Yes tetemcg...technology has made this semi-bearable
Good idea about the treat to motivate you. I think something like that may work for me too!
Hi Mandy-it is easier to have that kind of routine. Food is not a struggle for me unless I am stressed/annoyed. If I am not either of those things than there can be a plate of cookies right in front of me and I don't even think about them. So my relationship with food when stressed (because it is doubtful I can remove all stress ; ) is something that I must deal with!
And now I feel like crap again. When I did go back to work, couldn't just ease in gently. I have a big meeting today and I had to have a meeting with my boss on Tuesday to 'prepare' her for her part. No one has ever had to prepare me for anything, so holding someone's hand is all ready annoying to me.
Then she had received updated information which she didn't share, because she didn't even realize how important it was and rambled on for 45 minutes longer, which meant I left late. She had literally scribbled all of these notes on a letter that she had and missed the fact that it said, "We recommend your funding." The meeting is to get the f?*king funding.
I find out from someone else yesterday about this, go to tell her (big mistake) she blew that off said "Oh yeah I read that didn't know what it meant." and then proceeded to ramble on about some meeting (which was useless) that she really needed her team at. I explained: I was in another meeting. I know about the subject you are talking about. It is many months away and may not even come to fruition.
I had to once again remind her that I manage 5 departments and that I have people who need things from me besides her. Then like the loon that she is, her mood changes like someone flipped a switch and says that she loves talking to me because of my intellect (eye roll) and that she appreciates how blunt and honest I am. One day when I tell her that her issues are severely detrimental to our organization and that I have had enough she just may not.
She got this job because one other person applied, that person was not technically qualified per the law for the job and the people interviewing her don't work in the same location and could care less. The reason only 2 people applied is because with her kind of degree if you are good at your job then you can make a lot more money else where. That is why people in her position within the multiple branches of our organization are often not the cream of the crop, as those people go else where.
In many other states, you do not need her degree to do her job any more, I think the leadership in those states realized how stupid that law was.
She literally rambled on for 40 minutes about how busy she is, how stressed she is, how now trying to meet with us to tell us this useless information is stressful to her and then vehemently said f*$K!!!!
She had scribbled notes from this meeting all over a piece of paper...backwards, sideways...looked like something a person in a mental institution would do. Next time I will wait until 5 minutes before an important meeting and as we are waiting to go in tell her..."Oh btw we got the funding."
I did not grab junk. That is a huge victory for me. I am mad that I should have to deal with this. I do not particularly care what her problem is. I do very much care that it has become my problem. I did some Google searches about how do you work for a person like this??? And all I could find was that you should be patient, understand that they have issues, that the issue may make them a dynamic person who just needs to be gently guided (whatever that means.) And to not take their mood swings personal or the fact that they may change subjects multiple times in a conversation. Just grand!
So..day one of my New Year's Resolution successful. And I will not let this loon get to me and make me miserable in the job that I have had for 13 years this month. Unfortunately all of the talking severely aggravated my throat and I don't feel well. Easy enough to solve:I won't talk to her very much in the future.
