Cate's Diary

Oooh that sucks about your tooth, I'm really hyper-vigilant about my teeth so I'd be really upset if I couldn't see a dentist immediately haha. Glad it's not hurting you at least!!

Rain here isn't really letting up still, it rained most of yesterday and my phone says 72% chance of rain right now... so I'll be going to the gym with an umbrella I think. So annoying, I have to go out after the gym to get a few bits n pieces too. Damn weather :D
 
Feeling seriously blah today. Woke up with Asthma, unmotivated, worrying about our son again, didn't go to golf.......... :( Got a reminder call from the dentist & didn't even ask if I could get in to see him today as I couldn't be bothered. Hopefully as the day goes on, I'll feel better. I have to find some way of not worrying about our son. Once upon a time (pre- FB) I would not have known his mental state. Now I see it clearly from his middle of the night posts. How can I learn this non-worrying caper?
 
I don´t have kids but I don´t think it´s possible to not worry about your kids when they´re unwell. Relaxation techniques may help a little? Good luck at the dentist tomorrow.
 
Sorry to hear about your son again, can't imagine how much extra stress it must cause. It's something that is out of your hands though, so take a breath and try to go with the flow. Be ready to jump in if you feel it's needed but he is his own person and will do his own thing, you need to find some peace and calm and know that as much as you worry it's only causing stress to you and your body and not helping improve his situation at all. :grouphug:

Good luck at the dentist, thinking of you! xx
 
Hope you are feeling less blah.
Maybe you should unfollow your son so he doesn't show up on your newsfeed. You can still go into his FB page if you want to, but it wouldn't show up on your newsfeed so you could choose if you feel up to viewing what he's writing or not.
 
I think Mystic's idea is a good one. It might sound a little harsh to unfollow him but you have to look out for your mental health, too.
 
Do you know, I have been thinking of doing just that. I'll give it some thought. I have had a good day today, because I saw nothing from him on FB & heard nothing, so I didn't worry in the slightest. Ignorance may not be bliss, but it may be preferable to stress.

I appreciate your input LaMa, Lucy, Mystic & Oaks. I need to vent in here & I get such good support & it is important to me. Thank you!

I went to the dentist first thing this morning & what I thought was a broken tooth was a lost filling. Phew. Our dentist is a very special human. He is entertaining, painless(except for the bill) & I always come away feeling better than when I arrive. He had lost 25kg from the 2nd last visit, to the last visit & we discussed that today & how we have to be incredibly vigilant that it doesn't go back on again. We discussed lots of stuff, including living life to the full, how much time we have left to do the stuff we want to do etc. The funniest thing I came away with though was, after saying to him "Jules, it would be much easier if we didn't drink wine" & he replied "Cate, life is too long not to drink wine!" I sooo love that saying!
I took him a New Years gift of a home-blended bottle of Muscat. Over 11 years ago, when we owned a pub, he used to call in & buy a bottle of our Muscat on his way up to the Great Lakes on a fishing trip. Last time I saw him he hadn't been fishing for ages & seemed to have lost a bit of spark. I mentioned that today & he seemed surprised that I had noticed, but agreed & said he has it back.

Our OS D came up with the GK's for dinner & have now left. Lovely evening. Apparently our YS, R has a new job, along with a new business venture. I am absolutely NOT going to worry. No point.
 
Glad you got the tooth fixed! Your dentist sounds like a hoot.

There really isn't much point to worrying. Change it if you can and let it go otherwise. I know, I know. You're a mom and it's hard to let it go when you're worried about your kids.
 
It's nice to see that your interactions in real life are as kind and supportive as here. I don't think I am social enough to be open and supportive face to face. I'm empathetic just not very expressive. I suppose that is something to work on. I think it's a rare occasion to enjoy seeing a dentist.

I gave up facebook all together because of the family drama. I haven't missed it at all. I'm not recommending, just commiserating. Cory is on to something with the idea of letting things go. Easier said than done for sure, but worth keeping in mind. I'm worrying over things I can't change at the moment too and trying to get past that. I hope you have a fantastic day Cate!
 
Oh Cory, Believe me that I am trying really hard to let go & stop worrying. I am not even going to ring & ask about the new job. I don't think he's quit his current one. Not worrying, not worrying...... (woke up anxious about him though, so the sub-conscious hasn't caught up yet!)
Q- I sometimes think I'm a little bit too empathetic & expressive. He's a lovely guy & maybe should have been a psych. but I'm glad he's a dentist- our dentist! I am so going to have to concentrate on not worrying. I am going to spend less time on FB. I think it's mostly wasted time. The more I contact friends by phone, the more I realise FB is not very real.
LaMa- thank you sweets xoxo
Caroline- I don't think there would be any that would be as cool as Jules!

New Year's resolutions-
I don't think I mentioned that I am going to catch up with at least one old friend a week until I feel I have actually caught up with all that I should(or want to). After the dentist yesterday we drove further on & caught up with an old friend, Val. She's lovely & it was really nice to see her. She's 15 yrs older than me & has had health problems the last year. I had been feeling guilty the longer I left it, so feel much better now.

We are off to Launceston for a boring golf meeting & then will catch up with my SIL for lunch.
Weight is not good. Lost 1kg, regained it in a day. I have to have a break from drinking wine. Had better scoot.
 
Way to lay off the vino. I too am trying to cut down on the beer consumption. Fortunately, I only drink the stuff when I'm out socially. Unfortunately, it feels like I drink a whole week's worth in a few hours when I do go out.

Also glad this is not your dentist:

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Glad to see you're on the mend.
 
Thanks V! Having just ONE glass of red wine tonight, after a full day with the 3 GK's. ONE! It has been a lovely day, but exhausting. Good exhausting, but still exhausting. I managed to ride my bike for a while, finished off a book, built a Lego cafe........zzzzzz
I will come back tomorrow & tell you about the cafe (the real one.)
Cheers, xo Cate
 
:blush5: confession- had 2, not just the one.
Have had quite a bit happen this week that I haven't mentioned. Our YS has taken out a lease on a shop & is setting up a cafe & taken on a new job. Our OS went to a wedding in Hobart that he was going to with his now ex GF & had to sit at the same table with her. We got the saddest, heart-breaking message from him last night that has me tearing up now. He doesn't think he will love anyone as much again.
On the other hand our YS is not in contact at the moment & I assume he has his hands tied, madly working. Trying not to worry....
Please 2015, be a better year!
I have to do whatever I can to be as healthy as I can & protect myself from getting down. I need some more inner strength.
We are taking the GK's back to their Mum's at 11am this morning & will visit my Mum beforehand. We bathed our little dog yesterday & will take her in too.
Bye for now xo Cate
 
cate said:
We got the saddest, heart-breaking message from him last night that has me tearing up now. He doesn't think he will love anyone as much again.
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Doesn´t it always feel that way in the beginning? At least after a "good" break up.
Take care hon.
 
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