Looking to lose an extra human I apparently picked up along the way
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MrVee
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229.5 this morning.
Today is my day off from workouts, but it's also going to be a bit cooler than it has been (high of 90 with thundershowers), so maybe I'll get a walk in.
Really anxious to get rid of this last 45 pounds and get on with my life but I know it's going to take a while. Hopefully when cooler weather comes I'll start burning more calories.
Today is my day off from workouts, but it's also going to be a bit cooler than it has been (high of 90 with thundershowers), so maybe I'll get a walk in.
Really anxious to get rid of this last 45 pounds and get on with my life but I know it's going to take a while. Hopefully when cooler weather comes I'll start burning more calories.
MrVee
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Well, the reality is I've been fortunate enough at this point to ingrain my lifestyle for the last 14 months into me. This is what and how much I eat. This is how much and how often I work out. That's it. There's nothing temporary about any of this.
So I can go through whatever moods I want, it has nothing at all to do with what I eat or how much I exercise. Indeed, when I'm in a bad mood or bored, I'd like to exercise even more than I do just to keep me busy (but I don't for fear of overworking myself). The idea of going back to eating out of boredom or to make myself feel better so terrifies me, that it's not even remotely an option. I might do something else silly and unproductive, but it won't be eating.
So I can go through whatever moods I want, it has nothing at all to do with what I eat or how much I exercise. Indeed, when I'm in a bad mood or bored, I'd like to exercise even more than I do just to keep me busy (but I don't for fear of overworking myself). The idea of going back to eating out of boredom or to make myself feel better so terrifies me, that it's not even remotely an option. I might do something else silly and unproductive, but it won't be eating.
MrVee
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Well it's definitely not easy, but then eating a whole bunch ain't going to make things any easier. Life is hard at any weight and regardless of what you eat or how much you exercise. Beautiful and rich Hollywood Couples get divorced all the time. Life's not easy for anyone.
And, truth be told, I've done a great job, but I still have a BMI over 30 and ain't anywhere near where I want to be in terms of how I look (I feel pretty damned good physically though). So it's a long way to go still.
And, truth be told, I've done a great job, but I still have a BMI over 30 and ain't anywhere near where I want to be in terms of how I look (I feel pretty damned good physically though). So it's a long way to go still.
Cate
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Hi Mr Vee, I'm sorry you are going through a bit of an emotional rough patch. I found the biggest hurdle I had when losing the 36kg was coming to terms with myself. I am very lucky to have a husband who loves me regardless, but it was still an emotional turmoil. I hid behind my fat (well I felt like I was hiding anyway, instead of standing out because of my size.) I really benefited by seeing a psychologist a few times & talking over why I got big in the first place & why I was so confused about becoming slim again. It was really hard, but I am so glad I did. It's not something I talk about to anyone else. I always had major issues about my older sister who I adored, but felt very inferior to her intellectually & physically. I know now that was not the case (physically anyway!) That was only a small part of it though. I can deal with it all now & feel much stronger.
Sometimes I think it helps to articulate your fears & doubts to a total stranger! I still could not tell her everything. You may be afraid of the thought of dating again & the possibility of being hurt.
I got really sick to death of having to be so strict on the program I was on & wondered at times if it was all worth it. I think that's normal too.
You can tell me to pull my head in (nicely I hope!) I think we all have days when we wonder if it's all worth the effort, but I think life is good most of the time. I also think that you have a lot to offer to some lucky woman, and I hope that you find that someone. I don't think a day goes by that I am not grateful for what I have, even when I get down. OK I'll shut up now, I promise
xo Cate
Sometimes I think it helps to articulate your fears & doubts to a total stranger! I still could not tell her everything. You may be afraid of the thought of dating again & the possibility of being hurt.
I got really sick to death of having to be so strict on the program I was on & wondered at times if it was all worth it. I think that's normal too.
You can tell me to pull my head in (nicely I hope!) I think we all have days when we wonder if it's all worth the effort, but I think life is good most of the time. I also think that you have a lot to offer to some lucky woman, and I hope that you find that someone. I don't think a day goes by that I am not grateful for what I have, even when I get down. OK I'll shut up now, I promise
xo Cate 
MrVee
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Thanks for all the belated birthday wishes.
