I had my dad's funeral today. It was a lovely day - a celebration of his life.
Food wise, I haven't been going great. I vaguely remember someone else on the forum having had someone close to them die and them struggling with the program. I know you often lose your appetite when you go through grief, but I have been ravenous! and craving all sorts of stuff. I've still lost a kilo or so in the week, so I think its just dealing with the stress and emotional energy of it all. But in the next day or so I'll be back on board, I think. I certainly feel much healthier and happier when I don't eat the crappy foods!
One thing I feel I need to encourage everyone I can in is to make sure you deal with emotional hurts and bitterness. I know its not directly weight related, but I think often emotional issues lead to weight problems. As a teenager, I hated my father - and used to wish he would die. He was very distant and uncommunicative - I felt unloved and unwanted. When I was in my early 20's, I realised that I was being eaten alive by the bitterness, and I began a process that took several years to be able to really freely release forgiveness towards my dad and let go of my bitterness. I never discussed it with dad and never spoke directly to him about my change of heart. He didn't change much about the way he lived either. But the interesting thing was that from that time, I noticed a change in him - he became a softer person. He was still very quiet, but there was a definite change, which accelerated over the past 5-10 years or so. I know releasing forgiveness changed my life, but I also believe that in some way, it gave Dad space and freedom to change as well. I'm SOOO glad that dad didn't die when I was a teenager or in my early 20's. and I'm so relieved that I don't carry around unresolved issues about my dad, and unforgiveness. That would make this process of grief so much more difficult. So I am encouraging everyone I know to think about areas where they might be bitter and resentful towards people to deal with that, to give both yourself and the other person room to change...... it won't happen overnight, but it can happen!!!!!!!
