Sunflower2
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Hi Cate--I'm back! Glad to hear you had a lovely time with you sister 
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Cate
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Hi sweets, Glad to have you back. Had a lovely time with my sister & now our younger son is home from Canada.
He has been offered a job already as a cook. Tomorrow the 2 of us are going to have a look at a local business that is for sale. My husband & our older son checked it out & it would be almost perfect for a business plan our ys has. To get finance he needs a full-time job as well as a fat deposit, which would require selling the house he owns with a friend in Hobart. Who knows what is possible or what might happen, but I think it's a good idea he explores his options.
I'm off to my 1st Golf Club committee meeting shortly. Goose!
Love to all xo Cate
He has been offered a job already as a cook. Tomorrow the 2 of us are going to have a look at a local business that is for sale. My husband & our older son checked it out & it would be almost perfect for a business plan our ys has. To get finance he needs a full-time job as well as a fat deposit, which would require selling the house he owns with a friend in Hobart. Who knows what is possible or what might happen, but I think it's a good idea he explores his options.
I'm off to my 1st Golf Club committee meeting shortly. Goose!
Love to all xo Cate
Cate
Long term member
The meeting was an education! At least I now know what my LH has to put up with & also that he puts his hand up for much more than he ever wants to do. I got a few answers to some questions I have had for ages. I am now officially the Bar Manager, which I have been doing for ages anyway. I feel that I have established myself in the committee. I went on it as I have been getting very annoyed at how the only previous woman member on it misrepresents what happens & gets the women upset over things said, that I know, via my LH that they were not. Now I'll have to go along & play with the women so that I can relay the truth. She is a nasty piece of work
I rode my bike yesterday (5km) & did hours of spring cleaning, but did have 2 red wines at the committee meeting.
I still have this bug! Headache, mucky etc I made myself do stuff yesterday even though I had little energy. I have a full-on day ahead of me today. Bar/looking at a business/shopping/lunch/bar/ home/driving to Dev tonight to take our OS down to pick up his car.
xo Cate
I rode my bike yesterday (5km) & did hours of spring cleaning, but did have 2 red wines at the committee meeting.
I still have this bug! Headache, mucky etc
I made myself do stuff yesterday even though I had little energy. I have a full-on day ahead of me today. Bar/looking at a business/shopping/lunch/bar/ home/driving to Dev tonight to take our OS down to pick up his car.xo Cate
Cate
Long term member
Had a good day yesterday. Our ys & I went & looked at the business & he now has lots to think about. I don't think he'll commit to it, but it will help him realise that he needs to free up his investment in Hobart for the day that he does decide he wants to settle somewhere. He's trying to I know.
The 4 of us went out for an early Asian dinner & then back to our house for Snooker & too much drinking. We drank WAY less than our 2 sons but still too much if I want to lose weight (which I do of course!)
Tonight we have 8-ball & I won't drink ANY alcohol.
Tomorrow we fly to Melbourne 1st thing in the morning with our youngest grand-son. We are taking him on what has become like a rite of passage in our family. Nan & Pop (us) take each of our grandkids over to Melbourne Zoo. We will be staying in an hotel that my family used to stay in when I was a kid & we will eat out of course, have a buffet breakfast, catch trams, go to the beach & will fly back late Friday afternoon. He is only 5! We will have an absolute ball!
Our GS is very nervous & apparently shed a few fearful tears yesterday at his Mum's, but is now very excited. We spent a few hours with him today while his parents went through mediation for their marriage settlement. It will be good when it is all over!
Weighing is on the back-burner just for a while. I am slowly getting better. I am still being careful, but my focus has shifted more to spending time with my family. It is lovely having our son back from Canada. If he & his brother want to spend time with us, then we will make the most of it, while we can. I'll just have to show some restraint. I can do that!
Love to all xoxo Cate
The 4 of us went out for an early Asian dinner & then back to our house for Snooker & too much drinking. We drank WAY less than our 2 sons but still too much if I want to lose weight (which I do of course!)
