maybe she needs a new hobby? needlepoint? Sudoko? Chasing after young men? surfing internet porn? or cooking more figure friendly foods...
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bikinibound
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Part of her problem is that:
1. she is home all day b/c
a. she doesn't drive
2. her weight has made her disabled, making it hard for her to do much. She gets winded from walking (using her walker) from the living room to the kitchen.
3. Due to all of this, she is mildly depressed
4. Due to her diabetes her eyesight is bad and the eye doc says a different prescription for her glasses won't help her vision. He's trying to keep her from losing her eyesight anymore than she already has. She let her diabetes go unchecked for several years--in denial about it, I think.
B/c her eyesight is bad, she needs a magnifying glass to see even large print, so Sudoku and needlepoint are out..lol. She is married, so chasing men is out--and the fact that she can't run makes chasing hard.
Internet porn is out b/c she just isn't interested in that type of thing, and my dad would have a cow, and she's computer illiterate and the tiny print makes it hard for her to see things on the screen anyway. So TV is her hobby. She watches ungodly amounts of it. I love Sudoku, though, and do it a lot.
bikinibound
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What's wrong with Before AND After ?
Hmm...I see a vicious circle forming. I molest, you spank, I molest, you spank, I molest.....Sounds good to me.
Aww, your poor mom. That must be scary for you, with her diabetes out of control yet she's still eating sweets and stuff.
Well that must've been a great feeling to see 3 lbs down in one night. Hardcore woman! Obviously the scale will go up after a refeed..but what goes up must come down.
Well that must've been a great feeling to see 3 lbs down in one night. Hardcore woman! Obviously the scale will go up after a refeed..but what goes up must come down
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bikinibound
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Mom has her diabetes under control now, but there was about a 4yr period where she just gave up. I think she thought that if she ignored it, it'd go away. Obviously it didn't. But she checks her blood sugar 2-3 times a day and takes her insulin. If she would just lose weight, though, she'd be sooo much better off.
Well that must've been a great feeling to see 3 lbs down in one night. Hardcore woman! Obviously the scale will go up after a refeed..but what goes up must come down
LMAO! Yes, hopefully tha'ts true.
I was so happy when I saw that 227 today. I was hoping for 228-229, so that pleased me to no end. Now if tomorrow I'm down to 225.5 or lower I'll be estatic.
bikinibound
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So I'm sitting here in my office when this guy comes in peddling his get rich quick scheme. I'm being polite and listening to him (all the while thinking of how to get him out of here as soon as possible ). I notice that spit has started to form in the corners of his mouth as he's speaking, and the longer he speaks, the more spit there is. I was totally grossed out, but I think I kept my grossed out-ness to myself. Thankfully, he'd handed me a brochure, so I kept my eyes on that--feigning interest--so that I wouldn't have to look at the huge globs of spit. YUCK!! 
I finally sent off the Foreign Service app. It is done electronically, but I printed out a copy for my own records--all 40 pages of it!! Now you can see why it took me so damn long to complete it.
*It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas* We got our first significant snowfall today--about 4" of the nasty white stuff. I had the pleasure of cleaning snow off my car before heading to the office. Oh joy--another 4 months of this...
Luckily, the main roads were ok--even though ours was crap.
). I notice that spit has started to form in the corners of his mouth as he's speaking, and the longer he speaks, the more spit there is. I was totally grossed out, but I think I kept my grossed out-ness to myself. Thankfully, he'd handed me a brochure, so I kept my eyes on that--feigning interest--so that I wouldn't have to look at the huge globs of spit. YUCK!! I finally sent off the Foreign Service app. It is done electronically, but I printed out a copy for my own records--all 40 pages of it!! Now you can see why it took me so damn long to complete it.
*It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas* We got our first significant snowfall today--about 4" of the nasty white stuff. I had the pleasure of cleaning snow off my car before heading to the office. Oh joy--another 4 months of this...
