Cate's Diary

You have your answer if it's not fun anymore. Life throws enough stress at us, no need to add more! I'm actually happy for you! I think this is a great move and you'll both be so glad you finally made the decision to leave.
 
I am just coming in quickly to let you know that after agonising over our choices we only just came up with a solution. Rather than joining another club, we are resigning from this one & playing social golf for a year at least. We can pay an annual fee to have a handicap, based on our current ones & play at any course in Australia. It's done. I have applied & paid. Now we have to do our resignation letters. This feels much better for the two of us. There is a big tournament coming up which we run, but there is plenty of time to cancel it before all the entries start coming in if the vets don't want to run it.
We both feel so much better with this decision as going to another club involves a fair bit of angst & would cause a lot of additional ill feeling.
Now, I have lots of work to do to be able to hand everything over!
 
Well done Cate that sounds like a sensible plan. I'm pleased you have decided to put yourselves first for a change . Time now to plan for the holidays and spend time with the grandkids , the garden and the chickens !!! Enjoy this new change
 
Have a full day ahead of me & have to leave soon as I have a 9 am doctor's appointment. I think this will be my last with her. I need a referral to my cardio as it has been 2 years since I last saw him. I have been feeling nervous about my heart for a while now & I don't feel at all confident that the meds my GP has me on are the right ones for me. I have been scared to exercise. I have been scared of lots of things really & I need a clear path. I had better skedaddle.........
 
The stress reduction of leaving the golf club is surely going to do wonders for your heart but getting a check-up can only be a good thing.
 
Thanks, Em. The appointment helped me make another decision to find a new doctor. I was not impressed. I'm still on the same meds as she wouldn't change them, even though I said to her that she keeps adding meds & I get worse. I do have a referral to a cardiologist, but I will also find another doctor at another practice. 2019 could be a decisive year.
Today has been quite mixed with the very annoying doctor's ap't, a trip to town, a very short spiky/wispy haircut (my usual- YAY!), some shopping, and a Chinese lunch, with messages and calls supporting us, most of them in total shock. I don't think anyone had a clue that we would do this. A couple left us teary. We know we have made the right decision, but the next week could be a bit emotional. We'll get through this for sure & come out the other side a lot less stressed. I'll wait until we get back from visiting G's brother interstate in a couple of weeks before I explore new things. We'll be away for a few nights. I don't think he'll be around for much longer so thought we had better get over to see him. I have had it booked since Christmas day.
I'll have a quick look around the diaries, but please excuse me if I don't say much xoxo
 
Hi Cate good to hear about the supportive phone calls . Maybe in the future the club will change for the better who knows .
Have you always lived in that area or did you move there after you retired ?
If you have a cardiologist why do you need a referral to see him can you not make a bi annual appt yourself.
Good luck on finding a new GP. Take care x
 
Hi, Petal. We have lived in the area since we moved over from Melbourne at the end of 1985. I hope the club does change for the better, but I am glad we have decided to take ourselves away from it. Re: the cardio. It's how our system works. I have an idea which practice I will go to as I asked a couple of women I met through the MCS group that my sister is involved with & one of them recommended a GP near where she lives. It's not too far & if ever G & I move we would most probably go that way & live near the sea. I'll have a look at my old messages & see which doctor she suggests in the practice. They are prepared to make allowances for her, like seeing her outside if necessary so having already made adjustments for someone else with chemical sensitivities would help me to go there.
I will take care of myself. We have to be responsible for our own health. I actually called in at the cardio's practice in town but they hadn't received the referral yet so I couldn't make the appointment. I'm quite sure she'll chase it up.
I'll start taking my BP morning & night & keep a record to take with me when I see him.
 
Thanks Cate . I just asked thinking you may have moved when you retired. We think about moving sometimes and I worry if I would be lonely or isolated . I know a lot of people here but would love to move near the sea sometimes . Husband would move in a minute as he had no real ties in this area . It wouldn’t be for a few years though .

Sounds like you have your head sorted recthe gp etc . Hope it all works out
 
Thanks, Petal & Jen. I'll get myself organised after the dust has settled at the golf club, find a new doctor, we'll go visit G's brother & when I get back I am going to start my new life.
We have the GK's here today & G & I have not taken them anywhere as we really wanted to get everything ready to hand over. I'm done & he's still going.
LaMa-I missed a comment from you yesterday. We were posting at the same time :grouphug:
Further confirmation of the rightness of our decision-
I rang one of my favourite women from golf & told her that we had quit. Mostly she expressed sadness that G had quit. She was going to nominate him to be a life member. She complained that she would have to do the bar from now on & when she said she would miss me I said that I wasn't leaving the country & perhaps we could all go out for lunch. She said that she would have to ask their permission, with me no longer being a member. I was so gobsmacked I was lost for words & finished the call fairly quickly. I should have said I was a member on NYE when they all went out & didn't ask me along. I have been thinking whether or not to send her a message saying not to bother. G said it confirms their clique. It still hurt. I rang my sister & got it off my chest.
We still have a way to go with handing stuff over, but I'm not going to feel bad about doing so.
 
Wow, that woman... was just gobsmackingly self-absorbed and out of line during your conversation! Not just at the end, either. At least it'll make it easier to walk away.
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
 
cate said:
She said that she would have to ask their permission, with me no longer being a member.
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wow does this woman have any ability to think and act without confirmation from others, sounds like a bit of a puppet.
 
Thanks, LaMa. I actually rang to tell her as I thought it was better than her hearing about it from someone else. I shouldn't have bothered
Thanks Tru. You know I wouldn't have thought so, but I obviously got it wrong.
Tomorrow G & I are going for a drive & having a picnic :)
 
Picnic sounds nice! Is G cooking something up or are you treating yourself to a readymade basket of goodies?
 
We have lots of yummy things we can take with us. Some terrine, cheese, snow peas, celery, tomatoes, olives, crackers etc.
 
Sorry to hear about the disappointing phone call, but in a way, it makes it even clearer that you made the right decision. I can't believe she wanted to ask other people for permission to meet you for lunch. It really seems that we never leave the schoolyard.
 
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