Tonight we have 8-ball & I won't drink ANY alcohol.
Tomorrow we fly to Melbourne 1st thing in the morning with our youngest grand-son. We are taking him on what has become like a rite of passage in our family. Nan & Pop (us) take each of our grandkids over to Melbourne Zoo. We will be staying in an hotel that my family used to stay in when I was a kid & we will eat out of course, have a buffet breakfast, catch trams, go to the beach & will fly back late Friday afternoon. He is only 5! We will have an absolute ball!
Our GS is very nervous & apparently shed a few fearful tears yesterday at his Mum's, but is now very excited. We spent a few hours with him today while his parents went through mediation for their marriage settlement. It will be good when it is all over!
Weighing is on the back-burner just for a while. I am slowly getting better. I am still being careful, but my focus has shifted more to spending time with my family. It is lovely having our son back from Canada. If he & his brother want to spend time with us, then we will make the most of it, while we can. I'll just have to show some restraint. I can do that!
Love to all xoxo Cate
MrVee
New member
It's nice to have the family in town. It would also be nice to be able to go off to a place like Melbourne with such ease.
Australia is one of those places I do have a desire to visit one day, but my travel adventures have almost entirely been work related and at the moment there doesn't appear to be any real reason why my work would take me that way.
Australia is one of those places I do have a desire to visit one day, but my travel adventures have almost entirely been work related and at the moment there doesn't appear to be any real reason why my work would take me that way.
Cate
Long term member
Hi V- You would be welcome to stay with us if you ever do get to Tasmania! You could use our place as a base & come & go as you please, maybe even borrow one of our cars. Everything is handy really. Cradle Mountain is only an hour & a half's drive away.
I love living in Tasmania & plan on spending more time in our National Parks & less time travelling interstate (or overseas) in the next year. There is still a lot of Tassie I have not seen! I'm going to have another crack at mountain hiking, but with only a small, light backpack. Both our sons love mountain hiking & it would be lovely to do some hikes with them over Summer.
Melbourne trip-
We flew to Melb on Thur morning 1st thing & our grand-son was quite nervous & very excited. His ears hurt on the plane but he coped fairly well. He absolutely LOVED the zoo!
He had a slightly late night Thur night but got off to sleep ok. Luckily we decided to go to bed earlyish, thinking he would probably have us up early next morning.
At 2am he woke in hysterics & had a raging temp. It took us hours of sponging him down & getting some adult Paracetemol into him & water that I had to force down him, before he eventually cooled down. My husband went out into the city at 3am searching for an all night chemist for children's Panadol, but there wasn't anything open. We really thought we would end up taking him to a hospital. When I got another Panadol into him & some more water, still sponging him down constantly, he started to sing, I tickled him & we knew that he was ok. It was really like weathering a fierce storm!
I wasn't frightened at all & was calm the whole time, but I was glad that I was not a young mother experiencing it for the 1st time again! Life is so much better for having had good & bad experiences & you know there is no point panicking. After he had gone back to sleep my imagination then took over & I did imagine all of our lives if he had died. I can't help doing that. Never will I go anywhere with the grand-kids, without children's Paracetemol at the very least!
Then I stopped myself, cuddled him, rolled over & went to sleep. He slept then from 4.30 through to 8.30am. Our bed was drenched from his sweat. He was amazed & remembered the night. He was cheerful & we showered him & went downstairs & all 3 had a cooked breakfast. He decided he wasn't up to going to the beach & we just hopped on a free tram & did a city circle, walked about the city, had a small snack & headed out to the airport early(as we always do.) The poor little boy was knackered & our flight was due to leave at 4.30pm, which would have been ok. We waited & waited & waited & asked & waited & eventually an announcement was made that our plane was "unserviceable" & they were looking for another.They had to tow ours away & find another & tow it in. At 7.20pm we eventually took off & it was a very fast flight. Our little GS said he didn't think he would ever fly again & he didn't think he would go to Melbourne again. He'll forget! I did say that his Dad has a plan for them to go over to Victoria on the ship next year & he thought that would be fun. He is very sweet. He was so very brave, even when he was very sick.
