Diary: Curvie Girlie: A Yo-Yo's Reformation

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I can't think of anything funny...It's 6:35 AM I can barely manage to hit my mouth with my oatmeal spoon 3 times in 5...

But, as to intensity, as we get older I think we do become less intense. I don't think we have less intensity, but what we have is spent over the wider range of life experience, if that makes any sense. It feels that way with me.

Also as you grow older (mindfully) you can channel that intensity into areas of your life in constructive ways. You already have channeled it into your weight loss, and your honest, healthy critique of your role in the relationship.

Intensity is a precious gift. Great people are usually very intense, it is the driving force behind excellence. Do not lament it!

Men often have a hard time dealing with it, because it scares us. Sorta tips sideways the normal male dominance in a relationship. So you may have a hard time with relationships until you find a guy who is really confident of his male-ness enough not to feel threatened by a strong woman. Ideally nobody needs to bend much, you'll fit.

I'm certain you'll do fine.

David C
 
I have to agree with what David posted 100%, your just not finding the "RIGHT" type of guy to fit your personality and needs. So your compromising and trying to make a "not so good" relationship fit. Like trying to squeeze that triangle into a large circle, only certain parts are going to be covered, but there will be many leaks to fill and in a solid relationship you shouldn't be spending your time filling holes. Does that make sense??? As my husband taught me early on in our relationship, it's not 50/50 it's 100/100 and if your both not putting in 100%, then your not giving it your all and it will never work, again you will be spending to much time on trying to figure out how to fill those gaps. The gaps could be anything in a relationship. Intimacy, friendship, verbal communication, respect, compassion and so much more. If all of these are not working together, then your spending to much time "WORKING" on a relationship, then you are developing and enjoying a relationship. Okay, I've going on and on again. I'm just saying David is right, your a strong, independent women, and a lot of men are intimidated by that, but there are some out there that find it sexy, and THOSE are the men you need to hook up with. You'll run into him some day, when you least expect, don't rush it, let it come to you!
Kim
 
Damn girl - all I can say is WOW - I just read through the last 3 pages of your diary...I hate to say it but I am happy that the break up finally happenned you deserve much better...and Ihated reading abt his manipulative ways and hte same shit you are going through with him that i went htrough...I wish we were everyday friends - that we lived closer adn could talk on the phone or hang out - I woudl totally give you a space to crash and stay or live if you needed it.

Im sorry for all you are going for and Im sorry I havent been here for you
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Hey val,
You're a strong and beautiful person, ya know... I'm sure if you stick it out, you'll find Mr. Right. There's no shame in being hard up for love/comfort/sex/cuddles/etc. We're women. We're supposed to want those things. :D

I'd be more worried if you didn't want them...

You're going to have a brigade of men trying to see if they can snatch you up! Be wary and try not to get hooked on one until you think he's not just in it for "bangin' the hot chick". Hahaha.. I had to say it! :D You know you're hot :p

I hope things get better with the jobbie-job situation. Now would be a really good time to see what you can do about wine school. :D

We're here for ya.

- Sunny
 
Count me in on the support.

Phew girl! I just caught up on you and you do have a lot going on.

Not sure how this info could be useful but I believe the control freak manager you dont get along with orchestrated this to get you out of her way. Though I'm not saying you deserved this treatment at all the manager is not going to want to work with someone she doesn't get along with and I believe she figured out a way to get rid of you. Living with mommy dearest :)rotflmao:) doesnt sound like a healthy option though.
 
Blancita said:
Not sure how this info could be useful but I believe the control freak manager you dont get along with orchestrated this to get you out of her way.
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I think so too, honestly!!

Thanks so much everyone!!!

I just want to post real quick--I'm taking myself out to dinner at my fav restaurant (Thai Orchid) and I'm going to Ladies' Night at the brewery by myself and I'm bringing my wine book with me!!!

I feel GREAT today

I feel empowered.

I'm SO HAPPY the MISERY is OVER.

I am SINGLE!!!!!!!!!:D​

I'm ready to date, LOL!!! Watch out world!!!!
 
Sounds like a great night. Wonderful company too ;) Hope you had fun on your dinner and wine book reading at the brewery - sounds great to me!!!

Keep that outlook on life going and you can't go wrong my friend :)
 
Oh YEAH!! That's my girl!! GO GET EM~~~~~~~ Your the women!! GIRL POWER!! ENJOY IT, EMBRACE IT, AND TEAR IT UP!! in a good way of course! HEHEHHEEH I hope your night out was fantastic! I hope you met up with some fantastic people there and had a HUMDINGER OF A TIME!! I can't wait to hear all about it!
Kim
 
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