Well Val, I am glad that you find what I write interesting. Obviously, this is
only the tip of the iceberg, and the iceberg is huge...lol
But, since you are intersted in it, in the nearest future I will go into some
depth on the subject of self-awareness and consciousness, since this is the
foundation of our lives. Without being self-aware and conscious, we are caught
in an endless loop of circumstances that are not under our control.
When we start to become aware of our true self, this is when consciousness
starts to awake in us, and we start to notice there are are a few things we
can control and 99.9% that we can't.
Well, I have found that to be "effective" all you have to do is focus on the
0.01% of the things that we can control, and "not worry" about the rest !!!
Will share more with you later, but you probably saw that I have a diary, and
if you didn't see it yet, you can check it out, if you want.
...interesting about your sister and alcohol, and the similarities with
overeating. There is no doubt that the root is in the addiction, but I have
gone deeper and noticed that the root of the addiction itself, in other words
the reason we develop these addictions, and all the other bad habits,
including non-stop thinking in our minds (which happens on its own without
our help, just like all other bodily processes) is this:
...the majority of people are trying, and are very successful at ESCAPING
from reality, i.e. the present moment, the now, by constantly thinking about
the past or the future, and "completely" ignoring the current situation that
they are in at the only moment that there ever was, is, and will be...which is
obviously the "here and now!"
Since the past and the future, are in reality only illusions, or at their best
reflections of the present moment (this I can explain later, if you don't
understand it) the majority are always feelings an assortment of emotions
that are a consequence of the thoughts about the past or the future.
For example, if someone wants to lose weight really bad, and she is currently
seriously overweight, she will feel a very high level of "anxiety" if she lives in
her thoughts about how she wants to be in the future!
Why? well, it's simple, because she is not happy with how she is NOW,
and simultaneoulsy she wants to be there in the future, where she has her
dream body already...
...but the reality is that she is here, and this tears a person a part,
and the anxiety is a consequence.
...the more interesting thing about this, is that she will always be here, simply
because that's all there ever is, the present moment...
...and the more a person tries to escape from her reality, and try to live in
the future thoughts or visions of herself, the more she will suffer!
...the key is to live here and now, and be happy with how you are right now,
and simply once in a while remind yourself the path that you have chosen,
and the rest of the time spend making the best possible choices as far as
food and exercise in the present moment!
...do you see how this one example, can make a profound difference in
someone's life if they can grasp it?
...the sad thing about it is that the majority of people will nod their head
and say YES Alex, this is such a great idea, and I will do this, and then as
soon as they go back to their life they will start living in their thoughts about
the future and the past, and will completely forget about this!
So Val, what do you think about this thought and idea?