ups and downs and shifting around

I finally got my hubby to see things my way! I explained all the pros and cons of staying here for college, and he explained it to some of his respected friends, and his friends agree with me. Yeah!

All I have left to do is find a day care for my son, go to the college and pick classes, and finish the FAFSA (which is hard b/c I'm missing something). I don't have much longer. Classes start August 20th. Wonder if I should call the college?

 
Its so wonderful that you are standing strong for yourself and children. You deserve to be treated well and respected.

Thanks for sharing your family story with me in my journal. I totally understand. When it comes to my family growing up dysfunctional is a total understatement. Its really hard to deal with. I've lived my life really hard trying to break the patterns that I have seen.

Good luck with school. Its exciting that its coming up soon. What course of study are you planning on taking?

Keep up the excellent work

~Jenna
 
Boam 46, I'm going to a tech college to get a 2 yr paralegal degree.

I did call the school today and the admissions lady was very confused. She said I had been accepted even though some things hadn't cleared. Hehe. Honestly lady. I have 5 As and 1 B in college so far. Not accept me? Psshhh! lol!

I gotta go up to the school (b/c apparently they aren't going to call me) and do a change in cirriculum or whatever and talk to an advisor. I previously enrolled to do accounting. I'm afraid it will be boring.

Umm... And I'm running out of food in my house and don't know what to eat for lunch. :[ So I'm online instead, lol.


And my best friend called this morning to tell me that she may not be here on Friday. (Which sucks b/c I've made plans and re-arranged stuff for her.) But it's not her fault and we should all pray for her family because her cousin died of a drug overdose last night. No details. I feel torn. I want to see her, but I respect her family's need to be together. I almost want her to stay just for closure. She'll let me know if everything can be postponed to a later date.

So, as with college, I wait...

 
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I have found with colleges the only way to get anything done is to show up in person. Eventhough you are paying them for their services they seem to make everything so difficult for you. Its very frustrating. I'm very sorry about your friend. I know you were really looking forward to that. I hope everything works out.

~Jenna
 
Im sorry to hear abt your bestie and her cous but you know what she might decide she needs to see you and needs a little break from all the kaos that will be going on or that she can do both...

Good job on the college stuff chicky...Im glad you got
that ball rolling...

How is the hubby front...
 
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Im sorry to hear abt your bestie and her cous but you know what she might decide she needs to see you and needs a little break from all the kaos that will be going on or that she can do both...

Good job on the college stuff chicky...Im glad you got
that ball rolling...

How is the hubby front...
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Thanks. If my girl can't make it this weekend, our plan is to reschedule. I haven't heard from her. I should know something tomorrow.
And I'm so pyched about college it isn't funny. :]
The hubby is being nice and supportive. He doesn't like the thought that I'm not going with him, so the less we talk about it, the better. He has been much nicer to me and doing minimal help around the house. Anything is a start! My goal is to show him how invested I am in this marriage and I think he can tell. He even told me that if my friend doesn't come this weekend, we'll take time to ourselves- no kids! We haven't had an actual date in about a year. I don't know what is going right, but I love it.
 
I'm glad he's coming around on the college issue. I agree about going in person. I was even dropped off a waiting list and never told, not even a letter, because their acceptance to the program requirements changed. I didn't find out till I called to ask how much longer I'd be on the waiting list!

I'm sorry to hear about your friends cousin. Sending warm thoughts her way.
 
I'll be dropping by the college tomorrow morning, unless something else comes up. I have a lot to do there tomorrow, if I can find enough people working. ;] I'm kinda shy, so I like this trial run. If I can talk to admissions, possibly an advisor, and financial aid all in one day, it'll be a miracle. And not a small one. Hehe.

I just got back into the routine of drinking lots of water, and I've been extremely active I'm constantly picking up behind the kids, and forcing myself to keep going. It's not actual exercise, but I'm in training, so to speak. I like to leave things to the next day. Dinner dishes get washed in the morning, kinda thing. Not anymore! I want to wake up to a clean house. My theory is that if I get in the habit now, I'll be set by January. When the hubby leaves, it's ALL up to me. I don't want to spend my weekends cleaning house.

I ate VERY well yesterday and very much in my cal range. I feel so optimistic. I'm also sleeping less. I got up this morning, had a devotional, played around on the net, and my kids are still asleep! I just feel so HAPPY. No matter if my friend comes or postpones on me, I think I will feel like this.
 
