Journey, Not A Destination

Sorry to hear about your loss Steve.
My thoughts are with you, as are the thoughts of most of the rest of the forum by the looks as well :)
 
Hi Steve, I'm so sorry to hear about that. I know nothing can really make a person feel better when they feel like this, except time. But, as you can see on here, a lot of people really do care :)
 
My condolences, Steve. Death is difficult to comprehend sometimes. I found myself really gettting hit hard a year afterwards, out of nowhere. I'm so glad that you spent qualilty time with him on the weekends. That's really special. Car accidents take so many lives...I'm really sorry :(
 
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Wow.

That is all I can say. I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of the kind words everyone has left throughout the day. It means so much to me.

Thanks, and I love you guys.

Today was really tough. I am so drained, physically and emotionally. We spent half of the day with my friend's family. It is a very tight knit, large group of friends. Everyone knows everyone, including families. We are fortunate for this. And we have all been tested numerous times as a "unit."

I must say, we all pull through for each other remarkably well.

The second half of the day was spent at my good friend's house. We had about 50 people over. It was like a high school reunion. Lot's of tears. More importantly, a lot of celebration of Jared's life.

I actually went into Jared's room while I was at his parent's, and dug around for his camera. Found it. Took it and got a lot of pictures developed to pass around. It brought a lot of smiles to many faces.

Life is over in a flash. You never know when your time is up. It is obvious that you shouldn't waste a single moment of it. But situations like this always reinforce that idea. On top of this, I beg of you to spend your time wisely. So many of us are consumed by negatives. I hate my job. I don't like this person. I hate this about myself. I wish I could change this. Why do I have to do this.

The list is endless.

Life is far too short to let these thoughts consume your mind. Not only is it too short, but the opportunity cost from letting these thoughts consume your mind is enormous.

So live happily. Think good thoughts. Focus on the positive. Learn. Respect. Love. Give. Hope. Comfort. Forgive. Progress.

Let these things consume you. When your time is up, you will be happy you did.

I am sure I am rambling, but it has been an awfully long day. I hope everyone is well, and talk to you tomorrow.
 
oh steve you're an amazing person. you're not rambling. these words were so beautiful. you are right. we need to focus on the good and positive sides. life is beautiful and we should celebrate it.

I admire you for being this strong, as britta said you are a beautiful person. and your friends are happy to have you in their lives.

an extremely warm hug to you steve

Lena
 
Something my best friends father said after hearing his son's friend speak of him with love, respect, admiration and humor - that a man's worth is measured by the company he keeps... and what they think of him... it sounds like Jared was a remarkable young man. Which you knew and I'm sure his family knew as well.

Every year on the anniversary of Tom's death, his father plays golf because it's one of the places that he and Tom shared many many happy memories... Spend lots of time fishing in the future as I'm sure it will bring you many happy memories of your friend.

To quote Jerry Springer - and I don't do this often -- quote jerry springer that is - Take care of yourself and each other... and get some rest...
 
I was so sorry to read about your tragic loss, what you say is true about life being so short you mustn't dwell on the negative.

I am glad to hear you have a tight knit community and that you can all draw strength from one another at a time like this.

My thoughts go out to you.
 
Thanks guys. :eek:

I took the day off from work and I am just going to relax today. It is amazing the way something like this can drain you, not only emotionally, but physically too!
 
Very wise words, indeed, Steve. But not surprising from you. I haven't met a lot of people you age I would take life advice from, but you are quite the exception.
 
Just dropping in to say Hi. I have been thinking about you and the family. I have no great words of wisdom or even of comfort,but I am thinking of you and will keep you in my prayers.
 
Even through your grief you have inspired me to go out and live my best day today. I am sorry about your friend Jared.

I was moaning to myself about not feeling up to gardening today even though I know its the best thing I can do for myself today. Now I'm going to go to the job site and make a start.

My condolences to your kith and kin. (did I get that right?) Its Scottish.
 
Steve, thank you for everything, and we're lucky to have you. We always enjoy the words of wisdom, and I'm sure we'll all remember to enjoy life and stay positive. I know I will! Losing my dad when he was 41 kind of forced me into a positive perspective, as counterintuitive as that may sound.

Take care! :)
 
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