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Thanks OHD...I'll think about it. Maybe I'll see if he just wants to do dinner...I don't know.

What did he want to do? Take a trip up the coast? LOL Dang girl, what did you do to that man?
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Nothing! Actually, he has a history of coming on strong...a friend of mine dated him for a while, and he was seeing someone else in town for a short time; freaked her out too. They say he really wants to settle, get married and have kids.

He initially asked me to come over and watch a movie, order a pizza or whatever. Then it changed to going out for dinner and renting a movie at his place. That's up to 3 hours now. Then last night he calls and asks if I want to go to the Legion for a drink first (there's a Meat Draw there that lasts an hour he wants to go to), and watch "a movie or two". So now we're up to about 6 hours. Coming on strong indeed.
 
Perhaps you can just be honest and straight up with him. Tell him "hey whats with changing it and making it longer all the time? im not sure i know you well enough for such a long date".
Dinner is nice, but perhaps skip all the movies (you cant talk or get to know each other in the movies anyway), maybe go bowling or for a walk on the weekend or something.

Guys are dumb though - they dont have the intuition that females have when it comes to dating. They all just think they are the best thing since sliced bread. If you're straight up and honest then they usually fine about it.

My husband was the extreme unsocial geek when i met him, hes pretty cool now but its involved a few hard truths over the years lol. :D
 
Hey Dari,
I just read your dilemma. I agree with OHD about it might being cold feet. I know how it is, I make excuses ALL of the time. I also agree that you should just tell him that you don't want anything serious, that you can go out for a while and have fun. But then again, if you truly truly don't want to go out with this man, then don't. But I hope its not because you're scared or you're "holding yourself hostage" as OHD said.
Anyhoo, make the right decision for YOU. Have a great day.
 
Hope you have a great day and figure out a decision I know it gets complicated but good luck girl!
 
Heyas Dari,
Only thing I can say from a lil exsperience is
you won't know until ya go out once,you never know he may
be different around you and you 2 may have alot in common
you know what makes ya uncomfy and if he crosses the line
then just tell him!But you might kick yourself if you don't go out
on this date.Whatever you choose goodluck to ya!
I was a single virgin(1 of those born again ones lmao)I was in a bad
previous marriage no kids with that one thank gawd and it took me
2 years to date and to get me in the sack again!I had a trust issue
and a problem with the being tied down and trapped feeling!
But I finaaly gave my hubby the 1 now a chance and have 4 beautiful
kids and almost happy! Tammy:)
 
Thanks Tammy. :) Alright, I called and left him a message (I know, I'm a chicken sh#t) I asked if I could change the plans a little, that I wasn't quite ready to "date" yet, but I wanted to get to know him. I suggested we go out for a shorter time on Sat., and asked him to please call me. I don't think it's just cold feet, because I honestly don't feel nervous about it. I've spent some time over several days talking to him already, so I know a little about what he's like....

Feel free to hurl the rotten veggies now...:(
 
When all is said and done you have to do what feels right to you DQ. I can say all I want but it really is your life. I say give him a chance, a date, a nice and simple one not a couple of movies and dinner. I'm with wishes tell him he seems nice but is coming on a bit too strong and you simply don't want to move too fast. If he's worth getting to know he'll understand, if not...hey you got free dinner! Its a win-win situation if you ask me. :p
 
If he's worth getting to know he'll understand, if not...hey you got free dinner! Its a win-win situation if you ask me.
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LOL!! :D

I'm so pumped for the 2 challenges I'm on! The Not-So-Naked Christmas one is going great! I am still longing for one big loss week, but slow and steady is great too! And I'm off to a good start for November...I seem to have lost 1.5 lb overnight, and am on my way to the 160's! I can't wait...I'm soooo gonna party when I hit 169. :D
 
dariqueen said:
LOL!! :D

I'm so pumped for the 2 challenges I'm on! The Not-So-Naked Christmas one is going great! I am still longing for one big loss week, but slow and steady is great too! And I'm off to a good start for November...I seem to have lost 1.5 lb overnight, and am on my way to the 160's! I can't wait...I'm soooo gonna party when I hit 169. :D
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All that tossing and turning last night is what did it! :p
 
Hey, just stopping by to see how your doing and taking a few notes incase I ever get asked out on a date again. Have a great night!
 
so did he call back?????????????????
I am so intrested:rolleyes:
*gets popcorn and settles in for the haul*
waiting...........STAR
 
Ok for my guy's two cents.

Coming on too strong shouldn't be a deal breaker. I know some women who married guys who came on too strong and are really happy with them. In fact my mom did. However, you really need to set the pace that you feel comfortable with. If he's a decent guy, he'll understand.
 
He is a decent guy; he called and said that he understands. He's willing for us to get to know each other slower, and as friends. Maybe one day...

And you're right Cannon, it's not a deal breaker. But combined with the whole 4 year fiasco I finally left, and my new baby, too strong isn't what I need right now. Plus, I may be dreaming, but I would like to feel sparks one day... :rolleyes:
 
dariqueen said:
And you're right Cannon, it's not a deal breaker. But combined with the whole 4 year fiasco I finally left, and my new baby, too strong isn't what I need right now. Plus, I may be dreaming, but I would like to feel sparks one day... :rolleyes:
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Oh you definitely deserve sparks!! You deserve a fireworks factory full. Give him a chance, but don't settle. Life is too short.
 
Gotta agree with cannon - life's too short. No one says you have to marry the guy, just go out and have fun. Don't over think it.
 
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Ok for my guy's two cents.

Coming on too strong shouldn't be a deal breaker. I know some women who married guys who came on too strong and are really happy with them. In fact my mom did. However, you really need to set the pace that you feel comfortable with. If he's a decent guy, he'll understand.
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Hey Dari, I agree with cannon 100%
Getting back into the dating game can be intimidating. This guy knows your situation, and if he's cool, he will completely understand... then again, if he isn't, he is a complete tool and has no idea what he'll be missing.

I hope you have fun Saturday, you deserve it.
 
Nope, however, we've made tentative plans to get together with a couple of friends of mine...I'm going to call him in a few days once we pick a day.

Sorry to disappoint you all :eek:
 
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