Diary: Curvie Girlie: A Yo-Yo's Reformation

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Oh i understand hun, I've been there before. Before hubby and I got married, we lived together for 3 yrs, then we broke up and I got my own place. It was REALLY hard sleeping by myself and I still say it was the sadest time in my life.....oops sorry, didnt' mean to ramble, just saying I COMPLETELY understand!

I'm glad you want him to travel, it would be nice. It shows alot of selflessness too. Shoot, if I could go back in time before I had kids, I'd travel EVERYWHERE, if I could, lol Once you have a family its so much harder to do that.
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Korrie: sorry about that! :cry: Yes, I have to say I feel similarly, BUT I'm also proud of myself for living on my own without a boyfriend for once. Yes, when I moved out at 20 to Santa Cruz, I did it with my ex boyfriend Justin, and when we broke up when I was 23, I lived alone for about 3 months before my new boyfriend Nat moved in with me. And then we've lived together until August 2007. I like sleeping alone some nights. Other times like this week, I been missing my cuddly, bubble-butted boyfriend.

And yes. Maybe it's shitty, but I like my boyfriend's skinny body--it's not his fault! It's genetics! IF he were to gain a lot of weight, I would still be attracted to him and probably find him even more cuddly :) But his ski-slope lower back and chubby buns........uh oh, TMI, sorry guys! :eek:

Thanks for the sweet words, and here's my perspective: my heart wants this guy, in my life for a while. My mind says I can wait for a while for him to get to the point in his life where he'd want to live with a woman. My wisdom says that he would benefit from going somewhere and doing something for a while, AND so would I. We don't have children; best to keep it that way for another decade. Wherever I go, I seem to hear people, but especially men, say to wait as long as possible before going and doing something crazy like get married and have kids. I think I'm cool with that. I certainly want the rest of my twenties to mess around, let me put it that way! OH! And also, no offense to anyone who got married and had kids in her 20s, that's FINE and it can work out splendidly for a lot of people, too! (just not me)

I have a blood-chilling fear that the ol' bio-clock is gonna kick in earlier than my rational mind sees fit; I heard a male acquaintance say, "Yeah, I broke up with my girlfriend cause I didn't want to settle down."
Me: "Oh really? She pressure you to get married?"
Him: "Uh, no not really. But it was like, silent pressure. Like I could sense her waiting for me to pop the question."
Me: "M'kay." Thinking: whoa that's rough.
Yeah, that's not what I want to do to a man, least of all my Honey. Marriage isn't so important to me, I seen my great Aunt and her boyfriend (whom had been "Uncle Tony" since before my) get married in their 50s! People do things their own way; I'm no exception.

Whoa what am I talking about!!! :leaving:
 
Hey sweetie, just catching up on you. Love the pics and the beautiful bracelet. I think the party invitation is a great play on words and its coupled with an innocent rather than sexy pic which I like. I only wish I lived closer so I could join the festivities!
 
Hey Sweetie!
Sure did miss you while you were you gone!
But from your pics it looks like you had a great time!
Welcome back!
 
Great pics Val. You soooo don't look 154, carry your weight extremely well. I wouldn't sweat it, weight is just a number. You've got the look.

Hope all is well!
 
Curvie Girlie said:
I have a blood-chilling fear that the ol' bio-clock is gonna kick in earlier than my rational mind sees fit; I heard a male acquaintance say, "Yeah, I broke up with my girlfriend cause I didn't want to settle down."
Me: "Oh really? She pressure you to get married?"
Him: "Uh, no not really. But it was like, silent pressure. Like I could sense her waiting for me to pop the question."
Me: "M'kay." Thinking: whoa that's rough.
Yeah, that's not what I want to do to a man, least of all my Honey. Marriage isn't so important to me, I seen my great Aunt and her boyfriend (whom had been "Uncle Tony" since before my) get married in their 50s! People do things their own way; I'm no exception.
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Ya know, this is slightly funny, but only because I have SOOOO TOTALLY been there!! I'm so glad to have gone through that before so I can offer you some insight!

