Diary: Curvie Girlie: A Yo-Yo's Reformation

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Here's an essay I had to write for my World Wines class. I wasn't thrilled about the assigment (and it was only a 1-pager), but once I was done I was happier with it.


Wine and Music? Who Knew​

When asked to do this assignment, I plunged into immediate deep contemplation: What the heck? My favorite wine to go with music? I liked the idea but automatically ran into a problem that, no doubt, my fellow classmates have also run into: I don’t have a favorite wine. I don’t have a favorite song. Well, it’s time to get creative! I suppose I can do a run through on several “symbiotic” wines and music with the intention of addressing the issues, where, when, why, and how.
After a busy day taking wine orders for my company, one can imagine that office work centered solely on wine can make a frazzled me reach for a bottle in my “cellar” (closet). One would be right! I have a penchant for collecting Cabernet Sauvignons that I can’t really touch for another 7 years or more. But I must say, I do have a soft place in my heart for Pinot Noirs, Syrahs, Petite Sirahs, and (believe it or not), high quality Chardonnays.
For my Pinots, I open them, pour them into my special Riedel Pinot Noir glass, and pray that the winemaker did them right and I don’t choke on the acidity. Music that I’d prefer to hear would probably be “Buckethead’s” Too Many Humans, a very mellow, relaxing, non-vocal song that runs for about 10 minutes and has different movements to go with the main, hypnotic guitar playing. Pinot Noirs tend to open up, and are complex, mellow and smooth out with time—sometimes over the course of an hour. Buckethead can cater to that. The Pinot glass’s very shape is pretty to look at, and different—just like Pinot Noir itself, and, dare I say, Buckethead’s musical ability. Mellow and relaxing is the name of the game. Warning: do not listen to Too Many Humans in heavy traffic on Highway 17—you will get depressed.
Syrahs and especially Petite Sirahs have a special place in my heart—I adore the kind that smell like the incense in a head shop. If they maintain this scent, and have that wonderful, strong, structured taste with deep black berries to compliment, I’m sprung. As a devout listener to hip hop and even Gangsta Rap, I’d choose, a seductive Sirah or Pet to drink to the famed and tragic Tupac Shakur’s How Do You Want It. I do love this song. It makes me happy. I love a fabulously done Petite Sirah. It makes me happy as well. Add them together and you have one happy Valerie! I suppose I can’t make much more of a connection than that, other than make a far-fetched comment that the strong, seductive Syrah (or Pet) goes well with the strong, seductive bass line of How Do You Want It. Actually, on second thought, that’s exactly the connection! Yes, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Ah, Chardonnays. My love-hate relationship with them makes it difficult for me to fully enjoy a decent Chard. My beloved boyfriend doesn’t particularly enjoy white wine, so I have to share a bottle with my alcoholic housemate. Guiltily. Amazingly, my boyfriend only likes Rombauer Chardonnay—of all Chards!!! (Can you believe that he actually purchased a bottle himself and drank it once, without sharing or telling me????) Back to the subject: I recently discovered Tolosa Winery’s 2004 Chardonnay—actually complex (for a Chard), delicious, with a perfect blend of acidity, oak, and floral components. I don’t even sell it and I love it! I would drink this fine Chardonnay to some Mozart—I am a sucker for Wolffy. His symphonies are racy and relaxing all at once—similar to my opinion of a well-done Chardonnay.
So in conclusion, I’ll have to pay more attention to wine and music—because after writing this I realized there may be more of a connection than I’d originally thought. Now I just have to find some music to go with Sangiovese….
 
Nice essay. I like the eclectic taste in music :). I am so hitting you up for advice when I'm looking for wine to buy for gifts.
 
Thanks C Man! I hoped someone might enjoy it. Yes, let me know if you need advice--although I must say I would push one of our company's wine first! where are you located???
 