Luckily, the main roads were ok--even though ours was crap. 
Pomegranates serve that purpose for me. It takes a good hour to eat one, during which time I can't really do anything else, and they're only about 100 calories each.
MsGhettoBooty
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WTG resisting that pie! Pie is your enemy, pie is not your friend!
Says the man with the shaved/ X Box fetish.
Do what I do... just stare at him weird like and lick the corners of your mouth.. you know, give him a hint. Regardless, that is still some sick shit. haha!!!
Yippy! About damn time, woman! haha jk So how long does the entire process take? When will you hear back from them, etc?
As for mom, I know how that goes. Dad's eyes got so bad, he'd bust out his magnifying glass on this end also. His circulation in both legs would bother him so much that mom and myself would stay up to rub his feet/ calves. Diabetes: It's a horrible damn disease that's for sure. Here's to taking charge of our lives, girl.
Speaking of mom... how's dad doing? Sorry, I'm so out of the loop. haha Love yas.-Sheryl
bikinibound
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Haha! Good one.
Well, the next step is they email me and tell me when I can take the written exam. I don't know if I'll be able to do it this month. The testing window is the first week of December, and it's a first come, first serve basis. There are 5,000 spots for that week. If I don't get in, then I'll have to wait until the first week of March--which is when my birthday is. Wouldn't that just figure I might be spending my birthday taking the FS exam?
Dad's doing really well. He's driving again, so I'm no longer the taxi service.
And he's going back to work on Monday. 
niapage
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LOVE THE LIL TAXI SERVICE ! Pewey on taking test's on your b-day.I would love to do the
whole school thing but I hated it then and I hate even the
homework my kids bring home so I know it's not for me and I kind
of feel bad about it to but I can't get into it could have to do with
my up bringing.I am proud of you and a few others that are hitting the
books.Well g/f I hope you have a nice weekend Tammy***HUGGS***
bikinibound
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Pewey on taking test's on your b-day.I would love to do the
whole school thing but I hated it then and I hate even the
homework my kids bring home so I know it's not for me and I kind
of feel bad about it to but I can't get into it could have to do with
my up bringing.I am proud of you and a few others that are hitting the
books.Well g/f I hope you have a nice weekend Tammy***HUGGS***
Oh, I'm not in school atm. This is the Foreign Service Exam. You have to take it and pass it in order to be considered for the FS--being a diplomat overseas.
School is not for everyone. We all have our unique talents--and the secret to career happiness is finding a job that taps that talent. Seems to me you have a talent for taking care of children. And that's nothing to shake a stick at. I am envious of people who are just naturally good with kids.
bikinibound
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Damn is it cold out! Only 8 degrees atm. Colder than a nun's nasty, it is. Our road is still crappy. The snow's been crushed down by all the traffic, and now it's smooth and icy. Makes driving a little more interesting. When I came home tonight I was thinking about how you have to slow down and drive more cautiously on days like today. Ironically, I was so busy thinking about that, that I didn't slow down in time, and wasn't able to stop in time to turn into the driveway. I had to turn around in the neighbor's driveway. Our driveway is at the bottom of a long slope, so you're gaining speed even if you're not accelerating, so it's often hard to stop when the road's slick. I do this every winter--after the first snow. I'm not the only one--my dad and H do it, too. Did anyone else get snow today?
Our road is still crappy. The snow's been crushed down by all the traffic, and now it's smooth and icy. Makes driving a little more interesting. When I came home tonight I was thinking about how you have to slow down and drive more cautiously on days like today. Ironically, I was so busy thinking about that, that I didn't slow down in time, and wasn't able to stop in time to turn into the driveway. I had to turn around in the neighbor's driveway. Our driveway is at the bottom of a long slope, so you're gaining speed even if you're not accelerating, so it's often hard to stop when the road's slick. I do this every winter--after the first snow. I'm not the only one--my dad and H do it, too. Did anyone else get snow today?
daiseeangel
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Colder than a nun's nasty, it is.