Its a really bad position to be in to want to get married, and yet your b/f doesn't. I KNOW! I went through it for years, it drove me CRAZY!!! I did play little games w/ him. I did make it VERY clear I wanted to get married and at one point I moved out (like I said earlier) b/c he didnt' want to get married and I did. I was thinking w/ my moving out that he would miss me so much that he'd want me to come back and we'd get married. Well, he did want me to come back but he still wasnt' as interested in getting married as I had hoped.

Anyways, We did end up getting married (obsiously) but for YEARS he was very resentful toward me b/c he always said I pushed him into it. He didnt' want to get married yet but he got sick of hearing about it and gave in. Believe me, those words hurt...bad! BUT one time I had enough of hearing about it so I told him I was not gonna continue to live w/ him knowing how much he resented me for it. SO, I packed up my kids and left....about 2 dys later he came back begging me to move in w/ him again. I told him I would, but only under the contition that he was NEVER to say that I "pushed him into the marriage" b/c at that point, he was CHOOSING for us to get back together and stay married.....I never heard about it again.

But let me tell ya, it was a long sad time, so you REALLY don't wanna do that to yourself hun!! Oh, and don't worry about your biological clock hun, people are having babies in their 40's!!

I know I rambled alot, but I hope it helped you some???
 
Hey Val :) love your bracelet and your pics and your invitation hehe, sounds like a lot of fun

as for bf hey i'm 29 and my bio clock is just starting to sound off. sure, i had instincts earlier, but i wanted to have some fun first. i don't see anything wrong with that. me and bf now do have some plans, but it took as about 7 years lol
go, travel, see the world if you can. enjoy life :)
 
WOW VBF, that bracelet is gorgeous! I love jewelry girlie! and not necessarily expensive or gems, my girlfriend makes jewelry and she has made me several gorgeous pieces, she even made me a awesome Pooh watch, yeah it had the pooh face, but she hand made the band using precious stones and other items, so, so cute! Home made jewelry one of my FAVORITES! we have a BUTT LOAD of Indian jewelry in our state, UMMMM we have a ton of tribes here, so who would have thought right? lol lol

Well cutie, I hope your week is going well, and I hope you get the chance to enjoy every minute of it without worrying about your weight. We can all suck it up and blast our asses off after the New Year, so don't worry!

Have a wonderful day sweetie!!
HUGS
KIM
 
Hey, Val! Just dropping in to say hi and wish you some happy holiday times after my long absence.

You still look smokin' at 154. Seriously.

-Tamara
 
I met H when we were 25. By 27 I was ready to get married. He wasn't. I didn't really mention it b/c I didn't want to be one of those nagging girlfriends who are always whining to their bf's to marry them. I stuck it out until 29, and then I told him I was moving back to the US (we were in Australia at the time). I told him I wanted to get married and have children, and if he didn't, that was fine, but I needed to know bc if not, I was moving on and finding someone who wanted the same things I did. Well, that made him decide he wanted to get married. :) Now I'm doing a similar thing re having kids.

So if you ever find yourself in a relationship where he's dragging his feet about popping the question, don't bug him about it, just be honest like I was. If it's meant to be, he'll ask. If not, move on and find someone who's eager for the same things you are. :)

MERRY CHRISTMAS!
 
I just thought that I would pop by and wish you a Merry Christmas. :party:
I hope that you are having a wonderful time.
 
Curvie Girlie said:
SO yeah, I been busy--busy gaining weight, sheesh! I'm now up to 154.0 lbs. But that's OK, I'm ready to get back in the saddle :)
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Me too. I've been away. Up ten pounds. Jeans don't fit. I blew my maintenance. But I'm looking for that sweet inspiration that I had last year at this time. My one year anniversary is up on Jan 7 (wlf). You are looking just fabulous, suntanned and your hair is gorgeous.
 
VBF Where ARE U GIRLFRIEND?????????????????

I hope this means your out having some fun!!! Do you have great plan for NEW YEAR EVE??? Must share pics as I'm sure you will be out living it up!

HOPE YOUR WELL, and I hope the job and family are going strong!
LOTS OF LOVE!

XOX
Kimmers!
 
Howdy Val,hope Your Having Lottttts Of Fun And Taking
Lottttts Of Pictures Lol,have A Gr8 Week And Happy New Years!
****hugggs*****tammy
 
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