We bought kids medicine in the morning yesterday & dosed him up at 4 hourly intervals. Our OS messaged me to say he slept well during the night, but was asleep again on his Dad's bed at 10am this morning. Poor little mite! He has a very chesty cough, but the medicine we bought seemed to help.
My husband's 64th birthday!
I can't really believe that he is 64. We have been together since he was 22 & I was 18. 42 years! Where has that time gone? He is very fit & active & seems much younger than his years!
Unhealthy & unfit people- Going to Melbourne this time has given me some added incentive to get as fit & as healthy as I can. There are so many grossly fat & unfit people in Melbourne who are much younger than us. They are really struggling to just get around. If I had not changed my lifestyle back in 2007 it frightens me to think how I would be now. I am going to really take this onboard & go a few more steps towards getting really fit & losing some more weight. It is very easy for me to put weight back on & I need to be lighter than I am. I know that I am not fat anymore, but there is that fine line between being slim & being on the way to being chubby (which is on the way to being fat) & I want to be slim, fit & very healthy.
No drastic changes-
I know that I don't have to make any drastic changes to my diet. I need to move more!
1-2 glasses of wine per day max, with many days per week when I have none. I am back to tracking my calories & am on 1430 per day.
I had better get going. I have to catch the library before it shuts at 12, do some shopping, visit mothers & get some food ready for dinner tonight for my husband's birthday dinner with both our sons & the litties & our OS's GF . It won't be a late night & we won't be drinking much. Most of the cooking was done before we went away- a Sri Lankan beef curry, West African Chicken & a vegetable curry & we just need food for the littlies, rice, pappadams & some sambals etc.
Younger son- Is feeling very confused & unsettled. I feel for him & we'll have a good talk tonight. If he wants to go backwards & forwards between Canada & Tasmania, until he works out where he wants to be, we'll be fine with it. We love him & want him to be happy. He's not ready to buy a business nearby. He has said yes to a job in Launceston & starts Monday & obviously feels really weird about it. He feels he will have to make all new friends & find a place to stay & start all over & he's not sure he wants to. poor him. I'm so glad I am so happy in my marriage. I would hate to be young again. I do hope that he will find someone who loves him as much he loves them & settle down & be happy, wherever that may be. We all deserve that.
Better scoot!
xoxo Cate
I love living in Tasmania & plan on spending more time in our National Parks & less time travelling interstate (or overseas) in the next year. There is still a lot of Tassie I have not seen! I'm going to have another crack at mountain hiking, but with only a small, light backpack. Both our sons love mountain hiking & it would be lovely to do some hikes with them over Summer.
Melbourne trip-
We flew to Melb on Thur morning 1st thing & our grand-son was quite nervous & very excited. His ears hurt on the plane but he coped fairly well. He absolutely LOVED the zoo!
He had a slightly late night Thur night but got off to sleep ok. Luckily we decided to go to bed earlyish, thinking he would probably have us up early next morning.
At 2am he woke in hysterics & had a raging temp. It took us hours of sponging him down & getting some adult Paracetemol into him & water that I had to force down him, before he eventually cooled down. My husband went out into the city at 3am searching for an all night chemist for children's Panadol, but there wasn't anything open. We really thought we would end up taking him to a hospital. When I got another Panadol into him & some more water, still sponging him down constantly, he started to sing, I tickled him & we knew that he was ok. It was really like weathering a fierce storm!
I wasn't frightened at all & was calm the whole time, but I was glad that I was not a young mother experiencing it for the 1st time again! Life is so much better for having had good & bad experiences & you know there is no point panicking. After he had gone back to sleep my imagination then took over & I did imagine all of our lives if he had died. I can't help doing that. Never will I go anywhere with the grand-kids, without children's Paracetemol at the very least!
