I'd have to disagree that the first person who only had 5 pounds to lose is done. If they struggle with their weight they will never be done.
My two cents from my own experience - I was 224 pounds and struggled with my weight. I am now 147 ish and still struggle with my weight. In January I let go of my healthy lifestyle and gained back 19 pounds in 9 weeks. When I weighed 224 pounds I struggled and I still struggle today. When I reach my goal weight I will still be struggling. I have lots of mental stuff to get through that I haven't yet and still come on this site everyday for support. Maybe now I only have 7-13 pounds to go but it's just as hard as when I had 75 pounds to go and the thoughts in my head haven't changed much.
Someone who only has five pounds to loose might have already lost 200 pounds and you shouldn't disregard their post because you can't relate - one day you might.
...this is why I said:
Once again, can you honestly say that the two people in the example above have any idea what the other one is going through? Let's stop splitting hairs and comparing each and every minute similarities - let's be realistic - the people who only have 5 lbs to lose have nooooo idea what struggling with a weight problem is really about (unless they have already lost a ton of weight to get to that point).
....i've given some thought to the road this topic has taken. The main point of this thread wasn't to say "who has it worse" The main point of this thread was to say that people that come on here deserve more support than they have been getting.
we need to stay focused (including myself) on the very point of this forum...and thats to support each other. The forum seems to have turned into a big bicker fest and everyone wants to argue their point. Well, it seems we forget the the main point is that we support each other.....even if the other person feels they have it worse off....even if 5 or 10 lbs is nothing compaired to someone else....we all come here for support and I'd like us all to start working towards that goal more.
I agree, but you have to remember...
Sometimes getting true support comes in the form of hearing the truth. If someone doesn't have a weight problem (for example - a 5' 2" female that weighs 100 lbs, but acts as if they are fat), it would be supportive of their well being to tell them that they don't have a problem at all. It would be the complete
opposite of supportive if people would encourage that girl to lose weight and give her advice which would support her cause - to lose unnecessary weight for no good reason at all. In that example, it would be doing nothing more than adding fuel to a dangerous fire if people would assist that person in losing weight.
Also, I wanted to address something that I'm sure a lot of people
see on this forum, but don't really
understand. And, since I'm definitely not afraid to speak my mind, I figured I would address this at this point in time, just to open a few eyes...
I'm sure a lot of people use this forum just as I do...as a form of therapy - a tool to vent. I am well aware that I am blunt and I will never deny that I can seem very abrasive and downright dickish at times. But, maybe venting here on this forum is something that helps me - something that I need - something that
supports my own self in my own weight loss journey. Most of us have journals on this forum and most of us vent in our journals, in one way or another. So, I'm willing to bet that quite a lot of people use this forum, not only as a way to obtain support, advice and information, but also to vent and "let things out", so to speak.
So, to all of the people on this forum who want to act as if they are TRULY supportive of
everybody who has a weight loss journey to make,
regardless of who they are, how much they weigh or what their problems may be...don't forget that some people raise their voice and speak their mind on this forum because it allows them release bottled up stress, anger, confusion, fear and frustration, which ultimately helps them in their weight loss journey. And, if it's helping them lose weight -
which is the ultimate goal of this forum - then we should all be supportive of that person...even if we think they're a dick.
We all have different personalities. I think it's about time that we accept that fact and move on with our lives.
Besides...if we all had the same personality (thought the same way, talked the same way, believed in the same things, held the same moral values, etc), the world would be a pretty f*cking boring place. So, let's enjoy our differences and have fun, huh?