Journey, Not A Destination

That was one day I chowed down 3000 calories, and another day I ate 2700. It was the first time I consciously took a break from dieting. I feel like a dummy for asking. I also haven't been weighing myself frequently. Its possible I could have dipped below 180 and missed it.

Also, there was a period of a three weeks where I didn't track.

I asked because someone put the idea forward to me that I was "maintaining at 2000" calories and I wondered if this could be so.

Sorry for the confusion. I am watching the scales and calories more closely these days. Its just that I've been this weight since June I think and I didn't think I'd slipped that much.

Did you see BigDaves before and after shots?
 
Hi Steve, just catching up with how people are doing as I haven't been around for a while. Glad it's all going ok for ya. :) x
 
Happychubette said:
That was one day I chowed down 3000 calories, and another day I ate 2700. It was the first time I consciously took a break from dieting. I feel like a dummy for asking. I also haven't been weighing myself frequently. Its possible I could have dipped below 180 and missed it.

Also, there was a period of a three weeks where I didn't track.

I asked because someone put the idea forward to me that I was "maintaining at 2000" calories and I wondered if this could be so.

Sorry for the confusion. I am watching the scales and calories more closely these days. Its just that I've been this weight since June I think and I didn't think I'd slipped that much.

Did you see BigDaves before and after shots?
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Well we can't answer the question unless you are more consistent and track more closely. Are you tracking your cals daily?

Also, if you are CERTAIN you've been in a deficit for such a long time without losing a lb.... something is off. Either your calculations are wrong or you need to take a dieting break.

No, I don't think I saw Bigdaves pics. Why?
 
Hi Steve,

I am checking in after work because my chaotic work schedule just does not seem to give me time to pop by and say hello. Work has me on the edge of frazzled and exhausted and it gets harder and harder to read and post. :( Most days I get to do one or the other.

You can read my ENTIRE whine-fest in my diary....:D

I hope you get your hand looked at...but I understand your reluctance, too.

Take care!
 
bethann1156 said:
Hi Steve,

I am checking in after work because my chaotic work schedule just does not seem to give me time to pop by and say hello. Work has me on the edge of frazzled and exhausted and it gets harder and harder to read and post. :( Most days I get to do one or the other.

You can read my ENTIRE whine-fest in my diary....:D

I hope you get your hand looked at...but I understand your reluctance, too.

Take care!
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Hey Beth.... sorry work is hectic right now. I'm in the same boat. I haven't been around as much as I'd like. I just have so much going right now. Some good some bad. I'm trying my hardest to focus on the good and ward off the feelings of anxiety!

Hope your schedule clears up real soon.

Thanks for stopping by. :)
 
Quote of the Day

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.



The drops of rain make a hole in the stone not by violence but by oft falling.



I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday.



Random thought of the day:

Who can actually say they have complete control of their mind? I've met a lot of successful people in my time. Success defined not only by riches... but also control and happiness. Groundedness if you will. Or even contentedness.

The one thing they all have in common besides focus is simply consistent thoughts. They keep the negativity to a minimum all while maintaining cautiousness and awareness. They don't fool themselves into believing negativity will not creep in. They know it surely will. However, they've created a mindset where they're naturally ready for it. Not necessarily waiting for it. And most definitely not focusing on it.

Instead, they spend their time focusing on things that make them feel powerful, accomplished, motivated, and everything else we call happy and good. And this establishes the most important quality: Drive. These emotions or qualities act as the fuel for drive and determination.

The older I get and the further I get in this journey called life, the more I realize how much my mindset affects my actions. It's the backbone of all that I do. If things aren't going the way I'd like or if I'm not feeling 100%, 9/10 times it's because I slipped and let my mind run on autopilot. If I'm dealing with a client who just can't stay on the wagon, it's quite easy to see from my viewpoint that their own mentality is sabotaging their conscious efforts.

I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. I guess it's just a reminder for myself and to any of those who read this. Listen.

Listen to the things you say to yourself. They matter more than what anyone else can say to you.

Positive thinking has become a *movement* with a bunch of snake oil and voodoo associated with it. You've got a bunch of gimmicky, sneaky individuals on stage promoting positive thinking and it leads the masses to believe that it's just another scam.

I beg you to look past that.

Just as repetitive advertisements can drive spending, a host of repetitive thoughts drive behavior.

