Cate's Diary

Glad you had fun at golf! And you're weather sounds so nice. It was 0 F (-17.78 C) with a wind chill of -25 F (-31.67 C). There has definitely not been any golf playing here. :p
 
Hi Cory- Brr!!! Summer has arrived at last here. Tasmania has mild weather compared to the rest of Australia. I'm glad we don't get the real extremes!
I'm having a bit of an emotional time at the moment with my husband & younger son so have not felt like posting. They both need my support & are both feeling fragile. I have always thought my husband is confident but he has has as many insecurities as the next man apparently. He has hidden them well. I shouldn't share it with anyone else so won't but I am glad I am not a man.

I spent yesterday helping our YS tidy up & sort all his stuff. He is moving back to Hobart at the end of the week but does not have anything organised to move his furniture there. He may have to wait a week or 2 until our other son gets his car fixed & can take a load down with his car & trailer. He still does not know where he will work or where he will live, he does not have a driver's licence or a car, but he does have a friend's place to stay that is a fair way out of the city & a bicycle & the ability to get a job wherever he goes. I really hope he settles down & is happy!

Men- Bottle stuff up & it eats away at them. I think both of them (husband & YS) would benefit from seeing a psych but I don't dare suggest it at the moment.
They have gone off together to play golf & I must say I'm relieved to have a break from them both. That may have me sounding very selfish & mean, but I can only boost them up so much, before I get down too. My LH's insecurities are unwarranted & illogical but have always been there apparently. It's very sad really. I couldn't love him any more than I do!

I have to go into town & do some shopping so will get a move on soon.
Love to all xoxo Cate

 
It's nice to sometimes get a break and be on your own just to chillax. I hear you on the boosting people until you need the boost. Happens to me sometimes too - you just get drained. But chin up love. Enjoy your time alone!!
 
Thank you Mands for giving me a boost! I'm OK today, but there were many tears shed last night. I started to doubt lots of things yesterday & had myself worked into a state by bed-time. We talked & talked but it's all a lot clearer in my head. My LH is not very good at telling me his deepest thoughts & I just couldn't believe that he had this deep anxiety for all the 42 years we have been together. he says it's not to do with me & goes back to before he met me. I feel we have cleared the air a fair bit, but he needs to get over it or see someone qualified about it. I can just imagine us in an old people's home & him getting jealous over nothing & it getting all stirred up again! :( It would be funny if it wasn't so sad. I'm right now & hopefully so is he.

It is time to do something about losing weight. 5kg is my aim. I have started logging on MFP again, but not had my heart in it yet. I'm getting there!

We are doing more house-cleaning today & getting rid of stuff to the tip. I LOVE doing that!
Bye for now, xo Cate
 
Cate, I’ve been MIA for a while now so I don’t know exactly what’s going on with your family and I’m not at all asking you to share (or reshare) details. I just wanted to say sorry that it’s been so emotional for you lately. I hope things continue to improve for you. :)
 
Sorry to hear about the issues with your LH. I totally understand doing everything you can to make him feel better, and know that at some point it becomes too much and you can only be so strong for so long before you need time to yourself to recharge and be able to be there for him again. Hope things get better, just keep reassuring him and showing him how much you love and care for him and that you aren't going anywhere. Also hope he starts to open up more often and slowly get over whatever it is that is bothering him. A and I can be there, keep it inside until we essentially burst and blow something small out of proportion. :grouphug:
 
Glad to see all looks right now between you and LH Cate. Sometimes things need to be aired and talked about.

Anywaayyyyyy Cate, 5kg is a breeze on Cohen's - you can kill it in 2 weeks hun. Focus and just do it!! Cate what is MFP?

Good luck with the house cleaning!!!
 
Hi Mandy, We have talked & talked & I think I have got to the bottom of the "problem." I would like to say it's nothing serious, but it obviously has been for my husband. It is very personal and, although I often do share very personal things in here, out of respect & love for him I'll leave it that way. I wish he had told me 40 years ago though! We are both a product of the era where men/boys had to be strong etc & that has often resulted in them bottling stuff up. It is so wrong. Things will be much better for him now that he has told me & we will be even stronger together. We have both voiced how we feel about one another in the last few days & there should never be any doubt again. Thanks for being so sweet, xo Cate

Icy- you were spot on sweets. If ever I could pass on to others one thing to help build a really good relationship it would be communication. Bottling things up & then exploding is fraught with danger. I misread his anxiety as an unhappiness with our relationship & felt devastated & also angry, but it is not about me at all. It still mystifies me that he could keep such a deep-seated issue buried deep in his psyche for such a long time. It goes back to before we were together. It is sad, but I can't stay sad about it as it will make me miserable. I think he will be much better about it now, having told me! Thanks for your support sweetie xo Cate.