As a devout listener to hip hop and even Gangsta Rap, I’d choose, a seductive Sirah or Pet to drink to the famed and tragic Tupac Shakur’s How Do You Want It. I do love this song. It makes me happy.
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Val, do you ever watch Oprah. I don't usually, but my wife got me to sit down for her show yesterday, when she had a "town hall meeting" show to discuss the situation with Don Imus. Mostly, though, the show was about rap and hip-hop, and the mysogeny and foul words accepted as part of this medium. As a fan of this genre, I'm wondering what you think.
 
Curvie Girlie said:
LOL! Ha ha! I love that! Funny stuff!

Yes, sex is almost always on my mind...I'm worse than a man....I have a very active fantasy life, and I also LOVE fulfilling my BF's fantasies. He's so sweet :) The sex has always been good, but you know how sex in the beginning is more exciting and better? We got into a bit of a slump last summer, mainly because I was going crazy with all the death around me and the healing from the ex boyfriend hating us....and also going from 150 to 160 and NOT being happy about it at all!

I was going through ROUGH TIMES. The weight gain hurt that even worse. And it became a hinderance to sex. Yes, I was having a hard time with self esteem and confidence in the midst. I went and saw a psychologist four times, and she cured me (or I cured myself with her help). I felt better about myself and was healing from the death and the devastation. But my weight stayed around 154-158 lbs, until December 26th when I made my vow to be 135-ish lbs by August 07. Since I have gone from 158 to 139, my self esteem and confidence are back, full-force. But also, my perspective hasn't changed much. I still don't think that I've changed as a person. My life is great, but the weight alone has NOT improved the quality of it. I've improved the quality of my life--with the power of my will and my mind, to grow and change and also use my body more efficiently. All this complied has given me amazing sexual confidence, and I couldn't have that if I wasn't with a man who loves and adores me--and who's proud of me for my accomplishments--and last night he told me how much he loves that I appreciate him. I will never diss casual affairs. I just feel more comfortable with--no, I NEED--The Whole Enchilada. Then my sexual power can shine.

Hmmmmm...although I bet if I set my mind to it I could blow away some random hot dude.;)

JUST KIDDING!
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sunnydee said:
Hahaha, yeah you know you could! But I bet he couldn't do for you what your boyfriend can, which is equally important. Casual sex just doesn't serve the same purpose. To be honest, I can't actually say that from experience because I don't know much about casual sex. I just know it takes a while to figure each other out. And good sex takes a lot of figuring out.
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Curvie Girlie said:
me either. Anyone reading wanna fill us in?

HA!:D
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ok, i'll bite!

i chose the wrong time to take a break! all this good sex talk was taking place, and i missed it! i'm very open and honest when it comes to these discussions, and i find it hard at times to find other people who are willing to partake in these talks.

i love all things sex. i love thinking about sex, i love reading about sex, i love discussing sex, and most of all, i love having sex! with james, of course. because yes, there is a HUGE difference in casual sex and "in love" sex.

i will say that i have slept with 8 guys. 4 of them being long term boyfriends. the other 4 were all guys that i knew really well. i have never met someone and slept with him in the same night.

not trying to make everything sound like butterflies and roses, but i have never been in love with anyone like the way i am in love with james. i know, i know, people say that every time, but it is so true. one boyfriend was a great lover in the sense that he knew just what to do, but the emotional part of it just wasn't there. the other boyfriends weren't great, but i did feel more of a connection with them than with any of the other guys that i was friends with.

with james, however, it is amazing. words can't describe what it feels like to have him on top of me, stop, look down at my naked body, then look me in the eyes and tell me how beautiful i am. it nearly brings me to tears just thinking about it. i have never had this before. there is this extremely deep emotional connection that just enhances the sexual one. i want to please him in ways that he never thought possible just because i love him that much. i am so open and willing to try new things, because i am so comfortable with him. you just can't have anything like that with "just because i'm horny" sex.

i am not trying to make this sound like some cheesy romance novel, but it truly is how i feel.

i love sex talks!