If you don't like the term, "positive thinking," think of it as "anti-negative thinking."
 
Steve said:
If things aren't going the way I'd like or if I'm not feeling 100%, 9/10 times it's because I slipped and let my mind run on autopilot.

Just as repetitive advertisements can drive spending, a host of repetitive thoughts drive behavior.

If you don't like the term, "positive thinking," think of it as "anti-negative thinking."
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Hi Steve!

Life has been very difficult for me lately and at first I reacted wrongly. I sort of went on a bender, while faking positive thinking in the middle. Of course, having never suffered a broken heart I didn't really know how to deal with it. Not to mention having to find another job at the same exact time. But I did everything in my power to heal and it has been working. I noticed I had let myself slip--and a newfound self-discipline is saving me. Facing fears and changing oneself is hard, but it's also wonderful and great and right. I'm trying my hardest to not worry and to have faith everything will come out OK, whether things get worse before they get better. Positive thinking is actually very tricky--I had to throw in positive feeling there too, because I couldn't do one without the other. But I'm more emo than you ;) Have a great day!
 
Curvie Girlie said:
Hi Steve!

Life has been very difficult for me lately and at first I reacted wrongly. I sort of went on a bender, while faking positive thinking in the middle. Of course, having never suffered a broken heart I didn't really know how to deal with it. Not to mention having to find another job at the same exact time. But I did everything in my power to heal and it has been working. I noticed I had let myself slip--and a newfound self-discipline is saving me. Facing fears and changing oneself is hard, but it's also wonderful and great and right. I'm trying my hardest to not worry and to have faith everything will come out OK, whether things get worse before they get better. Positive thinking is actually very tricky--I had to throw in positive feeling there too, because I couldn't do one without the other. But I'm more emo than you ;) Have a great day!
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Hey Val.

First, sorry for the rough patch. I read in your journal.... hang in there.

IMO, positive emotion is a derivative of positive thinking. Tell me how you establish positive emotion without positive thinking. I'm intrigued.
 
Quote of the Day

We lift ourselves by our thought, we climb upon our vision of ourselves. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. Hold the ideal of yourself as you long to be, always, everywhere - your ideal of what you long to attain - the ideal of health, efficiency, success.


When a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is any thing you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.


Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.


Random thought of the day:

Reading through some new members intros here, it became apparent to me that many people expect anything to work. As long as they are thinking about diet and moving a little more, they expect that fat to simply melt away.

I appreciate anyone trying to lose weight. It's a constant uphill journey.

However, I don't respect the effort nearly as much when one is stagnant in their approach. Your approach must be dynamic.

Coming in here and saying you've been doing something for 5 months without success tells me you're already not going about this the right way.

You should never let months pass by without change. If you do, you are not being proactive/reactive enough.

Track your progress. Make changes when necessary. And changes will be necessary in everyone's journey.

Manage your expectations as well as your plan.
 
Hi Steve. Good advice as usual.

Now that I don't have a car at my disposal all the time, it's put me in a different frame of mind. It's amazing how we think nothing of using the car to go more than 50 feet from where we live. That alone probably accounts for a lot of the obesity epidemic in this country, along with the crappy food that's sold in the stores and advertised 24/7.
 
TomO said:
Hi Steve. Good advice as usual.

Now that I don't have a car at my disposal all the time, it's put me in a different frame of mind. It's amazing how we think nothing of using the car to go more than 50 feet from where we live. That alone probably accounts for a lot of the obesity epidemic in this country, along with the crappy food that's sold in the stores and advertised 24/7.
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You better believe it. I definitely agree. Take cars out of the equation and energy expenditure would go through the roof!
 
not completely true - I haven't owned a car for more than 10 years - and lived in a city where I did have to walk everywhere - didn't help me much...
 
maleficent said:
not completely true - I haven't owned a car for more than 10 years - and lived in a city where I did have to walk everywhere - didn't help me much...
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That doesn't do anything to the validity of my statement.

Take cars out of the picture and energy expenditure would go up.

It wouldn't cure obesity.

It would aid the solution. The solution being energy balance.
 
Steve,
Thank you for that post. It makes complete sense to me as I am trying to lose the weight. I am determined to do this the right way and always keep at it. I am now a strong believer in taking measurements to track the progress. Your post reaffirmed that it is up to me to get it done no matter the cost of doing it! Thank you

David
 
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