Then I stopped myself, cuddled him, rolled over & went to sleep. He slept then from 4.30 through to 8.30am. Our bed was drenched from his sweat. He was amazed & remembered the night. He was cheerful & we showered him & went downstairs & all 3 had a cooked breakfast. He decided he wasn't up to going to the beach & we just hopped on a free tram & did a city circle, walked about the city, had a small snack & headed out to the airport early(as we always do.) The poor little boy was knackered & our flight was due to leave at 4.30pm, which would have been ok. We waited & waited & waited & asked & waited & eventually an announcement was made that our plane was "unserviceable" & they were looking for another.They had to tow ours away & find another & tow it in. At 7.20pm we eventually took off & it was a very fast flight. Our little GS said he didn't think he would ever fly again & he didn't think he would go to Melbourne again. He'll forget! I did say that his Dad has a plan for them to go over to Victoria on the ship next year & he thought that would be fun. He is very sweet. He was so very brave, even when he was very sick.
We bought kids medicine in the morning yesterday & dosed him up at 4 hourly intervals. Our OS messaged me to say he slept well during the night, but was asleep again on his Dad's bed at 10am this morning. Poor little mite! He has a very chesty cough, but the medicine we bought seemed to help.
My husband's 64th birthday!
I can't really believe that he is 64. We have been together since he was 22 & I was 18. 42 years! Where has that time gone? He is very fit & active & seems much younger than his years!
Unhealthy & unfit people- Going to Melbourne this time has given me some added incentive to get as fit & as healthy as I can. There are so many grossly fat & unfit people in Melbourne who are much younger than us. They are really struggling to just get around. If I had not changed my lifestyle back in 2007 it frightens me to think how I would be now. I am going to really take this onboard & go a few more steps towards getting really fit & losing some more weight. It is very easy for me to put weight back on & I need to be lighter than I am. I know that I am not fat anymore, but there is that fine line between being slim & being on the way to being chubby (which is on the way to being fat) & I want to be slim, fit & very healthy.
No drastic changes-
I know that I don't have to make any drastic changes to my diet. I need to move more!
1-2 glasses of wine per day max, with many days per week when I have none. I am back to tracking my calories & am on 1430 per day.
I had better get going. I have to catch the library before it shuts at 12, do some shopping, visit mothers & get some food ready for dinner tonight for my husband's birthday dinner with both our sons & the litties & our OS's GF . It won't be a late night & we won't be drinking much. Most of the cooking was done before we went away- a Sri Lankan beef curry, West African Chicken & a vegetable curry & we just need food for the littlies, rice, pappadams & some sambals etc.
Younger son- Is feeling very confused & unsettled. I feel for him & we'll have a good talk tonight. If he wants to go backwards & forwards between Canada & Tasmania, until he works out where he wants to be, we'll be fine with it. We love him & want him to be happy. He's not ready to buy a business nearby. He has said yes to a job in Launceston & starts Monday & obviously feels really weird about it. He feels he will have to make all new friends & find a place to stay & start all over & he's not sure he wants to. poor him. I'm so glad I am so happy in my marriage. I would hate to be young again. I do hope that he will find someone who loves him as much he loves them & settle down & be happy, wherever that may be. We all deserve that.
Better scoot!
xoxo Cate
Cate
Long term member
Had a good day yesterday & a lovely night last night. I am a very lucky person in that I have the best family you could hope for.
I do need however to knuckle down & lose some weight & drinking wine has to be out for the week if I am to lose some weight!
Time to chat to my lovely younger son xoxo Cate
I do need however to knuckle down & lose some weight & drinking wine has to be out for the week if I am to lose some weight!
Time to chat to my lovely younger son xoxo Cate
Cate
Long term member
I feel really bloated at the moment & I think it's because I have eaten too much rice in the last few days. It was very hard to find anything gluten-free & quick when we were away with our GS & I had sushi twice & then we had an Indian feast for my husband's birthday & then leftovers last night, once again with both our sons & our OS's GF. Too much rice! Too much wine!
Today is another day.
