Marsia's Diary

Haha Emily any excuse for me at the moment not to do but I really need to get my ass in gear with exercise . Need a serious stick of mojo , I used to be fantastic .
 
Hi, M. I get very introspective in the fall too & a little blue & out of kilter. Do the things that make you feel good, hon & try not to worry so much about getting out there & socialising. It sounds like you do that anyway with K. Sending you a great big hug :grouphug:
 
Marsia said:
... it's better to do exercise I like like gardening and drumming because there isn't time or enthusiasm to do hard exercises that I don't really care for. ....
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once in a while i remind myself how we actually lose weight. where does it go? we breathe in O2 and exhale CO2 and H2O (a little bit of water vapor)... it's a lot more complex, but that C(arbon) we exhale... there goes a bit of fat (or something that might turn into fat). when you exercise hard, you breathe hard... of course you burn more energy. my place is three floors so i have a built-in stairmaster... especially with my bad memory.... extra trips up/ down the stairs are part of my normal day.

any movement is better than sitting. ...well, unless your sitting is part of a Keith Moon imitation...you're a drummer? cool...!
 
A tofu scramble sounds innocent enough to me - I'm glad you got a few nibbles!
I think you're terrific, taking your mother on short, really great-sounding hikes (ocean views over exciting cliffs! yes, please!). :)
 
Marsia a lot of what you wrote resounds with me. I am totally feeling at the moment that there is not enough time in my day . But I have a heavy year ahead with my daughter and I have decided to park mentally what I cannot deal with it . Exercise is taking a back seat too but like you will try get some nice walks when I can . One day a week will be housework only so we don’t end up living in a complete mess . Housework calms me though .
Last night I was totally exhausted and I realised I had not replied to friends messages and I actually recorded them some voice messages and sent on WhatsApp . They absolutely loved them and said a great idea . Just try do what pleases you and don’t take on so much . You are doing so great with all you have on your plate . Big hugs :grouphug:
 
Marsia you know we are not responsible for our husbands choices . As we both have similar husbands in terms of work ethics I feel I can tell you from experience it’s their own choice . Yes ok money is needed but as you and I have said we would be happier with less . It’s like an addiction to them . I truly don’t worry now if he wants to work late , work weekends , Christmas Day , it’s his choice . As I said park what is not a necessity or priority . Make yourself a priority because we are the only ones who can look after ourselves . Sorry a big of a rant there
 
I think that it's important for us to know that we are not responsible for our husband's choices & their obsession with work. G was the same. When we worked together for 18 years I also worked like crazy & hardly had a moment to myself or enough time to spend with our kids, who were 3 & 5 when we started. I'm really glad that you know that you need to do things for yourself & have a life outside work. When you work from home it is much harder to separate the 2.
I love hearing about your zen teacher. Is he someone you go to in the flesh or someone you listen to online? I feel I really need something like this.
I hope therapy is good for you today, hon. I think it will be as your mind is well & truly open & receptive, xoxo
 
I also like Petal's practice of
Petal001 said:
decid[ing] to park mentally what I cannot deal with
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which fits as well with Cate's mantra of being kind to oneself, as well as to others.

In terms of
Marsia said:
It's so hard when you have kids to strike a balance between spending all the time you can with them and having enough money so they have a good childhood.
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I think it sounds like you're providing a wonderful childhood, with so much going on, and also showing by what you do yourself how life can be lived well and truly enjoyed. In which context, I thought your low-key outing with J. to the phone shop and then to check out art supplies and then just having a simple break and a bite to eat together (carbs! yum!) sounded brilliant. :)
 
Wow, M. What a full-on, but overall very positive day. I'm glad you got to spend some quality time with J away from home too. You both need that or it feels like "all work" & the stress that goes with that. I love, love, love the Sax. Enjoy your evening out xoxo
 
Marsia agreed it sounds like you had a good day overall. You know what is what and how to get there . Not always easy with the curve balls we get thrown. I think you are learning to cope with them. Hope you have a lovely trip to the library.
 
Marsia said:
But when I try to talk to J about how to get it so he can work less, he is so overtired, he tells me we need to keep doing what we are doing, there is no other way. My ideas don't get considered. So I have to wait until things get a little better to bring up my ideas again.
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Hey Marsia, it sounds like there might be an imbalance there. Your husband earns the money so you don't get to have any ideas? Hmm. That doesn't sound fantastic to me.

I would consider (if I were you) getting an autonomous job away from him. I think you could do something part-time so that he is not under so much strain and still help him with his work as needed. I think it would be better for you and for him. Just a thought. :) On your side hon.
 
That sounds like a lovely day, M. I think you are a very good example for your daughter. I think you do already have more than enough on your plate right now. Life is such a balancing act & I think you do an amazing job xoxo
 
Nobody's at their best when overtired but as with drinking and being drunk we do have some control over how often we get to that state. I could see him thinking he needs to provide for his beloved wife and daughter and make sure their future is secure so he has to work so much but if he takes you seriously as a responsible adult that is something you can talk about.
 
I kind of agree with LaMa as that's the perspective I see at home here . But they get so tunnel visioned and trapped in their own way of life sometimes it's hard to talk to them.
Your day sounds great fun .
 
Marsia said:
I actually just sat down with J and we figured out how I can support him to start getting more sleep. It involves me moving large portions of the house around and me helping with finances like I have been asking to do forever, but I think we have a tentatively really good plan.
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That´s awesome. Communication rocks :)
 
Raccoons are kind of cute, but can sure be a nuisance. I have a raccoon story for you.

Back when lived in Florida and was hunting alligators the guy who processed my gators also processed raccoons. He bought them from trappers who took them from the Apalachicola river and swamps, and other similar places in the area. He sold the pelts and meat. He averaged about 10,000 to 15,000 raccoons a year. As you can imagine a business built on gator and coon processing was not in the nicest neighborhood and all things considered a pretty seedy looking operation.

One December I was there to pickup my hides and meat and a lady driving a very nice new Mercedes came in and wanted to buy 54 coons. The coons were skinned and gutted, but still had the heads and feet on them, not a pretty sight. I helped her load, and by the time we were done her trunk and back seat was full to the top with frozen coons; and the Mercedes was sitting low on its springs. I asked her what they were for and all she'd tell me was a big party. I sure would have liked to have been invited to that party, for a little while anyway.

My wife never let me buy whole coons, but I did get some sausage. I doubt you can find coon in your local grocery stores, me either its not on my diet plan anyway. I knew people who hunted coons. Never did it myself, my father did when he was young, before my time.
 
A party??? Not sure I'd want to attend but I'd sure like to know what kind of party that was!
 
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