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Cate
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That would be lovely LaMa xoxo
Planning this "wake" is not as simple as I thought. My sister seemed put out that we were planning lunch rather than a mid-afternoon thing. I explained that Pub savouries would only be fried rubbish or "party pies" & other rubbish.
I rang the pub to book lunch only to be told that "We don't do lunches Tuesdays". WT?
For ages, we have planned on having Mum's wake at the local pub where we were brought up. I have decided not to worry about the eating part. There will be a new publican mid-August & I'll ring back & discuss the food aspect. I'm sure we'll be able to buy a drink regardless! I have booked flights. Now to book accommodation, hire car......
I will feel better when more stuff is organised.
*sigh* Trying to do much on a FD is not a good idea.
It looks like our older son may have been scammed buying a phone for our grandson(another phone! ?). I can't believe he(or our gs) did not do any research on the company before paying for it! It took me 30 seconds to see they were dodgy. Oh dear. He's coming up for dinner so I will have to break the bad news to him. Hopefully, he paid with his credit card. I don't think he uses Paypal. I always do as it's double protection.
Hopefully, he can cancel the payment! At a guess his son found the phone offer & D just paid for it. Our GS does not even have virus protection on his computer.....Trying not to worry about anything. Looking forward to dinner. I am ravenous!
xoxo Cate
Cate
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Hi, Florence. Planning a trip is very exciting, once you decide where you want to actually go. Dreaming of the Greek Islands, when the air is very chilly & you can see snow on the mountains is a lovely thing. I had a delicious dinner- seafood gnocchi (GF).
Hi, Anke. Squats do make you feel good, don't they? I must get back to doing them every day in August. Before having my shower is the go, but it has been SO chilly. We don't have air-con & our bedroom & bathroom get quite cold. No excuses, though- August it is!
I have set a target to get to before our trip in 2017.
X is my target.
I am currently X + 7.5kg.
My weight really fluctuates. I did a FD yesterday & I'm 1kg more than I was 3 days ago. I am not at all despondent about this. G thinks I can't do it. He also thinks it's too light for me. I would like to start our holiday at X weight. X is what I got down to in 2007, so in July 2017 it would be 10 years since I was that weight. I only realised that as I was typing! I feel fairly determined. I want to have nice one piece bathers & I want to feel comfortable swimming whenever I like. I am going to swim regardless, but I would really like to be that weight. It feels good to articulate that & now I feel more determined to have a proper plan.......
Greek Islands.......
xoxo Cate
Hi, Anke. Squats do make you feel good, don't they? I must get back to doing them every day in August. Before having my shower is the go, but it has been SO chilly. We don't have air-con & our bedroom & bathroom get quite cold. No excuses, though- August it is!
I have set a target to get to before our trip in 2017.
X is my target.
I am currently X + 7.5kg.
My weight really fluctuates. I did a FD yesterday & I'm 1kg more than I was 3 days ago. I am not at all despondent about this. G thinks I can't do it. He also thinks it's too light for me. I would like to start our holiday at X weight. X is what I got down to in 2007, so in July 2017 it would be 10 years since I was that weight. I only realised that as I was typing!
I feel fairly determined. I want to have nice one piece bathers & I want to feel comfortable swimming whenever I like. I am going to swim regardless, but I would really like to be that weight. It feels good to articulate that & now I feel more determined to have a proper plan.......Greek Islands.......
xoxo Cate
Delsid
New member
HELLO!!!
So you've decided on your destinations! Amazing! When are you going to be in Europe? Even if I'm not here I'd soo cheer for you and LaMa to meet up ! That'd be ANOTHER amazing story
I've decided to give a 16:8 fasting a try. Have you heard of it? I'm not sure it's gonna work but I do feel like I need to shake things up.
When I was in Indo it was the first time EVER that I felt pretty comfortable on the beach, it was an amazing feeling and I'm sure now you have your plan in place you'll get there too!
LOVE!
So you've decided on your destinations! Amazing! When are you going to be in Europe? Even if I'm not here I'd soo cheer for you and LaMa to meet up ! That'd be ANOTHER amazing story
I've decided to give a 16:8 fasting a try. Have you heard of it? I'm not sure it's gonna work but I do feel like I need to shake things up.
When I was in Indo it was the first time EVER that I felt pretty comfortable on the beach, it was an amazing feeling and I'm sure now you have your plan in place you'll get there too!
LOVE!
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, Julie, Korrie, LaMa & Delsid. At this stage, we plan on heading for Europe about the 3rd or 4th week of July 2017, for a month.
My weight is creeping up again, so I'll have to do a re-set next week & maybe have a day or 2 without any starchy carbs. That usually nips it in the bud. Without going into the science of it, my body is sensitive to starchy carbs. When I lost 36kg in 6 months in 2007 I basically didn't eat any starchy carbs the whole time. No bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, corn, peas.......The minute I start to put weight back on I really should just cut them out again for afew days & then reduce them in my diet.
I had better scoot. Will be back later.
Cheers, Cate
My weight is creeping up again, so I'll have to do a re-set next week & maybe have a day or 2 without any starchy carbs. That usually nips it in the bud. Without going into the science of it, my body is sensitive to starchy carbs. When I lost 36kg in 6 months in 2007 I basically didn't eat any starchy carbs the whole time. No bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, corn, peas.......The minute I start to put weight back on I really should just cut them out again for afew days & then reduce them in my diet.
I had better scoot. Will be back later.
Cheers, Cate
Butterfly88
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Have fun planning your trip to Europe! Cutting starchy carbs sounds like a good plan.
