LittleMinx
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Note: My husband and I are polyamorous. I typically do not bring that up in discussions outside close friends, but in this case I believe the dynamic I have with both my husband and my long term partner are important to my weight loss journey. In order to be successful in my weight loss goals, I believe I will have to take into consideration how I interact with each of my partners. I know my lifestyle is unusual, but I hope that will not dissuade others from supporting me in my weight loss goals. I don't want things to be awkward for other members of the forum, so I will try to bring it up only as necessary.
-- How much weight do you want to lose?
About 50 lbs
-- What is the timeframe for reaching your target weight?
One year
-- How do you want to accomplish your goal (what methods do you want to use)?
I want to improve my diet and exercise more.
-- Who or what can support you in reaching your goal?
My husband and my long term partner. The most important thing will be to minimize the amount of unhealthy snacks I have easy access to in my homes. I think this will be easier in my partner's home than in my home with my husband (my partner does not tend to have as many snacks laying around). I have already discussed with each of them how they can support me in avoiding temptations, and both seem very supportive and receptive.
-- How realistic is your goal?
50 lbs in one year is less than one lb per week, so I believe it should be realistic.
-- When will you start?
I started my new exercising routine six days ago (July 20, 2020). As of July 25, 2020, I am being more conscientious of what I eat.
What is your current height and weight?
I am 5'5 and 204 lb
If you were at an ideal weight now, what would that weight be?
I think about 150 - 155 lbs would make me much happier.
At what weight would you like to be at four months from now?
Between 180 - 185 lb.
Why do you want to lose weight?
I don't feel good at the weight I currently am. Some days I feel absolutely beautiful and confident, but other days all I can see is fat. There are a lot of clothes I wish I looked better in, and activities I avoid because I think I'm not fit enough for them. I love going on hikes, and would like to be able to tackle more challenging and lengthy hikes. There are hikes I would like to do that I know have amazing scenery and views, but which are currently too strenuous for me.
Do you want to lose weight for a specific life event such as wedding or reunion? If so, when is that event?
No specific event.
What obstacles could get between you and your weight loss goals?
I seem to have very little willpower when it comes to avoiding snacks. If they are in the house and available to me, I will eat them.
Why do you think that you now have a weight problem?
Since childhood, I have had varying levels of weight issues. I have never been a slim person, and have been varying degrees of overweight for as long as I can remember. I try not to blame it on any one event that has occurred in my life. As a child, I was abused sexually. I think at times, I subconsciously thought that if I was overweight and unattractive, no one would want to hurt me. Even when I didn't think like that, I would get into a spiral; I would see myself as overweight, think that I would never be able to get to a weight I was happy with, and so would eat more, and become even more overweight.
I was always a shy, introverted child. I didn't particularly like to play with other children or interact with them. I preferred being on my own. This meant that I rarely wanted to be outside, where interactions with neighbourhood children would be difficult to avoid. I often ended up playing by myself indoors, and often, my play was very limited in terms of physical engagement. There was no point in my young life that exercise or physical activity became ingrained as a habit, or as something fun.
What lifestyle changes do you think would help you lose weight?
I think the main change will have to be to my diet. I need to consume fewer calories, and choose more nutritious foods. I also need to stick with my new exercise schedule.
Have you lost weight in the past? If so, what has worked in the past to help you lose weight?
I lost nearly 30 lbs before my wedding in 2018. I have since gained it back, plus more. At the time I was on a keto diet, and my husband was following it with me. It really seemed to help both of us; we both lost weight, and his diabetes was under much better control. But we stopped following it during the week of the wedding, and we never got back to it.
Why do you believe that you did not lose weight or you gained the weight back?
I did not stick to the changes I had made. I went back to my previous eating habits.
What, if anything, has not worked for you in the past in helping you to lose weight? Why do you think it did not work?
Very strict diets do not seem to work. I don't have enough willpower for them, and inevitably end up eating foods I crave. I had much more success with the keto diet, as I was able to eat a lot of foods I was enjoying, and it didn't feel so restrictive somehow.
Would you try writing down all food and drink consumed for a given period of time?
Yes, I would try it.
Do you cook at home often? If so, what do you cook?