I'm taking our YS into town today to start a new job cooking. He is very anxious about everything. He's booked into quite a nice looking hostel for 2 nights to see if he likes it & will see about longer term rental if he does. It looks quiet & pleasant, which he wants, rather than a party hostel. The menu at the restaurant is not great & looks very complicated. he is not a trained chef & has been learning cooking in our nieces restaurant in Canada. I really hope he goes well!
A really good friend of his is opening a restaurant in Hobart next March & has offered him a job there too. He has heaps of great friends there & that is probably where he would be happiest.
My sister-in-law just rang & has offered for him to stay with them. I'll let him know when he gets up. He could cycle to work or catch a bus.
I had better go do some housework! I'll be happy when he's settled.
Love to all, xo Cate
Today is another day.
I'm taking our YS into town today to start a new job cooking. He is very anxious about everything. He's booked into quite a nice looking hostel for 2 nights to see if he likes it & will see about longer term rental if he does. It looks quiet & pleasant, which he wants, rather than a party hostel. The menu at the restaurant is not great & looks very complicated. he is not a trained chef & has been learning cooking in our nieces restaurant in Canada. I really hope he goes well!
A really good friend of his is opening a restaurant in Hobart next March & has offered him a job there too. He has heaps of great friends there & that is probably where he would be happiest.
My sister-in-law just rang & has offered for him to stay with them. I'll let him know when he gets up. He could cycle to work or catch a bus.
I had better go do some housework! I'll be happy when he's settled.
Love to all, xo Cate
mrs woods
New member
Hi dear Cate,
glad to hear your GS is ok...poor little thing.
I know what you mean about so many young people being over weight, when I go shopping I see so many...I feel for them.
A few weeks ago I watched a woman eating take out in her car...it reminded me of the days when I was pregnant and did that. (in secret)
Hope your YS finds that he loves his new job. Staying with you SIL would be great as he could save heaps too. Sons are so lovely, I too am so proud of mine (most times)
as he is now heading in his last year of Robotic Electrical Apprentice (year 4).
OHHH the rice thing, that is one thing (white rice) I cannot stand as I get a bad tummy ache...brown rice is ok as long as I add psyllium husk.
Hasn't the weather been lovely...but rain coming.
Take care Cate lots of ooxx mrs woods
glad to hear your GS is ok...poor little thing.
I know what you mean about so many young people being over weight, when I go shopping I see so many...I feel for them.
A few weeks ago I watched a woman eating take out in her car...it reminded me of the days when I was pregnant and did that. (in secret)
Hope your YS finds that he loves his new job. Staying with you SIL would be great as he could save heaps too. Sons are so lovely, I too am so proud of mine (most times)
as he is now heading in his last year of Robotic Electrical Apprentice (year 4).
OHHH the rice thing, that is one thing (white rice) I cannot stand as I get a bad tummy ache...brown rice is ok as long as I add psyllium husk.
Hasn't the weather been lovely...but rain coming.
Take care Cate lots of ooxx mrs woods
Cate
Long term member
Thanks Mrs W for showing me kindness. I had a very rough day. Our YS was VERY anxious this morning. I'm too tired to talk about my day really. It's best left behind me. I do also feel like a big, fat rice-filled blimp! The weather has been heavenly! I'm off to bed early tonight...well, early for us. 'Night all xo Cate
Cate
Long term member
Still struggling...being a parent is, on one hand the greatest thing in the world &, on the other hand, the worst. Our son is really struggling, so therefore, so are we. I think he'll be heading back to Canada soon. I am self-medicating with alcohol at the moment & that's not good. Our older son is coming up tonight for a meal &, hopefully, he can help out. He has enough on his plate with mediation for his divorce, but he is also a very logical & outspoken person & loves his brother & understands him. We all do really & that's what makes it hard when you see him suffering so much. He wants to be near us but he loves his life & his friends in Canada.
There is no easy solution. We are also having problems with our mothers & the home at the moment....long story & involves some "inappropriate behaviour" with my MIL. It would be funny, if it wasn't so difficult & embarrassing!