but damn it... now i want some! :D
 
Curves, I loved the essay!! I've never really looked at wine as it relates to music, because I mainly drink just Merlot, so I guess I can say that I do tend to listen to jazz or blues when I'm drinking merlot. I love Tupac he grew up in my neck of the woods, and I can certainly see drinking some nice Sirah to his music. I think your pretty spot on, I just really need to force myself to drink more chardonnay, not my fav at all, but it's nice to have a change. Thanks for sharing your essay, I give you a big A+:D
Kim
 
TomO said:
Val, do you ever watch Oprah. I don't usually, but my wife got me to sit down for her show yesterday, when she had a "town hall meeting" show to discuss the situation with Don Imus. Mostly, though, the show was about rap and hip-hop, and the mysogeny and foul words accepted as part of this medium. As a fan of this genre, I'm wondering what you think.
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Tom, my love for hip hop went like this: I liked Howlin Wolf and John Lee Hooker; then I started loving Reggae. Then I started dabbling in "dancehall" and "dub" Reggae. Then my friends introduced me to intellectual hip hop. Then I started loving DJs' beats and got into scratching. In college, I did my senior thesis on hip hop and world-wide hegemony. In my research I found that hip hopsters flossin' (showing off how great they think they are and saluting their sexual prowess) is from a tradition of mic stands dating back to New York's early involvement with dancehall that led the birth of hip hop. THEN I started to like KDON, our local hip hop and R&B station. I fell in love with Mac Dre because he was hilarious and his beats are excellent. The words became like water to a duck's back. In fact, CHRIS ROCK explains it perfectly in his stand up, "Never Scared": (please watch this--it's hilarious and the end part explains exactly how a woman could like hip hop)

YouTube - Chris Rock about Rap Music
 
daiseeangel said:
not trying to make everything sound like butterflies and roses, but i have never been in love with anyone like the way i am in love with james. i know, i know, people say that every time, but it is so true. one boyfriend was a great lover in the sense that he knew just what to do, but the emotional part of it just wasn't there. the other boyfriends weren't great, but i did feel more of a connection with them than with any of the other guys that i was friends with.

with james, however, it is amazing. words can't describe what it feels like to have him on top of me, stop, look down at my naked body, then look me in the eyes and tell me how beautiful i am. it nearly brings me to tears just thinking about it. i have never had this before. there is this extremely deep emotional connection that just enhances the sexual one. i want to please him in ways that he never thought possible just because i love him that much. i am so open and willing to try new things, because i am so comfortable with him. you just can't have anything like that with "just because i'm horny" sex.

but damn it... now i want some! :D
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AND I feel the exact same way about my Hunny Bunny!!! I'm so glad for both of us!!! :D
 
daiseeangel said:
i will say that i have slept with 8 guys. 4 of them being long term boyfriends. the other 4 were all guys that i knew really well. i have never met someone and slept with him in the same night.
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UM, are you sure we're not twins? I! I have been with 8 guys: 4 of which were my real boyfriends! :eek: And I haven't done a one night stand, either! :eek: What the hell! And you're b-day is 2 DAYS before mine????!
 
Miss Ladybug said:
Curves, I loved the essay!! I've never really looked at wine as it relates to music, because I mainly drink just Merlot, so I guess I can say that I do tend to listen to jazz or blues when I'm drinking merlot. I love Tupac he grew up in my neck of the woods, and I can certainly see drinking some nice Sirah to his music. I think your pretty spot on, I just really need to force myself to drink more chardonnay, not my fav at all, but it's nice to have a change. Thanks for sharing your essay, I give you a big A+:D
Kim
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THANKS Kim, you're so sweet! Chardonnay is so overrated and there are such bad Chards out there. Try Rombauer Chardonnay. Most people love it for its oaky, buttery, tropical pineapple and coconut flavors--plus, they put crack in it, too--so it explains house-wife addiction to it!
 
LOL, that was a great clip Valerie -- I was LOLing all the way through it.