That is hilarious!
Snow? Is that the white stuff that people get to enjoy in the winter? You mean not everyone is in short sleeves at Christmas?
I wore short sleeves today.
bikinibound
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That is hilarious!
Snow? Is that the white stuff that people get to enjoy in the winter? You mean not everyone is in short sleeves at Christmas?
I wore short sleeves today.
Sure rub it in. See if I fondle your melons next TLD!
bikinibound
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Hey girl! What's up? Yeah, now I'm back in focus--weight loss is more important to me than pie.
bikinibound
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Exercise this week:
11/26—25 min exercise bike, 8.9 miles, weight: 229
11/27—60 min circuit training, weight: 229
11/28—25 min circuit training, weight: 230
11/29—50 min circuit training, weight: 230
11/30—50 min exercise bike, 18 miles, weight: 227
Food for Friday: Totals: 1,468 calories, 43g fat 28%, 130g net carbs 37%, 123g protein 35%, 24g fiber
I cannot believe I managed to keep my calories so low today. And I got in my exercise for the challenge bonus this week.
It's 2 degrees F outside atm!! Now it's colder than an Alaskan nun's nasty! I guess the snow won't be melting overnight.
11/26—25 min exercise bike, 8.9 miles, weight: 229
11/27—60 min circuit training, weight: 229
11/28—25 min circuit training, weight: 230
11/29—50 min circuit training, weight: 230
11/30—50 min exercise bike, 18 miles, weight: 227
Food for Friday: Totals: 1,468 calories, 43g fat 28%, 130g net carbs 37%, 123g protein 35%, 24g fiber
I cannot believe I managed to keep my calories so low today. And I got in my exercise for the challenge bonus this week.
It's 2 degrees F outside atm!! Now it's colder than an Alaskan nun's nasty!
I guess the snow won't be melting overnight. 
Omega
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Hi Kimberly
Congratulations on the weight loss.
It is always such a good feeling when the loss that you know that you deserve finally happens. It kind of makes you feel that there may be some fairness in life after all!
Well done for keeping your calories so low - I suspect it is inspired by the joy at the scales. Success motivates for more success.
I must admit to being impressed by your restraint with pies. I am easily led astray with goodies. I think that I tend to be too easily led. In that respect my husband and I tend to be a bit of a dietary accident waiting to happen (if not actually happening) at any one time. We have a track record of being a bad influence on each other.
I have to admit that I have never tasted pumpkin pie - it certainly sounds very nice and I could so easily be tempted just the same.
It is a shame that your mother is suffering so badly from her relationship with food. I think that many of us have been there to one extent or another and know how addictive these things can be. Once you get to a certain state weight-wise you can think that comfort eating is the only logical course of action and really it is the worst thing you can do.
I know from my own experience as a big person that she may be very unhappy - but unable to see a way out of it. No-one wants to feel that they are severely limited by their health and size.
Mal has a point regarding diversionary tactics having the ability to improve things for her (you and I both use them successfully). The big question would be to find something that she physically could do that she might be willing to try to do. Anything that occupies her and keeps her from thinking about what to eat next is a positive step. I nibble less when I am chatting on a forum (e.g. here) compared to when I am watching the television.
She is probably a comparitively young woman - so maybe the computer may be a start (out of the question for my parents aged 85 and 90 - they have enough difficulty from the television and DVD/hard disk!!! we often get phone calls asking us to talk them out of situations when they get stuck). We were all computer illiterate at one time - but much of the day to day use is very intuitive these days. It is not like 25 to 30 years ago when people really did think that I was odd. The silver surfer is a very big user demographic and I have been in contact with loads of them in their 60s and 70s researching family trees and such like. If the problem is the size of characters / icons - there are settings that magnify these from the standard size and make it much more user friendly for people whose eyesight is poor and failing - we really are talking big print sizes. Have you checked out that side of things?