I took my Mum out for a drive today. She's in quite a happy place...
I have offloaded today to my sister & now to whoever is reading this!
Life is good & I am lucky to be so loved.
xoxo Cate
There is no easy solution. We are also having problems with our mothers & the home at the moment....long story & involves some "inappropriate behaviour" with my MIL. It would be funny, if it wasn't so difficult & embarrassing!
I took my Mum out for a drive today. She's in quite a happy place...
I have offloaded today to my sister & now to whoever is reading this!
Life is good & I am lucky to be so loved.
xoxo Cate
mrs woods
New member
Oh Cate, I hope it all works out for your YS.
You are right, being a parent is the hardest thing and it does not stop when they turn 18....we always worry about them.
You and he have a strong bond, and he must feel very loved, and can always come home, and turn to you both.
You certainly have your plate full with the Mum's too.....take some time for Cate too.
I am sure things will turn out good as you have a strong family, so have a few drinks and trust that all will fall into place....you can only do your best, which you are doing.
Will be thinking of you (sending positive vibes)
Lots of love and a big hug....mrs woods (R) xxoo
You are right, being a parent is the hardest thing and it does not stop when they turn 18....we always worry about them.
You and he have a strong bond, and he must feel very loved, and can always come home, and turn to you both.
You certainly have your plate full with the Mum's too.....take some time for Cate too.
I am sure things will turn out good as you have a strong family, so have a few drinks and trust that all will fall into place....you can only do your best, which you are doing.
Will be thinking of you (sending positive vibes)
Lots of love and a big hug....mrs woods (R) xxoo
Cate
Long term member
Thanks R.
I'm trying to just tune out & am Spring-cleaning my house. (At least something positive will come out of all this stress.) I'm going to recommend our son sees a psychologist I think, as I am not strong enough to cope with all of his problems & I can't sort his life out. I feel he keeps running away from anything that goes wrong & should try to settle down somewhere. Life will never be perfect. You have to stay still long enough to settle & give yourself a chance. Whether that is here in Tasmania, or in Canada or somewhere else who knows, but he will never feel grounded if he moves on when life is not perfect.
He has so much stuff surrounding him from all of his travels. I wish I had a private cabin he could have as his own that he could stay in when he does visit. Instead of having him here cleaning up all his stuff, I've been cleaning up mine. I think you should de-clutter regularly. Being surrounded by crap you don't need or really want makes you feel a hell of a lot better!
This forum is not really the place to talk about my son, but I wanted to explain why I'm not being supportive or very focussed at the moment. I am only just coping.
Lots of love to everyone, xoxo Cate
I'm trying to just tune out & am Spring-cleaning my house. (At least something positive will come out of all this stress.) I'm going to recommend our son sees a psychologist I think, as I am not strong enough to cope with all of his problems & I can't sort his life out. I feel he keeps running away from anything that goes wrong & should try to settle down somewhere. Life will never be perfect. You have to stay still long enough to settle & give yourself a chance. Whether that is here in Tasmania, or in Canada or somewhere else who knows, but he will never feel grounded if he moves on when life is not perfect.
He has so much stuff surrounding him from all of his travels. I wish I had a private cabin he could have as his own that he could stay in when he does visit. Instead of having him here cleaning up all his stuff, I've been cleaning up mine. I think you should de-clutter regularly. Being surrounded by crap you don't need or really want makes you feel a hell of a lot better!
This forum is not really the place to talk about my son, but I wanted to explain why I'm not being supportive or very focussed at the moment. I am only just coping.