We have meals at home about 50% of the time; the other 50% we eat out or order out. We follow a vegetarian diet (my husband and I), and my partner is an omnivore, but eats vegetarian meals while I am with him. We tend to cook a lot of carb heavy foods; rice, pasta, breads.
How often do you go out to eat? Where do you go?
We eat out about 50% of the time (or more typically, order in). Some of our usual places include veggie burgers from Burger King or A&W; sandwiches from Subway; Chinese Food; and occasional pizza (about 1-2 times per month)
What are your three favorite foods?
Popcorn, potato chips, spaghetti.
What are your three favorite restaurants?
White Spot, Cactus Club, and a local Indian restaurant.
What are three things you can do differently when it comes to food?
I can cut out potato chips; limit my popcorn to home made with limited or no butter; and decrease the amount of bread I have during meals.
If you woke up tomorrow and your body was exactly the way you want it, what would be different?
My stomach/waist would be way slimmer. My arms would be less flabby, my thighs would be more toned, and my butt would not have as much fat on it.
Do you eat when you are not hungry?
Quiet often.
Do you binge eat (large amounts at a time)?
No.
Do you hide your food or eat in secret?
No.
Do you eat when you are sad, nervous, or depressed?
Sometimes; more often, I sleep.
Do you eat as a reward?
Sometimes.
Do you eat while watching TV or using the computer?
Yes.
What do you normally eat for a meal?
Home made: A vegetarian protein (meat alternatives); a selection of veggies (usually a combination of carrots, broccoli, cauliflower and beans), lots of mushrooms, and rice.
What type of snacks do you eat?
Popcorn, chips
In terms of exercise, what, if anything, are you currently doing?
I'm currently following a workout program involving a 20 minute HIIT workout and ten minutes of ab workout daily, and rotating between lower body workouts and an additional ab workout on alternate days. I also try to walk at least an hour every day.
Where do you go for exercise? A local public gym? School/work gym? Home?
Home, and a local park.
What, if anything, are your three favorite types of exercise?
Swimming (unavailable during the pandemic), walking, biking
What is your daily/weekly/monthly/yearly motivation to move towards your goals?
I am not sure yet, other than the motivation of seeing the scale go down.
Do you have rewards for certain goals?
I've only ever rewarded myself with food (i.e., if I reach a certain weight goal, I can have one unhealthy thing). I don't feel this has been productive for me.
-- How much weight do you want to lose?
About 50 lbs
-- What is the timeframe for reaching your target weight?
One year
-- How do you want to accomplish your goal (what methods do you want to use)?
I want to improve my diet and exercise more.
-- Who or what can support you in reaching your goal?
My husband and my long term partner. The most important thing will be to minimize the amount of unhealthy snacks I have easy access to in my homes. I think this will be easier in my partner's home than in my home with my husband (my partner does not tend to have as many snacks laying around). I have already discussed with each of them how they can support me in avoiding temptations, and both seem very supportive and receptive.
-- How realistic is your goal?
50 lbs in one year is less than one lb per week, so I believe it should be realistic.
-- When will you start?
I started my new exercising routine six days ago (July 20, 2020). As of July 25, 2020, I am being more conscientious of what I eat.
What is your current height and weight?
I am 5'5 and 204 lb
If you were at an ideal weight now, what would that weight be?
I think about 150 - 155 lbs would make me much happier.
At what weight would you like to be at four months from now?
Between 180 - 185 lb.
Why do you want to lose weight?
I don't feel good at the weight I currently am. Some days I feel absolutely beautiful and confident, but other days all I can see is fat. There are a lot of clothes I wish I looked better in, and activities I avoid because I think I'm not fit enough for them. I love going on hikes, and would like to be able to tackle more challenging and lengthy hikes. There are hikes I would like to do that I know have amazing scenery and views, but which are currently too strenuous for me.
Do you want to lose weight for a specific life event such as wedding or reunion? If so, when is that event?
No specific event.
What obstacles could get between you and your weight loss goals?
I seem to have very little willpower when it comes to avoiding snacks. If they are in the house and available to me, I will eat them.
Why do you think that you now have a weight problem?
