On my way to 63kgs

So much to comment on here....oh well here goes!!!

The pool sounds lovely Val - and like you are gonna have some fun ;) Just don't do what Flumes seems to get a kick out off....giving the neighbours somethign to watch ;)

Re being invisible - its the biggest change I've noticed since losing the weight that I've lost so far...I mean I was back to being served first at the bar on friday night by the barman over the guys standing there waiting too...as a fattie I would have been left until it was almost TOO rude not to serve me. It also made me realise how much in former years that I'd got a boost out of people chatting me up or attracting attention from guys...when this was missing I felt really awful about how I looked. However, there are some wider themes here - about racism etc... and I think that must feel like such a daily struggle for people that face that. It is inexcusable in my book to treat someone in that way.

As for sports gear - have you tried - they do daily deals and their karrimor gear in particular is great to work out in. I stocked up on t-shirts and vests from their running collection and haven't looked back since!! I'm not sure if they deliver to where you are or how much it would cost, but otherwise you can go to one of their stores when you next come over to the UK (you mentioned a trip was happening at some stage) and try loads of stuff on...

Hope the visitors go well Val - get out there and impress your cousin with how far you've come - sounds like an ideal running partner to give you some tips and accompany you places where you didn't want to go running alone. Why not try early morning or early evening running, when the heat isn't too bad?
 
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Hi Val,

You are really, as it is popular to say now, Crushing It!

Very important to continue to focus on a vision of yourself as you would
like to be when you reach your ideal weight and simultaneously keep focusing
on your current reality on a daily basis.

The transition from where you are right now to long-term maintenance is the
most difficult step in creating irreversible weight loss success.

I am sure you will catch this moment, when your mind will try to trick you, and
try to get you to stop doing what you are doing to create these amazing
results. It is very smart, and knows you better than you know yourself, in fact
much better.

All you can really do is observe how it will start sending all kinds of thoughts
through your daily inner dialogue at some point, and just let them pass
through you without giving them much thought.

Focusing on the vision of your future self is the ultimate weapon that you
can use against your Ego, and I am sure you will be one of the few that
reaches and then maintains your ideal body weight for life!
 
Jjjay - thanks for the link. It's 20 pounds for delivery here so wouldn't be worth it unless I ordered a lot but I'll look out for it next time I'm in England.
Alex - Thanks for the visit
My mind hasn't started telling me to stop what I am doing but other people do. All the time people keep telling me not to lose any more and that I'm all right as I am now. I don't really understand the obsession with everybody to try and stop me before I actually get to where I want to be. I want to get to 63 kgs and I remember when I reached 63 on the way up that I was disgusted about how fat I was getting so I hardly think that it is an unrealistic goal. I also get other middle aged woman saying to me all the time that it is impossible to get rid of all my stomach fat so I'm wasting my time. I think it's because they haven't done it so would rather believe that it isn't possible. Those sort of comment just make me more determined to achieve it. It's like many people want to sabotage my weight loss just to make them feel better about themselves instead of being happy about me.
 
Val, just do what makes you happy - if after 6 months of trying nothing is shifting then you can make up your own mind, or if your goal changes to getting fit enough to enjoy running or another sport that you found that you like, then that's different as well. It might be that you get to 63 and are completely happy with your shape - again YOUR CHOICE. I think the only time you need to start listening to those around you is if your close family start warning you that you are going a bit mad on it all!!! Otherwise, ignore all of the NAYSAYERS!

And yeah, £20 is a bit mad for delivery!! But they have stores everywhere in the UK - usually on shopping estates, you know, like next to the big supermarkets and out of town Next stores and Currys etc... so easy enough to find. I just stock up on sports gear every size or so :D
 
eyckmans said:
My mind hasn't started telling me to stop what I am doing but other people do. All the time people keep telling me not to lose any more and that I'm all right as I am now. I don't really understand the obsession with everybody to try and stop me before I actually get to where I want to be. I want to get to 63 kgs and I remember when I reached 63 on the way up that I was disgusted about how fat I was getting so I hardly think that it is an unrealistic goal. I also get other middle aged woman saying to me all the time that it is impossible to get rid of all my stomach fat so I'm wasting my time. I think it's because they haven't done it so would rather believe that it isn't possible. Those sort of comment just make me more determined to achieve it. It's like many people want to sabotage my weight loss just to make them feel better about themselves instead of being happy about me.
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How in reality it happens, obviously no one knows, but the fact remains the ego will try to sabotage everything,
and as you see it has started to happen from the circumstances that are around you. This sends a message to
your mind and it starts to produce an inner dialogue that fits with what all these people are telling you right now.