She's coming! I'm gonna be super-busy these next 5 days, but I will be thinking of all of you. God bless!
 
Have a great time! And I'll be gone when you get back. I'll check in when I get home to see how it went.

I'm glad she can still make it! You need some distraction around there!!
 
It was mostly-fun and kinda-not. I'll have to explain later. Let's just put it like this, she's a friend, but she's also super-spoiled. I'm so normal next to her it's sad. ::shrugs:: She'd make me mad and I'd call her princess. She tried to send me on a towel run and we had a stare-off. But mostly we got along. So that's not too bad. You know?

I weighed 200 this morning. Gain of 4 lbs. Yet I'm not concerned. We didn't eat unhealthy. (Thankfully, she's not super-skinny high-metabolism queen of the universe. She cares about what she eats.) I did get a little sick 2 days, so it's throw-back from that and the 9 hours total of driving back and forth.

I'll check in later. I take her Highness to the airport later, then quiet shall return.
 
Ha Ha Ha - ya knwo what I have found - I have otu grown 2 of my friends - have very little contact with them anymore and I have another closer friend here tha ti have been out growing - we change with our life situations and such and as we get older ya know...you are very mature and deal with alot for you age and far from spoiled i can relate there as well - my best friend has a hubby who makes lots of money nad such and they get spoiled by his family and she is quite the princess as well...

Anyway I look forard to hearing all abt it :):):)
 
The trip can be explained in highlights.

-Almost there, we manage to get lost. So we drive almost to NC to get to Myrtle Beach, SC. Once we "get there" we can't find either the hotel or Broadway at the Beach. Mapquest has failed us.
-Miss Thang won't ask for directions, so she uses her supremely under-developed navigational skills and gets us [more] lost. (If we had gone my way, we would have been found.)
-She drives my Honda Civic into an all-sand parking lot and gets it stuck. She accuses me of cussing her out b/c I said one bad word [every time she tells the story, I sound worse, and now I wish I had laid into her]. Finally a nice couple helps us get the car out. Her highness is too great to push. My arms hurt.
-We find Broadway at the Beach, eat lunch at 3 in the afternoon, do a little shopping, and have to leave right before I go to get my hubby a souveneir because her child got fussy. She says we'll go back and we never do.
-We find the hotel, they gave our room away, so they upgraded us. YEAH!!!
-beach/eat/play/tv/talk took up a lot of time
-We went to an outlet mall and did some shopping, but she wimped out on me. It then hit me that physically, I'm better than her. I can push a car and walk for a few hours and be fine. Skinny isn't always fit. It's just skinny.
-Leave the beach, get home, blah blah blah...
-I finally had to confront her yesterday, her last day, about the negative and insulting things she says to me under the guise of her being a psych major. And let her know that her psych school bs doesn't cut it with me. The event that kicked that off was when my kids were arguing, and I talked to them individually about who should do what. Ex. "Troy, don't pick up something you won't eat." "Melissa, share with Troy and you can have some of his fries." [They were arguing over a Chick-Fil-A fruit cup.] So she looks at me and says, "Don't you think Melissa is going to have a complex since you treat her and Troy so differently?" Even writing that makes me angry. My daughter is six, my son is 3, and yes I treat them differently, but only according to their age. Princess has one kid.
-I guess things are ok. I tried to smooth things over, but minimally. I don't really care at this point. All I want from this trip is the pics of the beach. She owes me that at least, since she told me she'd help pay for gas and all I got out of her was $20. When I spent about $90 on gas and she talked about being a trust fund baby all weekend. ::gags::

That's my story. It wasn't that great, but it could have been worse.
 
Well lol - Im sorry it didnt go too well - LOL...Dontcha hatei t when somethign you are really looking forward to turns out like that ... so you didnt have your kids and she did ??? And ok my kids are 3 and 13 and ya i treat them different for very obvious reasons - ha ha ha
 
I'm sorry your visit didn't go as planned. At least you had some fun times! Outgrowing or changing from your friends is a natural progression in life. I have outgrown most of my friends from back in NY and never really fit into the college scene here so its kinda lonely but I don't really mind... I'd rather have true friends then friends for the purpose of having friends.

Have a good day
~Jenna
 
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