Since childhood, I have had varying levels of weight issues. I have never been a slim person, and have been varying degrees of overweight for as long as I can remember. I try not to blame it on any one event that has occurred in my life. As a child, I was abused sexually. I think at times, I subconsciously thought that if I was overweight and unattractive, no one would want to hurt me. Even when I didn't think like that, I would get into a spiral; I would see myself as overweight, think that I would never be able to get to a weight I was happy with, and so would eat more, and become even more overweight.
I was always a shy, introverted child. I didn't particularly like to play with other children or interact with them. I preferred being on my own. This meant that I rarely wanted to be outside, where interactions with neighbourhood children would be difficult to avoid. I often ended up playing by myself indoors, and often, my play was very limited in terms of physical engagement. There was no point in my young life that exercise or physical activity became ingrained as a habit, or as something fun.
What lifestyle changes do you think would help you lose weight?
I think the main change will have to be to my diet. I need to consume fewer calories, and choose more nutritious foods. I also need to stick with my new exercise schedule.
Have you lost weight in the past? If so, what has worked in the past to help you lose weight?
I lost nearly 30 lbs before my wedding in 2018. I have since gained it back, plus more. At the time I was on a keto diet, and my husband was following it with me. It really seemed to help both of us; we both lost weight, and his diabetes was under much better control. But we stopped following it during the week of the wedding, and we never got back to it.
Why do you believe that you did not lose weight or you gained the weight back?
I did not stick to the changes I had made. I went back to my previous eating habits.
What, if anything, has not worked for you in the past in helping you to lose weight? Why do you think it did not work?
Very strict diets do not seem to work. I don't have enough willpower for them, and inevitably end up eating foods I crave. I had much more success with the keto diet, as I was able to eat a lot of foods I was enjoying, and it didn't feel so restrictive somehow.
Would you try writing down all food and drink consumed for a given period of time?
Yes, I would try it.
Do you cook at home often? If so, what do you cook?
We have meals at home about 50% of the time; the other 50% we eat out or order out. We follow a vegetarian diet (my husband and I), and my partner is an omnivore, but eats vegetarian meals while I am with him. We tend to cook a lot of carb heavy foods; rice, pasta, breads.
How often do you go out to eat? Where do you go?
We eat out about 50% of the time (or more typically, order in). Some of our usual places include veggie burgers from Burger King or A&W; sandwiches from Subway; Chinese Food; and occasional pizza (about 1-2 times per month)
What are your three favorite foods?
Popcorn, potato chips, spaghetti.
What are your three favorite restaurants?
White Spot, Cactus Club, and a local Indian restaurant.
What are three things you can do differently when it comes to food?
I can cut out potato chips; limit my popcorn to home made with limited or no butter; and decrease the amount of bread I have during meals.
If you woke up tomorrow and your body was exactly the way you want it, what would be different?
My stomach/waist would be way slimmer. My arms would be less flabby, my thighs would be more toned, and my butt would not have as much fat on it.
Do you eat when you are not hungry?
Quiet often.
Do you binge eat (large amounts at a time)?
No.
Do you hide your food or eat in secret?
No.
Do you eat when you are sad, nervous, or depressed?
Sometimes; more often, I sleep.
Do you eat as a reward?
Sometimes.
Do you eat while watching TV or using the computer?
Yes.
What do you normally eat for a meal?
Home made: A vegetarian protein (meat alternatives); a selection of veggies (usually a combination of carrots, broccoli, cauliflower and beans), lots of mushrooms, and rice.
What type of snacks do you eat?
Popcorn, chips
In terms of exercise, what, if anything, are you currently doing?
I'm currently following a workout program involving a 20 minute HIIT workout and ten minutes of ab workout daily, and rotating between lower body workouts and an additional ab workout on alternate days. I also try to walk at least an hour every day.
Where do you go for exercise? A local public gym? School/work gym? Home?
Home, and a local park.
What, if anything, are your three favorite types of exercise?
Swimming (unavailable during the pandemic), walking, biking
What is your daily/weekly/monthly/yearly motivation to move towards your goals?
I am not sure yet, other than the motivation of seeing the scale go down.
Do you have rewards for certain goals?
I've only ever rewarded myself with food (i.e., if I reach a certain weight goal, I can have one unhealthy thing). I don't feel this has been productive for me.
