- Thanks Amy. You're right, I do want to be fit and healthy, even if I'm fed up of the scales.
- That's an interesting point about body type LaMa. I'm tall like you and I have broad shoulders and big hips and I am fine with all that. I actually like my shape really. I like being strong and able to play tennis and really smash the ball in a way that is not so easy when you are petite. Haha. So I've made my peace with that side of the things. It's the excess blubber that is the issue here.
- Thanks for your post Petal, the Kylie comment made me laugh!

Yeah, I might consider SW when things reopen if I haven't found a way out of this mess by then. I'll check out that rag tomorrow, lol.
I'm back again quite soon because I woke up and I had all these ideas swimming around in my head and I just wanted to get them out there. This will be more introspective, philosophical, naval-gazing mumbo-jumbo, so feel free to tune out now.

It's really more for myself.
I guess a lot of times, my mind keeps coming back to the comments the girl in work made about me. I know, it's a couple of months ago, let it go, blah blah. But the thing is, it was really degrading. I can honestly say that I've never had someone make out like I was lacking in some way, in a way that I would be looking at their life and filled with jealous rage. I've always felt like I could do anything, and it was really hard to hear insinuations that I am jealous of someone because of their looks, boyfriend, job title, or anything else that comes into their head. It made me think about how that girl perceives me -
single, overweight woman in her mid-30s who's not even a manager yet, still living with housemates and driving a shitty car! How awful! She doesn't even wear make-up! Lol. I mean, that's all true, but that's only surface level stuff.
I don't mind that I am not as 'far along' on this journey of life as other people my age. Do I feel a little twinge when one of my friends buys a house or gets married or pregnant etc etc.? Yeah, sure. I am happy for them, but also like, 'Fuck, there goes another one. This room is getting fairly empty.' But I've never aspired to have the husband, house and kids thing. It's not that I actively don't want it, but I remember when I was a kid looking around and thinking, 'There's got to be more to life than this.' And maybe if I do have kids, I will be happy with a simple life. I'm not exactly living the dream life right now. And by 'dream life', I just mean out of the 9-5 routine, travelling the world as part of my work, having a beach house in California and a penthouse in New York, lol. Dream life. I am not sure I want to settle in Ireland, I really find it a smothering kind of a place. Yes, it's great to have a community spirit and strong sense of family, but I guess that also means you have to live more or less the exact same way as everyone else, and be happy with that! But I'm getting off topic. I'll save the rant about Ireland for another day.
My point is that I am generally not a person who really looks outward at other people and wants what they have. For instance, I don't keep tabs on what kind of cars people drive, I generally have no idea. Most people I know could nearly tell you the reg of the cars their friends and colleagues are driving, especially if they are expensive. It genuinely doesn't bother me. I'm not looking for validation from other people. A part of me really thinks that girl in work has a problem with me because I am really my own person. I don't hold myself back, I really express my opinion, I let myself go and have a laugh if the mood takes me, and I am confident in myself without always looking 'perfect' and living some kind of 'paint by numbers' life. I'm just out there, doing things my way, and I am really good at my job. There's no denying that. I don't look up to her and she probably thinks I should. I find her to be incredibly shallow, self-conscious and incredibly vain. I do not look up to people like that, no matter how well-groomed or pretty they are. It's not school, she's not the head cheerleader. And that's how she made me feel - like the dweeby girl with the glasses that day.
Anyway, you're probably wondering why I'm going on about this again. I just think it really was a landmark moment for me. I have put up with so much crap from people over the years and I'm just
done. We had some team meetings yesterday in work with people from other areas of the company, and I was myself, making jokes, being silly, and I was so damn happy that I was able to be free and just chat away and not be living in a constant freeze mode worried about other people's perception of me. And I want this to extend to my physical body, because if I can get to the point where I can say, 'Who cares if I am a bit chunky? I am not here to aesthetically please anyone, I'm here to live a great life', then I know a lot of the binging and drinking will stop and I will start to look better by default.
But yeah, what I am trying to say is that even if on paper, I might seem like a failure and even if I don't look the way I
should, I am proud to be me. I am proud of all the things I've learned about myself, I am proud that I keep trying every day, I am proud that I've really done things on my own terms and will continue to do so for the rest of my life. And it's not easy to forge your own path, you will have those people pointing at you and saying, 'Look! I'm so much better than them! They're doing it wrong!' but I am so tired of giving energy to what other people think. If I am not mirroring their actions and that makes them feel insecure, so be it - I'll find other friends.
Anyway, I really just wanted to say this stuff, and really start to live my best life from here on out.
