The key to being a successful loon is to know it and embrace it. That's what the cat told me this morning, and he's never wrong. Except for what he told me about moles, they actually are quite unpalatable.
On the topic of ladies, have you tried eHarmony? I met my wife through it, and she still seems to like me, 8 years later (5-year anniversary coming up). Helpful hint if you do it: be in a good mood when you're doing your psych profile. I did it once in a pissy mood, and I met some real whackos (like the cynic named Happy, or the good friend of my 6th grade bully). When I retook it, I was quick to find a few really good matches.