Steve, thank you for the quick reply to my PM. Here is another one for you...if you don't mind, of course. I wish I had all the knowledge you do...this whole thing would be a lot easier
You are welcome. And you can easily pick up A LOT of knowledge from forums like this. Everything that I know is scattered all over the web. And there are certainly people that know more than me.
You have to remember, this is my biggest passion in life.
The calorie thing is just blowing my mind. How can I eat MORE and not gain weight. I have struggled today to get up to almost 1400 cals. I still need more cals for the day and I am stuffed. My maintenance cals are2525.54 Normally, I would not eat anything else tonight, but I am not up to my needed calories. Should I eat even though I am not hungry...at all?
Few things here. How did you calculate your maintenance cals. Regardless of how you did, you have to remember that this is assuming you have a *healthy* metabolism currently.
If you have been eating so few calories for any appreciable length of time, your metabolism has certainly slowed. Depending on how severe the deficit and how long the deficit, the slower it will be. Hence, 2525 would not be your maintenance.
Next, I forget if you told me your weight, or how much weight you have to lose. However, if you have a good bit to lose, that means you haven't been eating so few cals forever. The way you are talking, 2525 seems like an unreal amount of food to you. However, at one point, that was your maintenance, unless you have something going on medically. So, logically, at one point, you were eating OVER this amount, which caused the weight gain.
You can't create something out of nothing. One of the laws of thermodynamics states, in different words, that you can't create nor destroy energy.... it only changes form. So, you had to be adding an amount of energy over and above that of your maintenance level to create storage. Follow me?
A lot of people, when I tell them this, say, "There is no way I ever ate that much." However, eating *bad* foods add up extremely quickly. Many have absolutely no idea. Start throwing in restaurant foods, high cal drinks, etc.
So what should you do from here?
You see, the problem with eating so little is your metabolism drops, as I said above. When this happens, you lock yourself into a rock and a hard place. To create a deficit at your *new* lower maintenance, you have to eat a ridiculously small amount of cals. This may seem fine to you, but with such a restricted amount of food, I highly doubt (I would put money on it) that you would be able to get all of the macro and micro nutrients in that you need for overall health. Not to mention that they work synergistically with the other components of a weight loss plan.
That is the rock.
The hard place is, now that you have established such an inefficient metabolism, it becomes extremely easy to eat AT or OVER maintenance. I mean, your body will actually fight you to eat more. This is why many people get cravings.
With this rock and hard place, it is rare for people to experience continued weight loss. IMO, it is impossible to do it with good health in mind.
All of these words I just typed are assuming you plateaued from chronic under-eating already. If you haven't, then these words are what WILL happen if you continue to eat so few calories.
Okay Steve!!!! You still haven't answered my questions! I will below.
I always thought my problem was over eating
If you have fat to lose, you were overeating at some point. I already touched on this above.
but I am starting to think I have been in mild starvation mode for a long time now.
Depends on how much weight you have to lose, and again, I apologize if you already told me. I talk to MANY people on here. People think that the starvation mode is some switch that can be turned on and off. It is not an event, rather it is a process. An overblown one in the "media."
You see, if you have excess fat on your body, the *starvation mode* is not going to be triggered. I am not going to get into the science of it. Just know, our bodies do not work like this. From the above statement of yours though, I take it that your weight is not coming off?
Do I have to eat more and gain weight to correct this problem? I will do whatever is necessary...even if that means temporarily gaining weight.
Eating more does not directly cause weight loss. Eating more though, might be the answer, which will directly fix your metabolism, and indirectly create a *system* where weight can come off easier. Follow me?
Sorry for the long, drawn out verbage.... but I think it is important for you to understand. We obviously have more to talk about, which we will. Let this sink in and see if you have anymore questions.
Thanks so much...you guru, you

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