The vision of yourself weighing 63 kg, and especially holding this image in your mind and imagining how you live
an average day in your life with this weight, where your husband, daughter, and friends that are supportive
tell you that you look amazing and that you are really kicking butt maintaining your ideal weight by using proper
nutrition and physical activity on a daily basis.

Imagine just waking up in the morning and going through a whole day in your imagination, from the time you wake up
to the time you go to bed, in detail, with sounds, and using all your other senses. This will create a new structure and
all the messages from the circumstances in your life will not have the power against this powerful tactic.

Just do this every day, and taking one small step at a time, just like you have done with nutrition and physical activity
so far. Once this image of your future-self is a part of your inner structure, it is over, no one will be able to do anything
about you reaching and maintaining the body you are planning on creating.

I am definately convinced you are one of the few that will create permanent weight loss, at least it is very, very realistic,
because something inside of you "clicked" and as you can see yourself you are just simply doing all the "right" things, it's
as if some force is moving you to do what works the best for you in your unique situation!
 
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eyckmans said:
Jjjay - thanks for the link. It's 20 pounds for delivery here so wouldn't be worth it unless I ordered a lot but I'll look out for it next time I'm in England.
Alex - Thanks for the visit
My mind hasn't started telling me to stop what I am doing but other people do. All the time people keep telling me not to lose any more and that I'm all right as I am now. I don't really understand the obsession with everybody to try and stop me before I actually get to where I want to be. I want to get to 63 kgs and I remember when I reached 63 on the way up that I was disgusted about how fat I was getting so I hardly think that it is an unrealistic goal. I also get other middle aged woman saying to me all the time that it is impossible to get rid of all my stomach fat so I'm wasting my time. I think it's because they haven't done it so would rather believe that it isn't possible. Those sort of comment just make me more determined to achieve it. It's like many people want to sabotage my weight loss just to make them feel better about themselves instead of being happy about me.
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I 100% agree with this. Some people can not stand to see others excel where they have failed, so they'd rather help others fail along with them by convincing them to quit. I know that sounds really pessimistic, but it's unfortunately true. :( I'm really glad that you're able to ignore them and keep pushing forward, though. From what I know of you, you're not stupid. I know you know what you're doing and you're not over-doing it in the slightest. You're dedicated and smart about it. So keep steadfast on your road to 63 kg. You will get there. :)
 
Val,

I'm with jjjay and JanaNanner all the way.

It's vital to be yourself, and not the person other people want you to be. 63 kg is just a guideline; you'll know when you've found a weight you're comfortable with by the way you feel and look, by how your body moves and when you feel so relaxed in the company of others that you stop being self-conscious and just be youself.

Your whole look is changing relatively quickly. It takes some people time to get used to that. Most people don't like change; they like us to stay as we are, but as long as you're within a healthy weight range you can safely ignore them.

Do you have any plans for a special celebration when you reach 63 kg? :)
 
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I am definately convinced you are one of the few that will create permanent weight loss, at least it is very, very realistic,
because something inside of you "clicked" and as you can see yourself you are just simply doing all the "right" things, it's
as if some force is moving you to do what works the best for you in your unique situation!
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Alex - I agree with what you are saying about something clicking inside to make a permanent change but I am seeing the same thing with the people that write in my dairy. Maybe that is why we all get on as we recognize ourself in each other. :)

Thank you all for your support. My family are very supportive and proud of me. The people that say to me that I won't lose the last bit of weight or that I'll probably end up putting it all back on are neighbours and casual friends. All the people that matter are very encouraging and complimentary.

Well my eating hasn't gone too bad with my visitors here and I have been running around like a mad thing since they've been here. Only problem is that I haven't been able to fit in going to the gym today or yesterday. Yesterday I took them down to the beach and we swam about for an hour and a half which I find quite tiring as I am a really bad swimmer so all in all I got enough exercise. Today I just haven't been able to find the time so will try and go for a fast walk later this evening.
I'm going to have to get more organized and get the guests to fend for themselves a bit more as I will end up feeling resentful if I can't get to the gym. Tomorrow I have to go into town and do paperwork which I know will take hours but I might be able to escape for an hour or two in the afternoon.
 
eyckmans said:
Thank you all for your support. My family are very supportive and proud of me. The people that say to me that I won't lose the last bit of weight or that I'll probably end up putting it all back on are neighbours and casual friends. All the people that matter are very encouraging and complimentary.