Lots of love to everyone, xoxo Cate
Cate
Long term member
Our son rang to let me know that he's feeling much better this afternoon, after a good talk to his new boss(who is his best friend's mother) & is going to throw himself into this new job at least until the new year. It's a big improvement that he lets me know when things are better. I'm about to hop on my exercise bike.....also an improvement for me! I have been eating healthily at least & cleaning up was good exercise! xo Cate
MandyH
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Sorry to hear your son is struggling. My brother has been going through hell too. He had his life together, met a girl, got involved with her even though we all told him she was bad news, and his life went down the crapper literally! He lost his apartment, his job, his car, and wound up in a good deal of debt. He can't pay the debt without a job and he had a hard time finding a job without a car. It's a vicious circle. Thankfully, last week he landed a job and is going car shopping this weekend. Things are starting to look up for him finally. I hope the same thing will happen with your son. Both for his peace of mind and yours.
Try to take care of yourself. Try to still eat reasonably well and exercise when you can. Things will get better for you.
Try to take care of yourself. Try to still eat reasonably well and exercise when you can. Things will get better for you.
Cate
Long term member
Thank you Mandy. You're very sweet! It is our younger son's 31st birthday tomorrow & he has started the new job in a Tapas bar/restaurant about 60km away. He is going to be working long hours for the next 4 days, including his birthday. He really needs to keep himself very busy & throwing himself into this job & being competent at it asap is a good idea.
Our older son rang this morning & has suggested we all go in there tomorrow at about 5.30pm & have an early dinner, so that he knows he has our support & love. I think it's a lovely idea & I hope he doesn't get too emotional as he'll have to keep working. He is trying to settle down back in Tasmania, rather than staying in Canada because he misses us, his brother & his niece & nephews.
He had just come out of another relationship where the woman had been on the rebound when they met him & were not ready for a committed relationship. Like his Mum, he is not a half-hearted person, especially when it comes to love!
He so needs a drivers licence(lots of driving hours in a car with someone to take you or lots of money to pay for lessons) & then buy a van, so that he has the freedom to get around easily & be able to sleep in his car, or even just have breaks in his car. Firstly he has to earn quite a bit of money. As you say Mandy, a vicious cycle! He has bought 2 cars before & never quite got there. Every time he has to start over again.
He is the least organised person I know & he probably is someone who would benefit the most from becoming better organised.
I do have to learn not to try to fix his problems. You get the greatest benefit from solving your own problems.
It's almost time to head. We both give blood every 3 months (plasma for me) & I also have a free mammogram every 2 years & that is booked for this afternoon. It is an awful, wild, windy & wet day. Last week it was warm & I got a little sunburnt, today it's cold & wintry. Ahhh, Spring!
Bye for now xo Cate
Our older son rang this morning & has suggested we all go in there tomorrow at about 5.30pm & have an early dinner, so that he knows he has our support & love. I think it's a lovely idea & I hope he doesn't get too emotional as he'll have to keep working. He is trying to settle down back in Tasmania, rather than staying in Canada because he misses us, his brother & his niece & nephews.
He had just come out of another relationship where the woman had been on the rebound when they met him & were not ready for a committed relationship. Like his Mum, he is not a half-hearted person, especially when it comes to love!
He so needs a drivers licence(lots of driving hours in a car with someone to take you or lots of money to pay for lessons) & then buy a van, so that he has the freedom to get around easily & be able to sleep in his car, or even just have breaks in his car. Firstly he has to earn quite a bit of money. As you say Mandy, a vicious cycle! He has bought 2 cars before & never quite got there. Every time he has to start over again.
He is the least organised person I know & he probably is someone who would benefit the most from becoming better organised.
I do have to learn not to try to fix his problems. You get the greatest benefit from solving your own problems.
It's almost time to head. We both give blood every 3 months (plasma for me) & I also have a free mammogram every 2 years & that is booked for this afternoon. It is an awful, wild, windy & wet day. Last week it was warm & I got a little sunburnt, today it's cold & wintry. Ahhh, Spring!
Bye for now xo Cate
Quercus
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It sounds like a very good thing that your son is back near you. It's obvious that he has a lot of love and support and it sounds like he needs it. The bit about solving your own problems is solid life advice. He's lucky to have you Cate. Your son sounds like a great guy too. I can't imagine my older sibling being that considerate or supportive towards me.