People can improve their walking abilities with persistence. My cousin (in her 60s) shattered her heel falling down stairs over a year ago. It was in a plaster for about 3 months and she spent ages using a zimmer frame. It has taken a lot of effort for her to get to the stage that she is now at - she has dramatically improved her walking ability. I dont think that she will ever be able to do anything like she did before. If your mother was once inspired to improve her health (even though it is so poor currently) I am sure that there are improvements that she could achieve.
My main dietary problem with my mother (when I see her or speak to her on the phone) is that she has no idea where I am coming from. She is not fat and never has been. I say "you have no idea what it is like being big" and she says "I have - I couldnt wear what I wore when I was young". I then point out to her that she was 7 stone 0 when she was young (98 pounds) and not being that size does not mean that you have ever had a weight problem. I think that her weight is a huge 115 pounds now that she is fat. My father is if anything thinner than her! My cousins are the same! At family gatherings I always feel like the cuckoo that fell into the nest.
Take care
Love
Margaret
Congratulations on the weight loss.
It is always such a good feeling when the loss that you know that you deserve finally happens. It kind of makes you feel that there may be some fairness in life after all!
Well done for keeping your calories so low - I suspect it is inspired by the joy at the scales. Success motivates for more success.
I must admit to being impressed by your restraint with pies. I am easily led astray with goodies. I think that I tend to be too easily led. In that respect my husband and I tend to be a bit of a dietary accident waiting to happen (if not actually happening) at any one time. We have a track record of being a bad influence on each other.
I have to admit that I have never tasted pumpkin pie - it certainly sounds very nice and I could so easily be tempted just the same.
It is a shame that your mother is suffering so badly from her relationship with food. I think that many of us have been there to one extent or another and know how addictive these things can be. Once you get to a certain state weight-wise you can think that comfort eating is the only logical course of action and really it is the worst thing you can do.
I know from my own experience as a big person that she may be very unhappy - but unable to see a way out of it. No-one wants to feel that they are severely limited by their health and size.
Mal has a point regarding diversionary tactics having the ability to improve things for her (you and I both use them successfully). The big question would be to find something that she physically could do that she might be willing to try to do. Anything that occupies her and keeps her from thinking about what to eat next is a positive step. I nibble less when I am chatting on a forum (e.g. here) compared to when I am watching the television.
She is probably a comparitively young woman - so maybe the computer may be a start (out of the question for my parents aged 85 and 90 - they have enough difficulty from the television and DVD/hard disk!!! we often get phone calls asking us to talk them out of situations when they get stuck). We were all computer illiterate at one time - but much of the day to day use is very intuitive these days. It is not like 25 to 30 years ago when people really did think that I was odd. The silver surfer is a very big user demographic and I have been in contact with loads of them in their 60s and 70s researching family trees and such like. If the problem is the size of characters / icons - there are settings that magnify these from the standard size and make it much more user friendly for people whose eyesight is poor and failing - we really are talking big print sizes. Have you checked out that side of things?
People can improve their walking abilities with persistence. My cousin (in her 60s) shattered her heel falling down stairs over a year ago. It was in a plaster for about 3 months and she spent ages using a zimmer frame. It has taken a lot of effort for her to get to the stage that she is now at - she has dramatically improved her walking ability. I dont think that she will ever be able to do anything like she did before. If your mother was once inspired to improve her health (even though it is so poor currently) I am sure that there are improvements that she could achieve.
My main dietary problem with my mother (when I see her or speak to her on the phone) is that she has no idea where I am coming from. She is not fat and never has been. I say "you have no idea what it is like being big" and she says "I have - I couldnt wear what I wore when I was young". I then point out to her that she was 7 stone 0 when she was young (98 pounds) and not being that size does not mean that you have ever had a weight problem. I think that her weight is a huge 115 pounds now that she is fat. My father is if anything thinner than her! My cousins are the same! At family gatherings I always feel like the cuckoo that fell into the nest.
Take care
Love
Margaret