Well my eating hasn't gone too bad with my visitors here and I have been running around like a mad thing since they've been here. Only problem is that I haven't been able to fit in going to the gym today or yesterday. Yesterday I took them down to the beach and we swam about for an hour and a half which I find quite tiring as I am a really bad swimmer so all in all I got enough exercise. Today I just haven't been able to find the time so will try and go for a fast walk later this evening.
I'm going to have to get more organized and get the guests to fend for themselves a bit more as I will end up feeling resentful if I can't get to the gym. Tomorrow I have to go into town and do paperwork which I know will take hours but I might be able to escape for an hour or two in the afternoon.
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Swimming is actually a great workout. I think we just don't feel it as much as some workouts because the weight that it takes off of our body from floating means less damage on the joints during the workout. But it's still a great cardiovascular workout. :) I think if I had regular access to a pool I'd be in there every day. :D I'm glad you had the opportunity to get that in, since you've been busy. Also, it's wonderful that your family is so supportive. That really helps, I'm sure. :)
 
eyckmans said:
Yesterday I took them down to the beach and we swam about for an hour and a half which I find quite tiring as I am a really bad swimmer so all in all I got enough exercise.
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I'm a REALLY bad swimmer too and it wipes me out! Maybe that's why I always hated it so much. However, I noticed that being heavier it was easier to float than it was back in my skinny days. I sank really well back then! I also found that I couldn't wear a flimsy little top or a loose top because my boobs would float right out! I always had to make sure I kept those buggers anchored down and under control or I'd die of embarrassment!:blush5:
 
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I'm a REALLY bad swimmer too and it wipes me out! Maybe that's why I always hated it so much. However, I noticed that being heavier it was easier to float than it was back in my skinny days. I sank really well back then! I also found that I couldn't wear a flimsy little top or a loose top because my boobs would float right out! I always had to make sure I kept those buggers anchored down and under control or I'd die of embarrassment!:blush5:
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I'm sorry, but this just made me laugh because I know the feeling. :D Breasts really like to float, no matter what the rest of your body is doing.
 
LOL. Mine are so droopy that I love it when they float back up to the place where they are supposed to be :)
 
eyckmans said:
I am seeing the same thing with the people that write in my dairy. Maybe that is why we all get on as we recognize ourself in each other. :)
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True Val, I read the last few pages and you seem to be gathering a crowd
of folks around you that are really grasping what it takes to permanently
lose unwanted body weight in the long run. This is really awesome to see,
and it gives us all hope that this will eventually become common knowledge
in the nearest future, and more and more people will start taking the simple
and obvious actions that are necessary to create a lean, healthy body!
 
AlexPlatups said:
True Val, I read the last few pages and you seem to be gathering a crowd
of folks around you that are really grasping what it takes to permanently
lose unwanted body weight in the long run. This is really awesome to see,
and it gives us all hope that this will eventually become common knowledge
in the nearest future, and more and more people will start taking the simple
and obvious actions that are necessary to create a lean, healthy body!
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I get as excited about other peoples successes here as I do my own. It's great to be part of such a nice group of people all with the same aims. :)
 
Aww HUGS TO YOU Val!!! Its so nice to be part of this little supportive crowd - makes a huge difference to all of our motivation and successes, plus there's poeple to pick you up and dust you down if you fall off the wagon on the way :D
 
jjjay said:
Aww HUGS TO YOU Val!!! Its so nice to be part of this little supportive crowd - makes a huge difference to all of our motivation and successes, plus there's poeple to pick you up and dust you down if you fall off the wagon on the way :D
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I always think of mine as a CHUCK wagon. And for some reason when I fall off mine, I seem to land in some sort of chocolate.... :)
 
LOL...I just think of mine as a chocolate wagon so every now and then I can nibble a little bit, but not too much or the wheels will fall off!
 
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I just ran 4 kms :D. I warmed up for a few minutes and then re-set the machine and ran 4 kms in 30 mins. At about 2 kms I was tired but what really kept me going was knowing that I could come here and tell you all about it. :) By the time I got to 4 kms I could easily have gone further but I'm still worried about doing an injury if I go too far too quickly.
That 5k is getting nearer and nearer.
 
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