I'm sorry to hear about your losses Debi, I wish I had words to make it easier for you but we all know those words don't exist.
I also know how Bob feels about the dad thing. I couldn't imagine how my son would feel if his grandpa left today and didn't show his face again for 5 years. It would break his little heart as I'm sure it broke Megan's. I think Bob is looking out for you on an emotional level, he doesn't want to see you hurt cause we all know men can't deal with it when their women are hurting...(cause then their undivided attention is no longer on the man...sorry cheap shot but I hope it made you laugh).
Anyways, (((((FORUM HUGS)))))...you know where to come if you need more.