have done and are doing great!

 

[Cate]

I think you are doing really well with "almost maintenance". Back in 2007 when I actually got down to my goal weight I struggled to stay there for about 2 years but then settled up about 5 kg & maintained that quite easily for years & years. You may find what you are now is your happy weight.
Your employer would do well to explain the situation to you if they just expect you to accept a pay cut. Our younger son may be out of work altogether on Thursday, instead of the reduced pay they have all been on with C19. Fingers crossed!

 

[alligatorob]

"almost maintenance"

I like it, just what I was thinking but better said Cate.

your happy weight

Another good concept. Happy weight sounds a lot better than "ideal" or "normal" or whatever. It also implies acceptance of something maybe not quite what others think you should be.

So maybe we should all be trying for almost maintenance some where near our happy weights.

 

[Petal001]

LaMa the bosses are deferring their dividends, some higher staff are not affected . Did you get some sushi . My son said on Sunday he would like sushi , husband said he would go buy him raw fish to make himself . Lol . Definitely no sushi here .

Agreed Em it's a bit crappy but I'm happy I'm not too anxious about it . Waiting for the fireworks though at month end !! Cate I am sorry to hear your son might lose his job. Fingers crossed it will not happen .

Jack exactly . Plenty of people worse off . I buy a bit extra to donate to food banks now.

Rob I know I waiver a bit between maintaining and trying to lose few more lbs . I have decided to commit now to get to my personal target and I have teamed back up with my SW consultant . Started officially yesterday and had an excellent day. Will hopefully shift a lb or 2 by next week. And that hopefully will be my happy weight when I hit that target. I know by statistics etc it's not my ideal weight but maybe it will be my normal weight. I know I need to drop some more lbs in order to have more lee way . I know right now it's a battle to maintain what I have so I need to lose more in order not to gain more if that makes any sense.

 

[Petal001]

Out of curiosity I checked out the BMI calculator LaMa posted on Sadie page. To get to my top end of healthy BMI I'm looking at easily another 14 to 17lbs and lower end 4 stone !!!! I would be a bag of bones . My personal target is another 10lb . We shall see lol

 

[Llama]

If you can get sushi-grade fish it´s not hard to make yourself, although of course the rice won´t be exactly like you´re used to. My second nephew has been making vegetarian maki as a starter for years.

To get to my top end of healthy BMI I'm looking at easily another 14 to 17lbs and lower end 4 stone !!!! I would be a bag of bones

I spent some time just below a bmi of 20 when I was around 20 and I kept fainting. It´s fine for people who are petite by nature of course.

 

[Emilyrose]

I think you know your body better than a chart so aim for your own target first of all. Great you are off to a good start.

 

[Cate]

I know I need to drop some more lbs in order to have more lee way . I know right now it's a battle to maintain what I have so I need to lose more in order not to gain more if that makes any sense.

It makes lots of sense. I always planned on getting down a bit extra to have some leeway, but it just didn't happen. So long as you find your happy weight & then keep track all the time you should be able to hold that ground & tackle the task of losing a little more when you feel up to it again. You have a really good attitude to it all, Petal

 

[Petal001]

Thsnks all. LaMa I once took diet pills and I got very sick after 3 weeks and fainted . That stopped me with fad diets .

Em I am quite content now and do know my own body. Would love to really change my stomach but after cesarian sections it's what I'm stuck with . Luckily we have clothes to cover lol.

I do think I have a happy attitude to it all right now Cate . Probably for the first time ever . I am very thankful I am healthier and my body serves me well. Do you know though I am noticing straight away if I have a gain of more than 1.5lb .i really feel the negative effect it has . Hoping that's going to keep me in check going forward .

 

[Emilyrose]

Take this magic pill and it will make you thin!*

*Also makes you weak and ill.

I think the way you are doing it is the best way!

 

[Llama]

I love the sound of all that

 

[Cate]

I do think I have a happy attitude to it all right now Cate . Probably for the first time ever . I am very thankful I am healthier and my body serves me well. Do you know though I am noticing straight away if I have a gain of more than 1.5lb .i really feel the negative effect it has . Hoping that's going to keep me in check going forward .

I need to get back to being more in tune with my body. You are doing so well!

 

[alligatorob]

am quite content now and do know my own body

That is a great place to be Petal, you are a wise and fortunate woman.

Would love to really change my stomach but after cesarian sections it's what I'm stuck with

Yeah, and I'd like to be 20 years younger, 6 inches taller, rich, and look more like George Clooney, but it ain't gonna happen. And being content with your body is a lot better than any of those things.

 

[Petal001]

Ah sham Rob I thought you were George Clooney in disguise all this time .

 

[aiminglow]

I am very thankful I am healthier and my body serves me well.

It's great isn't it, how our bodies really do hang in there and carry us through (including things we really shouldn't put them through!) and heal up as hard as they can as long as they can, and give us bucketloads of pleasure whenever they can! Cheers for good old bodies! (not meaning old-old, meaning good old )

 

[Emilyrose]

I think we often give up on our bodies and looking and feeling good way too early. I think youth culture makes people feel like they shouldn’t bother once they are a certain age or had kids or whatever. It’s sad really.

 

[Petal001]

I don’t think women my age have given up Em I think maybe years ago they did . Some maybe . Most ladies I know are very into their fitness and health . Sometimes I think the opposite that there is so much pressure out there to not relax and let gravity take a bit of a natural course . Six of one half dozen of another maybe . Lol

 

[Emilyrose]

Yeah, I don't know. Maybe it has changed.

I'm loving the rain this evening.

 

[alligatorob]

let gravity take a bit of a natural course

Got a kick out of that! Ladies are not the only ones with the "gravity" issue, lol.

I am no expert on this subject, but so far as looking good goes I think the most attractive people are happy confident ones. That's more important than age, or weight, or most anything else. I also know trying to keep fit makes most people more happy and confident.

 

[Llama]

I don’t think women my age have given up Em I think maybe years ago they did . Some maybe . Most ladies I know are very into their fitness and health . Sometimes I think the opposite that there is so much pressure out there to not relax and let gravity take a bit of a natural course . Six of one half dozen of another maybe . Lol

I remember thinking, half my lifetime ago, that I´d like to be 30 because it would mean I could stop obsessing about what I "had to" look like. Then by the time I got there 40 was apparently the new 30. And now that I´m almost 40? It´s all a mess of conflicting pressures. And I think I´ve decided that while my weight is genuinely important to me (though nowhere near the point that I want to reach the lower end of "healthy bmi" range) all the other crap is just crap and I don´t have to deal with it. So I get to wear comfy shorts and flat shoes, don´t have to do make-up or (pretend to, fake) tan, don´t need to keep my leg hair under perfect control at all times, and don´t have to worry about my hair beyond what I myself enjoy. I have definitely met people who think that means I´ve given up. And I have. But not on myself.