That was an interesting show Oprah had last night. There were representatives of the music industry on the panel, and a lot of pissed off women in the audience. It made for some very interesting dialogue.

One of the things the panelists were saying, which I absolutely agree with, is that you can't just attack rappers without attacking the conditions many of them grew up in. What's happened in the black communities over the past 20 or 30 years is a national disgrace. The "War on Drugs" has largely been a war on black men and minorities in general. Manufacturing jobs have been exported out of the country by "free traders" with no concern about labor laws or environmental legislation in China, India, and elsewhere.

Sorry, don't mean to get all political here, but the point to me is that yes, there's some language to clean up in rap and hip-hop, but that's hardly the worst problem in the poor communities of our country.

And for people like Don Imus to use it as the reason for his racist comments is inexcusable.

When our kids were teeny-boppers, and started listening to rap, at first we thought it was horrible. They argued with us that we never took the time to listen to it. So we spent an entire day listening to all sorts of rap and hip-hop. We found that this genre, like every other, is not homogenous. There are in fact many strains, and some rappers are fundamentally not doing anything different than Homer did when he recited the Iliad and the Odyssey to his audiences.
 
Nice essay Valerie. And lot's of good sex talk in here too. Where was my invitation! :mad:

Just teasing.

Hope all is well with you today. :)
 
Curvie Girlie said:
LOL! Since I have gone from 158 to 139, my self esteem and confidence are back, full-force. But also, my perspective hasn't changed much. I still don't think that I've changed as a person. My life is great, but the weight alone has NOT improved the quality of it. I've improved the quality of my life--with the power of my will and my mind, to grow and change and also use my body more efficiently. All this complied has given me amazing sexual confidence, and I couldn't have that if I wasn't with a man who loves and adores me--and who's proud of me for my accomplishments--and last night he told me how much he loves that I appreciate him. I will never diss casual affairs. I just feel more comfortable with--no, I NEED--The Whole Enchilada. Then my sexual power can shine.

Hmmmmm...although I bet if I set my mind to it I could blow away some random hot dude.;)

JUST KIDDING!
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I couldn't agree more! You've basically summed up ME in a nutshell with this post. Confidence plus a really great and caring man equals fantastic sex life.
 
TomO said:
LOL, that was a great clip Valerie -- I was LOLing all the way through it.

That was an interesting show Oprah had last night. There were representatives of the music industry on the panel, and a lot of pissed off women in the audience. It made for some very interesting dialogue.

One of the things the panelists were saying, which I absolutely agree with, is that you can't just attack rappers without attacking the conditions many of them grew up in. What's happened in the black communities over the past 20 or 30 years is a national disgrace. The "War on Drugs" has largely been a war on black men and minorities in general. Manufacturing jobs have been exported out of the country by "free traders" with no concern about labor laws or environmental legislation in China, India, and elsewhere.

Sorry, don't mean to get all political here, but the point to me is that yes, there's some language to clean up in rap and hip-hop, but that's hardly the worst problem in the poor communities of our country.

And for people like Don Imus to use it as the reason for his racist comments is inexcusable.

When our kids were teeny-boppers, and started listening to rap, at first we thought it was horrible. They argued with us that we never took the time to listen to it. So we spent an entire day listening to all sorts of rap and hip-hop. We found that this genre, like every other, is not homogenous. There are in fact many strains, and some rappers are fundamentally not doing anything different than Homer did when he recited the Iliad and the Odyssey to his audiences.
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First off, you and I are like-minded politically in this respect! But back to Chris Rock, if you liked that last clip....he is one of the funniest men alive IMO, and here is his view on racism within the black community:

YouTube - chris rock- racism

In it he explains his opinion on the difference between an AA (African American) who works hard despite the odds, and one who makes the wrong choices and exacerbates his situation, to put it lightly.

Also, he seems to have great insight on personal choice within the black community in this hilarious clip on police brutality:

YouTube - chris rock
 
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