230 again this morning. A little frustrating, but if my plateaus continue to be a couple of pounds lower than my previous plateau, I'll get there eventually.
Signed up for a dating website last night. I feel deeply sorry for the women of Phoenix, but I'm afraid I have no choice but to inflict myself on them.
Going to try and set up my DEXA body composition scan today. Will be much interested to see what my body fat% is.
Also going to try and cut the fat content in my diet. I've got the fiber straightened away, and I think I have enough protein but I think I've been eating almost 50% of my calories from fat and that's a little too much. Yummy, but too much. Dropping it to 40% isn't anything that should be any sort of sacrifice. The key will be to find somewhere that sells Canadian bacon. As much as I like the regular stuff, the Canadian stuff has a much better protein/fat ratio.
230 again this morning. A little frustrating, but if my plateaus continue to be a couple of pounds lower than my previous plateau, I'll get there eventually.
Signed up for a dating website last night. I feel deeply sorry for the women of Phoenix, but I'm afraid I have no choice but to inflict myself on them.
Going to try and set up my DEXA body composition scan today. Will be much interested to see what my body fat% is.
Also going to try and cut the fat content in my diet. I've got the fiber straightened away, and I think I have enough protein but I think I've been eating almost 50% of my calories from fat and that's a little too much. Yummy, but too much. Dropping it to 40% isn't anything that should be any sort of sacrifice. The key will be to find somewhere that sells Canadian bacon. As much as I like the regular stuff, the Canadian stuff has a much better protein/fat ratio.
Omega
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Good idea!
They will be lucky to get you.
Take up dancing too...
Salsa dancing is a very sociable hobby and a great way of meeting people.
My husband is loads bigger than you and he happily dances.
It is a great way of meeting lots of people of the opposite sex.
In a class you change partners about every 2 minutes...
It is like speed dating without the dating.
In a salsa club it is perfectly normal for men to ask women to dance in the social dancing at the end - but also for the women to ask the men to dance.
It is certainly not a meat market - but there is no denying that couples do get together too...
My husband has often said that if he knew what it was like he would have been dancing when he was young and single.
Little John
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Join a rowing club!
Jeez, look what happens when I ignore you for an extended amount of time, you go ahead and get all skinny on me. Maybe I should have glommed onto you back when you joined. Good job, man!
Jeez, look what happens when I ignore you for an extended amount of time, you go ahead and get all skinny on me. Maybe I should have glommed onto you back when you joined. Good job, man!
MrVee
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229 this morning. It isn't by much, but that's a new low.
Personal training at 5 o'clock tonight. The health club is always interesting that time of night.
Very soon (like within the next week) will be buying size 38 jeans. When I started they were size 56 and growing, so to see the day when the size starts with a '3' again is quite nice.
Personal training at 5 o'clock tonight. The health club is always interesting that time of night.
Very soon (like within the next week) will be buying size 38 jeans. When I started they were size 56 and growing, so to see the day when the size starts with a '3' again is quite nice.
BeHappyWMe
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Congrats on your new low.
The health clubs do get interesting around that time. Why is that? Diversification?
The health clubs do get interesting around that time. Why is that? Diversification?
MrVee
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229.5 this morning.
Gonna try and play some basketball later today. The folks start to file in around 3:30 so I'll have to get some work done until then. It's such a great cardio workout without the repetitive stress of jogging on a treadmill. I try to bury my self-consciousness of being the "old guy" out there, but sometimes it's not easy, particularly if I don't shoot well.
The dating site has some sort of meetup tonight at a local bar. Considering going, though once again "self-conscious" and all that. My brain can be a pain sometimes.
Gonna try and play some basketball later today. The folks start to file in around 3:30 so I'll have to get some work done until then. It's such a great cardio workout without the repetitive stress of jogging on a treadmill. I try to bury my self-consciousness of being the "old guy" out there, but sometimes it's not easy, particularly if I don't shoot well.
The dating site has some sort of meetup tonight at a local bar. Considering going, though once again "self-conscious" and all that. My brain can be a pain sometimes.
Quercus
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Go early and have a drink before anyone else shows. You'll be feeling social while they are still feeling awkward. Remember ever person at the meetup will be there because they also have difficulties meeting people or they wouldn't be on the site. Just go. It will be a hive of self-consciousness at that meeting, but there may also be some honey. 
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