Hi Mands, I haven't really "done" Cohen's for ages & you are right! 5kgs would go in 2 weeks, no worries! MFP is My Fitness Pal. It's a really good system to keep track of what you eat & your exercise etc. If I did Cohen's for 2 weeks I wouldn't have to bother.....I follow the maintenance guidelines fairly well, but you get so used to your extras that it is very hard to give them up, even for 2 weeks :blush5: I will give it a go though in the next month or so. Don't forget to give me a gentle reminder every now & then :D
Thanks for your support folks. It has been an emotional time lately, both with my LH & my YS(younger son.) I can happily say I have not raided the pantry for "comfort" food. That is comforting, in itself. Lots of love to all, xoxo Cate
 
It sounds like you are at a place where things can improve and I hope they do. Really nice work on not turning to food!
 
Hi Mandy & Q, We're OK. It has been very emotional, but we are strong. Just because you have been together for decades, sure doesn't mean that curved balls won't come your way, but I am sure that we both believe that we are 2 of the luckiest people on the planet.I talked to our YS today about it all, without being too specific. He is struggling....really struggling. He has no idea how to move forward with his life & how to be positive enough to get a job, find a place to live......
I can't solve everyone's problems- all I can do is try. Ultimately we all have to sort out our own problems & live our own lives. My family know how much I love them.
Not turning to food!
I have an incredibly busy week ahead with lots of planning & lots of driving. I won't be in here much but I am fine. Love to all! xo Cate.
 
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Cate no need to share private details. The point is you were going through something and seems to be sorted now. Glad for you that things are looking up.

High 5 on not raiding the pantry!! That in itself is HUGE!!

I will be here for you to support the weight loss hun. Sending hugs your way xx
 
Glad to hear things are better now that he has opened up to you. Sometimes even knowing the person has been through so much with you still makes you scared to open up out of fear of the reaction you will get. Hoping your reaction and communication has reinforced that he can come to you about anything and doesn't have to be strong by himself, that is what you are there for, to help support him when he needs it just as he would do for you. A and I have been together almost 6 years and have known each other for over 17 (YIKES) and even with everything we have been through (which has been A LOT) there are still times we don't open up when we should. Something we both still need to work on.

Hopefully the busy week keeps you occupied and on track food-wise :) Have a great week and update us when you have a spare minute :)
 
Just played 18 holes of golf with the women & really enjoyed it. It is bloody hot here- I had sweat pouring off me! I got asked by a woman to play with her on the women's open day. Nice!
Have to go, but thought I should bump my page back to the top. Funny thing but January is VERY busy in the forum ;)
xo Cate
 
So much has happened in the last few days! I just got my laptop back from the computer man today. Our YS has moved back to Hobart, our OS took him there so we didn't have to, but we have been doing heaps of driving/organising/cleaning up, especially now he's left..... I can only hope that he will move forward with his life & be happy! PLEASE!
We have the grand-kids for the day tomorrow, so that will be nice. I don't feel stresses at all, but hope that life gets back on an even keel. It's time to knuckle down with getting as healthy & as fit as I can.
Much love to all xoxo Cate
 
Thanks Q, I hope he'll be ok! We had a lovely day today with the grand-kids & have re-organised our home (again) & I am not going to fill any of the gaps now that our YS has taken much of his furniture. When the time comes for us to move (hopefully a long way away) it should not be a major chore. My MIL had hardly thrown anything away in the 45 years she lived in her home. It has been a really significant educational experience trying to clear her house out- mind-boggling really! I am not at all a hoarder, but I am going to keep going with my big clean-up.
I think we may have to have our old dog euthanised in the next few days. I won't go into the gory details, but she has been struggling for weeks now, but today she actually collapsed in front of the GK's & we thought she was dead at first. We lay her down on her bed & she slept for 6 hours without moving. Our other little dog has been checking up on her regularly (& so have we) & she is still breathing, but I really hope she dies overnight. It will be very sad, but sadder to have to have her put down. She is 16 & a half years old & has had a wonderful life. I won't be getting any more dogs as you have them for such a long time. If I got another one now, when it would be this old dog's age I would be 76!
Time for another cuppa & I'll go check her again before bed. Much love to all xoxo Cate
 
Sorry about the pooch, but good news that your son is moving back close.

My golf game is now on the shelf for a bit, but maybe this is a good time now to practice my putting...
 
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