Cate
Long term member
Hi Butterfly & LaMa. Monday, the 1st of August might be a good day to start with having a couple of starchy carb-free days.
Without going into it in any great detail yesterday was a struggle for me, mainly because I really missed my mother. I will have to get into a new routine on the days that I have to stay in town all day. For 5 years I have spent a lot of that time with Mum. Yesterday I took in a big bag of chocolates for the staff with a thank you card. The genuine care & compassion they showed my Mum was exceptional. I got lots of hugs & a few tears. The staff are very special. I will call in from time to time to say hello to some of the olds that I have become attached to.
I went & sat by the river & rang my sister & ate lunch at the deli & forgot to do the things I needed to!
Last night I drank way too much bubbly. D called in & he has bought himself a new car with the money we just gave him. He was tickled pink! It is a really sensible car(same as ours, but a year younger & in very good nick. They are very economical on fuel. I think he will look after this one. He seemed really happy. We decided to give both sons some money now that Mum has died. I'm not sure how long it will take to get it, but D really needed a car so I gave him his now.
G & I are spending the day at home. It's a lovely, sunny day. You can feel that Spring is around the corner.
I have had a general feeling of anxiety lately & I guess it's down to Mum dying. I wake up anxious. I think deciding upon an exercise plan, in particular, will lift my mood, so that in itself will be a good thing. I'll go for a walk today I think. I'm doing the bar tomorrow again as the barmaid is unable to work. In the middle of the day, I will go for a big walk around the river in town. It's very pretty. I may start adding that to my day spent in town & maybe start having a healthy picnic in the park afterwards.
Time to head. I have run out of internet & have been attaching my phone to the computer. Something is using too much data in the background I think. Better scoot.
Without going into it in any great detail yesterday was a struggle for me, mainly because I really missed my mother. I will have to get into a new routine on the days that I have to stay in town all day. For 5 years I have spent a lot of that time with Mum. Yesterday I took in a big bag of chocolates for the staff with a thank you card. The genuine care & compassion they showed my Mum was exceptional. I got lots of hugs & a few tears. The staff are very special. I will call in from time to time to say hello to some of the olds that I have become attached to.
I went & sat by the river & rang my sister & ate lunch at the deli & forgot to do the things I needed to!
Last night I drank way too much bubbly. D called in & he has bought himself a new car with the money we just gave him. He was tickled pink! It is a really sensible car(same as ours, but a year younger & in very good nick. They are very economical on fuel. I think he will look after this one. He seemed really happy. We decided to give both sons some money now that Mum has died. I'm not sure how long it will take to get it, but D really needed a car so I gave him his now.
G & I are spending the day at home. It's a lovely, sunny day. You can feel that Spring is around the corner.
I have had a general feeling of anxiety lately & I guess it's down to Mum dying. I wake up anxious. I think deciding upon an exercise plan, in particular, will lift my mood, so that in itself will be a good thing. I'll go for a walk today I think. I'm doing the bar tomorrow again as the barmaid is unable to work. In the middle of the day, I will go for a big walk around the river in town. It's very pretty. I may start adding that to my day spent in town & maybe start having a healthy picnic in the park afterwards.
Time to head. I have run out of internet & have been attaching my phone to the computer. Something is using too much data in the background I think. Better scoot.
Cate
Long term member
Thanks Julie. I know it will get better with time. Mum was very old & it was her time. I know that. I'll make myself busy on the days I used to spend with her. I need to do some more exercise!
I actually think I feel a little unwell today. Hopefully, it will pass. I'll take my BP soon & see how it is.
I actually think I feel a little unwell today. Hopefully, it will pass. I'll take my BP soon & see how it is.
I think it´s normal to feel (on top of missing a beloved person) a bit cut loose now that all the stress is starting to die down and your brain realizes that some of the rituals it got used to are missing. Rebuilding new ones (like going for walks&picknicks) sounds like a good idea. 
Cate
Long term member
Thanks, LaMa. I will replace my old rituals with new ones & I think walking & picnics will be a good start. I might get in touch with my Tai Chi teacher & see if she has any classes on Tuesdays that I could attend. I miss my Tai Chi & Shz is a very special person. I called in to see her the other day at a place she works part-time but missed her. I'll shoot her a message & hopefully catch up with her tomorrow.
I have had a good day. I did 5k on my bike, have eaten well & am feeling quite a bit better.
I have had a good day. I did 5k on my bike, have eaten well & am feeling quite a bit better.
Florence
New member
Hey Cate,
Just caught up on your diary.
I am so sorry you have to walk this journey with missing your mum. It is inevitable that we all have to do it but it's still not nice. I keep telling myself I have to get used to a new normal now that dad has gone. I think you are doing a great job with working out what new things you can set up in your life.
Your anxiety is totally normal I think. With all that is going on for you it's good to remind yourself constantly to be kind; making sure you're not being to hard on yourself.
The walks sound lovely and the sunshine is always nice isn't it.
Have a good evening Cate. x
Just caught up on your diary.
I am so sorry you have to walk this journey with missing your mum. It is inevitable that we all have to do it but it's still not nice. I keep telling myself I have to get used to a new normal now that dad has gone. I think you are doing a great job with working out what new things you can set up in your life.
Your anxiety is totally normal I think. With all that is going on for you it's good to remind yourself constantly to be kind; making sure you're not being to hard on yourself.
The walks sound lovely and the sunshine is always nice isn't it.
Have a good evening Cate. x